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Fledgling

  • moving day
    My new website is up and running—and I love it! I will be blogging over there from now on, so I hope you’ll take a look. You can also find my essays, videos, and other important links over there. I will check with my web designer to see if curren…
    - 15 Nov 14, 5:41pm -
  • quality, quantity, context
    I’ll be speaking on an Afrofuturism panel at Brooklyn College next week, and I hope I’ll have the chance to talk about After Earth. Most critics panned the film but for Black youth (boys in particular), that film is groundbreaking—something whi…
    - 7 Nov 14, 10:38am -
  • a) political
    Children’s literature is not neutral. It can be educational and entertaining, but books for kids also tell us something about our society and ourselves. As I wrote in my last HuffPo essay, There’s clearly a direct link between the misrepresentati…
    - 5 Nov 14, 10:32am -
  • cell
    I used to tell people that I lived under a rock. I’m an HSP and one way I manage my various sensitivities is by withdrawing from the world; my home is my sanctuary and I try to keep it clutter-free by conducting regular purges so that I only keep t…
    - 3 Nov 14, 12:14pm -
  • shut in/shut out
    I always take a selfie on my birthday but this year I’ve been taking pictures all month long. Every time I’m out with friends, I ask someone to snap a photo with their phone so that there’s proof of our outing. I’ve just started writing again…
    - 25 Oct 14, 10:49am -
  • be radical
    While I was in Sacramento I met Kate Schatz, Chair of the School of Literary Arts at Oakland School for the Arts and author of Rad American Women A-Z. Laura Atkins introduced us (of course) and persuaded Kate to take a look at my books (of course). T…
    - 21 Oct 14, 11:53am -
  • medieval mix
    I’ve started planning my annual low-key birthday celebration. This Brooklyn photography exhibit is on the list along with the Dillons’ retrospective at the Society of Illustrators. Then on the actual day I think I’ll visit the Cloisters and may…
    - 20 Oct 14, 6:41pm -
  • seed & source
    My website’s getting an overdue overhaul and it’s been challenging to find a “look” that represents who I am as a writer. There will be purple, of course, but I originally wanted a “plantation ruins” aesthetic that proved hard to achieve.…
    - 17 Oct 14, 2:02pm -
  • not nice

    - 13 Oct 14, 11:38pm -
  • pieces
    Kidlitcon is just a few days away and I’m working on my panel presentation, which means I’m gathering up all the bits and pieces that explain why I do what I do. I’m a bit of a mess these days. On Sunday the protestors singing a “Requiem for…
    - 7 Oct 14, 3:12pm -

Eye of the 'Drea

  • About The Sunflowers
    On July 31st ended up at the DMV renewing my tags because I had forgotten that they were due and, because of COVID-19, lines were outside. This woman asked me what I was having done and I told her and she said that the line for license renewal was on…
    - 8 days ago 13 Sep 20, 11:05pm -
  • Cheer
    Was half-asleep on Friday night when I noticed someone mixing vodka in a singing bowl.Mentioned my "dream" to the 'Fugee and she said it was if my singing bowls were drunk. Had I imagined it? I have been playing singing bowls at night soooo...Anyway,…
    - 62 days ago 21 Jul 20, 10:55pm -
  • Not The Better Thing
    I keep thinking about this woman on Twitter who pondered the reason why George Floyd's death has been such a watershed event. She speculated that it was the method of execution as we have become so accustomed to gun deaths...Like others, I am trying…
    - 76 days ago 7 Jul 20, 11:45pm -
  • Wild
    As someone on Twitter wrote last night, "This episode of America is wild."Levity in the face of the unimaginable horror. Barely got a chance to get over the slaughter of Ahmaud Arbery when Amy Cooper screeched that she was going to call the police an…
    - 9 Jun 20, 11:05pm -
  • Keep Pedaling
    Posted this polyglot video to my IG stories which resulted in me chit-chatting with someone that I newly know and told her that I regretted not following through on Spanish in high school and she genuinely made me laugh out loud when she responded th…
    - 23 May 20, 9:45pm -
  • More Attention
    SalviaBecause I've been walking more, I've paid more attention to how spring unfolds: crocuses, forsythia, daffodils, hyacinths, tulips, red bud trees, irises, peonies.Thought that I was going  to have so much time to unclutter and organize and I do…
    - 14 May 20, 11:55pm -
  • Roads Less Traveled
    Route to EvadeParticipated in my first birthday parade. One of my yoga classmates’ birthday was on Tuesday so some of us met last Sunday to drive through her cul-de-sac to wish her a happy birthday...As we gathered on the parking lot, even our cars…
    - 4 May 20, 12:00am -
  • Dislocated
    Thursday's CloudsNoticed a Saturday morning yoga class would be held on Zoom by one of the yoga accounts that I follow on Instagram so I made a point to do yoga at 10:00 a.m. but almost wished that I had gone with the 10:00 a.m. Zumba class when I re…
    - 25 Apr 20, 11:05pm -
  • Inclining the Heart
    Lately, on the weekend, hunger is the thing that drives me out of bed.Made pancakes and also this dalgano coffee that has been popping up in folks' Instagram feeds. It might have been the really expired instant coffee or maybe my tablespoons were on…
    - 11 Apr 20, 10:30pm -
  • Life Is Happening
    Sent one of my friends a link to a meditation session on Zoom. Shortly thereafter, clicked on the meeting and I was the only one at the meeting when it finally dawned on me that it was Wednesday and not Tuesday.Tried to participate in a restorative y…
    - 5 Apr 20, 12:00am -
  • Same Boat
    Someone tagged me the other day to let me know that a Zumba teacher would do a Zoom class. It was cool to see people's faces that I haven't laid eyes on in a while. It was also weird to see people jumping around in individual boxes. Couldn't figure o…
    - 1 Apr 20, 11:55pm -
  • 14 Days Ago
    Last weekend marked my one-year anniversary of graduating from yoga teacher training. I have no regrets...What to say?  A lot has changed in the 14 days since I last posted. As with most cities, just about everything is on shut down.Up until last We…
    - 23 Mar 20, 12:12am -
  • Rolling Out
    Alison usually goes with me to Art in Bloom but she was camping. I had also invited an aunt and her friend. The friend couldn't go and my aunt called to say that she had had a doozy of a week and didn't want to go. I invited one more person and when…
    - 9 Mar 20, 12:11am -
  • Tanking...
    In an effort to not sink into despair, I've visited the orchid show three times and I just finished reading Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion.A little over a month ago, I agreed to sub for a yoga class at the studio where I took…
    - 1 Mar 20, 10:50pm -
  • Moments Of...
    Signed up for a book discussion of Skill in Action this past Friday but when Friday arrived, I  questioned my sanity for signing up for a 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. event at the end of the week.Would have felt guilty for not going and, therefore, not gi…
    - 25 Feb 20, 10:30pm -
  • To Swim or Not To Swim
    Did Qigong at work on Friday. It was my second time doing a session with an instructor and I felt relaxed afterward. Didn't come home for lunch because of the Qigong and realized how lucky I am to work close to home. The day felt extraordinarily long…
    - 15 Feb 20, 11:45pm -
  • To Anchor
    Guess the best way to describe how I've been feeling is shaken or, in today's parlance, shook.Life has been interesting. Had an emotional conversation with a customer who said that our paid contractors complete the circle.And yet another paid contrac…
    - 12 Feb 20, 10:35pm -
  • A Beautiful Table
    A couple of weeks ago made plans to meet Asmira on Friday but when the day rolled around, I felt exhausted but went anyway.Asmira always sets a beautiful table. We ate and caught up and I was surprised when she expressed the same sentiment that I had…
    - 2 Feb 20, 8:15pm -
  • Precious and Short
    My aunt G called on Saturday morning to let me know that my cousin's 58-year-old father had died.As I drove to the pool later in the day, remembered how I hadn't seen my cousin's father in ages when he greeted me outside the funeral home where my gra…
    - 27 Jan 20, 11:05pm -
  • The Walk
    We were allowed to leave work early on Friday because of inclement weather.Yesterday was reminiscent of the previous Friday in that it rained and rained. Last week, I stayed home and alternated between reading Pachinko and watching Jack Ryan.While th…
    - 18 Jan 20, 11:55pm -
  • Side Note
    Read a yoga book by a local author and when I finished, I checked this podcast that I don't regularly listen to because the guy rants for, like, the first 10 minutes but I took a look anyway and he had just interviewed a person that the local author…
    - 7 Jan 20, 11:45pm -
  • Daze
    There seemed to be an unprecedented amount of holiday, food gifts which made me think of Shonda Rhimes' book Year of Yes.About losing weight, Rhimes concluded that she was saying "yes" to being overweight. I have many truffles, cookies and candy. Def…
    - 2 Jan 20, 11:50pm -
  • Vivid
    Had a vivid, short dream that I received a holiday card from one of my college friends with all kinds of details and pictures so I sent her a card along with a few others; I'm not really the holiday card sending type.After our unexpected day off due…
    - 23 Dec 19, 11:55pm -
  • You or Me
    Because of the forecast, decided not to make my usual Sunday afternoon trek to Illinois.At some point, woke up in the wee hours of the morning and saw a text message from work that we'd be opening on a delayed schedule. Quickly turned my regular alar…
    - 16 Dec 19, 11:45pm -
  • Nice
    Had our work holiday party on Friday and it's sad how many of us were looking forward to a  half day away from our desks.Thankfully, the party veered from the usual structure and we had more fun. I also continued my streak of winning a door prize an…
    - 15 Dec 19, 11:45pm -

Twenties Unscripted

  • Woman Unscripted
    I walked around for most of 2018 with a shiny pair of invisible handcuffs tying my wrists together. I couldn’t write. I didn’t write. I wouldn’t write. I stopped knowing what the pitter patter of laptop keys beneath my fingertips sounded like.…
    - 11 Sep 18, 9:52pm -
  • On Loving and Writing
    Originally published in Aug. 5 Sunday Kind of Love newsletter I. Loving you is something like swimming in still waters and driving with the windows down. Easy. Calm. Even. Smooth. I once believed that love was more of a roller coaster, with skyrocket…
    - 12 Aug 18, 7:06pm -
  • The Allure of the Mess
    I wanted to believe that we could live somewhere above labels and the law. When I think of it now, it all seems so juvenile and silly, two adults with deepening feelings for one another and a refusal to put definition around them. “We’re both adu…
    - 5 Jun 18, 6:27am -
  • Do Not Dare To Dim Your Light (A Note To Self)
    On a drizzly Saturday evening, you’ll walk into European Wax Center and the sign on the door will catch your eye. “Walk in, strut out.” You’ll roll your eyes a little bit at the marketing and how women are supposed to have an extra pep in the…
    - 19 Mar 18, 8:10pm -
  • Black Girl, Interrupted
    Something about him gives me pause and makes me drop my fork mid-bite. He’s standing at the soda machine, pouring cup after cup of water and gulping it down. I don’t want to feel uneasy or afraid – maybe he is just a thirsty guy in need of some…
    - 7 Feb 18, 6:56pm -

Lactation Journey

  • BLACK WOMEN DOING: ANTHROPOLOGY
    For those in/around Seattle this Saturday, May 26, I’ll be speaking briefly about Black breastfeeding. The Black feminist library is inaugurating a series called Black Women Doing, and appropriately we’re starting with Anthropology. Below are the…
    - 24 May 18, 11:03am -
  • How I got SCAMMED into buying infant formula while in England
    I don’t really consider myself someone who is easily duped. In fact, the opposite is true. It’s not only because I’m pretty suspicious and skeptical of nearly everything. But I feel I’m quite connected with my gut, pretty discerning and have…
    - 1 Feb 18, 10:33am -
  • DECOLONIZING #BREASTFEEDING IN COMMUNITIES OF COLOR: A WEBINAR (Redux)
    I’ve had a number of folks contact me regarding the Decolonizing Breastfeeding in Communities of Color webinar I gave a number of months ago — so, I’m giving it again. I’ve added a bit of information from the last one, if you attended that, s…
    - 26 Oct 17, 10:38am -
  • Which came first? When breastfeeding at 50% is ‘Really good!’
    [This post has been sitting in draft for about a month] With the exception of the past hour since I’ve been here at JFK airport waiting for my connecting flight, I’ve been in (Ireland and) the United Kingdom for the past two months. I didn’t…
    - 5 Oct 17, 8:25pm -
  • Black Breastfeeding in the Mississippi Delta
      Back in March I took my general exams for graduate school and officially became a PhD Candidate! Make no mistake. I’ve still got (probably between 3 and 5 more) years to go before anyone confers me as Dr., but I ‘m done with all the requirem…
    - 4 Jun 17, 4:59pm -

