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Single Black Male

  • The Butterfly Fallacy: How stomach butterflies will get you caught up
    We all know the feeling. At the start, you can’t quit identify it. Maybe you can’t stop laughing off their joke. Maybe it’s a connection over Botswanian folk music, which NO ONE else listens to. Maybe it was how they flicked their head and th…
    - 15 Jul 16, 6:00am -
  • Fear, the Police, and me
    Hi … I’m a black man. In case you haven’t heard, there is some interesting news relating to my kind and the police. Seemed like a fitting time for me to talk about my story. I was born in the 80’s and grew up in the 90’s, with my formative…
    - 12 Jul 16, 6:00am -
  • Loving black people and the police – The Daily Show
    What more do we need to say?Original content from SBM.
    - 11 Jul 16, 6:00am -
  • The New & Improved SingleBlackMale
      Welcome to the New and Improved SingleBlackMale! Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither was our redesign. At some point, thought it would never get finished. But, we felt that our original look and feel was old and outdated and we wanted someth…
    - 9 Jul 16, 10:44pm -
  • Take Away: An Invaluable Lesson
    There is no all-encompassing formula for relationships. The diversity of individuals in this world ensures no possible algorithm for success, so consider yourself fortunate if you get it right and find someone whose values and perspectives beat to th…
    - 21 Apr 16, 6:00am -
  • Writing My Wrongs (Part Two)
    So, I’ve been in a relationship for over four years. And I’m a guy. Trust me, I know how to apologize. It’s an art form, really. And you could call me the modern-day James Porter of the sorry. Real men know what I speak. If you saw me, you’d…
    - 18 Apr 16, 7:00am -
  • Writing My Wrongs (Part One)
    I’ve always been passionate about black males – no, not in the Tyson Beckford way – I’m in a different zone like Mos Def. Nothing makes me happier to see us succeed; nothing irks me further when we go bad, like the 2% in the back of the fridg…
    - 11 Apr 16, 6:00am -
  • So That’s Why I’m Still Single?!
    “I can see why you’re still looking for a man,” he said. Let me set the scene of the crime, because you know the brother’s life was at stake as soon as the words left his mouth. It was a Sunday afternoon, right after church. The pastor had ju…
    - 5 Apr 16, 8:00am -
  • Stop Breastfeeding: How to be an Attractive Man
    source: Fellas, it’s crucial that you understand these two things: Seeking the approval of women actually repels them How to stop breastfeeding There’s always going to be some woman, somewhere, who’s annoyed…
    - 28 Mar 16, 7:00am -
  • Here’s How Russel Wilson Keeps The Good Guy vs Bad Guy Conversation Going
    “Will He Wait In 2015?” was a piece that I wrote back in July here on SBM. The piece used the new relationship between Russell Wilson and Ciara as proof that there are men that will abstain from sex with the right woman. I spent most of that post…
    - 17 Mar 16, 12:33pm -


