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Single Black Male

  • The Butterfly Fallacy: How stomach butterflies will get you caught up
    We all know the feeling. At the start, you can’t quit identify it. Maybe you can’t stop laughing off their joke. Maybe it’s a connection over Botswanian folk music, which NO ONE else listens to. Maybe it was how they flicked their head and th…
    - 15 Jul 16, 6:00am -
  • Fear, the Police, and me
    Hi … I’m a black man. In case you haven’t heard, there is some interesting news relating to my kind and the police. Seemed like a fitting time for me to talk about my story. I was born in the 80’s and grew up in the 90’s, with my formative…
    - 12 Jul 16, 6:00am -
  • Loving black people and the police – The Daily Show
    What more do we need to say?Original content from SBM. If you discover this content on a site other than Single Black Male, please contact us at
    - 11 Jul 16, 6:00am -
  • The New & Improved SingleBlackMale
      Welcome to the New and Improved SingleBlackMale! Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither was our redesign. At some point, thought it would never get finished. But, we felt that our original look and feel was old and outdated and we wanted someth…
    - 9 Jul 16, 10:44pm -
  • Take Away: An Invaluable Lesson
    There is no all-encompassing formula for relationships. The diversity of individuals in this world ensures no possible algorithm for success, so consider yourself fortunate if you get it right and find someone whose values and perspectives beat to th…
    - 21 Apr 16, 6:00am -
  • Writing My Wrongs (Part Two)
    So, I’ve been in a relationship for over four years. And I’m a guy. Trust me, I know how to apologize. It’s an art form, really. And you could call me the modern-day James Porter of the sorry. Real men know what I speak. If you saw me, you’d…
    - 18 Apr 16, 7:00am -
  • Writing My Wrongs (Part One)
    I’ve always been passionate about black males – no, not in the Tyson Beckford way – I’m in a different zone like Mos Def. Nothing makes me happier to see us succeed; nothing irks me further when we go bad, like the 2% in the back of the fridg…
    - 11 Apr 16, 6:00am -
  • So That’s Why I’m Still Single?!
    “I can see why you’re still looking for a man,” he said. Let me set the scene of the crime, because you know the brother’s life was at stake as soon as the words left his mouth. It was a Sunday afternoon, right after church. The pastor had ju…
    - 5 Apr 16, 8:00am -
  • Stop Breastfeeding: How to be an Attractive Man
    source: Fellas, it’s crucial that you understand these two things: Seeking the approval of women actually repels them How to stop breastfeeding There’s always going to be some woman, somewhere, who’s annoyed…
    - 28 Mar 16, 7:00am -
  • Here’s How Russel Wilson Keeps The Good Guy vs Bad Guy Conversation Going
    “Will He Wait In 2015?” was a piece that I wrote back in July here on SBM. The piece used the new relationship between Russell Wilson and Ciara as proof that there are men that will abstain from sex with the right woman. I spent most of that post…
    - 17 Mar 16, 12:33pm -


  • New R&B Podcast [Nov 8/16]: #PovertyPussy
    On this week’s podcast, I talk about why I WANT the election to be over, the hypocritical feminists going in on Kendu Isaacs, why the NFL ratings are down, and why #PovertyPenis needs to be accompanied by the term #PovertyPussy. You can check out…
    - 8 Nov 16, 6:54pm -
  • New R&B Podcast [Nov 1/16]: The Long-Ass Story Behind ALL THINGS BEING EQUAL
    On this week’s podcast, I explain my long-ass absence by introducing you to the project that has taken up all my free time and creative energies. This is the FULL story behind my latest creative initiative: ALL THINGS BEING EQUAL. Now that the madn…
    - 1 Nov 16, 1:55pm -
  • NO, Hillary Clinton Does NOT Have To Shake The Hand Of The Alleged Child Rapist Who Threatened To Arrest & Kill Her
    After Wednesday night’s shitshow of a debate featuring an educated, seasoned, well-studied, and experienced politician verbally sparring with a willfully illiterate, childish, repugnant, hair-plugged, orange-skinned baboon on topics far beyond the…
    - 21 Oct 16, 3:39am -
  • Official 2016 NFL Season PREDICTIONS
    As of Thursday night, the NFL will be officially back and we will all collectively get to see if our faith in our favourite teams will be rewarded with wins or crushed in a sea of indescribable disappointment. So, lets just hop right into my predic…
    - 7 Sep 16, 4:00pm -
  • How Mike Tyson Created Nate Parker
    Britni Danielle, a great writer/editor that I’ve always looked up to, conducted an absolutely awesome interview with Nate Parker this weekend. While there have been other great pieces about consent surrounding this topic (such as April Reign’s in…
    - 29 Aug 16, 2:41pm -