Diary of a First Time Mom

  • Washing Your Car in the Winter
    No one really wants to wash a car in the winter. It’s not as fun as a summer scrubbing session, where you can squirt your kids with the hose, water the flowers while you work or even wash your dog as well. But it’s a necessary evil. If you don’…
    - 26 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Car Care When You Don’t Have a Garage
    Apartment living has its ups and downs. The ups include amenities like swimming pools, fitness centers and restaurants in walking distance. A big downer is street parking. Even if there’s a parking lot for tenants, it’s not the same as pulling in…
    - 24 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Show Your Family Car Some Love
    Show your car some love by stopping at your dealer’s automotive care center. By getting an oil change, you can extend the relationship you have with your car. Remember that all oils are not alike, so talk to a specialist about which one is best for…
    - 22 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Winter Weather Roadside Assistance
    Most drivers don’t plan to be the folks on the side of the road wondering what went wrong with their vehicles. But unfortunately, tires flatten, engines fail and accidents occur. This is why it’s critical to obtain not only car insurance but road…
    - 20 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Winter Car Essentials for Parents
    This winter, weird weather is sweeping the country. One week, your car is buried under snow, and the next, you no longer need to warm up your ride. While you can’t always predict the forecast, you can expect the best and prepare for the worse. This…
    - 18 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Best Valentine’s Day Gifts for Carpooling Moms
    This Valentine’s Day show the one you love some love by taking care of their car. You can go the extra mile by making this unique and caring gesture. Warm up their ride Much of the country will wake up to snow and ice, so set your alarm and warm up…
    - 13 Feb 19, 8:00pm -
  • Best Ways to Treat Eczema in the Winter
    Dear Diary, Over your lifetime, you probably walked to raise money and raise awareness for cancer, lupus, MS, or epilepsy. But have you tied up your sneakers for eczema? Although the ailment is far from deadly, and I wouldn’t dare compare it to a d…
    - 29 Jan 19, 5:00am -
  • Take a Winter Escape to a Bed and Breakfast
    If you have a case of the winter blues, one of the best remedies is a weekend getaway. You don’t have to travel far in the snow to escape the seasonal stress. You can experience a warm and cozy bed and breakfast in a matter of minutes. The Inn on…
    - 28 Jan 19, 10:33am -
  • Fashion Choices for New Mothers
    Fashion is usually the last thing on a new mother’s mind. But as Kate Middleton, Serena Williams, Kim Kardashian, and now Meghan Markle has shown, moms can look great during pregnancy and after giving birth. However, it’s not easy to adapt to you…
    - 28 Jan 19, 8:00am -
  • Surprising Breastfeeding Savings
    By: Shani St. Vil You’ll spend almost $10,000 on your baby’s first year, according to the thousands of moms who took a recent Baby Center survey. Before you throw your calculator against the wall, read on! One way to cut costs is to breastfeed y…
    - 27 Jan 19, 7:00am -

My Fabulous Boobies

  • What You Need For Your Chemo/Treatment Bag (Gift Ideas for Cancer Patients)
    What to take with you to chemo (or for your treatment day) when you may be there all day!Going to the oncologist/cancer center can take a long time The one thing I wasn't quite prepared for was the length of time I would end up spending at th…
    - 7 Nov 18, 5:36pm -
  • Guest Post: I Need a Breast Biopsy. What Does that Mean?
    I Need a Breast Biopsy. What Does that Mean?You have just finished your annual mammogram, but this time, something doesn’t feel right. A few minutes ago, the technologist asked you to get dressed and sit in this little room by yourself. The radio…
    - 21 Sep 18, 10:00am -
  • How I Dealt With The Diagnosis Of My Best Friend
    **This post was originally written in 2012. It has been expanded and updated as necessary.** Super Survivor Know-It-All aka Been There Done That, This Will Be Easy!I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in 2008. My best friend was diagnos…
    - 1 Mar 18, 3:55pm -
  • Remember that you are the boss in your breast cancer treatment
    *Update 11/2017*  I wrote this 1 year into my breast cancer treatment. I was exhausted but needed to make a decision about surgery. I struggled with my anxiety about making the wrong decision throughout my treatment period. I finally figured out wha…
    - 4 Nov 17, 4:21am -
  • How To Know If You Have Breast Cancer
    The #1 Way To Know If You Have Breast Cancer Breast cancer and pink ribbons have become as much a part of the autumn landscape as football games and tailgating. For a lot of people, all that they know about breast cancer is that it happens to wom…
    - 23 Oct 17, 8:39pm -
  • 20+ UNCOMPLICATED Ways To Comfort Your Breast Cancer Survivor Friend
    Hover over this image and pin this to your Pinterest board.Do you really know how to help her? Without making it all about you?Your good friend was just diagnosed with breast cancer. Your heart just broke into a million pieces. You're scare…
    - 23 Nov 16, 9:00am -
  • How To Wear Your Pink Ribbon T-shirts In Style
    How To Rock Your Pink Ribbon T-shirts In StyleWhat's a girl to do with all those pink ribbon/breast cancer awareness shirts? I'm a survivor who happened to already have a long love affair with pink... before I was diagnosed with breast c…
    - 7 Oct 16, 10:12am -
  • 5 Lessons of Unapologetic Bad-Assery That Prince and Muhammad Ali Taught Us
    Learning lessons of bad-assery from the best to ever do it.2016 has been particularly aggressive with collecting brave souls that we've loved and supported. Unexpected deaths of celebrities and personal friends/family members have shaken many of u…
    - 3 Sep 16, 9:00am -
  • 18 Great Sources for Breast Cancer Information and Support
    Are you WOKE? About breast cancer...?All around me, on social media and in real life, people are chattering about being "woke". It got me to thinking... how many of us in the breast cancer community are woke? Like for real, honestly and truly aware a…
    - 27 Jul 16, 9:00am -
  • What it means to be a cancer survivor - National Cancer Survivors Day
    Reflecting on being a cancer survivorWhen I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in the summer of 2008, I felt alone. While I knew that many women and men had been diagnosed with this disease before me... I felt really alone in my fear and conc…
    - 6 Jun 16, 10:00am -
  • Beyonce SLAYED Me With #Formation
    Formation is the visual representation of DOPENESS!Please tell me that you've seen Beyonce's video "Formation" by now! PLEASE tell me that.That video just put a visual on everything I've been feeling about 2016 and my life. This is the Year of E…
    - 7 Feb 16, 6:27pm -
  • Someone Stole My Content! What I Learned From The Incident
    I WAS ROBBED! But I'm not that mad about it. A few days ago, I was tagged on a picture by one of my cousins. Turns out... the picture was of ME! But I didn't recognize the page, or the person who was running it. Neither did my cousin.This is the…
    - 26 Jan 16, 9:30am -
  • Hello 2016! The Year of Epic Transformation
    Happy New Year!!  *blows horn!*My goodness... 2015 is gone. GONE! I still had stuff to do, projects to start... projects to finish. My to-do list is still super long.But.. despite my tardiness in completing what I wanted to accomplish las…
    - 7 Jan 16, 9:41pm -
  • Is there life WITHOUT cancer for a survivor?
    Is there life without cancer for a survivor?I was asked what life was like without cancer now.*blink*Life without breast cancer? Why... there's no such thing.Let's talk about remission and NED After you complete your "active treatment…
    - 29 Nov 15, 9:30am -
  • 5 Tips for Breast Self-Exams
    5 Tips for Breast Self-ExamsHealthcare professionals agree that the best way to combat breast cancer is with early detection. In order to do so, women must perform regular self-exams on their breasts. It might be uncomfortable at first, but it wi…
    - 24 Nov 15, 8:30am -
  • It's The Melanin | Outfit of the day
    It's The Melanin | Audacity Tees by pinkribbongal featuring rock n roll jeansDate night/Girls night out outfitA few months ago, I quietly launched an online t-shirt shop called Audacity Tees. I actually started it awhile ago but I never tol…
    - 16 Nov 15, 9:30am -
  • Losing A Metastatic Pink Ribbon Sister Is Always Hard
    Remembering my pink ribbon sister TamiEarlier this year, I attended a breast cancer blogger summit with the Komen Foundation. It was my second time being invited and participating. To be honest, it is one of those events that I look forward to bec…
    - 13 Nov 15, 2:45pm -
  • These Black Bloggers Discussed Breast Cancer Awareness - And It Was Grand!!
    These Black Bloggers Discussed Breast Cancer Awareness during Pinktober...And it was GRAND! Another Pinktober has come to an end. I'll be honest, this year was a doozy for me. A DOOZY I tell you. So much was happening in my email box that I star…
    - 3 Nov 15, 8:00am -
  • Hmm... am I being superwoman right now?
    Being Superwoman is not admirable when your health is in jeopardy*Update 10/15: Five years later... I still really hate the idea of being "Superwoman" but I can honestly say now... I was scared that I was going to lose my job because I had been sic…
    - 25 Oct 15, 11:44am -
  • The Winner Has Been Chosen!
    The Contest Has Ended: Rochelle G. is the winner!You know what is seriously a lot of fun? Giving away cool prizes! I don't know why I haven't done more of this... but I will certainly be doing more giveaways and raffles in the future. (I'm lining u…
    - 24 Oct 15, 7:00am -
  • Have you been following Good Enough Mother's Survivor Stories?
    Rene and I at the Komen Bloger Summit 2014.(I'm fangirling all over her! She's so incredible.)Confession: I absolutely adore Rene Syler of Good Enough Mother!Her passion and infectious zest for life is captivating. Her blog is absolutely ama…
    - 23 Oct 15, 6:00pm -
  • The Type of Friend That I Am
    I take terrible selfies... but my heart is good. *This post has a lot of gifs. If that is a problem for your computer or your phone, you'll have to skip this one. But they are there for a reason. I am a special kind of friend. I tell you t…
    - 20 Oct 15, 6:06pm -
  • Increasing Awareness of Your Protections Following a Breast Cancer Diagnosis
    Increasing Awareness of Your Protections Following a Breast Cancer DiagnosisR. Scott Oswald and Adam A. CarterEmployees returning to work following a breast cancer diagnosis have it very tough. After months of dealing with an unfavorable and ver…
    - 16 Oct 15, 5:21pm -
  • My Fabulous Boobies Is Giving Away A 32-inch TCL Roku TV!
    Could you use a 32" HD RokuTV? You have a chance to win one!I was contacted by the wonderful people of TCL with an opportunity to gift a reader with a beautiful new television. TCL (one of the largest television manufacturers) is raising money for…
    - 13 Oct 15, 7:00am -
  • All of This is Scary and Unsettling
    *Update 10/15:  I wrote this post in early 2009, about 7 months after the start of my chemotherapy. I was still healing from my mastectomy and was about half-way through my radiation treatment. I was exhausted physically and emotionally. This post w…
    - 7 Oct 15, 8:00am -

Life with the Logans

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Living Outside the Stacks

  • newStyle Imitating Art: Cap
    Welcome to Style Imitating Art. I hope your visit means you’re planning to join us, because we’d definitely love to have you… ABOUT STYLE IMITATING ART Style Imitating Art is hosted by Salazar {14 Shades of Grey}, Kim {Fierce Fashion Blog}, and…
    - 13 hours ago 21 Sep 20, 8:26am -
  • Style Imitating Art {inspiration}: Cap
    Welcome to Style Imitating Art. I hope your visit means you’re planning to join us, because we’d definitely love to have you… ABOUT STYLE IMITATING ART Style Imitating Art is hosted by Salazar {14 Shades of Grey}, Kim {Fierce Fashion Blog}, and…
    - 8 days ago 13 Sep 20, 11:33pm -
  • Where Bloggers Live: My Closet
    When I first saw this theme, I was like, no one wants to see my closet. I mean, it’s probably the most boring room in my house. Then I took pictures and started trying to explain my organization scheme and I realized y’all are gonna think somethi…
    - 9 days ago 12 Sep 20, 3:07pm -

Lovebabz: A Life in Transition

  • Nancy Wilson - That's What I Want For Christmas (Capitol Records 1963)