The Sexy Single Mommy

  • What You Need to Know About Puppy Training
    First-time dog owners usually have lots of problems with puppy training. This doesn’t come as a surprise, says Lene Kaufmann – a puppy training expert. When you see a dog you might think it’s all gonna be fun and games but it isn’t really so.…
    - 35 days ago 19 Mar 18, 2:50pm -
  • I Want Kids But My Wife Doesn’t. Is My Marriage Over?
    Advice: I want a family. She doesn’t. Do I end the marriage? Q: I’m 33 and my wife is 32. We’ve been married for five years and have a pretty good life—a nice house, interesting jobs, a great group of friends. Of course, our relationship…
    - 48 days ago 5 Mar 18, 11:32pm -
  • How to Choose the Right Lingerie
    What woman doesn’t like to feel sexy? There are a lot of ways to find your sexy but lingerie is probably the easiest. With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, many of us are looking for ways to spice up things in the bedroom and buying some…
    - 87 days ago 25 Jan 18, 10:12pm -
  • A Father’s Views on Co-Parenting
    A few months ago, I wrote a post called, “How to Co-Parent When You Can’t Stand His Ass,” which a lot of women could relate to.  Based on the responses, there are many women who are trying to figure out how to be successful at co-parenting whe…
    - 25 Dec 17, 11:51pm -
  • Single Because: “I’ve Been Through Some Shit!”
    I got married when I was 18 he was 21. I thought that since he was a little older he was ready. A few months into the relationship he was cheating. Long story short shy of 4 years married we were divorced and I became a single mom. Single After Divor…
    - 2 Oct 17, 6:00am -
  • Falling In Love With A Grown Man’s Potential Is The Absolute Worst
    As women, many of us have a super woman complex. We believe that we have the ability to fix all that ails the world.  While, I do believe that women have superpowers (the ability to multitask like no other), I simultaneously believe that we often fa…
    - 27 Sep 17, 6:00am -
  • Sugaring: Why You Will Never Get Waxed Again
    Have you ever heard of Sugaring? If you haven’t, I’m about to change your life. What Is Sugaring? Sugaring hair removal is an ancient middle-eastern practice which uses an all natural paste or gel made from ingredients like sugar, water, lemon j…
    - 25 Sep 17, 11:34pm -
  • Single Because: I’m Waiting For Someone With Lifetime Intentions
    When it comes to single life, I am single because I am going to wait. I feel like some people just don’t put in effort when it comes to pursuing someone with lifetime intentions. I could write a million words about how I feel about the opposite sex…
    - 25 Sep 17, 6:00am -
  • Fall Hair With Divatress
    This is a sponsored post. All opinions are mine. Happy Fall! With the cooler weather, many of us are packing up all of our summer clothes and pulling out our sweaters and boots. With the season change, most of us are ready to switch up our look and f…
    - 24 Sep 17, 11:28pm -
  • I Got Played Because I Didn’t Listen To My Intuition
    Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection? Right from the start the sparks start to fly and you feel a certain closeness to them. On your first date, he is attentive, kind, caring and actually listens to what you have to say. Things ju…
    - 22 Sep 17, 6:00am -

Black Girls Are Easy

  • Are You Dick Whipped?
    Black Girls Are EasyCategories: Basic B*tchWe Gotta Do BetterWhy do you let guys play games with your heart? Oh, that’s right, you don’t let them, it’s a product of modern day males being so smart and sneaky that you can’t tell “H…
    - 4 days ago 19 Apr 18, 4:46pm -
  • Surviving Single – How To Be Happy Alone
    Black Girls Are EasyCategories: DatingFuck love, fuck dating, fuck this generation of over-texting, under-valuing, game playing fakes. You’re sick of being disappointed and tired of wasting time, so you’re going to break away from romanc…
    - 17 days ago 5 Apr 18, 8:46pm -
  • What Do They Bring To The Table – The Power of Being High Maintenance
    Black Girls Are EasyCategories: relationshipsSpartanHer: My ex was virtually homeless, worked 12 hours a week at a job a 16-year-old could do, and I still had his back. After 19 months he told me that it wasn’t going to work. Can you plea…
    - 48 days ago 6 Mar 18, 2:49pm -
  • Why Won’t He Let Go?
    Black Girls Are EasyCategories: Datingrelationships“I’ve been dating (fucking) this guy for the better part of two years. Yes, you read that correctly. Recently it’s come to a point where I must walk away. I know he sees this other gi…
    - 73 days ago 8 Feb 18, 8:59pm -
  • Stop Being Loyal To Single People
    Black Girls Are EasyCategories: DatingYear in and year out, I see the same exact fallout when men and women date as if it’s the finish line, not the starting line. You meet someone that checks a few boxes on your list, begin to see them w…
    - 13 Dec 17, 2:03pm -
  • Reclaiming Your Power
    Black Girls Are EasyCategories: SpartanWe Gotta Do BetterWe shouldn’t have to remind men that rape or harassment is wrong, it should be so self-evident, so crystal fucking clear that “no” means “no,” but that’s what it’s come…
    - 16 Nov 17, 1:27pm -
  • How To Reclaim Your Time Before It’s Too Late
    Black Girls Are EasyCategories: DatingFor The FellasRatchet GurlzCuffing season always brings me the best stories. The seasons change and people go from summer freedom to fall frustration, and all eyes are on trying to lock someone down fo…
    - 9 Oct 17, 4:55pm -

