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Fledgling

  • moving day
    My new website is up and running—and I love it! I will be blogging over there from now on, so I hope you’ll take a look. You can also find my essays, videos, and other important links over there. I will check with my web designer to see if curren…
    - 15 Nov 14, 5:41pm -
  • quality, quantity, context
    I’ll be speaking on an Afrofuturism panel at Brooklyn College next week, and I hope I’ll have the chance to talk about After Earth. Most critics panned the film but for Black youth (boys in particular), that film is groundbreaking—something whi…
    - 7 Nov 14, 10:38am -
  • a) political
    Children’s literature is not neutral. It can be educational and entertaining, but books for kids also tell us something about our society and ourselves. As I wrote in my last HuffPo essay, There’s clearly a direct link between the misrepresentati…
    - 5 Nov 14, 10:32am -
  • cell
    I used to tell people that I lived under a rock. I’m an HSP and one way I manage my various sensitivities is by withdrawing from the world; my home is my sanctuary and I try to keep it clutter-free by conducting regular purges so that I only keep t…
    - 3 Nov 14, 12:14pm -
  • shut in/shut out
    I always take a selfie on my birthday but this year I’ve been taking pictures all month long. Every time I’m out with friends, I ask someone to snap a photo with their phone so that there’s proof of our outing. I’ve just started writing again…
    - 25 Oct 14, 10:49am -
  • be radical
    While I was in Sacramento I met Kate Schatz, Chair of the School of Literary Arts at Oakland School for the Arts and author of Rad American Women A-Z. Laura Atkins introduced us (of course) and persuaded Kate to take a look at my books (of course). T…
    - 21 Oct 14, 11:53am -
  • medieval mix
    I’ve started planning my annual low-key birthday celebration. This Brooklyn photography exhibit is on the list along with the Dillons’ retrospective at the Society of Illustrators. Then on the actual day I think I’ll visit the Cloisters and may…
    - 20 Oct 14, 6:41pm -
  • seed & source
    My website’s getting an overdue overhaul and it’s been challenging to find a “look” that represents who I am as a writer. There will be purple, of course, but I originally wanted a “plantation ruins” aesthetic that proved hard to achieve.…
    - 17 Oct 14, 2:02pm -
  • not nice

    - 13 Oct 14, 11:38pm -
  • pieces
    Kidlitcon is just a few days away and I’m working on my panel presentation, which means I’m gathering up all the bits and pieces that explain why I do what I do. I’m a bit of a mess these days. On Sunday the protestors singing a “Requiem for…
    - 7 Oct 14, 3:12pm -