The Sexy Single Mommy

  • 8 Things Moms Must Know About Kids and Braces
    For millions of families around the country, braces and childhood tend to go hand-in-hand. This leaves many moms with lots of questions about what life with braces will be like for their child. Common questions range from when kids should first see t…
    - 1 day ago 26 Apr 17, 10:43pm -
  • 6 Ways To Get Yourself Out of a Funk
    Rough times? We have all had them but what happens when that rough day turn into several days, which turns into months and before you know it, you are stuck in a funk and have no idea how to snap out of it. I’ve been there and I know first hand how…
    - 33 days ago 26 Mar 17, 6:00am -
  • Self-Care and Single Moms
    Self-care, I never really understood the importance of it until I became a mother because it was at that point that everything that I had went into taking care of my son. As a single mom, the day-to-day care of my son fell on my shoulders and my shou…
    - 35 days ago 24 Mar 17, 6:00am -
  • Yoni Cucumber Cleansing

    - 42 days ago 16 Mar 17, 11:23pm -
  • The 3 Best Apps To Use While Traveling With Kids
    Traveling with kids can be fun yet challenging. For this upcoming Spring Break, we have compiled a list of apps and accessories that are helpful for parents and entertaining for kids. Whether flying long distance or driving to grandma’s house, be s…
    - 44 days ago 14 Mar 17, 7:18pm -
  • Online Dating Turn Off…The Voice
    If you read my last post, you know that I have decided to jump back into the world of online dating and it has been an experience. I’ve talked to lots of people on the site and many of those have remained…on the site. The few that I have talked t…
    - 65 days ago 22 Feb 17, 7:00am -
  • What I’ve Been Up To
    I know you’ve probably been wondering where I’ve been and what I’ve been up to because I haven’t been posting very much lately. I have had a couple of things up my sleeve for the new year, so I guess it’s time that I let you in on them… O…
    - 67 days ago 20 Feb 17, 7:00am -
  • Reawakening
    It was purchased on a date in 2013 – the year that was embodied by so many life upending events.  Long gestating disillusionments with places like New York City, Southern California, pretty much anywhere on Planet Earth.  Unmet book and writing t…
    - 71 days ago 16 Feb 17, 7:00am -
  • Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Kids
    Valentine’s Day isn’t just for lovers. It is a day to show everyone in your life that you love them and you Little’s are no exception. Kids always get excited when it comes time to fill out those little Valentine’s Day cards to give to all th…
    - 77 days ago 10 Feb 17, 7:00am -
  • CLOSED: Join the K-Y ‘You Don’t Need A Reason Movement’ – Giveaway
    The pressure is on! Valentine’s Day is just days away and men and women are starting to feel the heat.  Men will be running through the malls, standing at perfume and jewelry counters, trying to find the perfect gift. Women are trying to figure ou…
    - 78 days ago 9 Feb 17, 3:25am -