Goddess Intellect

  • PSA: The Super Text
    Lately I’ve been experiencing whiplash from my past. I was never in an accident nor have I experienced any major injury to my back but somehow I know what it’s like to get a quick crack of the whip. It was a few weeks ago and one of my guy cousin…
    - 12 Nov 14, 8:30am -
  • [QUIZ] Could You Be Repelling The Love Of Your Life?
    It’s been awhile. I’ve been very busy soul searching, running errands and getting ready for the launch of my new lingerie line. Many are shocked and/or delighted with my decision to step fully into fashion but if you’ve known me forever, it mak…
    - 22 Sep 14, 5:38am -
  • [VIDEO] Myth Buster: Women Must Choose Between Love & Career
    The choice between a successful career and love is not always clear cut. Personal goals, current job satisfaction, financial needs and personal beliefs can all play in role in your decision, but why does it have to be a choice? We can manage multiple…
    - 3 Sep 14, 7:02am -
  • Goddess Eats: Pork Chop, Mashed Potatoes & Skillet Corn
    Another quick and easy home cooked meal for goddesses on the go, by Je’Tara. Check it out: Post image updated 4:41pm ET ~ Goddess Intellect Servings 4 Ingredients 1lb or 4-5 thick cut pork chops 1lb frozen corn Rotel tomatoes Evoo Half an onion (I…
    - 2 Sep 14, 8:30am -
  • [VIDEO] The Truth About Relationship/Dating Blogs
    Are you a dating blog junkie? I love writing blogs and sharing but I do not recommend using blogs alone as a blueprint for what your love life should look like. Here’s why: As much as you may love reading, it’s one thing to absorb the free advice…
    - 25 Aug 14, 8:58am -

Until I Get Married

  • What Took Me So Long To Propose
    A post shared by Jozen Cummings (@jozenc) on Nov 25, 2017 at 4:14pm PST Before this happened on Friday night, the questions about when I was going to propose to Gina started being asked before her and I even crossed our one-year mark as boyfriend and…
    - 27 Nov 17, 9:20am -
  • Lemonade: A cautionary tale for men like you
    Ever since Beyoncé premiered her new album Lemonade on Saturday evening, people have been diving in with their theories on who she is singing about. Is it her husband, Jay Z? Her father, Matthew Knowles? Perhaps an amalgam of both? All this sleuthin…
    - 26 Apr 16, 11:24pm -
  • Writing about love during times of hate
    Love is a battle. Love is a war. — James Baldwin   Love is a difficult thing to write about. It doesn’t seem this way at first. We think there’s so much to say because there’s so much we feel in the moment, but then when we put fingers to ke…
    - 30 Dec 15, 8:25pm -
  • I Didn’t Fight the Guy who Disrespected me in Front of my Girlfriend, Here’s Why
    There has never been a moment when I stepped out with my girlfriend to a party and regretted it. We have nothing but good times. But whenever we hit the town, I feel an extra amount of pressure to be aware of our surroundings at all times and keep he…
    - 13 Aug 15, 4:23pm -
  • Eleven Lessons Learned After Living In New York City For 11 Years
    Eleven years ago today, I stepped off a plane at JFK International Airport. It wasn’t my first time visiting New York City. I had been here enough times to not be in awe of the city skyline as my plane was touching down. I even lived here once, alb…
    - 9 Jul 15, 4:47pm -
  • Three Things You Need To Do Since Your Girl Is Going To See ‘Magic Mike’ And Magic Mike XXL
    What’s up, folks!? A quick note for those who are seeing this post for the first time. I originally wrote it back when the first “Magic Mike” hit theaters. But now, with the release of the sequel, I thought it would be a good idea to repost it.…
    - 2 Jul 15, 8:58am -
  • Warning To A Young Man: You’re About To Go Through It