Eye of the 'Drea

  • Out in the Open
    Someone sent me an email at work and I only read the first part of their sentence. The person ended up calling me because they needed a quick response. I love to read so I don't know why I'm quickly scanning stuff. I will concede that there is work-r…
    - 3 days ago 14 Aug 17, 11:36pm -
  • Outside Factors
    Was on Instagram and saw a post about yoga at this former church which is being slowly restored and currently in use as a skate park.Photo shoot in progress...Not sure why I feel the need to practice in different spaces but I do and the 11:00 a.m. st…
    - 10 days ago 7 Aug 17, 11:10pm -
  • Cool-ish
    As I left the laundromat, thought I haven't done shit today but, in actuality, I had.Left my house around 9:45 a.m. to rendezvous with Alison on the riverfront trail for bicycling. It was close to 1:00 p.m. when we left. I also did some reading. I'm…
    - 12 days ago 5 Aug 17, 11:05pm -
  • Back and Forth
    Alison and I went back and forth about what activity to do on Saturday. I woke up exhausted so ixnay on any possible plans to bicycle. We ended up going to Zumba and I barely made it through the hour but I was not the only one who reported feeling…
    - 18 days ago 30 Jul 17, 5:55pm -
  • Curbed
    Think that Gloria is trying to convert me to veganism and it's going to work if she keeps cooking delicious meals and sending me home with food.For the Eyes...Taco Stands, Jackfruit, Homemade Salsa etc.Didn't exercise yesterday because of my dinner d…
    - 20 days ago 28 Jul 17, 11:10pm -
  • Pace Yourself
    Walked for exercise and kept my yoga plan even though I also had my eyes on the outdoor pool. Wanted to keep my date with yoga since I've only been going once a week and I know how important it is for my body and mind. Got to the studio and realized…
    - 23 days ago 25 Jul 17, 11:25pm -
  • Not Alone
    Went to Zumba this morning and I'm not sure why I was surprised that Alisha made us rain. She has always been energetic -- even when fully pregnant.Returned home after Zumba and wasn't sure what to do with myself outside of washing clothes. Eventuall…
    - 26 days ago 22 Jul 17, 11:30pm -
  • To Tame Or Not...
    I used to be able to resist the siren call of the all-staff email announcing leftover cookies and cakes but it's been calling my name lately. Didn't even eat it at work -- brought it home. Somehow, I need to regroup...There's been ongoing excessive h…
    - 29 days ago 19 Jul 17, 10:35pm -
  • Pledge
    The song is my head right now is All Around The World by Lisa Stanfield...I'm not sure why my brain associates songs with things that people say and whatnot but I heard so much Balkan music while traveling that the soundtrack in my head changed from…
    - 33 days ago 15 Jul 17, 9:30pm -
  • Doggedness, In Action
    My suitcase is almost unpacked and I've washed two loads of clothes, cooked my first meal since returning home and I've been to three yoga classes but I've also reflected on how it was, in some ways, nice not to have a yoga studio on every corner whi…
    - 37 days ago 11 Jul 17, 11:20pm -
  • Somewhere Again
    Split AirportI miss ordering cherry juice during beverage service on Croatia airlines -- even though I'm not a big juice drinker.I miss drinking Orangina while in the Balkans; it doesn't taste the same in Missouri and, again, I don't usually indulge.…
    - 41 days ago 7 Jul 17, 11:05pm -
  • The Journey Back
    5 a.m.Goodbye View of the SeaAs my time in Croatia came to a close, I tried to concentrate on all of fun that I'd had but, inevitably, I got sad and wondered if I should have stayed longer.Kept thinking that it was time to return to my regular life b…
    - 43 days ago 5 Jul 17, 11:45pm -
  • Crossing Bridges
    There's nothing like taking pictures on vacation to give you an accurate how much weight you've gained.I like to tell the 'Fugee, we'll cross that bridge when we get to it and that bridge will appear when I get home...Went to the grocery store this m…
    - 47 days ago 1 Jul 17, 6:25pm -
  • Seven Kuna
    The 'Fugee's friend that was supposed to come with us had scheduled vacation time but was needed at work because of her unique skills etc. The 'Fugee sent her some pictures and told her that we were thinking about her... She told the 'Fugee that God…
    - 49 days ago 29 Jun 17, 6:45pm -
  • Traveling Is...
    Last night, the 'Fugee's trilingual friend told her, in Bosnian, that she didn't think that I'd have enough water to take a shower. The 'Fugee's response? Oh, she knows.The 'Fugee gives me "The Rules" whenever we stay with her friends but what's funn…
    - 52 days ago 26 Jun 17, 5:40pm -
  • Not Right
    The 'Fugee and I made our way from Sarajevo to Mostar. For some reason, I don't mind traveling by bus here -- maybe it's the scenery. I was surprised, though, when we stopped by a school and about 20 students hopped on. Personal space? What personal…
    - 54 days ago 24 Jun 17, 6:40pm -
  • Just Four of Us
    It's been nine days since I took off for my journey and eight days since I've been in Bosnia. I have yet to open a book, peek at a magazine or listen to the many podcasts that I downloaded. Guess that's a sign that I am immersed in my home away from…
    - 57 days ago 22 Jun 17, 5:15am -
  • Oh, The People...
    Yesterday the 'Fugee and I took a field trip to Konjic, a town about 75 minutes away from Sarajevo. It was a nice bus ride albeit a little hairy on the way back which was downhill and winding.When we hit town, the 'Fugee asked this woman for recommen…
    - 58 days ago 20 Jun 17, 6:15am -
  • 100 Of Your Friends
    Managed to miss the celebration for the International Day of Yoga in Sarajevo. When I think about it, though, I really didn't have much of a chance to make it to the celebration.Went to bed around 1:30 a.m. and felt like I had a solid night of sleep…
    - 61 days ago 17 Jun 17, 4:45pm -
  • Staring Down The Fears
    Made plans to take a trip this month to visit the 'Fugee who is having what I like to call a "gap year."In addition to finding myself finalizing packing on the morning of departure, found myself pretty anxious weeks prior to the trip. I had to keep t…
    - 63 days ago 15 Jun 17, 8:05pm -
  • Straightening Up
    Walked out the house about 8:15-ish with plans to go to yoga but when I felt the humidity, I changed my plans because my Sunday agenda included cutting the grass and I knew that I had to seize the moment before it got hotter...Also did yard work a.k.…
    - 67 days ago 12 Jun 17, 12:05am -
  • Such and Such
    Could not bear to finish reading What We Have Unleashed in Slate then Bill Maher, who's rubbed me the wrong way before, just casually used the n-word -- what an asshole.First noose. Second noose. Deadly stabbings. I'm gobsmacked...Alison pulled the…
    - 75 days ago 3 Jun 17, 10:15pm -
  • Zumba Interruptus
    Left out the house at 10:40 a.m. yesterday with my mind set on going to Zumba. While I warmed up (30 seconds) the car, found a playlist so that I wasn't tempted to fiddle with my iPod while driving. Heard a thunk and looked to see this white car movi…
    - 88 days ago 21 May 17, 11:51pm -
  • Rushing
    When I walked into work this morning I wondered how, if I chose to, working 80% would impact my life. I, simultaneously, heard my grand and great grandparents verbally scoffing -- like Do you know what we had to go through?Went to my cousin's wife's…
    - 91 days ago 18 May 17, 11:20pm -
  • Wondering
    When my mother and I left the repast on Saturday, she pointed out one of her childhood homes. We got our first phone there and we had a party line. Wow, we've come a long way -- maybe too long. I wonder how many homes my grandmother had to move in an…
    - 94 days ago 15 May 17, 11:20pm -