Black Girls Are Easy

  • Mailbag: Dating Down, Broken Pussy, & Leading Yourself On
    Categories: relationshipsShould you date down for love? Is there such a thing as “Broken Pussy”? Are you leading yourself on in a relationship that’s going nowhere? Today I’m going to give you something different. I usually tackle one big top…
    - 21 days ago 7 Apr 17, 3:45am -
  • You’re Going to Be Cheated On: Here’s What You Do
    Categories: relationships95% of the people that I know on a personal basis have cheated or been cheated on, that goes for both men and women, multiple races, from rich to poor, this problem does not discriminate. Don’t take my word for it, how many…
    - 63 days ago 24 Feb 17, 5:48am -
  • Maybe You’re The Problem: Facts You Don’t Want To Hear But Need To
    Categories: Basic B*tchWe Gotta Do BetterEvery year people make resolutions, stop this, change that, demand more, be wiser, then they relapse into old habits. You talk it but you don’t live it! When confronted with this fact there’s always an e…
    - 86 days ago 31 Jan 17, 5:05pm -
  • Building or Bullshitting: How To Stop Someone From Wasting Your Time
    Categories: Basic B*tchDatingDo you want months or do you want years? Your mouth is fixing to say how you want something real, rock solid, and forever, but your actions tell me you’re full of shit. You take what you can get, rarely holding out fo…
    - 1 Dec 16, 11:16pm -
  • Why Marriage Doesn’t Equal Love
    Categories: Marriagerelationships“Your girl, Angelina, is a dumb bitch. Still think she’s a Spartan now that she’s getting divorced,” was the taunting phone call I got from a girl I used to know. I responded, “What about this situation ma…
    - 30 Sep 16, 3:33pm -
  • Naïve Test: What Does It Mean When A Man Says…
    Categories: Basic B*tchDatingEvery time I want to focus on Spartanhood and enlightenment I get pulled back by the same old nonsense. I say something about power and a girl nods along then hits me with, “But what do you think he meant by this text…
    - 31 Aug 16, 9:24pm -
  • 7 Things That Hold You Back From Real Love
    Categories: relationshipsWhy is happiness so hard to attain? Why can’t you just meet someone that’s honest, see if you two connect, then either go forward exclusively or end it with no hard feelings after a series of dates? Why can’t someone be…
    - 20 Jul 16, 10:40pm -

Goddess Intellect

  • PSA: The Super Text
    Lately I’ve been experiencing whiplash from my past. I was never in an accident nor have I experienced any major injury to my back but somehow I know what it’s like to get a quick crack of the whip. It was a few weeks ago and one of my guy cousin…
    - 12 Nov 14, 8:30am -
  • [QUIZ] Could You Be Repelling The Love Of Your Life?
    It’s been awhile. I’ve been very busy soul searching, running errands and getting ready for the launch of my new lingerie line. Many are shocked and/or delighted with my decision to step fully into fashion but if you’ve known me forever, it mak…
    - 22 Sep 14, 5:38am -
  • [VIDEO] Myth Buster: Women Must Choose Between Love & Career
    The choice between a successful career and love is not always clear cut. Personal goals, current job satisfaction, financial needs and personal beliefs can all play in role in your decision, but why does it have to be a choice? We can manage multiple…
    - 3 Sep 14, 7:02am -
  • Goddess Eats: Pork Chop, Mashed Potatoes & Skillet Corn
    Another quick and easy home cooked meal for goddesses on the go, by Je’Tara. Check it out: Post image updated 4:41pm ET ~ Goddess Intellect Servings 4 Ingredients 1lb or 4-5 thick cut pork chops 1lb frozen corn Rotel tomatoes Evoo Half an onion (I…
    - 2 Sep 14, 8:30am -
  • [VIDEO] The Truth About Relationship/Dating Blogs
    Are you a dating blog junkie? I love writing blogs and sharing but I do not recommend using blogs alone as a blueprint for what your love life should look like. Here’s why: As much as you may love reading, it’s one thing to absorb the free advice…
    - 25 Aug 14, 8:58am -

Until I Get Married

  • Lemonade: A cautionary tale for men like you
    Ever since Beyoncé premiered her new album Lemonade on Saturday evening, people have been diving in with their theories on who she is singing about. Is it her husband, Jay Z? Her father, Matthew Knowles? Perhaps an amalgam of both? All this sleuthin…
    - 26 Apr 16, 11:24pm -
  • Writing about love during times of hate
    Love is a battle. Love is a war. — James Baldwin   Love is a difficult thing to write about. It doesn’t seem this way at first. We think there’s so much to say because there’s so much we feel in the moment, but then when we put fingers to ke…
    - 30 Dec 15, 8:25pm -
  • I Didn’t Fight the Guy who Disrespected me in Front of my Girlfriend, Here’s Why
    There has never been a moment when I stepped out with my girlfriend to a party and regretted it. We have nothing but good times. But whenever we hit the town, I feel an extra amount of pressure to be aware of our surroundings at all times and keep he…
    - 13 Aug 15, 4:23pm -
  • Eleven Lessons Learned After Living In New York City For 11 Years
    Eleven years ago today, I stepped off a plane at JFK International Airport. It wasn’t my first time visiting New York City. I had been here enough times to not be in awe of the city skyline as my plane was touching down. I even lived here once, alb…
    - 9 Jul 15, 4:47pm -
  • Three Things You Need To Do Since Your Girl Is Going To See ‘Magic Mike’ And Magic Mike XXL
    What’s up, folks!? A quick note for those who are seeing this post for the first time. I originally wrote it back when the first “Magic Mike” hit theaters. But now, with the release of the sequel, I thought it would be a good idea to repost it.…
    - 2 Jul 15, 8:58am -
  • Warning To A Young Man: You’re About To Go Through It