    - 10 Jun 15, 12:07pm -
  • How To Pour A Woman A Drink In 2015
    They say what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas, but after a recent visit there, I learned a valuable lesson that I took back home with me: We have to improve the way we get women drinks at parties. I visited Las Vegas three weeks ago with 10 friends…
    - 9 Apr 15, 12:21pm -
  • Can a Man Worry and Will it Ever Stop?
    Earlier this year, I decided to reactive my Ask.FM account, thus allowing people to send me questions about whatever they feel like. As one would expect, most of these questions have been about relationships and dating, some of them are about life it…
    - 9 Mar 15, 12:10pm -
  • Meeting My Family and Why It Matters Now
    On Saturday, I am introducing my mother, sister, and niece to the other most important woman of my life. The significance of this introduction has very little to do with the traditional meaning we attach to meeting family. I am not seeking approval o…
    - 5 Feb 15, 12:25pm -

Black Love And Marriage

  • Are You Up For Some Sex-ploration?
    CLICK HERE TO FIND OUT…. Like This? Share. More »Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 1 Jun 17, 12:14am -
  • Black Man…. Own Your ISH!!
    By Ayize Ma’at The title of this video really says it all. Black men are Kings. Black men are all dat. And guess what? Black men—we have to take responsibility…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 24 Apr 17, 8:02am -
  • Find Time For Your Spouse. It’s Not Optional.
    By Aiyana Ma’at Ayize and I have been together for 22 years and married for almost 15. Our lives have changed so much since we first met and got together. We’ve…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 17 Mar 17, 11:00am -
  • Creating Your Legacy: How To Build A Successful Business With Your Spouse
    We are so excited over here at BLAM !  Hasani & Danielle Pettiford from Couples Academy will be our special guests for this month’s FREE COUPLES WEBINAR! They are going…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 16 Mar 17, 4:24pm -
  • Marriage Communication 101: The Listener Controls The Conversation
    By Team BLAM Are you aware that a listener, not the speaker, controls the conversation? Probably not, since most of us operate under the myth that the more we talk,…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 16 Mar 17, 4:00am -
  • Black Marriage Day DC 2017 Tickets On Sale!
    We are so excited over here to be coming close to our Annual Black Marriage Day DC Celebration! If you’ve come out before you already know and that’s why you’re…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 3 Mar 17, 6:53pm -
  • Untitled
    Hey Fam! We’ve got a FREE webinar coming up….yup it’s FREE and we can’t tell you how excited we are to have Tanya Barnett, Founder of The Real Wives Movement…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 23 Feb 17, 1:44pm -
  • The Top 3 Things Every Woman Wants For Valentine’s Day. It’s Not What You Think.
    Valentine’s Day is here. So what did you get her this year? Maybe you’re tired of doing the same old “red roses and a box of chocolates” thing and you…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 17 Feb 17, 5:00am -
  • Last Minute, Inexpensive, & Romantic Valentine Date Ideas
    So, it’s 2 days before Valentine’s Day. You haven’t bought a card, didn’t even really think about getting a gift, and have no idea what you and your boo will…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 13 Feb 17, 2:25pm -
  • Celebrating Valentine’s Day At Home This Year? Give Your House A Romantic Makeover
    By Jamie Scott Valentine’s Day is a cause for celebration, and there’s no reason not to give your house a makeover in recognition of the day of love. If you’re…Visit for the FULL STORY & So Much More!
    - 12 Feb 17, 6:31am -