    - 14 Dec 18, 6:59pm -
  • At Home In the Words I write...I've missed Blogging
    These days of Summer are sweet and fleeting. I've been away too long. Away from this blog. This holy place where I live on the words I conjure.So much goodness and chaos still surrounds me. I am happy about this... There is more goodness than chaos.…
    - 11 Aug 18, 11:20am -
  • Clearing my path while I am alive.
    I have been thinking about my things after my death...What would happen to them? Could my children handle the getting rid of my things? I don't think I want them to do that. I want to do it while I am fully alive.I want to live with less. I want a s…
    - 20 Apr 18, 6:55pm -
  • It's Still Lent? (My Lenten Journey 2018 such that it is)
    I knew I wasn't going to march into Lent with a plan. I am spiritually tired of the politics of the day. What does this mean? I am known for keeping a spiritual center and at the moment I am out of spiritual sorts. Actually, I am good and damn mad a…
    - 14 Mar 18, 6:20pm -
  • A Woman of Many Umbrellas
    I am indeed a woman of many umbrellas. This has been so, as far back as I can remember. I've never done just "one" thing. I always had my hands and feet in this, that or the other. I am curious by nature. I learn by doing. I love by doing.I used to b…
    - 22 Jan 18, 5:51pm -
  • What am I willing to Do For Myself?
    Or, why the fuck am I not taking better care of myself?I am in that category of “a woman of a certain age”… Hell, I am 54. I turn 55 May 2, 2018. I love my birthday. Those in my circle all around the world know how much I love my birthday. So,…
    - 8 Jan 18, 4:47pm -
  • All The Good and More
    Happy New Year! I made it! Hahaha! I am not surprised. 2017 was the most fun I've had in decades!Last year it kicked off with the building of a Squad (Sorors Michelle and Markeshia) and from there we rolled everywhere. Three women... Sorors, up for…
    - 3 Jan 18, 9:38pm -
  • Season of Advent Day 1... Season of Hope and Expectation
    I am a woman for Christmas. I am in love with the story of the birth of Christ... The lone star, the Wise men, no room at the inn and a mother waiting with hope and prayers.What are you waiting for? What is it that would bring you joy? Are you where…
    - 3 Dec 17, 8:13pm -
  • 10 Years Ago... The Return Of Babz
    10 years ago today I was released from Danbury Federal Prison Camp. My SisterLo blogged the month for me while I was serving my time. My children, Briana was 10, Gregory was 9, Khalil was 6 and Margeaux was 5 years old. They were so young and brave.…
    - 29 Oct 17, 2:54pm -
  • Ten Years Ago... Faith Forward Firday (Saturday): Holler If You Hear Me...
    This was for yesterday 10/27/1710 years ago my SisterLo blogged in my stead while I was away serving 30 days at Danbury Federal Prsion Camp.I found this post quite interesting. My SisterLo never took to church the way I have. So this post is extraord…
    - 28 Oct 17, 6:58pm -
  • 10 Years Ago... Opportunity Knocked And Broke Down My Door
    On this day 10 years ago my SisterLo blogged in my stead while I was away serving time at the Danbury Federal Prison Camp.I found her posts to be not only personal, but quite insightful and they certainly stand the test of time.Here is the link to th…
    - 25 Oct 17, 9:04pm -
  • 10 Years Ago Today...Rambling Thoughts About... Road Rage?
    I remain very grateful that my SisterLo blogged for me while I was away serving 30 day (29 days) at Danbury Federal Prison Camp.On this day 10 years ago, she blogged what was in her head...Here's the link:Rambling Thoughts About... Road Rage?
    - 22 Oct 17, 12:18pm -
  • 10 years ago Today... True Love Tuesday: Love Money Can Buy
    10 years ago my SisterLo held down this blog while I served time at the Danbury Federal Prison Camp. Today is October 16 and this is what she posted 10 years ago. Click on the link:True Love Tuesday: Love Money Can Buy
    - 16 Oct 17, 7:18pm -
  • 10 Years Ago.... Faith Forward Friday: Ask and Ye Shall Recieve... To a Point
    The October 12, 2007 Post by my SisterLo while I was away serving time at Dambury Federal Prison Camp.Sustatinable weath... Blessings and other opportunities. I so love the way my Sister writes!Faith Forward Friday: Ask and Ye shall Recieve... To a p…
    - 12 Oct 17, 11:59pm -
  • 10 Years Ago Today...True Love Tuesday: What Do You Want…Today?
    My SisterLo blogged all of October in my place while I was serving my time at Danbury Federal Prison Camp. In celebration and rememberence I am posting links to her posts on the very days she blogged!This is the post 10 years ago today by her:True Lo…
    - 9 Oct 17, 12:01pm -
  • 10 Years ago Today... Faith Forward Friday: That's the Truth Ruth
    10 years ago I was tucked away at Danbury Federal Prison Camp... My Sister Lo blogged in my stead!Here is October 5, 2007!Faith Forward Friday: That's the Truth Ruth
    - 5 Oct 17, 7:26pm -
  • 10 Years ago Today... Sister Lo And True Love Tuesday ( really Thursday)
    While I was away serving my time... My Sister Lo held down this blog for 30 days!  Even now I am still surprised and impressed with her commitment to doing it!  I had a recurring theme for Tuesdays... True Love Tuesdays. She kept it up, choosing fo…
    - 4 Oct 17, 8:33pm -
  • 10 years ago today...
    10 years ago today, I surrendered to Danbury Prison Camp to serve a 30 day sentence. My Sister Lo blogged here in my stead. So, I decided to repost all her posts from that time!  She's a very good writer/blogger!Here is the link:What the Hell is Sna…
    - 1 Oct 17, 12:47pm -
  • These Summer Fall Days...
    I just grew into being resolved about not dating.Not stressing about children.Not worrying about what is next.I am enjoying the sweet moments of now. Oh yes, there are long range plans and short term goals and changing course and new intentions and d…
    - 25 Sep 17, 8:58pm -
  • Where I've Been... Summer Joy and More
    As I have  gotten older I have come to LOVE Summer. The hot and hazy days, bare feet, sun dresses and getting blacker!Going to Jamaica was my reset. Honest to Gawd! I spent a week in the Blue Mountains of Jamaica. Landed in Kingston, which to my she…
    - 12 Aug 17, 3:24pm -
  • Control is the Illusion of Fools...Yes, I made this up. It's Really The Season Of My Goddessness
    I control nothing. I have little control over very little. And to that end I surrender.Ohhh It feels good to cool my brain with surrender. Surrender on all fronts. I remember a few years back I wrote a post on allowing. Allowing life to ebb and flow…
    - 20 Jun 17, 5:40pm -
  • And I Shall Have Everything
    "I'd like you to do less"And just as I heard this, it was like I walked through another door that has been waiting on me to come thru. I don't fully understand what "do less" means, and I have no intentions of finding out in my everyday practical lif…
    - 13 May 17, 8:13pm -
  • My Lenten Journey: Hello from the bottom of the well and other places dark and stormy
    For a few weeks I have been living from the bottom of the well. Dark and cold and way way down.Being at the bottom of the well is not a new experience... I've been here before. Been there before. Maybe I am feeling some kind of way because Spring has…
    - 3 Apr 17, 6:56pm -
  • Off The Lenten Path: God is Tired Of Me. I am Tired Of God.
    For the better part of my life I have enjoyed and struggled with a strong God consciousness. I have never felt alone or away from God. In my life I have endured and come through some dark moments with my faith still intact. I could feel God's presenc…
    - 7 Mar 17, 11:15pm -
  • My Lenten Journey: I am the Big Space of God
    I was struggling with whether or not I should even "do Lent" this year. My mood was such that I just didn't feel holy, or sacred or divine. The world just seems crazy and I seem crazy in it. My attitude was piss poor and I was feeling quite desolate…
    - 1 Mar 17, 8:32am -

Nerd Girl

  • The Prayers of the Righteous
    First, thank y’all for commenting on my last post. She brought her grades up…but not enough to stay in Jr. Beta Club. She has As and Bs, but not a 90 average overall. We talked about it, and I emphasized that she is the only one responsible for h…
    - 29 Mar 16, 9:42am -
  • Looks like I might have to blog through it…
    I need to complain. And I don’t like complaining. So I’m going to do it here, where I’m pretty sure traffic has dropped off to zero. Mostly because I stopped blogging. Anyhoo. My sweet girl. My only child. My beloved daughter. Yeah, that one. T…
    - 13 Feb 16, 7:36pm -
  • It Scared Me. But I Did It Anyhow.
    Oh, so I’m just gonna pop back in here and blog like it’s not been a while? Sure am. Recently returned from a cruise with LG (who started 5th grade last week. 5th! My girl is growing up!), my parents, my SIL, niece, nephew, and three cousins. Tha…
    - 10 Aug 15, 10:50am -
  • Year End Ramblings
    Hey y’all. It’s been quite a 2014. Some good, some bad. I guess in some ways that means it is exactly like every year that has passed and every year that is yet to come. My first semester of my doctoral program is under my belt, praise God! I end…
    - 29 Dec 14, 9:17am -
  • Hola! Que paso?
    I miss blogging. So I decided to blog. Randoms. Of course 🙂 I turned 42 yesterday! I’m not really sure how that happened since I was just 26, but apparently time? She marches on. I don’t think I’ll ever be one of those people who refuses to…
    - 10 Oct 14, 11:29am -
  • Katrina
    I wrote this post on August 29, 2006 So, last year, on August 28 – it was a Sunday evening I believe – I was watching the news and heard about this storm that was supposed to hit the Gulf Coast on the 29th. Katrina. Well, I didn’t pay much att…
    - 29 Aug 14, 9:07am -
  • Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed. Ask For What You Need. You Have Not Because You Ask Not.
    I’m going to let you in on a little secret. I don’t like to ask for help. From anyone. I will run around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to figure out how to do something on my own before I’ll ask for help. I don’t know why I’m t…
    - 21 Aug 14, 12:03pm -
  • Ramblings

    - 20 Aug 14, 4:06pm -
  • Why?
    That’s all I’ve got today. A simple question with no simple answers. Why? I used to not watch the news. Ever. It was so depressing and weighed too heavily on my spirit. But somehow, the news, particularly in the morning, has crept back into my li…
    - 30 Jul 14, 12:19pm -
  • Monday morning randoms
    How cute is this? Got a text this morning – apparently LG and her camp BFF were thinking along the same lines when they laid out their outfits last night. And this couldn’t have been planned because everything LG is wearing? We bought yesterday.…
    - 28 Jul 14, 1:58pm -

Rae Lewis-Thornton: Diva Living with AIDS

  • My Legacy is My Work!
    Today I turn 57 years old. Honest to God I had no idea that I would make it this far. I've been living with HIV for 36 years. When I transitioned to AIDS is was a death sentence and that is a fact. I try to explain to people that it was a lot of thin…
    - 21 May 19, 9:31pm -
  • Valentine Day: Self Love Radiates Out
    It Valentine's Day and most people are thinking about what they are going to do, what they are going to get and give, how good the sex will be, or why am I alone on Valentine's Day?We are all thinking red and I don't mean for AIDS Awareness, but for…
    - 14 Feb 19, 11:06am -
  • Monday Reflection: Set Your Intention- Make Your Goals!
    WOW! I honestly cannot believe that it has been two years since I've blogged. *Side Eye* I have no idea what happen in 2017. And guest what, I'm going to beat myself up about it. We are often to hard on ourselves, including me, for no danm good reaso…
    - 11 Feb 19, 6:33pm -
  • Usher-Herpes and Disclosure...
    When I first heard about the lawsuit against Usher, I made no attempt to learn any of the details. I dismissed that shit weeks ago when I heard about the supposedly green discharge coming out of Usher's penis, (which is not a symptom of herpes) but w…
    - 8 Aug 17, 12:34pm -
  • Charlie Sheen: And This Is What I Think!!
    When actor Charlie Sheen said, "I'm not living in that prison anymore" I felt that deep in my soul.  It resonated loud and clear. I kept my own HIV infection a secret for seven years. For Real! My first seven years I only told 5 people that I had HI…
    - 7 Aug 17, 6:33pm -
  • Tap Into The Resources and Live Well Beyond HIV!
    I'll take aging with HIV over not aging at all any day. Now that's some real talk; but I have to be honest, muddling through HIV requires a lot of energy, work and support. Over the years, I've been fortunate enough to have a team of wonderful people…
    - 15 Mar 17, 9:29pm -
  • The Murder of Jessica Hampton
    Last week today I was waiting on the red line train and very much annoyed that it was delayed. Little did I know that a young woman, Jessica Hampton had been brutally murdered just seven stops behind me.Jessica who was 25 years old was stabbed by Aur…
    - 30 Jun 16, 11:26am -
  • Grey Hair And I Don't Care: Aging With HIV
    In ten days I will turn 54 years old. This will mean that I have lived 33 years with HIV and 25 years with AIDS. Although I was infected in 1983 I didn't learn of my HIV status until I donated blood in 1986. I've told this story a thousand times and…
    - 13 Jun 16, 1:05pm -
  • I Met A Man... Can I Give Him HIV?
    I met a man and OMG he was just simply charming. Now I usually don't give my number to random men on the street, but did I say he was sooooo charming?!Even Chloe liked him, but ummm now that I think about it, Chloe likes everyone she sees. But the fa…
    - 3 Jun 16, 1:30pm -
  • RLT Collection Birthday Sale!
    In honor of my 54th birthday on Sunday RLT Collection is 54% off.  This weekend only 5/20 thru  5/22!  Coupon code at check out birthday2016. Thanks for all your support! SHOP!  http:www.rltcollection.com
    - 20 May 16, 11:44am -
  • Here's to Doctor's Keeping the Care in Health Care!
    Today on National Doctor's Day and I started thinking about my own doctors. Honestly, in those early days of HIV I didn't even tell a doctor. When I finally told my gynecologist at the HMO in the middle of the exam, he said to me, as he was looking u…
    - 7 Apr 16, 4:14pm -
  • Tap Into Your Own Power!
    Today is National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day and my message is unwavering. We have to tap into our own power. We have to make the decision to put ourselves first, love ourselves first and absolutely love ourselves more than wanting and ne…
    - 10 Mar 16, 11:14am -
  • RLT Reads Book Club Is Back! Check Out Feb and March Picks!
    Finally! RLT Reads Book Club is back up and running. I've missed those lively discussios so it's about time that we do it again. My online book club was orginally formed in 2011 and we had our discussions via Twitter and my blog. But Goodreads has c…
    - 21 Jan 16, 4:49pm -
  • SOMWA A Wonderful Cause!!!
    New York! New! York! New York! Come hang out with me Sun Dec 13th! Bring a toy and wear your dancing shoes for the Somwa Foundation 7th Annual Toy Drive. All the toys go to families with HIV. Hydeia Broadbent and I donated our time to this wonderfu…
    - 12 Dec 15, 9:13am -
  • #Doingit
    I'm honored to have been asked to participate in the Center For Disease Control, Act Against AIDS newest HIV Testing Campaign, "Doing It." Donating your name and brand to a national campaign is no small thing. This is especially true, when you give s…
    - 7 Dec 15, 1:39pm -
  • World AIDS Day!
     Good Morning Lovely's!! Today is World AIDS Day! A day of remembrance for those we lost to this disease. But also a day to fight stigma that blames and shames those living with #HIV world wide! It's a time to demand treatment for all and work towar…
    - 1 Dec 15, 8:12am -
  • Join Me On World AIDS Day
    Tomorrow, December 1st is World AIDS Day. People around the world will remember those who have passed from AIDS related illnesses and at the same time challenge, stigma for those living with HIV. I'm asking those who support me to paint your Social…
    - 30 Nov 15, 6:32am -
  • Black Friday at RLT Collection!
    Everything at RLT Collection is 50% off coupon code; blackfriday2015 happy shopping http://rltcollection.com 
    - 27 Nov 15, 9:44am -
  • Finess Stops Bladder Leaks!
    I'm always pleading the case for women to take control of their bodies and health. It's a fact that no one will take care of you the way that you take care of yourself. But over the years, women seem to be stuck, especially when it comes to our bodie…
    - 15 Oct 15, 9:20am -
  • I Need Them All to Go To Counseling and Get Tested On The Way!
    Yesterday the sex life of pro football player Victor Cruz of the New York Giants was all over Social Media. I'm not sure how it got there, but since it's been made public I thought that I would give my two scents. First off,  all the parties involve…
    - 13 Oct 15, 4:31pm -
  • Monday Reflection: Get Up From The Table When Shit Is Being Served!
    Everybody got some "thing" going on in their life most of the time, if not all of the freaking time.Some "things" cannot be helped, like an illness you didn't see coming. Like last year when my Sophie was diagnosed with cancer on Wednesday and on the…
    - 5 Oct 15, 5:28pm -
  • Stop Blocking The Next Chapter of Your Life!
    I took an unexpected vacation from blogging. No, it was not health related. My emotional and physical health is great. It's just that I've had so much work to do in other areas of my life, that blogging took a back sit. Be clear though, while on thi…
    - 25 Aug 15, 12:48pm -
  • God Always Has A Next!
    What I know for sure is that God always has a next! I have believed this since I was a little girl being told I was never gonna be shit. Even back then after every unjust beating, I continued to have hope for something better than my right now.In tim…
    - 25 Jun 15, 12:02pm -
  • STOP PLAYING! Get Tested For HIV!
    Can I be honest? I mean some real talk today?  Some of y'all been fuckin since the turn of the century (me included) and you have never been tested for HIV and that's where the difference ends. I know my status and knowing my status has saved my li…
    - 24 Jun 15, 1:18pm -
  • Living with Intent!
    Now that I'm well into my 50's  there seems to be no turning back. I'm doing what I should have done in my 30's and for sure when I started to see my 40's that is, live with intent.  Well, I sort of lived with very limited intent for 20 years plus,…
    - 3 Jun 15, 10:38am -