    - 10 Jun 15, 12:07pm -
  • How To Pour A Woman A Drink In 2015
    They say what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas, but after a recent visit there, I learned a valuable lesson that I took back home with me: We have to improve the way we get women drinks at parties. I visited Las Vegas three weeks ago with 10 friends…
    - 9 Apr 15, 12:21pm -
  • Can a Man Worry and Will it Ever Stop?
    Earlier this year, I decided to reactive my Ask.FM account, thus allowing people to send me questions about whatever they feel like. As one would expect, most of these questions have been about relationships and dating, some of them are about life it…
    - 9 Mar 15, 12:10pm -
  • Meeting My Family and Why It Matters Now
    On Saturday, I am introducing my mother, sister, and niece to the other most important woman of my life. The significance of this introduction has very little to do with the traditional meaning we attach to meeting family. I am not seeking approval o…
    - 5 Feb 15, 12:25pm -
  • What’s Good, Jozen? Dating Single Mothers and Critiquing Your Woman’s Style
    After my last post, I realized there would be no way for me to republish every single Ask.FM question I get. The volume is just too much, and frankly, I don’t think every question is worth rehashing on here. What I have decided to do is select a fe…
    - 19 Jan 15, 11:04pm -

Black Love And Marriage

  • Black Man…. Own Your ISH!!
    By Ayize Ma’at The title of this video really says it all. Black men are Kings. Black men are all dat. And guess what? Black men—we have to take responsibility…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 4 days ago 24 Apr 17, 8:02am -
  • Find Time For Your Spouse. It’s Not Optional.
    By Aiyana Ma’at Ayize and I have been together for 22 years and married for almost 15. Our lives have changed so much since we first met and got together. We’ve…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 42 days ago 17 Mar 17, 11:00am -
  • Creating Your Legacy: How To Build A Successful Business With Your Spouse
    We are so excited over here at BLAM !  Hasani & Danielle Pettiford from Couples Academy will be our special guests for this month’s FREE COUPLES WEBINAR! They are going…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 43 days ago 16 Mar 17, 4:24pm -
  • Marriage Communication 101: The Listener Controls The Conversation
    By Team BLAM Are you aware that a listener, not the speaker, controls the conversation? Probably not, since most of us operate under the myth that the more we talk,…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 43 days ago 16 Mar 17, 4:00am -
  • Black Marriage Day DC 2017 Tickets On Sale!
    We are so excited over here to be coming close to our Annual Black Marriage Day DC Celebration! If you’ve come out before you already know and that’s why you’re…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 55 days ago 3 Mar 17, 6:53pm -
  • Untitled
    Hey Fam! We’ve got a FREE webinar coming up….yup it’s FREE and we can’t tell you how excited we are to have Tanya Barnett, Founder of The Real Wives Movement…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 64 days ago 23 Feb 17, 1:44pm -
  • The Top 3 Things Every Woman Wants For Valentine’s Day. It’s Not What You Think.
    Valentine’s Day is here. So what did you get her this year? Maybe you’re tired of doing the same old “red roses and a box of chocolates” thing and you…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 70 days ago 17 Feb 17, 5:00am -
  • Last Minute, Inexpensive, & Romantic Valentine Date Ideas
    So, it’s 2 days before Valentine’s Day. You haven’t bought a card, didn’t even really think about getting a gift, and have no idea what you and your boo will…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 74 days ago 13 Feb 17, 2:25pm -
  • Celebrating Valentine’s Day At Home This Year? Give Your House A Romantic Makeover
    By Jamie Scott Valentine’s Day is a cause for celebration, and there’s no reason not to give your house a makeover in recognition of the day of love. If you’re…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 75 days ago 12 Feb 17, 6:31am -
  • A Love Letter To The Black Man…
    By Lela Dear Black Men, I have never really been the type to write love letters because I was always told “when a word is spoken, you can feel the…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 80 days ago 7 Feb 17, 3:51am -