Seriously Maybe

  • How to Deal with False Claims of Domestic Violence
    If your relationship begins to turn bitter and your significant other starts to act in a way that leads you to believe that they will file false domestic abuse charges against you, it is time to take notice. Domestic violence is a serious crime that…
    - 15 Dec 16, 12:44pm -
  • Tips For Men About Dating
    Dating has always been and will continue to be a complicated process. Where should you go for your date? What should you wear? Who should pay for the date? These are all good questions but can be very confusing. Here are some great tips for men by Na…
    - 12 Aug 16, 7:59am -
  • Her Checklist for the First Date
    First dates come with both anxiety and excitement. You’re excited to meet a new person. Even if you aren’t sure if the connection will lead to a long-term relationship, you value opportunities to expand your social circle. However, before you lea…
    - 19 Jul 16, 11:29am -
  • 4 Most Common Reasons for a Breakup
    Love is in the air. Sometimes it abruptly disappears into thin air. Not every couple can explain what happen to their passion and where everything started to go wrong. A breakup is something no one ever liked but it eventually becomes the only possib…
    - 5 Jul 16, 9:02pm -
  • The days for traditional weddings are numbered
    According to a survey among 500 engaged couples in the UK, the traditional weddings are becoming less and less popular and if the trend continues, might be totally out of our minds very soon. My Voucher Codes asked 500 couples the question “Would y…
    - 25 May 16, 7:33am -
  • What Modern Girls Really Look for in Men
    Love and family are the greatest values of our life. People seek each other, and sometimes it takes much time to find the one that fits you perfectly. We asked our gorgeous friends from Romance Compass – online ukrainian dating site about what kind…
    - 13 May 16, 9:36am -
  • Four Stereotypical Female Characters that Do Not Actually Exist…
    From scratch, you can remember numerous stereotypical characteristics of girls. Some of them are related to actual females, others just exaggerate prototypical qualities. Pop culture has created lots and lots of female characters that have no connect…
    - 2 May 16, 11:07am -
  • Top 10 First Date Ideas
    Is there anything sweeter than a first date tremble? You know, the one that goes after you through the whole evening? I cannot imagine something better! I went on many first dates; frankly speaking, most of them turned out to be a total disaster. Boy…
    - 11 Apr 16, 1:49pm -
  • What a Special Day…
    A toast to this special day and the perfect bottle to toast it with, Armand de Brignac (“ace of spades”). What a special day it is. Something about this day makes it worthwhile to want to write about. For those wondering what makes this day speci…
    - 29 Mar 16, 8:20am -
  • Can Men and Women really be friends?…
    Below is a short clip on Steve Harvey’s opinion about men and women being friends…Interesting
    - 18 Jan 16, 4:30pm -