Regina's Family Seasons

  • The Near Journal - Book Review
    This review is DEFINITELY overdue…. Like a month overdue. I really and truly apologize to the author Jacob Vandenbark, but I have been trying to get my life together! I started a new job and it has been ABSOLUTELY HECTIC. I haven’t had much time…
    - 15 Sep 18, 11:56pm -
  • Sacred Rest - Book Review
    *In accordance with FTC Regulations, I am disclosing that I received a complimentary advance copy of the book Sacred Rest by Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD in return for my honest and unbiased review.*I am not generally a huge fan of non-fiction “self-he…
    - 15 Jun 18, 8:43pm -
  • Your Child Is An Adult, Now What?
    As a mother of five, I have struggled at times to parent them the way I thought it should be done.  Children do not come with instruction manuals, so it is very much trial and error.  You can listen to other people giving you advice, you can do wh…
    - 18 May 18, 6:22pm -
  • The Commonality Of Martin Luther King Jr and Meena Harris
    The 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King Jr's death was on April 4th. This date also happened to be the birthday of Maya Angelou. Now, of course, Ms. Angelou died in 2014, and April 4, 2018, would have been her 90th birthday. EVERY YEAR on the ann…
    - 6 Apr 18, 6:40pm -
  • The Body Tsunami
    Those of you who visit the blog often….. Or visit at all, should know that I recently had a health scare which resulted in a surgery. A hysterectomy to be exact. So I am recovered from the fibroid tumor they removed but I am now and will forever ha…
    - 7 Mar 18, 2:56pm -
  • Finding Love in 2018!
    I have never been real big on Valentine's day. I figure we tell (or SHOULD tell) the people we love how much they mean to us on a regular basis. On Valentine's Day the chocolate, and flower folks are making money, so whatever.Now that Valentine’s…
    - 15 Feb 18, 5:31pm -
  • Me, Blood, and The Alien Inside
    I am super late on posting this, but I did tell someone that I would get the story out there….This is a long post with some graphic pictures in it HOWEVER stick around and read the ENTIRE THING!So you may or may not know that I was sick back in Sep…
    - 13 Feb 18, 6:02pm -
  • Out With The Old, In With The New... Happy 2018!
    Well, Hello World! It’s been some time since I have been on here. 2017 is about an hour from being over and I don’t know about you but for me, I am not sad to see it go. The latter half of 2017 literally kicked my butt. It feels as if the enemy…
    - 1 Jan 18, 12:01am -
  • And STILL God's Got This!
    MAN!!! What a Day, What a Week, What a Month! As this month draws to a quick end bare with me while I rant a little...So on Saturday the 21st I had oral surgery, the actual process went well. HOWEVER, the healing process is NOT going the way I or the…
    - 29 Jan 17, 3:02pm -
  • So Trump Is President...Now What?
    I am trying to figure out why people are acting like Trump is the worst President to ever sit in the White House (That is  not yet a fact and remains to be seen!). There was an election and Trump won, period. So we move on with our lives. Every Pres…
    - 25 Jan 17, 12:53pm -
  • I Can Smell Your Self Righteous Bullying... Get Over Yourself!
    Guess Who's Baaacccckkkkk! Did y'all miss me??? Probably not cause I can hear the echo coming through my computer LMAO! It's all good though!I only came back online because as usual BLACK FOLK ARE WORKING MY NERVE!!Black people have NOT mastered UNIT…
    - 24 Jan 17, 3:01pm -
  • Hello? Is Anyone Out There? Is This Thing On?
    Hello World!It has been a long while since I have visited you via this blog! I have NOT been doing anything Fancy, Fabulous, or Fantastic. Nope , I have just been doing the regular, everyday things that people generally do. You know WORK, WORK, WORK,…
    - 30 Apr 16, 7:55pm -
  • Sunshine VoxBox! Yaaayyy!
    I have spent the last couple of weeks testing and reviewing the treasures I received in my Sunshine VoxBox! For those of you who don't know I joined the Influenster Community and as a result I occasionally receive VoxBoxes of treasures to review and…
    - 10 Aug 15, 2:56pm -
  • Maslow's Hierarchy From A Godly Perspective
    Almost all academics have either touched on or had in depth teaching on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. For any of you who have not had the pleasure, let me explain. Abraham Harold Maslow was an American psychologist who wrote a paper in 1943 titled "…
    - 31 Jul 15, 4:32pm -
  • Leaving A Legacy... One Worth Sharing
    We need to be mindful that this generation and the generations to come are looking for US to leave a LEGACY. What does LEGACY mean to you?According to Merriam Webster online dictionary Legacy is:1:  a gift by will especially of money or other person…
    - 28 Jul 15, 8:38pm -
  • Emotions Versus Wisdom
    We, Humans are emotional! No one alive can say they have never been emotional about a person, an event, or a situation. Emotions are not bad but they cannot rule your life. Emotions have the ability to take us where common sense or wisdom cannot keep…
    - 26 Jul 15, 1:57pm -
  • I AM Going To Be Me, Like It Or Not!
    When you see me, what do you see? A Mother, a Grandmother, a Christian, a Trouble maker, a Divorcee’, a Black Woman? Society has become very adept at labeling people to fit into what they think is an acceptable label. After labeling you then people…
    - 16 Jul 15, 2:20pm -
  • Heart Of A Warrior - Stephen Curry, NBA Champion
    I am not a big basketball fan, so a blog post about basketball is pretty much very out of character for me. However I just wanted to point out a few things…For those of you who do not know the NBA Finals was a match-up between the Cleveland Cavalie…
    - 17 Jun 15, 2:52pm -
  • Jamberry Nail Wraps
    I have a facebook friend named Sara, who has embarked upon a new entrepreneurial adventure. She has started a Jamberry Nail Wraps business. I got a sample wrap to try and I told Sara I would blog about it.If you do not know what Jamberry Nail Wraps a…
    - 4 Jun 15, 2:42pm -
  • Whew! Texas Rain 2015...
    Well in case you have not seen the news lately, Texas has had almost 2 straight months of rain. There has been no rain fall like this in years according to news agents. For almost two months it was almost daily/nightly thunderstorms and tornadoes acr…
    - 4 Jun 15, 12:56pm -
  • Why I Broke Up With Mother's Day
    Now that Mother’s day is over and safely behind us and hopefully the residue is gone, I can tell you why I broke up with Mother’s day. I know it is shocking and came as a surprise to me as well. Matter of fact I have not even broken the news to m…
    - 12 May 15, 1:21pm -
  • Prove it!
    You are innocent until proven guilty … or so they say. In order to PROVE anything you need solid evidence. There has to be proof of what is said. Just the WORDS of others or just your WORDS are not enough to prove anything.According to Dictionary.c…
    - 27 Apr 15, 2:36pm -
  • Out Of Darkness Into HIS Marvelous Light
    King James Version 1 Peter 2:9 says, “But Ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of Him who hath called you out of darkness into His marvelous light”.Amplified Versi…
    - 15 Mar 15, 5:13pm -
  • Racism, Sexism, Yes This Is America!
    I often hear people say, "I'm NOT into politics" and every time I hear that I think or say "Then you better be into JESUS"! This world that we know and sometimes love is spiraling out of control. Times are crucial and PRAYER is REQUIRED, Prayer is NO…
    - 25 Jan 15, 6:18pm -
  • Empty Nest Coming Soon!
    Ever have that sense that something is over? That you have reached the end of a thing, time, moment, relationship, or era? I am feeling that way now. Since moving to Texas my children and I have lived together. Not all of them, all at the same time b…
    - 24 Jan 15, 12:30am -

Say It, "Rah-shay"

  • July Running – Check In
    Thank you for reading what I write!For the month of July my running goal is 76 miles. Last month I was successfully able to reach 70 miles so I feel confident that I can add in six more miles to reach that goal.The post July Running – Check In ap…
    - 71 days ago 12 Jul 20, 7:21pm -
  • Two Kisses
    Thank you for reading what I write!I’m really missing my grandmother today. The post Two Kisses appeared first on Say It, "Rah-shay".
    - 82 days ago 1 Jul 20, 10:41pm -
  • Summer Runnin’
    Thank you for reading what I write!In which I share some running goals in a listicle! (Yes…I am trying to make LISTICLE a thing again. Ahem.) My runniversary was June 2nd. When I started up with Black Girls Run! Philadelphia, I kept quiet about ru…
    - 88 days ago 25 Jun 20, 2:20pm -
  • Cooking in Quarantine

    - 19 Apr 20, 2:04pm -
  • Grief
    Thank you for reading what I write!Last week my grandmother, Nellie, passed away. Even though it’s been a while in coming, it still feels unreal to think that she is no longer around. Going through the daily minutiae of my day, my mind wanders and…
    - 8 Apr 20, 3:06pm -
  • FeBREWary
    Thank you for reading what I write!In which I share an update on some of the things that’s brewing this month. How’s it hanging party people? After reading an article by Schnelle Acevedo on Mom 2.0 about getting back into blogging I decided to w…
    - 17 Feb 20, 5:30pm -
  • It’s a new year!
    Thank you for reading what I write!Since January is halfway-ish over am I still allowed to do a new year check in? Whatevs…I’m going for it! Now then, in my Grover voice, “Helllllooooooo Ev’ryboooodeeee!” and in my Sam Sanders voice, “It…
    - 16 Jan 20, 10:31pm -

The House of Ladylee

  • Wordless Wednesday: Scoot Booty... Nephew Justin!!