Twenties Unscripted

  • I Still Think Of You.
    It was around this time last year, just as summer began to sunset, that you and I started to make waves. First they were tiny, soon they were tidal, and now I don’t know if there will ever be another August when I don’t think about you. It’s no…
    - 3 days ago 14 Aug 17, 6:36pm -
  • The Girl On Her Knees: An Undefining Moment [By Roconia Price]
    For the Twenties Unscripted fifth anniversary, I’ve invited five writers who have been anchors throughout my journey to contribute guest posts during the month. I asked each writer to pen whatever they’d like relative to the theme of transformati…
    - 23 days ago 25 Jul 17, 9:37pm -
  • My Semi-Celibate Life [By Dana Sukontarak]
    For the Twenties Unscripted fifth anniversary, I’ve invited five writers who have been anchors throughout my journey to contribute guest posts during the month. I asked each writer to pen whatever they’d like relative to the theme of transformati…
    - 29 days ago 19 Jul 17, 7:27pm -
  • When You’re Tired Of Who You’ve Been [By Ashley Coleman]
    For the Twenties Unscripted fifth anniversary, I’ve invited five writers who have been anchors throughout my journey to contribute guest posts during the month. I asked each writer to pen whatever they’d like relative to the theme of transformati…
    - 31 days ago 17 Jul 17, 11:13pm -
  • The Responsibility of Being Loved [By Yetti]
    For the Twenties Unscripted fifth anniversary, I’ve invited five writers who have been anchors throughout my journey to contribute guest posts during the month. I asked each writer to pen whatever they’d like relative to the theme of transformati…
    - 36 days ago 12 Jul 17, 9:57pm -