The Naked Convos

  • newHow To Survive In Lagos
    5 minutes into the journey I noticed my eyes were hurting as if covered with smoke, aahh aahn! This fine bus has leaking exhaust and I happen to be in the back seat. I would have opted to go down had the conductor not collected the 100 naira fare the…
    - 4 hours ago 23 Apr 18, 5:00am -
  • Peeping Through Holes
    A part of me wanted to leave the place this was a very uncomfortable scene but I had to be sure of what I was seeing so I watched close that was when I realized that these girls were Tolu and Sola I almost fell and hit the door, I was sure this was n…
    - 3 days ago 20 Apr 18, 5:00am -
  • You Are Not Proud of Your Marriage
    Also a man that would be bothered by such a non-issue imo, is a man that is not self assured and that is definitely not the man I want to be married to. If me not having the same name with you makes you feel less of a husband to me or gets you worrie…
    - 5 days ago 18 Apr 18, 5:00am -
  • Mascara Is The Boring Chick Flick Drama We Don’t Need    
    Mascara is a story about four women who live as friends in a Lagos-based apartment. I had expected Lagos to be an extra, buoyant character on its own, rippling with familiar charm and chaos. But the establishing shot in the first episode was as dull…
    - 7 days ago 16 Apr 18, 7:15am -
  • Reincarnation – An Archaic Belief
    I remember the old man had a limp and his shoulders were always slumped, some claim it was as a result of the sacks of yam he carried whilst he was young, but even with slumped shoulders his head was always raised. He was a proud man. I remember his…
    - 10 days ago 13 Apr 18, 5:00am -
  • Moving On
    He paused briefly, looked me up and down and with one brow slightly raised up, he asked, “Do you want to go somewhere?” He looked like no one had ever turned him down in his life and besides - I did want to go with him. First I needed to make tha…
    - 12 days ago 11 Apr 18, 5:00am -
  • Common Feelings Survivors Of Sexual Violence Deal With
    If you are a victim/survivor, here are some tips that may help: Treatment for PTSD typically begins with a detailed evaluation and the development of a treatment plan that meets the unique needs of the survivor.
    - 14 days ago 9 Apr 18, 5:00am -
  • Sex Is Not Oxygen – Rape Is Evil.
    The normalized dynamic of sexual behavior is one where the man is to be persistent until the woman caves in. A lot of men think females can’t surrender to their will without coercion. A lot of females have also subconsciously reinforced that notion…
    - 18 days ago 5 Apr 18, 5:00am -
  • How Africa Magic Gave Nollywood A Bad Image
    Comparatively, Africa Magic is in chief control of what it decides to broadcast, and, put bluntly, it is partly responsible for Nollywood’s bad image. The streaming era hasn't forced the movie channel into obsolescence.
    - 20 days ago 3 Apr 18, 5:00am -
  • Sour Love
    She laid lifeless. She was tired. He patted her legs and made a move to have sex with her. 'Please, don’t do this. Please! You are violating me.' She cried out. The tears ran freely, soaking her pillow. Her heart was broken. How could he do this to…
    - 23 days ago 31 Mar 18, 4:00am -
  • Why I Love Rebirth and Renaissance Stories
    Renaissance came after the Dark Ages. As a country, France overcame oppression and tyranny following rebirth during its 18th century revolution. Today, they are among the G7 nations. Cleopatra was just an inexperienced teen when she inherited the thr…
    - 24 days ago 30 Mar 18, 6:55am -
  • Short Story: Used
    Ikeja brought back your mojo. The transformation of Opebi, where your office is located, from an idyllic cosmopolis at daytime to a sprawling red light zone at night intrigued you. You registered at one of the high profile strip joints on there so yo…