    - 5 days ago 16 Sep 20, 10:56pm -
  • What's with the Weather?!? Part II
    So a couple of weeks ago, I was perplexed over this complicated hurricane map.Two hurricanes doing something crazy like crossing up paths or something. It was just odd, as I don't remember anything like that jumping off beforeNow this week, look what…
    - 6 days ago 15 Sep 20, 11:42pm -
  • What's with this Weather!?!
    One of the best things I do for myself on the weekend is to not watch much news. None of the weekend news shows that come on Sunday mornings, none of that if I can help it. But I watch the evening news shows, like World News Tonight. My big thing rig…
    - 7 days ago 14 Sep 20, 8:24pm -
  • Friday Freestyle: 9-11 Editon
    Friday is here.This week went by super fast. Which is really a good thing, since I am sitting at home. I am attending a conference right now, which is holding about 50% of my interest, if that. I am picking up little nuggets of information here and t…
    - 10 days ago 11 Sep 20, 8:58pm -
  • Ten Tuesday Thoughts
    I don't even know that I have enough thoughts for my 10 Tuesday Thoughts. But let me see if I can try. 1. I signed up for a food methods conference a couple of months ago. I was good with it as long as it is virtual.  And it is.2. I thought that thi…
    - 13 days ago 8 Sep 20, 4:01pm -
  • Chadwick Boseman, 1977-2020. Rest in Peace. Wakanda Forever

    - 22 days ago 30 Aug 20, 11:12pm -
  • Ten Thursday Thoughts
    1. We are well into month FIVE of quarantine. Well, by this time, pseudo-quarantine.  I don't know what to call it. All I know is that I am just numb right now. Numb is the only word I can use to describe how I feel. And I'm all tapped out when it…
    - 25 days ago 27 Aug 20, 1:08pm -
  • Wordless Wednesday: Giving Thanks for Condolences Arrangements

    - 26 days ago 26 Aug 20, 1:30pm -
  • Two at a Time?
    So I have been barely paying much attention to the news. I think I am just tired of all the vitriol, and I want some peace. But it has been raining every single day in Atlanta. I don't understand it. EVERY day, usually in the afternoon.So I thought i…
    - 27 days ago 25 Aug 20, 10:39pm -
  • Rest in Peace to my Mother, Carolyn Releford
    I briefly mentioned in a couple of posts over the past two weeks that my mother was on life support. She was removed from life support last night, and passed away shortly there after. I wasn't there, due to covid concerns. My sister Kay and brother K…
    - 33 days ago 19 Aug 20, 6:34pm -
  • Ten Tuesday Thoughts
    Ten Thoughts on a Tuesday.1. Do you know what it is like to be robbed in the middle of a crowd of people in broad daylight without a gun?  I don't, and hopefully you don't either. But this whole post office fiasco feels like that. Maybe it's just m…
    - 34 days ago 18 Aug 20, 4:11pm -
  • Nasty Women
    Our beloved President is always calling women he don't like "Nasty".What is up with that? I find it very odd and off-putting. In fact, when he gets started, I can't find the remote to my television fast enough.But I saw this meme the other day, and i…
    - 35 days ago 17 Aug 20, 2:57pm -
  • Ten Thursday Thoughts
    Ten Thoughts! On a... Thursday. (Had to pause to figure what day it was. They are all running together right now. 1. I am not sure what day this is of the quarantine. Are we still under quarantine? Well, we are almost halfway through month #5. Oh jo…
    - 40 days ago 13 Aug 20, 6:00am -
  • Go Kamala!!!!
    Joe Biden has made his vice-president pick! Kamala Harris!Go Kamala!No, she wasn't my pick. She may have been #4 on my list. My pick was Florida Congressman Val Demings. That would have locked up Florida for Biden. He already has California, so I do…
    - 41 days ago 11 Aug 20, 6:14pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    I can't believe I let a full week go by and hadn't posted. The shame!I think it is just I have been writing a lot, and when I am not writing, this is my outlet.This has been a trying week. Someone else was diagnosed at work with covid, and some are n…
    - 45 days ago 7 Aug 20, 4:02pm -
  • Friday Freestyles: The Workplace Edition
    Friday!!!Baby!!Okay, that's my excitement for it being Friday. And right now, I am watching the congressional hearings on the coronavirus and they are questioning the scientists. I am a scientist. Can I just tell you how GREAT it is to hear some det…
    - 52 days ago 31 Jul 20, 12:26pm -
  • Rest In Peace, Congressman John Lewis (1940-2020)

    - 53 days ago 30 Jul 20, 11:41pm -
  • Wordless Wednesday: Spicy Shrimp and Yellow Rice

    - 54 days ago 29 Jul 20, 6:01pm -
  • Friday Freestyles. The Food-for-Thought Edition
    Friday!!!And it is Payday.I am always happy for another Pay Day. Always. Spontaneous Rant. You know, I don't even think I took time to imagine anything for a few minutes this morning like I usually do when I get paid. If you have noticed, I have a t…
    - 59 days ago 24 Jul 20, 2:18pm -
  • Favorite Meal - Shrimp Pasta

    - 60 days ago 23 Jul 20, 8:29pm -
  • Wear Your Masks!
    Right now, with all this going back and forth about whether making it a requirement to wear masks, it is best just to have some masks. I have the surgical ones and the cloth ones that I can insert some paper towels or a piece of HVAC cloth (my prefer…
    - 60 days ago 23 Jul 20, 8:15pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    Man oh man, it is Friday.I don't even know what day this is quarantine. Everybody is just like "screw it", anyway. We stop counting days now. This is the beginning of month #5. I think. I am ready to go back to work. They have disinfected the place a…
    - 66 days ago 17 Jul 20, 6:59pm -
  • Twelve Tuesday Thoughts
    Ten... no TWELVE thoughts on a Tuesday!!1. I cannot stand commercials, on tv or radio, etc., that have people snoring in them. Drives me crazy.2. What I'm reading right now: The Vanishing Half by Brit Bennett.Well, what I'm listening to right now. Th…
    - 69 days ago 14 Jul 20, 5:49pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    It is Friday!And it's Payday.Which doesn't mean the most to me these days. Not saying that I am not grateful for a paycheck. It's just that I schedule all of my bills to go out on payday, so monies are GONE. Humph.Alas, I do take a moment just to sit…
    - 73 days ago 10 Jul 20, 8:08pm -
  • Wordless Wednesdays

    - 75 days ago 8 Jul 20, 10:31pm -

Whose shoes are these anyway?

  • Other books related to African-American studies
    This list is a supplement to a longer list a college student is curating on Facebook related to African-American Studies. The student already has many excellent suggestions. I took the request as an opportunity to search my brain, and I haven't poste…
    - 19 days ago 3 Sep 20, 2:16am -
  • So much cuteness--adorable toddler does yoga with parents (video)
    Absolutely precious. This adorable toddler in the video below is all over the parents and modeling their poses sometimes as they do yoga together in yard. The video made by day. MadeNmelanin on Twitter tagged this as Black, Family, Black Love. With…
    - 52 days ago 31 Jul 20, 10:48pm -
  • "Say Thank You Say I'm Sorry" -- Jericho Brown, Alfre Woodard
    "Say Thank You Say I'm Sorry" poem by Jericho Brown (Pulitzer Prize for poetry) recited by the indomitable and stellar Alfre Woodard. #COVID-19 and #Coronavirus exposure #essentialworkers
    - 71 days ago 12 Jul 20, 3:14pm -
  • To Bitch or Not to Bitch: Whole Foods Under COVID-19
    Shopping by motorized cart is something I've never done, and I still have never done it. I'm only sitting in one at the moment, watching the bright blue sky and people go in and out the Whole Foods in Metairie, Louisiana. Cars cruise down Veterans Me…
    - 24 May 20, 2:40pm -
  • British Woman Foretells America's Future?
    In February 2017, a woman from Great Britain visiting  Kentucky may have predicted a dark future ahead for the United States of America, Shot of Bourbon reports. But does it really take a psychic to figure that out. Can't an ordinary academic philos…
    - 10 May 20, 6:13pm -
  • Sanitize your hand sanitizer?
    The coronavirus can last on surfaces, including cardboard, for up to 72 hours, a recent article in the New England Journal of Medicine says.So, you’re at the pharmacy where you may have touched items an infected person touched. When you get to yo…
    - 21 Mar 20, 10:03pm -
  • 7 Tips to help you kick coronavirus stress to the curb
    Yes, you can feel happier despite Covid19. Humans can hold dueling thoughts in their heads and survive. For instance, we have the ability to compartmentalization, and that’s not always a negative.As one psychologist says, "Compartmentalization…
    - 19 Mar 20, 12:00pm -
  • "I don't care about your white feelings. I care about you."
    Credit Honey Yanibel Manaya Cruz at Unsplash.comThe headline of this blog post comes directly from "The Confrontation" episode of Invisibilia, one of the many podcasts I subscribe to. You can listen to the show yourself. I've embedded the episode…
    - 14 Mar 20, 4:39pm -
  • Rouses Supermarket became a coronavirus madhouse this evening
    This evening, I saw a guy at Rouses Supermarket in the Metairie, Louisiana. He had three items in his cart: A 12 pack of toilet paper, a case of beer, and a large cake. An older woman in the next line told him, "I see you have your priorities st…
    - 13 Mar 20, 10:28pm -
  • 6 links to help you sort 6 year olds being arrested in Florida
    I haven't posted at this blog in quite a while, but I had to make it public again. Hearing about 6-year-olds being arrested at school or dragged off to mental health wards without their parents' consent gives me pause.Some of the comments made abou…
    - 26 Feb 20, 10:57pm -
  • The Starbucks while Black incident and the Lie to Me show
    The Liberty Bell in Philadelphia, PA.Would you like a less academic way to learn about unconscious and conscious racial bias? Were you puzzled by the Philadelphia police commissioner's stance or why some black people appear to have little empathy f…
    - 19 Apr 18, 11:07pm -
  • 3Peat Presents: The Blackening - Uncensored: Hilarious
    I finally found time to watch this Comedy Central video that my friends have been sharing on Facebook, 3Peat Presents: The Blackening - Uncensored. Brilliantly hilarious.
    - 15 Apr 18, 2:06pm -
  • Moments you know you still grieve Prince
    Listening to Prince this morning, my face flushed with anger. This is nothing new, my finding myself in a purple place of brooding, finding again that I am still pissed at Prince for letting himself die early. I'll look at a video of him or picture,…
    - 20 Jan 18, 10:00am -
  • Yes, Prince Harry is engaged to a black woman
    Meghan Markle with her mother Doria Ragland at Ragland'sgraduation from USC.Those of you who live to quantify blackness may debate just how black the royally engaged Meghan Markle is later. Just know that she has never tried to hide that she is b…
    - 27 Nov 17, 11:17pm -
  • In Praise of midlife love -- is that a thing?
    Delivered to my email today from Poets.org, this love poem by Sarah Browning entitled "Praisesong." A contemporary poem about lovers in midlife -- how refreshing. Here are the first seven lines:"Praisesong" by Sarah Browning At the coffee s…
    - 22 Nov 17, 12:08pm -
  • Hot 8 Brass Band: Can't Nobody Get Down (Video) #NOLA

    - 15 Sep 17, 7:07am -
  • Jonny P.'s "Shine On" -- This singer deserves more attention
    Full concert is on ReverbNation, Jonny P. Live at the Cotton Mill. From his bio on ReverbNation:Jonny P is a soul artist and fashion designer who was born in New York City. This Nashville-based singer has a sound that's reminiscent of the greats of…
    - 3 Sep 17, 12:58pm -
  • Robin Sloan's 2004-2015 EPIC or Google and Amazon Take Over the World
    (Initial post was at Jersey Goddess in 2004 or 2005.) First post of the month as I try to NaBloPoMo, the National Blog Posting Month project that pushes participating bloggers to post one blog per day for a month. I thought it fitting that my first p…
    - 9 Jul 17, 1:15pm -
  • Teen kills himself after woman, 45, rejects him - 1876
    I do genealogical research. As a result, I sometimes search old newspapers, and from time to time, I am drawn to stories like the one in the screen shot that are written more like fiction than fact. The text is farther down in this post.The old-sty…
    - 4 Jun 17, 2:26pm -
  • Research

    - 1 Apr 17, 1:58pm -
  • Prince plays songs from his vault in concert, 2009 (video)
    I came across this treasure on YouTube, His Purple Highness performing songs from The Vault:  Old Friends for Sale and other jazz pieces in a Los Angeles concert, 2009. I bought a copy of the album a few years ago. The concert is so much more. BTW,…
    - 9 Aug 16, 3:30pm -
  • Southside with You: Obamas' love story opens this month
    I was so deep in the academic hole for the first six months of the year that I completely missed news about the movie Southside with You, the story of Michelle and Barack Obama's romance. The film pays homage to the president and First Lady's initia…
    - 5 Aug 16, 10:38am -
  • Rattle Magazine published my poem last month
    Almost a month has passed since Rattle Magazine published my poem "Digital Anthropologists Find Our Hashtags" for its Poets Respond series. The poem explores specifically the consecutive shooting deaths of Alton Sterling in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, an…
    - 4 Aug 16, 1:44pm -
  • Great Prince story from Matt Damon (video)
    Rolling Stone has posted video of Matt Damon telling a great Prince story on the Jimmy Fallon show.  Of course, all Prince stories bring me joy except the one about his passing in April.Damon is out promoting his latest film in the Bourne Ident…
    - 29 Jul 16, 11:46am -
  • #PRINCE BET Tribute or When Jennifer Hudson Tore Me Up (Purple Rain Video)
    Jennifer Hudson tore my heart out singing "Purple Rain" during the Prince Tribute on the BET Awards last night. I have nothing to add to this other than Stevie Wonder and Tori Kelly appear on this video, too, and perform with love also. Stevie was u…
    - 27 Jun 16, 11:52am -