Seriously Maybe

  • Why you shouldn’t get advice from your friends…
    “Ok I know what I need to do,” my friend said as he walked through the front door on a crisp Sunday morning. I was eating a bowl of cheerios and turned around wondering what in the world he was talking about. “Alright, so check this out! I talk…
    - 77 days ago 9 Feb 17, 4:18pm -
  • 5 signs your ex wants you back, but should you do anything?
    Tell me. Has this ever happened to you? You wake up in the middle of the night, roll over, check your phone and see this: No Caller ID? That must be your ex, right? You are filled with excitement. You believe they want you back. You are ecstatic. You…
    - 27 Dec 16, 12:17pm -
  • How to Deal with False Claims of Domestic Violence
    If your relationship begins to turn bitter and your significant other starts to act in a way that leads you to believe that they will file false domestic abuse charges against you, it is time to take notice. Domestic violence is a serious crime that…
    - 15 Dec 16, 12:44pm -
  • The “Hey” text
    You just broke up 3 days ago. You are getting all kinds of mixed signals. You want your ex back but their actions don’t seem to be matching their words. Then. They hit you with the “Hey” text out of nowhere. WTF? What does that even mean??? Her…
    - 1 Nov 16, 10:04am -
  • Why you shouldn’t date after a breakup?
    It’s Friday night. The sun’s been down for hours. You don’t want to go out because you don’t have much energy and lost the desire of doing anything really. So you download a couple dating apps, get a cold beer from the fridge and figure this…
    - 30 Sep 16, 9:47am -
  • Should I delete my ex from social media? (with scripts)
    It’s the weekend. The weather is literally perfect and the sun is rising. You have your warm coffee next to you. You’re checking your emails, feeling refreshed and ready to start your day, but you decide to check Facebook one last time before you…
    - 30 Aug 16, 11:42am -
  • Get your ex back app
    Back in early 2013 I had just successfully gotten back together with my ex and gained some notoriety amongst my friends as someone that has rekindled his love. Something many of them hadn’t done before. At one point, two of my other friends came to…
    - 16 Aug 16, 11:32am -
  • Tips For Men About Dating
    Dating has always been and will continue to be a complicated process. Where should you go for your date? What should you wear? Who should pay for the date? These are all good questions but can be very confusing. Here are some great tips for men by Na…
    - 12 Aug 16, 7:59am -
  • The secret to making a long distance relationship work
    Ok, let me be brutally honest here. Without compromise your attempt at a long distance relationship (LDR) will fail. The real secret to making a LDR work is by learning to lose some battles and being OK with that. After having done a long distance re…
    - 26 Jul 16, 5:26pm -
  • Her Checklist for the First Date
    First dates come with both anxiety and excitement. You’re excited to meet a new person. Even if you aren’t sure if the connection will lead to a long-term relationship, you value opportunities to expand your social circle. However, before you lea…
    - 19 Jul 16, 11:29am -