    - 24 days ago 30 Mar 18, 4:00am -
  • The Nice Guy™
    They believe the myth that if they're nice enough, otherwise known as being a decent human being, to women then they should be rewarded with sex. They don't understand the fact that women can want to friends with men without wanting to fuck them.
    - 26 days ago 28 Mar 18, 4:00am -

Choices, Voices, and Sole

  • This Post is Long Overdue
    Hey guys! Hey there! How you been?? So I’m sure you’ve noticed that the blog has been, ummmm… what’s the word? Quiet? Yes, quiet. As in I haven’t posted anything since May. MAY!!! That’s a long ass time. Well, I assure you it’s not been…
    - 5 Aug 15, 9:00am -
  • #TuesdayShoesday: Fabulous Shoes You can Wear to a Reunion
    You guys! This week marks the 10 year anniversary of my graduation from Howard University. I mean, what?! I can’t even begin to believe my friends and I are celebrating our 10 year reunion for undergrad, but this is where we are. But here’s the t…
    - 5 May 15, 9:00am -
  • That Pesky Foreboding Joy Thing Again
    Foreboding joy. It’s a concept we’ve talked about on the blog here already, but one that I wanted to explore again after the controversial death of beloved Grey’s Anatomy character, Dr. Derek Shepherd. For those of you who don’t watch the sho…
    - 28 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • Learning to be Honest in Dating
    Honesty is something a lot of us talk about. We say we want folks to be honest with us. We claim we’re honest individuals. We even say cliché statements like “honesty is the best policy,” but I would argue that many of us tell little white lie…
    - 23 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • “Mama I Made it”… on the Importance of My Accomplishments Jar
    This New Year’s Eve, I decided to try something a little different to set myself up for the new year. I didn’t make resolutions; I made an accomplishments jar courtesy of an idea from Buzzfeed. The basic idea behind the jar was that we all spend…
    - 21 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • QOTD: Do We (as a collective) Really Love Women?
    I can’t tell y’all how excited I was to see this image come across my screen this week. I saw the picture Ms. Debbie Allen put up last week (and squealed appropriately), so when I saw this was what she was talking about… y’all, I’m pretty s…
    - 16 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • Throwback Thursday — When I Finally Wore My Perfect Date Dress
    Hey y’all, it’s Thursday, and I’m preparing to make my way to celebrate a friend’s birthday in Las Vegas!! And since I was slack and didn’t give you all a blog post on Tuesday (sorry!), I figured the least I could do was post one of my fave…
    - 9 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • The Biggest Relationship Cop Out and Why It’s Hurting You
    Change. Such a simple word with quite a complex meaning. Webster defines it as “to give a different position, course, or direction to; to make a shift from one to another; to undergo a modification; to undergo transformation.” But I say one of th…
    - 2 Apr 15, 9:00am -
  • What My Drink of Choice Says About Me
    I’m a whiskey girl, well bourbon to be exact, but we’ll say whiskey to keep it simple here. So when I saw Elite Daily did a post on the 10 Reasons Why You Should Always Go For the Girl Who Drinks Whiskey, I got super excited. Yes! They’re going…
    - 31 Mar 15, 9:00am -
  • Perceived Sexiness vs. What’s Really Sexy
    You see those shoes up there? They seem innocent enough, right? Don’t let them fool you, though. Not too long ago, they were the cause of one of my most embarrassing moments yet. But to their credit, they also helped reveal a crucial detail about w…
    - 26 Mar 15, 9:00am -