Life.Love&Marriage

  • Early rise for nature
    It's not often I'm OK with waking up at 6am on the weekends. But when I am OK with it, it usually has something to do with nature. It's either for a long walk, catching a sunrise or getting the best spot at the beach. This year especially, I've never…
    - 19 days ago 3 Sep 20, 7:26am -
  • August 8th
    August 8th marked 5 years that my mom has been gone. 5 years. Half a decade. Sometimes it feels like she has been gone for so long and some days it feels like it was just yesterday. Each day brings its own new set of challenges to be honest. Especial…
    - 41 days ago 12 Aug 20, 7:22am -
  • An espresso poolside
    Having a pool during quarantine has been such a highlight and I've happily admitted that Sean was absolutely right. However, I'm not feeling that way at the current moment as we've run into a problem with our pool. Crazy considering that we've only e…
    - 46 days ago 6 Aug 20, 1:48pm -
  • The weekend that was good for my soul
    This tree in front of our house blossoms beautifully in the spring. I intended to post this quite some time ago but Izabella ended up getting hospitalized (thank God she is getting better everyday!) and then the ever ending disregard for Black bodies…
    - 55 days ago 29 Jul 20, 9:33am -
  • The time for actions is now
    I’ve missed my blog.Admittedly a lot has been on my mind and although blogging has always been therapeutic to me it has been the last place I’ve wanted to be. I’m incredibly sad, frustrated and angry that this post I wrote in 2013 regarding Tra…
    - 99 days ago 15 Jun 20, 8:47am -
  • RECIPE TO TRY: CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES
    So, since I posted the cinnamon swirl loaf recipe I’ve baked chocolate chip cookies from scratch (three times!) and made two loaves of zucchini bread. I haven’t baked bread yet but it’s on the list as well as a decadent chocolate cake. It’s f…
    - 28 May 20, 9:47am -
  • Instant mood lifter
    Flowers have always been appreciated by me but these days they seem even more valuable. I'm finding them to be an instant mood lifter as it's difficult not to crack a smile when I see them scattered around the house. And honestly, these days it seems…
    - 14 May 20, 7:25am -
  • A drive to nowhere
    A little over two weeks ago, Sean suggested that we go for a ride to nowhere and put on clothes as if we were going somewhere. I was a bit hesitant because I thought the suggestion was a little silly as I’m perfectly OK with wearing only lounge wea…
    - 30 Apr 20, 8:02am -
  • Easter Dinner 2020
    Easter was certainly different this year as I'm sure it was for all of you but it was good nonetheless. We’ve had a tradition of buying a turkey and freezing it for several months prior to Easter. We purchase the turkey months in advance as we’ve…
    - 23 Apr 20, 7:44am -
  • One day at a time

    - 9 Apr 20, 8:27am -
  • Recipe to try: Cinnamon Swirl Loaf
    Earlier this year, I noted that one of my goals this year was to bake more. I love to cook but baking has never been something I've enjoyed due to exact measurement requirements. But I put it on my goals for this year as it’s something I decided I…
    - 2 Apr 20, 7:20am -
  • Craving sanity
    I haven’t wanted to blog the last week and I know you all know why. My mind has been bogged down with all the information we are learning minute by minute. I don’t think I’ve ever seen information be updated as quickly as it has. It’s like ea…
    - 24 Mar 20, 7:41am -
  • 15 shows to binge on Netflix
    Although, I started this year with goals of less Netflix, I think we can all agree that 2020 has been a bit of a whirlwind; and the crazier part is that it has only been 3 months! I've seen a few people jokingly apologize to 2019 for telling it, it w…
    - 17 Mar 20, 7:59am -
  • Currently
    feeling like I'm ready for Friday to get here.disappointed that the 5K Sean and I were doing this Saturday was cancelled. I know it's better safe than sorry (COVID-19) but I was really looking forward to it.craving nothing at the moment which is shoc…
    - 12 Mar 20, 7:54am -
  • Sean's birthday weekend in Vegas
    For Sean’s birthday, he unsurprisingly requested that we celebrate in Vegas; his most favorite place on earth, ha. We’ve been going to Vegas since the beginning of our relationship (actually got engaged in Vegas in 2008) so it remains a very spec…
    - 10 Mar 20, 8:31am -
  • A snow day in the Poconos
    Since Sean and I did a no spend, no drink in January we were quite productive. We got around to doing things around the house that we have been slacking on since we bought our house in 2014. By the third week in January, Sean was definitely getting a…
    - 5 Mar 20, 7:58am -
  • Tuesday morning random ramblings
    Ahhh, tell me that you are seeing signs of Spring where you are. I sure am! Some are in the form of sneezing and the popping of Claritin pills and other signs are the fact that we have multiple days in the high 50s and low 60s ranges the entire week.…
    - 3 Mar 20, 7:31am -
  • My niece's Paris themed birthday party
    We celebrated my niece’s 7th birthday last month and I must admit that my sister never ceases to amaze me with her creativity and gift for throwing parties. When Sean and I got back from Paris we gave our nieces and nephews Eiffel Tower keychains.…
    - 27 Feb 20, 8:29am -
  • Puerto Rico: Final Recap
    After our informative walk tour of Old San Juan we just wanted to relax by the pool so we headed back to our room, freshened up, changed into our swim wear and ordered some passion fruit mojitos.While we swam, a rainbow appeared out of no where and i…
    - 25 Feb 20, 7:19am -
  • Things I did right in 2019 & my 2020 Goals
    Things I did right in 2019:Lots and lots of family time ♥Stronger relationship with GodWorked out at least 4 times per weekContinued with weekly meal preppingReduced our meat consumption by at least 50%No drink monthsGrocery shopped with reusable b…
    - 11 Feb 20, 8:14am -
  • Puerto Rico: Old San Juan Walk Tour
    On our anniversary day we decided to do a private walk tour of Old San Juan. Old San Juan is simply stunning. Full of lush greens, colorful houses, cobbled streets and innate architecture dating back to the 16th century. At every turn I wanted to tak…
    - 6 Feb 20, 11:05am -
  • 2019 in Review
    What do I say about 2019? Honestly, it was the best year; a year full of growth and self-reflection. Although, I didn’t choose a word for 2019, I was more intentional about everyday living. I dug in on only doing the things that brought me joy. I…
    - 4 Feb 20, 7:18am -
  • Puerto Rico: Pork Highway & Barrachina Restaurant
    On this day we met up with Cinthia, her brother and her childhood friend to check out Pork Highway. The Pork Highway, or La Ruta del Lechón, is a roughly three-mile stretch of Route 184, which is located in a central area of Puerto Rico called Guava…
    - 31 Jan 20, 7:30am -
  • Scenes from Christmas week 2019
    I absolutely loved the way that Christmas fell on a Wednesday this year. Sean and I were able to do our Christmas Eve tradition at home AND wake up in our own house on Christmas Day. Now, I don’t think I’ll enjoy Christmas any other way. And the…
    - 29 Jan 20, 7:40am -
  • Puerto Rico: Traveler Catamaran & Old San Juan
    When I last left off I was discussing how we had to leave La Placita earlier than I would have liked as Sean had booked an early morning catamaran the following day.We obviously needed some good coffee when we woke up that morning and made a quick st…
    - 23 Jan 20, 7:30am -

All the Many Layers

  • The #30Layers30Days Writing Challenge
    We started on November 1, but feel free to join in at any time!  I have been sharing my daily posts on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.  You can also feel free to keep your work private and write in your journal.   If you would like to read and co…
    - 7 Nov 16, 10:40am -
  • new workshops, new blog, new book
    Hey!  Long time no see.I started All the Many Layers at the end of 2012 and it's been my home as I ventured into self-employment and authorship and all kinds of creative adventures.  Right now I have that bittersweet feeling of wanting to go and w…
    - 14 Sep 16, 3:51pm -
  • you are going to have to fall
    my one and only I had a plan.   I thought I would take a huge leap of faith that would change my life drastically, then I'd sit back and watch everything fall into place. Because that is what people say:  it all falls into place.  More accurate f…
    - 19 Apr 16, 1:14pm -
  • overcoming anxiety with minimalism { 10 ideas for a simpler life }
    People make me nervous. So do unexpected phone calls, overbooked schedules and uncomfortable clothes. Life in general makes me nervous.  So many people and problems and energies and uncertainties.  I'm sensitive to all of it.The older I get, the mo…
    - 1 Apr 16, 1:34pm -
  • one day I said it's enough
    She was nothing like me.  I could tell by the things she said to him and the way he responded to her.  She seemed to bring out a side of him I'd never seen before and while their exchange infuriated me, it also intrigued me.   Was this the real hi…
    - 10 Mar 16, 2:39pm -
  • less judgment, more love
    There's about three feet of snow on the ground and I see a woman who looks like she needs help.  But I don't help her.  Because awhile back I'd decided that this woman was mean and my assumptions wouldn't let me move. I'm walking the few feet from…
    - 5 Feb 16, 3:30pm -
  • Preparation + Opportunity + Abundance (and a Special Offer)
    Motherhood, Depression and Sex Panel at Catalyst Con East with Jessica Cary, Anain Bjorkquist and Miko TechnogeishaOver the past two months, I have sat on and hosted panels at two conferences.  I got to speak about topics that I am deeply passionate…
    - 7 May 15, 11:08am -
  • The Big, Bigger, Biggest Problem
    sourceMy problem, your problem, everyone's problem... Is that we think we are not supposed to have any problems. We've been conditioned to avoid problems, mistakes and hardships. So when we struggle, we are not only dealing with the objective situ…
    - 6 Apr 15, 2:34pm -
  • When We Judge Ourselves Most Harshly
    source"A writer – and, I believe, all persons – must think that whatever happens to him or her is a resource. All things have been given to us for a purpose, and an artist must feel this more intensely. All that happens to us, including our misfo…
    - 22 Mar 15, 9:39am -
  • Do You Write Better Than You Talk?
    photo credit:  dfinneyphoto.comThe Words That Move Writing Workshop is a 4-week online writing course for: // Writers who have lost their M O J O.//  Writers who are scared to call themselves writers. //  Writers who feel blocked and unins…
    - 19 Mar 15, 10:28am -
  • She Always Waits for Me
    source“You’re a liar. You said you would wear the blue one and you said you would wear your hair down. I’m beginning to think that you just tell me things to shut me up.”I step in the front door, kiss my accuser on the cheek and bear hug he…
    - 9 Mar 15, 6:49pm -
  • I Thought He Would Leave If I Let Him See Me
    On speaking the truth and hearing the truth without fear.I was silent in my relationship.I didn't have a voice and I resented my partner and myself because of it.I didn't speak up because I didn't want to push him away. I thought I could pretend to…
    - 17 Feb 15, 7:11pm -
  • do you keep your promises to yourself?
    www.ayceebrownphoto.comI promise...  gratitude. truth. courage. faith.You might be afraid to aim too high.You might be afraid to entertain too much happiness because you fear that it could be taken away. Disappointments.  Wasted time.  Maybe you j…
    - 9 Feb 15, 5:35pm -
  • How to Protect Your Energy and Preserve Your Peace of Mind (Step by Step)
    sourceOne minute you're fine.  The next minute you feel like you've been slapped.  Punched in the stomach.  Caught off guard.  Ripped from your happy place. It could be a small thing.  It could be a huge thing.  It might not even matter thirty…
    - 5 Jan 15, 3:40pm -
  • The Art of Writing Words That Move (1:1 Mentoring with GG)
    sourceTo me, everything is an intimate conversation or it's not worth talking.  Even if I'm in a room full of people and a speaker is on the stage, I either feel you like you are talking directly to me or I don't feel you.  If I'm watching a perfor…
    - 3 Dec 14, 6:40pm -
  • Does Anyone Even See Me? The Struggle to Feel Important.
    source"Don't demand attention.  Inspire it."  -  Francheska MedinaSometimes I catch myself wanting to feel more important.  Craving acknowledgment, gold stars and approval.  Not appreciating my own attention -- the smiles I give myself,  the sa…
    - 6 Oct 14, 3:41pm -
  • Weakness or Strength? When Arguing Sucks the Life Out of You.
    sourceDo you ever feel weak or misunderstood because you're not competitive and you don't like to argue?Some people love to argue and debate over every little thing, like they need to constantly spar with someone to feel productive.  I happen to hav…
    - 10 Sep 14, 1:33pm -
  • 44 Self-Discovery Quotes to Inspire You // #30Layers30Days
    . Finally September 1 has arrived and I'm kicking off my first self-discovery challenge #30Layers30Days.   If you would like to sign up to receive the daily email prompts, you can do so here.  Also, follow along on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram…
    - 1 Sep 14, 4:26pm -
  • Is This How Everything Just Falls Into Place?
    source"You shouldn’t try to stop everything from happening. Sometimes you’re supposed to feel awkward. Sometimes you’re supposed to be vulnerable in front of people. Sometimes it’s necessary because it’s all part of you getting to the next…
    - 11 Aug 14, 6:07pm -
  • How to Use Writing As a Self-Discovery Practice
    The link in the photo is wrong. Sorry.  Use this one instead."She has learned to love. To fear. To hate. And then to love again.  Through it all, she writes." - Kimberly KinradeI decided awhile back that if I'm going to cling to anything, it's goin…
    - 5 Jul 14, 9:00am -
  • Acne Sucks and I Don't Feel Pretty Without Makeup
    “I don't know. Just because someone's pretty doesn't mean she's decent. Or vice versa. I'm not into appearances. I like flaws, I think they make things interesting.” - Sarah DessenI'll be the first one to tell you that makeup should be an indulg…
    - 5 May 14, 2:26pm -
  • I Felt Like I'd Been Thrown Away
    source“I learned to love myself but only after the love of others would not quite do.” – Shefon NachelleDo you remember your first love?Oh, I do. The rush! The urgency! The passion! No one could tell me that we were not meant to be. Young and u…
    - 25 Mar 14, 2:52pm -
  • Blood, Sweat and Tears // A Magic Potion for Dreamers
    sourceThere’s no miracle in a jar that will magically make your hair grow overnight or make all your dreams come true. Whether we're talking about hair or life, when we want to make something happen, we have to experience it internally before it ca…
    - 17 Feb 14, 1:40pm -
  • I'll Be Right Back, But First A Preview
     sourceThings will be pretty slow around here for the next couple of weeks, but I’ll be back on July 15 with a vengeance. If you’ve been following the blog using Google Reader, you already know that it will be gone after today. I’d…
    - 1 Jul 13, 4:34pm -