The Naked Convos

  • newYou Speak The Language Of Touch
    You speak the language of touch Climb like vines through the window Of my body, and into my heart. You take me captive in your embrace Wrapping me with the Warm blanket of your soul. You are summer on a beach the languid wandering the contentment of…
    - 2 hours ago 28 Apr 17, 3:00am -
  • newLet Your Lips Do The Talking (A short story)
    The kinks were becoming more rebellious. They no longer obeyed when I slathered them with gel and tried to lay them flat with an old toothbrush. My strands had absorbed as much sun as they could handle. I called Auntie Theresa. She would know exactly…
    - 22 hours ago 27 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • newWhy Are We Such A Judgmental Lot?
    I’ve been away from home for a while serving my nation in the so called National Youth Service Corps scheme. I took a break and decided to spend the weekend at home with the family, which brings me to the events of a particular day. I walked into t…
    - 24 hours ago 27 Apr 17, 5:00am -
  • The Witness
    I stare at the men in uniform patrolling the living room, a sunken aura revolving around them. Alex’s body lay there lifeless, in an unattractive crimson pool. Her eyes staring into nothing and thoughts sauntering off the edge of the universe. Ther…
    - 1 day ago 27 Apr 17, 3:00am -
  • I Forgot About You
    I forgot about you. Finally. I forgot about your crooked smile, your infectious laughter and how you always knew just what to say to make me laugh. I forgot about how safe I felt when you held me, and how my head used to fit in the crook of your arm.…
    - 2 days ago 26 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • Forget Yoruba Demons, The Friend Zone Bandits Are In Town
    I’m glad all the fuss about Yoruba demons is finally dying down (at least I think it is). I’ve watched from the sidelines as this term continued to gain popularity over the last couple of years and wondered who to thank for this unprecedented mas…
    - 2 days ago 26 Apr 17, 5:00am -
  • Restless (A short story)
    From a nearby bridge I arose, and began to watch the sun drape over the market people, it ought to be a good sight but I had seen it long enough to know that it had no beauty whatsoever. The sun became a bore, making it hard to get around in the heat…
    - 2 days ago 26 Apr 17, 3:00am -
  • Who Can You Lean On In Tough Times?
    My grandma or G’mams as we call her turned 89 recently and the day just went like every other normal day not because we couldn’t celebrate but it was a time of reflection for me and everyone. Prior to the 26th, she had suffered a minor stroke whi…
    - 3 days ago 25 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • Do I Regret Coming Out Of The Closet?
    You know how they say the truth shall set you free? Well, it will set you free but the thing is “free” sometimes can be some sort of exposure. For me, it is knowing that there’s something the next person might say to or do because of who I choo…
    - 3 days ago 25 Apr 17, 5:00am -
  • The Girl I Used To Know
    I used to write all the time, I always had a story to tell; my mind works that way. For the past couple of months I’ve wondered if I’ve got the writers block or if I never enjoyed writing, I still don’t have an answer. I’m writing this to dis…
    - 3 days ago 25 Apr 17, 3:00am -
  • The Handover Show On Beat 99.9 FM Is Golden
    Since its launch in 2008, Lagos-based, urban radio station The Beat 99.9 FM has operated with a fixed, round-the-clock set of shows. The Morning Rush, The Night Time Show, The Liquid Lounge, just to name a few. By tradition, every show host on the st…
    - 4 days ago 24 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • How Counselling Can Save Your Career
    ‘Mike has made a good reputation in his organization for his efficiency in carrying out his duties effectively. He has won so many staff awards and enjoyed promotions because of his outstanding performance but things suddenly changed. Mike comes la…
    - 4 days ago 24 Apr 17, 5:00am -
  • Lagos in the Night Time
    Lagos in the nighttime Lit up by an endless column of streetlights A cool breeze blowing So beautiful, right?   Lagos in the nighttime The electricity goes off A thousand generators come on So beautiful, right?   Lagos in the nighttime Lovers give…
    - 4 days ago 24 Apr 17, 3:00am -