Black Women's Interracial Relationship Circle

  • They are Still at it!

    - 15 May 15, 4:58pm -
  • Please Visit the Link Below for my new Blog Post
    Visit New Blog Portal©Halima AndersonAuthor, "Supposing I wanted to Date a White Guy"
    - 23 Apr 15, 6:48pm -
  • Checking in...
    Hi FolksIts been over a month. I am still here lol!As a lot of my posting these days are not about interracial relationships but getting ahead as a black woman I am in the process of presenting these writings in another blog (I am still doing a bit…
    - 15 Mar 15, 7:19am -
  • She who has the Knowledge Wins!
    Today again it was brought to me how being in possession of the right information puts one ahead of the pack. I went out for a social event in a pair of impossible heels (the ones that are you know, ok for all of two hours and then you wonder how you…
    - 7 Feb 15, 12:08pm -
  • My God. Be Inspired!
    ©Halima AndersonAuthor, "Supposing I wanted to Date a White Guy"
    - 9 Jan 15, 5:41pm -
  • From the archives
    I can't believe its already over 2 years since I wrote the article below wow!Please re read from the archives while I try to shake a nasty cold.Enjoy!Link Find your own Personal Style! I attended a funeral service last week, with a high antecedence…
    - 5 Jan 15, 5:10pm -
  • BWE is about Balance and Focus on the major thing - you
    This is my last post of the year in which I wish us all a Happy Christmas and a very special New Year of dreams fulfilled and more dreams.I missed my planned post for the 15th of Dec. It just got suddenly crazy busy. It amazes me that we go through t…
    - 23 Dec 14, 6:01am -
  • Innovation is the name of the Game
    Look at all the amazing things we enjoy because humans are essentially animals of innovation.  Having just been to the dentist for some major dental work, I am thankful that certain fields of endeavor don't stagnated but move on and innovate sometim…
    - 1 Dec 14, 6:14am -
  • How well do you know your own Psychology
    and how well do you know your own body.?After many years of observing (or simply after experiencing it year in year out it became obvious) I realize that during the cold periods I am more or less in a constant state of colds and flus. I now realize t…
    - 16 Nov 14, 4:39pm -
  • Do you feel like you are outside the relationship know-how loop?
    What do you know about how men and women get together in your local area or your society as a whole. In the USA or UK or France but also in Wisconsin, San Francisco, Perth. In many a western country its a closed and stitched up loop from a very ear…
    - 3 Nov 14, 7:00am -
  • How to Naturally Staple (Shrink) your Stomach
    Self improvement blog alert!Before I tell you how to do this stomach shrinking thingy, lets talk about why the FASTING Diet (or FAST Diet or 5:2 Diet) might be good for you.I have just met a friend who has lost so much weight it's unbelievable. She w…
    - 14 Oct 14, 2:58pm -
  • A Man in Love, a wonder to behold!
    It's good to see a man in Love!A woman in love is great but to behold a man giddy in his infatuation is really a wonder to behold!And so it has been for Mr George Clooney in these past few days up to his wedding to Amal Alamuddin. Watching it restore…
    - 29 Sep 14, 2:42pm -
  • We are rooting for you!
    I received a lovely gift from one of my fellow Bloggers and readers, and I felt truly blessed. I can only say to S THANK YOU! My last blog entry was something from my personal circumstances and you know it got me thinking about falling short on all…
    - 14 Sep 14, 3:40pm -
  • Lessons from the Neighborhood
    Hope you all had a good summer!A little story for a teaching lesson: My neighbor and I had called in some estate officials to bear witness to another noisy neighbor. We were thinking that we had a good case because he was in full flow at the time wh…
    - 1 Sep 14, 5:41am -
  • Painstaking is how it must be sometimes
    Certain journeys in life will involve you building brick by brick. It can be discouraging and off putting but only by laying one brick on top of another can you get to the end goal. I am learning the need for patience with myself in a number of these…
    - 14 Jun 14, 5:29pm -
  • Find a way to get back in touch with the joy and pleasure of being a Female (which essentially means being different from males)
    It's getting hard to feel in touch with and positive about being a woman in our western society today, and I don’t say this because of real misogyny and attacks against the female of the species that we hear about everyday, especially in areas of t…
    - 27 May 14, 9:16am -
  • Those Ideas floating around in your head are for something
    Please note down the ideas that occur to you in the course of the day, they are important. You may have as many as 20-30 insights and unique ideas a day, how any of these do you capture in writing or as a voice recording? Make sure you regularly jot…
    - 5 May 14, 2:26am -
  • Dont let paucity of Imagination rob you of a glorious future Part 1
    Don’t let Paucity of imagination rob you of a bright and fulfilled futureFailure of imagination (FOI) stands as the second most critical factor denying many of us a bountiful life. The first is laziness. The reason why I place FOI second is that pe…
    - 19 Apr 14, 7:20am -
  • One Habit to take you to the Next Level
    I love my bed and I hang on to it as long as I can in the mornings, waking up only after the 3rd snooze alarm has gone off. I have known (at least in my head) that early waking helps you to get the best out of your 24 hours but I have always thought…
    - 16 Mar 14, 2:37pm -
  • Don't get led away from your goals and your dreams in life
    It seems that Mr Simon Cowell has finally been 'landed.' Ok he may not be married to the woman but he is now the proud father of an infant son and it seems very clear that he will do all he needs to be in his sons life! He has taken to twitter and o…
    - 3 Mar 14, 5:00pm -
  • Hunting for White Racism
    Hunting for and turning over rocks to seek out evidence of white hypocrisy about race, seems to be a very popular pastime with many black women. Each day I get dozens of emails and articles in my inbox, on the topic of 'outing' whites as racist, agai…
    - 6 Feb 14, 3:42pm -
  • 12 years a slave and other things
    I am noticing more and more black women make unconventional choices.Maybe not unconventional re the rest of the world but re black women themselves and the fact that they have largely limited their range within the wider world and the broader context…
    - 16 Jan 14, 4:23pm -
  • Halima on <...Break...>
    ©Halima AndersonAuthor, "Supposing I wanted to Date a White Guy"
    - 4 Dec 13, 12:01am -
  • What a wrong detour could cost
    If the wrong idea takes root in your thinking it could take you off course. For some it could be twenty years before they come back to their senses and by the time they do, they could have lost so much time and so many lifecycle-dependent opportuniti…
    - 17 Nov 13, 6:43pm -
  • She who has much, more will be given
    For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. Matthew 25:29I used to have a problem with this saying from the gospels. It seemed so cruel and so unfair to me.…
    - 3 Nov 13, 2:59pm -