Chasing Joy

  • Round Up: 100 Ways For Singles To Have The Very Best Valentine's Day
    Valentine's Day is coming up.  As you long time readers know I am single.  I have been single for way more Valentine's Days than I have been in a relationship.  Actually I think I have only had a Valentine about 2 or 3 times.  So, I know that Val…
    - 8 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Miscarriage Update, Nothing Joyful About It.
    Oh how I wish every post on Chasing Joy could be a happy one.  Unfortunately that is not the case.  On Fridays I post Baby Making Updates on my journey to becoming a Single Mother By Choice.  Last Fridays Baby Making Update was a sad one.  This o…
    - 5 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Four Reasons You Will Love And Find Joy At Philadelphia Restaurant Week
    Restaurant Week!!!!  I love Restaurant Week. I even did a video about Restaurant Week when I was participating in VEDA.   Restaurant Week just ended here in Philly and I got to go on the last day.  This was probably like my 20th time.  Philadelph…
    - 1 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: Am I Pregnant or Not??? IUI #6 Using Donor Sperm Results
    It's time to test!  I have to say this was my most emotional experience thus far. Was my 6th IUI THE ONE!!!Let's find out... Oh, special shout out for all who watch the video to the end.  Sorry it's a long one, but like I said lot's of emotional st…
    - 29 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Using Scripture In A Practical Way To Chase Joy
    This year my theme word is surrender as I realize one of the main things that robs me of the joy I'm chasing is worrying about things that I cannot control.  I need to surrender those things to God.As I develop goals through the year I am keeping my…
    - 27 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Why I'm Not Planning My Co-Worker's Wedding Shower
    Normally my blog posts are about things that I am doing, want to do, or have done to have more joy.  Today's blog post is different.  Instead, I am going to tell you about something I'm not going to do.  I am not planning my co-worker's wedding sh…
    - 25 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: Live IUI with Frozen Donor Sperm to Become an SMC (Single Mother by Choice)
    Happy Friday!  I guess school and work have conditioned me to love Fridays.  Now they are even more fun because Friday is when I give you guys a baby making update.  So here is this week's.  This week's update is live video of my IUI.  This one…
    - 22 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • I Have A Dream...
    Happy Martin Luther King Day.  As we all know he had a dream.  He had a big dream. A dream for his country, my country, the United States.  We know all about his dream because he did everything he could to achieve it.  He preached about it, march…
    - 18 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • The Plan. IUI #6. Trying To Conceive With Frozen Donor Sperm
    It's a new year and a new cycle.  This update is about gearing myself up for another try at becoming a mom. This is my 10th cycle and 6th IUI.  I cannot believe it has been almost a year since I started trying and over a year since I decided to emb…
    - 15 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy with Char Power!
    A while ago I used to post Way To Go Wednesday status updates on the Chasing Joy Facebook Page.  I have not done an update like that in a while.  But today I have an awesome Way To Go Wednesday shout out to Char Power for having a positive attitude…
    - 13 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • The Fringe Hours For Self-Love & Self-Care
    This is a sponsored post. I was provided with The Fringe Hours materials at no cost to review for this post.  However, all thoughts and opinions expressed herein are my own.Over the  years Chasing Joy has evolved.  Initially, it was about focusing…
    - 11 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Reflecting On One Year Trying To Conceive To Become A Single Mother By Choice
    January is a time of reflection.  A year has ended another has begun.  Am I in the same place this year as I was last year? A better place? A worse Place?  Do I need a goal? A New Year's resolution? Should I go with a theme word?  These are some…
    - 8 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's Word for 2016: Surrender
    It is a new year Joy Chasers, 2016!  This is a time of reflection for many of us.  I'm no different.  I am thinking about this year, how I'd like it to be better than the last couple of years, what growth I'd like to see in the Chasing Joy Brand,…
    - 4 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Dear 2016
    Dear 2016,Welcome!  I am very happy to have you. I welcome you with open arms and optimism.  I am excited for the fresh start that a new year brings. 2016 I don't have a lot of plans for you.  I am trying something a little different this year. I…
    - 1 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Dear 2015
    Dear 2015,I am not even sure what I want to say to you.  I had very high expectations for you.  Now as we prepare to say goodbye in 48 hours I feel that you let me down.  You really dropped the ball  right at the end when you were in position to…
    - 30 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Funny Quotes: Using Laugther to Chase Joy
    Christmas is over.  I cannot believe it came and went so fast.  I had a nice Christmas.  It was a low key day spent with my favorite person, my mom.  Santa was good to both of us so clearly our names were nowhere near the naughty list.In my famil…
    - 28 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Merry Christmas!!!
    Merry Christmas!!!!I wish you all a Happy and Joyful Christmas.  May we all remember what Christmas is all about.The birth of Jesus Christ and His gift of salvation.Family and Friends.Generosity.Food and Fun.Tradition and Reminiscing.How are you spe…
    - 25 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's Top 3 Posts on Staying Happy During The Holidays
    Christmas is only a couple of days away!!!  I hope you are happy and excited about it.  However I know some of you may not be feeling that way. While it is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year that is not always the case.  Often the…
    - 23 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • It Aint All Joyful. Talking Myself Through Uncertainty & Limbo
    Uncertainty!  Limbo! Ugh!!!  These are two things that I hate.  I like being in control.  I like knowing what is coming my way.   I want to prepare.  I want to get in the right mind set.  I want to be ready.  I cannot do any of that when noth…
    - 21 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • How To Keep Going After Disappointment While Trying To Conceive
    This trying to conceive process is not for wimps.  It is a hard and even sobering experience.  To expect to be a parent your whole life, to spend years trying to avoid it before you are ready, only to have negative test after negative test once you…
    - 18 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Give Yourself The Gift Of Kindness
    Christmas is less than two weeks away!  The year is over in less than three weeks!  Are you stressing?  Are you racing around trying to get that perfect gift for you kid, spouse, parent???  Are you putting in long hours at work to make year end d…
    - 14 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Testing, Testing, Pregnant or Not Pregnant
    Here we are again.  The end of the cycle.  The monitoring is done and I have survived yet another two week wait.  Did it work? Am I expecting my very own Bundle of Joy?  Let's watch... If you have trouble with the embedded video click here < Live…
    - 11 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Joyful Quotes: Words of Wisdom From Notable Muslims
    I am a government employee.  I don't talk about it much because I don't blog about work much.  But it does impact this blog.  Since I work for the Feds I cannot write about whatever I want on this blog.  I give up a little of my freedom of speech…
    - 9 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's #JoyOfGiving December Challenge & Giveaway
    I'm still in shock that the year is just about over.  I mean we are a full week into December. How did that happen???  SMH.With only a few weeks left in the year we are all busy.  Hanukkah has started. Christmas is around the corner.  There are g…
    - 7 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: The Wait!!!
    Last week I did not share a baby making update because I figured everyone would be too busy eating leftover turkey and cranberry sauce and shopping on black Friday.  Now that the holiday has passed let's get back to our normally scheduled programing…
    - 4 Dec 15, 12:00am -

'83 To Infinity

  • TURN UP: Interview with Soca Star Bunji Garlin
    Once upon a time, a young girl from a small city in Ontario met a young dude from the heart of Scarborough (in the east end of Toronto). The girl was from a Jamaican family, and the dude was from a Vincentian one – so while they vibed on a Caribbe…
    - 29 Nov 17, 4:30pm -
  • I STAND WITH ISHAWNA: Dancehall’s ‘Equal Rights’ Fight
    In a piece I wrote last year for The Establishment on women in Jamaica’s dancehall culture, I said the following:Misogyny, violence, and homophobia permeate [hip hop and dancehall], with the male-dominated nature of each being highly prevalent. T…
    - 23 May 17, 4:26pm -
  • WHAT’S NEXT: Birthdays And The Promise Of New Days
    My mom tells me that she laboured for a fairly long time when I was born. I finally made my grand appearance on the evening of May 10th, then caught my first sunrise on May 11th, beginning my first full day of life.Whenever I think about what some…
    - 11 May 17, 12:02pm -
  • EASY & FLY: Bee’s Crochet Braid Experience
    Crochet braids!(right photo courtesy of Jessica Laforet)If you know me, you know a few things when it comes to hair:I get bored easily.I love low-maintenance looks that don’t look low-maintenance.I like to give my crown a break every now an…
    - 19 Apr 17, 9:17am -
  • PAST GEM: The Beauty of Bacchanal: Celebrating Feminine Freedom Through Carnival
    As I recently said on Twitter, it’s getting close to that time of year where I mute any words related to Trinidad Carnival. I’m missing out on the bacchanal this year, and of all the flavours I could choose to be, I chose to be salty. To all my p…
    - 21 Feb 17, 8:15am -