Choices, Voices, and Sole

  • This Post is Long Overdue
    Hey guys! Hey there! How you been?? So I’m sure you’ve noticed that the blog has been, ummmm… what’s the word? Quiet? Yes, quiet. As in I haven’t posted anything since May. MAY!!! That’s a long ass time. Well, I assure you it’s not been…
    - 5 Aug 15, 9:00am -
  • #TuesdayShoesday: Fabulous Shoes You can Wear to a Reunion
    You guys! This week marks the 10 year anniversary of my graduation from Howard University. I mean, what?! I can’t even begin to believe my friends and I are celebrating our 10 year reunion for undergrad, but this is where we are. But here’s the t…
    - 5 May 15, 9:00am -
  • That Pesky Foreboding Joy Thing Again
    Foreboding joy. It’s a concept we’ve talked about on the blog here already, but one that I wanted to explore again after the controversial death of beloved Grey’s Anatomy character, Dr. Derek Shepherd. For those of you who don’t watch the sho…
    - 28 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • Learning to be Honest in Dating
    Honesty is something a lot of us talk about. We say we want folks to be honest with us. We claim we’re honest individuals. We even say cliché statements like “honesty is the best policy,” but I would argue that many of us tell little white lie…
    - 23 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • “Mama I Made it”… on the Importance of My Accomplishments Jar
    This New Year’s Eve, I decided to try something a little different to set myself up for the new year. I didn’t make resolutions; I made an accomplishments jar courtesy of an idea from Buzzfeed. The basic idea behind the jar was that we all spend…
    - 21 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • QOTD: Do We (as a collective) Really Love Women?
    I can’t tell y’all how excited I was to see this image come across my screen this week. I saw the picture Ms. Debbie Allen put up last week (and squealed appropriately), so when I saw this was what she was talking about… y’all, I’m pretty s…
    - 16 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • Throwback Thursday — When I Finally Wore My Perfect Date Dress
    Hey y’all, it’s Thursday, and I’m preparing to make my way to celebrate a friend’s birthday in Las Vegas!! And since I was slack and didn’t give you all a blog post on Tuesday (sorry!), I figured the least I could do was post one of my fave…
    - 9 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • The Biggest Relationship Cop Out and Why It’s Hurting You
    Change. Such a simple word with quite a complex meaning. Webster defines it as “to give a different position, course, or direction to; to make a shift from one to another; to undergo a modification; to undergo transformation.” But I say one of th…
    - 2 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • What My Drink of Choice Says About Me
    I’m a whiskey girl, well bourbon to be exact, but we’ll say whiskey to keep it simple here. So when I saw Elite Daily did a post on the 10 Reasons Why You Should Always Go For the Girl Who Drinks Whiskey, I got super excited. Yes! They’re going…
    - 31 Mar 15, 9:00am -
  • Perceived Sexiness vs. What’s Really Sexy
    You see those shoes up there? They seem innocent enough, right? Don’t let them fool you, though. Not too long ago, they were the cause of one of my most embarrassing moments yet. But to their credit, they also helped reveal a crucial detail about w…
    - 26 Mar 15, 9:00am -

Black Women's Interracial Relationship Circle

  • They are Still at it!