Lactation Journey

Diary of a First Time Mom

  • Breaking Bedtime with #AlwaysDiscreet
    For the first time in my daughter’s life, she’s spending the summer away from her mommy. Up until now, her dad and I made monthly road trips, ensuring she spent quality time with both sides of her family on both sides of the state. Our shared agr…
    - 37 days ago 11 Jul 17, 2:42pm -
  • Pittsburgh Kids Summer Bucket List: Baseball & Breakfast
    Diary of a First Time Mom teamed up with Denny’s to share how you can score a free breakfast at a Pittsburgh Pirates game. Dear Diary, Last school year, my daughter participated in her first (of what will likely be many) organized activities. She…
    - 43 days ago 5 Jul 17, 8:00am -
  • Healthy Hair Diet for Kids
    Dear Diary, Recently, I begged my two-year-old daughter Summer to eat her broccoli. She refused to pick up her fork. She told me that she couldn’t eat trees. Trees are nasty. She doesn’t understand that broccoli is good for her, especially her n…
    - 45 days ago 3 Jul 17, 8:00am -
  • Online Activities on Hot, Summer Days
    Dear Diary, I enjoy outdoor activities. I rarely break a sweat and soak up the sun. However my little girl is easily overheated. So when the temperatures soar, we seek shelter from the hot,  humid weather and take part in the air-conditioned activit…
    - 47 days ago 1 Jul 17, 8:00am -
  • Should You Schedule an Induction?
    Dear Diary, Wouldn’t it be nice to pick your baby’s due date? Maybe you want your little girl to share a Born Day with your late, great-grandmother. Or perhaps you want your son to celebrate his life with his father. Or maybe, you’re just sick…
    - 49 days ago 29 Jun 17, 7:00am -
  • IVF: What One Mom Wants You to Know Now
    Dear Diary, Garmin should create a GPS to navigate the road to fertilization. Instead of entering an address, women could plug-in their age, medical information and family history.  The system could map out the fastest route to conception. …
    - 52 days ago 26 Jun 17, 7:00am -
  • FREE MOM PRINTABLE: 6 Things Every Mom Should Say Everyday
    Dear Diary, My mom vocabulary is filled with words to uplift and inspire. I pour positive messages into my daughter, praying the words will take root in her heart and her mind. As she reflects on the things I say, she’ll grow into a beautiful, conf…
    - 55 days ago 23 Jun 17, 7:00am -
  • HIV Positive and Pregnant
    Dear Diary, I’ve attended the funerals of five family members–my sister, my aunt, my two cousins and my nanny. I lost them all to HIV. As I mourn their deaths, I can’t help but wonder if I’ll be forced to once again say goodbye to other loved…
    - 57 days ago 21 Jun 17, 7:00am -
  • Surprising Breastfeeding Savings
    By: Shani St. Vil You’ll spend almost $10,000 on your baby’s first year, according to the thousands of moms who took a recent Baby Center survey. Before you throw your calculator against the wall, read on! One way to cut costs is to breastfeed y…
    - 59 days ago 19 Jun 17, 7:00am -
  • Top Travel Blogs for Families
    By: Shalene Dudley Dear Diary, Planning a vacation as a mom is much different than creating an itinerary as a single person! Water parks replace spas and zoos push nightclubs right off the list. But taking your new family on a vacation doesn’t mean…
    - 59 days ago 19 Jun 17, 7:00am -