Diary of a Sewing Fanatic

  • The Sewing Loft Progress
    I've spent a large amount of time getting the pieces just right in my Sewing Loft.  The size of the space was challenging because of the low walls and limited wall space. However, after sitting in the room with the basics for a few days, then moving…
    - 9 days ago 13 Sep 20, 12:00am -
  • Moving Update - 2020 Version
    I've been in my new place since Saturday.  I'm surrounded by boxes & bags but have managed to carve out an oasis in my bedroom, the kitchen and the bathroom.  The majority of the boxes/bags remaining are mostly related to my book collection and the…
    - 12 days ago 9 Sep 20, 1:00pm -
  • Ch-Ch-Changes...
    The Pandemic has caused many changes in my life since March.o I work exclusively from home now with no return date to the office in sight.o I stopped getting dressed for a couple of weeks because it was difficult to deal with the quarantine.o When I…
    - 30 days ago 23 Aug 20, 12:00am -
  • A New Title - Janome Maker!
    I've been having conversations with Janome America for several months. As you know I am a loyal and faithful Janome sewing machine user. I've written several blog posts about them. I love the machines and their ease of use.  So I was thrilled when J…
    - 31 days ago 21 Aug 20, 5:02pm -
  • Apples and Oranges and Lemons ~ Oh My!
    My TNT version of the Myosotis dress has been my go to this summer. I've made them in chambray, stretch cotton, linen/cotton blend and shirting cotton and each one has been worn for zoom meetings and grocery store runs. Gawd has Covid totally affecte…
    - 46 days ago 7 Aug 20, 12:00am -
  • A Bold Floral Maxi
    It's hot here.  It's August and we've recently gone through several heat waves.  August in the Mid-Atlantic states mean heat, humidity and high temperatures. With that in mind, I made the Lafayette 148 V-Neck Maxidress again.Now even though I'm wor…
    - 49 days ago 4 Aug 20, 12:00am -
  • An Embroidered Sleeve Shirt
    I don't normally sew shirts in the summer because it's too dayum hot to be wearing a lot of layers.  But work from home Carolyn, sits in air conditioning every day...plus the sewing cave is extra cold what with air conditioning and being underground…
    - 58 days ago 25 Jul 20, 6:00pm -
  • So What's Next?
    If you follow me over on Instagram, you know after the murder of George Floyd, I became active with the Black Makers Matter Group. I also wrote a blog post on the Sewcialist blog about how it feels to be a black maker in the sewing community. If you'…
    - 60 days ago 24 Jul 20, 12:00am -
  • A Stripey Linen Maxi Dress
    I knew I was going to make a couple more versions of Simplicity 8888 when I made the first one.  However, I thought the next one would be a solid version but me being me I went with a stripe. Why? Because I wanted to manipulate the stripes on the bo…
    - 62 days ago 21 Jul 20, 4:36pm -
  • Long V-Neck Maxi Dress
    I follow Lafayette 148 on Instagram and this picture appeared in their feed. It immediately checked off all of my new work from home wardrobe requirements. It's loose-fitting, flowy, easy to wear and maxi length...wfh gold! On the days when I don't…
    - 67 days ago 17 Jul 20, 12:00am -
  • Pink Posey Maxi Dress
    Originally I purchased this shirting fabric to make a shirt.  However, when moving fabric around earlier this spring, I touched it. It really felt like it would work for my new comfortable work from home maxis which is quickly morphing into the seem…
    - 69 days ago 14 Jul 20, 1:30pm -
  • The QVC Denim Shirt
    How about a project post. Before everything went to hell in a hand basket, I made three new maxi dress projects - a short sleeve t-shirt dress, another hacked Myosotis dress, and a linen striped maxi dress (Simplicity 8888). I've worn them but not p…
    - 78 days ago 5 Jul 20, 8:00pm -
  • 61 Years Being Black in America
    I was watching commercials the other day and I was struck by two things...One was a recycling commercial - and all I can think is that as a child we recycled everything.  Milk was delivered by the Milkman and we washed the bottles out, put them back…
    - 85 days ago 28 Jun 20, 10:40pm -
  • A Personal Note...
    It's been over three weeks since I've posted to my blog because the events currently going on in the United States have TOTALLY overwhelmed me. While I've expressed my rage on my Instagram account, I've basically ignored my blog because it's easier t…
    - 13 Jun 20, 12:33pm -
  • Are you buying patterns?
    I'm asking because I haven't bought new patterns from either the Big 4 or the Indie Pattern companies in months. A little of it is the pandemic (cause I did want three of the new Simplicity patterns) and the fact that in my area all of the fabric sto…
    - 24 May 20, 12:00am -
  • Quarantine Week 10 - Thursday
    Well it's Thursday again and it's my 10th Thursday in Quarantine.  Yeah I'm not calling it staying at home anymore...this is Quarantine! *LOL*  Though the news is starting to get better in the NJ/NY/CT area, however, not well enough to allow things…
    - 21 May 20, 7:37pm -
  • Trying not to own all the fabric!
    I recently placed a fabric order with StyleMaker Fabrics for two pieces of fabric...I've sewn the only lemon fabric I had ~ making this dress last summer.  The rosy piece caught my eye because it's precious and honestly I don't have anything like th…
    - 16 May 20, 12:00am -
  • Starting with Simplicity 8888
    We're going to have to start saying "Before Coronvirus" and "After Coronvirus" so BC2020 and AD2020 as abbreviations. BC2020 I bought several maxi dress patterns...actually probably some of the last Big4 patterns I purchased...and will purchase for…
    - 12 May 20, 12:00am -
  • A Little Housekeeping...
    This post is about housekeeping because there's some new readers and some that are back after an absence. Hey we all seem to have a little more quality time these days...I just wanted to remind you of a few things ~1. If you sign in as "Unknown" or "…
    - 9 May 20, 12:00am -
  • Before after and already...
    I made McCalls 7385 in August 2016 after I'd lost 35 lbs., started a new job and was getting used to a new dress code.  It was a wonderful maxi dress, comfortable, easy to wear and maybe I was a tad overdressed, but I loved wearing it. Last summer I…
    - 6 May 20, 12:00am -
  • A Black & White Maxi Shirtdress
    As I stated before my cut pile is doing nothing for me right now...nothing!  I found when I pulled some different fabrics and started using them my sewjo came back. This fabric was one of the ones that sparked joy...This linen/cotton blend was purch…
    - 3 May 20, 6:01pm -
  • Seven Weeks In...
    It's Thursday again so it's time for a check-in and an update especially since this is the last day of April.  Let's start with garments made ~I've made five dresses.  Three have been blogged. The last two will probably be photographed this weeken…
    - 30 Apr 20, 12:01am -
  • Sewing Shortcuts
    As I was working on the dresses, I realize that I normally do a few things that make my sewing go faster.Things like:1. I wind two bobbins when I start a project.2. I pull all the items I need to complete a project before I start - that means not onl…
    - 26 Apr 20, 12:00am -
  • Gingham for Spring
    I love gingham and spent some time collecting several colors and sizes of this beloved fabric. I've used it for accents in garments and for actual garments, here and here. So it's no surprise that I used some to brighten up this blue chambray maxi sh…
    - 23 Apr 20, 12:00am -
  • Two New Maxi Shirtdresses
    Now I know most people sew with different patterns and that's part of the sewing adventure for them...but me I like TNT patterns where I hack the heck out of them to make the garments I see in my head...or enjoy wearing.Due to the Corvid-19 quarantin…
    - 20 Apr 20, 7:00pm -

African American - Latino World

  • Mexico's Underground Railroad for African-American Runaways
    In 1829, Mexico's president, Vicente Guerrero, son of an African slave mother, inadvertently spawned a Mexican underground railroad for African-Americans runaways by signing a decree banning slavery in the Mexican Republic. Felix, a Texas slave was…
    - 45 days ago 7 Aug 20, 7:15pm -
  • Don't Get "Played" Visiting Latin America
    It was 11:00 PM on Friday evening when my plane landed at the Jorge Chávez International Airport in Lima, Perú. I was tired and sleepy after 16 hours of flying and changing planes in Atlanta and Mexico City. I still had another three-hour bus ride…
    - 22 Jan 20, 5:30pm -
  • Has Your Foreign Language Skills Ever Been Tested in a Job Interview?
    If you state on your résumé that you can speak a foreign language, be prepared because you are likely to be interviewed in that language. One year, I interviewed for a workforce development position at a prominent agency in San Francisco, Califor…
    - 17 Jan 20, 6:17pm -
  • Hey, A Gringo is Paying!
    While on vacation in Ecuador, I made an appointment to meet with an Afro-Ecuadorian Studies Consultant at the Simón Bolívar University of the Andes in Quito, the nation's capital. I offered to take him to lunch to show my appreciation for the black…
    - 27 Sep 19, 7:58pm -
  • What's It Like for a Black Man in Perú?
     Late Afro-Peruvian singer Pepe Vazquez   I received the following message in an e-mail from Sean, one of my blog readers, with the following inquiry: Good afternoon, Sir:Are you still in Lima? I saw your blogs about being a black man in Lima whe…
    - 17 Jul 19, 4:46pm -
  • South America's Own Ebony Magazine
     Revista Ébano/Ebony MagazineWhen I was in Cartagena, Colombia, I could not resist bringing back this souvenir I accidentally found in a black business: South America's EBONY MAGAZINE. Colombia has the largest Spanish-speaking black population in C…
    - 29 Apr 19, 6:45pm -
  • African American-Latino World (MY STORY!)
     Wearing my Peruvian t-shirt at a Peruvian restaurant eating Peruvian "soul" food with the Peruvian national drink; pisco sour (brandy)It all started for me at the age of 10 while living walking distance from New York's Spanish Harlem where I bega…
    - 27 Apr 19, 3:27pm -
  • Racial Confusion among Latinos & African Americans
     Two Black men portraying their Puerto Rican Pridein the annual Puerto Rican Day parade in New YorkWhy is it so challenging for so  many people, especially African-Americans and U.S. Latinos, to understand that there is a difference between someone…
    - 11 Dec 18, 8:49am -
  • Black Mexican Towns Hold Annual Conferences
    XIX Meeting of Black Villages Coahuila, México “El Pueblo Unido Jamás Será Vencido!”(The United Village Will Never be Defeated!) This post is credited to Patrica Ann Talley, MBA who has been living in the Afro-Mexican region of La Costa Chica…
    - 30 Nov 18, 8:28pm -
  • Cuba's Black Female Slave Rebel
     Carlota LucumíThank you AfroLatinidad for sharing ...We African-Americans know about Nat Turner and Denmark Vessey, but their spirit was alive throughout the Caribbean and Latin America, such as Gaspar Yanga of Mexico, Benko Biohó of Colombia, an…
    - 25 Nov 18, 6:01pm -
  • A Return Connection with Latin-America's African Diaspora
    As the saying goes, "what goes around comes around." Having received so much love visiting Latin America's black communities, it was finally a warm exhilarating experience to return the favor to one visiting New York. Her name is Diana of Guayaquíl,…
    - 23 Nov 18, 1:55pm -
  • When Learning Spanish, Learn Some Manners!
    My Spanish-Speaking Drill Instructor,Alberto, of  Chincha Alta, Perú  It was my late Mexican-American friend, Yolanda Gutierrez,  who admonished me to learn Latin-American culture if I'm going to speak the Spanish language. I took that advice s…
    - 23 Oct 18, 3:40pm -
  • Sad Ending with my Afro-Peruvian Goddaughter
    I was fascinated by a CD, "the Soul of Black Perú" that alerted me to this country's black population. And as a lifetime Spanish student seeking to learn about black cultures in Latin America, Perú joined my list of places to visit. Through my plan…
    - 4 Oct 18, 5:50pm -
  • LATINO HERITAGE MONTH: A Black Pictorial Celebration
    Hispanic (Latino) Heritage Month, September 15 to October 15, addresses little, if any, of its racial diversity consisting of Asians, Blacks, Indigenous, Jews, Middle Easterners, Whites, and a mixture of some or all of the above.The Latino (Hispanic)…
    - 25 Sep 18, 6:29pm -
  • Latinos Who Prejudge Blacks
    Any one or all three of these men speak Spanish as a first or second language, but you will never know by simply looking at their outer appearance. What is it with so many Latinos (and black folks) in the U.S. who feel that all Spanish speakers are…
    - 21 Sep 18, 2:44pm -
  • An Object Lesson on U.S. Latinos
    In a hot Havana heat in July, I'm chilling out on a mojito, Cuba's national drink.On my first day in Cuba, I learned an object lesson as to how so many bilingual U.S. Latinos feel, when we non-native speakers try to practice our Spanish on them.I was…
    - 20 Aug 18, 3:52pm -
  • Fast & Fun Spanish Language Development
    Chowing down on a Peruvian dinner with a glass of pisco sour, Perú's national drinkNormally, I am very confident and perform impressively during job interviews, but this time, the hiring manager asked if it was OK to switch our conversation to Sp…
    - 18 Aug 18, 9:37pm -
  • Mexican Independence Day: What Blacks (& Mexicans) Should Know!
    Along with Spanish explorers, Moroccan born Estevánico was one of the first native Africans to reach what later became Mexican territory before this territory was taken over by the United States after the Mexican-American war, namely Arizona and Ne…
    - 5 Aug 18, 6:14pm -
  • Too "Black" to be Latino and too "Latino" to be Considered Black
    VH1’s Love & Hip Hop: Miami star Amara La Negra is from the Dominican Republic A 19-year old Chicagoan of Afro-Mexican ancestry does not feel fully accepted by his Mexican-American community because of his color. Even when he visits Mexico speaking…
    - 3 Aug 18, 8:16am -
  • A Black Traveler Asks about Being Black in Perú
     At a supper club in Lima, Perú, a female performer came to my table to bring me on stage to dance with her.I often get e-mails from my blog readers asking various questions about what they can expect in references to the places I've traveled. Thi…
    - 22 Jun 18, 2:31pm -
  • Colombia, South America's Black Salsa Music Icon
    Grupo NicheThis is my favorite salsa band of all time with it's lively, yet suave musical style. The word, Niche (pronounced Knee-Chay), in Colombian Spanish, describes the darkest-skinned black people. The group was founded and lead by the late Jai…
    - 18 Jun 18, 10:30am -
  • Happy Afro-Peruvian Heritage Month!
    On June 3, there was a grand celebration of Afro-Peruvian Cultural Day with tasty "comida criollos" (Peruvian soul food), black artifacts with a homage to the Mother of Afro-Peruvian dance and theater, Victoria Santa Cruz. The late Rinaldo Campos, f…
    - 4 Jun 18, 10:08am -
  • An American First—the Parodox of Latin American Racism
    In Latin America, a black person with a foreign passport and Euros, British Pounds, or American or Canadian dollars is treated as an honorary “white” person.  It's been all over the news and social media, reports of one incident after another;…
    - 30 May 18, 2:09pm -
  • Where Have All the Ricans Gone?
    I Miss the New York Puerto Rican (Nuyorican) CommunityPeople often ask me why do I speak Spanish or when they hear me listening to Latin music, they wonder if I am Latino. The answer is that I was inspired by my Nuyorican neighbors at a young age whi…
    - 17 Jan 18, 4:10pm -
  • The Rise and Fall of the Black Marvel of Uruguay, South America
    José Leandro Andrade“The Black Marvel”During the 1920s and 1930s, José Leandro Andrade was highly regarded in his home country, Uruguay, as “Maravilla Negra (the Black Marvel)” whom enchanted soccer fans witnessed the effortless elegance in…
    - 23 Oct 17, 11:40am -