    - 15 May 15, 4:58pm -
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    Visit New Blog Portal©Halima AndersonAuthor, "Supposing I wanted to Date a White Guy"
    - 23 Apr 15, 6:48pm -
  • Checking in...
    Hi FolksIts been over a month. I am still here lol!As a lot of my posting these days are not about interracial relationships but getting ahead as a black woman I am in the process of presenting these writings in another blog (I am still doing a bit…
    - 15 Mar 15, 7:19am -
  • She who has the Knowledge Wins!
    Today again it was brought to me how being in possession of the right information puts one ahead of the pack. I went out for a social event in a pair of impossible heels (the ones that are you know, ok for all of two hours and then you wonder how you…
    - 7 Feb 15, 12:08pm -
  • My God. Be Inspired!
    ©Halima AndersonAuthor, "Supposing I wanted to Date a White Guy"
    - 9 Jan 15, 5:41pm -
  • From the archives
    I can't believe its already over 2 years since I wrote the article below wow!Please re read from the archives while I try to shake a nasty cold.Enjoy!Link Find your own Personal Style! I attended a funeral service last week, with a high antecedence…
    - 5 Jan 15, 5:10pm -
  • BWE is about Balance and Focus on the major thing - you
    This is my last post of the year in which I wish us all a Happy Christmas and a very special New Year of dreams fulfilled and more dreams.I missed my planned post for the 15th of Dec. It just got suddenly crazy busy. It amazes me that we go through t…
    - 23 Dec 14, 6:01am -
  • Innovation is the name of the Game
    Look at all the amazing things we enjoy because humans are essentially animals of innovation.  Having just been to the dentist for some major dental work, I am thankful that certain fields of endeavor don't stagnated but move on and innovate sometim…
    - 1 Dec 14, 6:14am -
  • How well do you know your own Psychology
    and how well do you know your own body.?After many years of observing (or simply after experiencing it year in year out it became obvious) I realize that during the cold periods I am more or less in a constant state of colds and flus. I now realize t…
    - 16 Nov 14, 4:39pm -
  • Do you feel like you are outside the relationship know-how loop?
    What do you know about how men and women get together in your local area or your society as a whole. In the USA or UK or France but also in Wisconsin, San Francisco, Perth. In many a western country its a closed and stitched up loop from a very ear…
    - 3 Nov 14, 7:00am -
  • How to Naturally Staple (Shrink) your Stomach
    Self improvement blog alert!Before I tell you how to do this stomach shrinking thingy, lets talk about why the FASTING Diet (or FAST Diet or 5:2 Diet) might be good for you.I have just met a friend who has lost so much weight it's unbelievable. She w…
    - 14 Oct 14, 2:58pm -
  • A Man in Love, a wonder to behold!
    It's good to see a man in Love!A woman in love is great but to behold a man giddy in his infatuation is really a wonder to behold!And so it has been for Mr George Clooney in these past few days up to his wedding to Amal Alamuddin. Watching it restore…
    - 29 Sep 14, 2:42pm -
  • We are rooting for you!
    I received a lovely gift from one of my fellow Bloggers and readers, and I felt truly blessed. I can only say to S THANK YOU! My last blog entry was something from my personal circumstances and you know it got me thinking about falling short on all…
    - 14 Sep 14, 3:40pm -
  • Lessons from the Neighborhood
    Hope you all had a good summer!A little story for a teaching lesson: My neighbor and I had called in some estate officials to bear witness to another noisy neighbor. We were thinking that we had a good case because he was in full flow at the time wh…
    - 1 Sep 14, 5:41am -
  • Painstaking is how it must be sometimes
    Certain journeys in life will involve you building brick by brick. It can be discouraging and off putting but only by laying one brick on top of another can you get to the end goal. I am learning the need for patience with myself in a number of these…
    - 14 Jun 14, 5:29pm -
  • Find a way to get back in touch with the joy and pleasure of being a Female (which essentially means being different from males)
    It's getting hard to feel in touch with and positive about being a woman in our western society today, and I don’t say this because of real misogyny and attacks against the female of the species that we hear about everyday, especially in areas of t…
    - 27 May 14, 9:16am -
  • Those Ideas floating around in your head are for something
    Please note down the ideas that occur to you in the course of the day, they are important. You may have as many as 20-30 insights and unique ideas a day, how any of these do you capture in writing or as a voice recording? Make sure you regularly jot…
    - 5 May 14, 2:26am -
  • Dont let paucity of Imagination rob you of a glorious future Part 1
    Don’t let Paucity of imagination rob you of a bright and fulfilled futureFailure of imagination (FOI) stands as the second most critical factor denying many of us a bountiful life. The first is laziness. The reason why I place FOI second is that pe…
    - 19 Apr 14, 7:20am -
  • One Habit to take you to the Next Level
    I love my bed and I hang on to it as long as I can in the mornings, waking up only after the 3rd snooze alarm has gone off. I have known (at least in my head) that early waking helps you to get the best out of your 24 hours but I have always thought…
    - 16 Mar 14, 2:37pm -
  • Don't get led away from your goals and your dreams in life
    It seems that Mr Simon Cowell has finally been 'landed.' Ok he may not be married to the woman but he is now the proud father of an infant son and it seems very clear that he will do all he needs to be in his sons life! He has taken to twitter and o…
    - 3 Mar 14, 5:00pm -
  • Hunting for White Racism
    Hunting for and turning over rocks to seek out evidence of white hypocrisy about race, seems to be a very popular pastime with many black women. Each day I get dozens of emails and articles in my inbox, on the topic of 'outing' whites as racist, agai…
    - 6 Feb 14, 3:42pm -
  • 12 years a slave and other things
    I am noticing more and more black women make unconventional choices.Maybe not unconventional re the rest of the world but re black women themselves and the fact that they have largely limited their range within the wider world and the broader context…
    - 16 Jan 14, 4:23pm -
  • Halima on <...Break...>
    ©Halima AndersonAuthor, "Supposing I wanted to Date a White Guy"
    - 4 Dec 13, 12:01am -
  • What a wrong detour could cost
    If the wrong idea takes root in your thinking it could take you off course. For some it could be twenty years before they come back to their senses and by the time they do, they could have lost so much time and so many lifecycle-dependent opportuniti…
    - 17 Nov 13, 6:43pm -
  • She who has much, more will be given
    For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. Matthew 25:29I used to have a problem with this saying from the gospels. It seemed so cruel and so unfair to me.…
    - 3 Nov 13, 2:59pm -