My Fabulous Boobies

  • 20+ UNCOMPLICATED Ways To Comfort Your Breast Cancer Survivor Friend
    Hover over this image and pin this to your Pinterest board.Do you really know how to help her? Without making it all about you?Your good friend was just diagnosed with breast cancer. Your heart just broke into a million pieces. You're scared…
    - 23 Nov 16, 9:00am -
  • How To Wear Your Pink Ribbon T-shirts In Style
    How To Rock Your Pink Ribbon T-shirts In StyleWhat's a girl to do with all those pink ribbon/breast cancer awareness shirts? I'm a survivor who happened to already have a long love affair with pink... before I was diagnosed with breast ca…
    - 7 Oct 16, 10:12am -
  • 5 Lessons of Unapologetic Bad-Assery That Prince and Muhammad Ali Taught Us
    Learning lessons of bad-assery from the best to ever do it.2016 has been particularly aggressive with collecting brave souls that we've loved and supported. Unexpected deaths of celebrities and personal friends/family members have shaken many of u…
    - 3 Sep 16, 9:00am -
  • 18 Great Sources for Breast Cancer Information and Support
    Are you WOKE? About breast cancer...?All around me, on social media and in real life, people are chattering about being "woke". It got me to thinking... how many of us in the breast cancer community are woke? Like for real, honestly and truly aware…
    - 27 Jul 16, 9:00am -
  • What it means to be a cancer survivor - National Cancer Survivors Day
    Reflecting on being a cancer survivorWhen I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in the summer of 2008, I felt alone. While I knew that many women and men had been diagnosed with this disease before me... I felt really alone in my fear and conc…
    - 6 Jun 16, 10:00am -
  • Survivorship: Learning to make lemonade like Beyonce
    Meet Me at Deanwood Public Library Saturday, May 14th at 1pmLemonade...that cool refreshing drink made from sour and sometimes bitter fruitIf someone had told me in 2007 that by 2016 I'd be an entrepreneur, a health advocate, a motivational…
    - 12 May 16, 4:51pm -
  • Beyonce SLAYED Me With #Formation
    Formation is the visual representation of DOPENESS!Please tell me that you've seen Beyonce's video "Formation" by now! PLEASE tell me that.That video just put a visual on everything I've been feeling about 2016 and my life. This is the Year of E…
    - 7 Feb 16, 6:27pm -
  • Someone Stole My Content! What I Learned From The Incident
    I WAS ROBBED! But I'm not that mad about it. A few days ago, I was tagged on a picture by one of my cousins. Turns out... the picture was of ME! But I didn't recognize the page, or the person who was running it. Neither did my cousin.This is the…
    - 26 Jan 16, 9:30am -
  • Hello 2016! The Year of Epic Transformation
    Happy New Year!!  *blows horn!*My goodness... 2015 is gone. GONE! I still had stuff to do, projects to start... projects to finish. My to-do list is still super long.But.. despite my tardiness in completing what I wanted to accomplish las…
    - 7 Jan 16, 9:41pm -
  • Is there life WITHOUT cancer for a survivor?
    Is there life without cancer for a survivor?I was asked what life was like without cancer now.*blink*Life without breast cancer? Why... there's no such thing.Let's talk about remission and NED After you complete your "active treatment…
    - 29 Nov 15, 9:30am -
  • Nicole McLean Launches Two New Product Lines
    Do. Or do not. There is no try.  The crazy thing about being me is that I bump along in my life and I just do the things that I feel called to do or that I want to do. I just do them. I think about things for a long time. Often, by the time som…
    - 28 Nov 15, 8:30am -
  • 5 Tips for Breast Self-Exams
    5 Tips for Breast Self-ExamsHealthcare professionals agree that the best way to combat breast cancer is with early detection. In order to do so, women must perform regular self-exams on their breasts. It might be uncomfortable at first, but it wi…
    - 24 Nov 15, 8:30am -
  • It's The Melanin | Outfit of the day
    It's The Melanin | Audacity Tees by pinkribbongal featuring rock n roll jeansDate night/Girls night out outfitA few months ago, I quietly launched an online t-shirt shop called Audacity Tees. I actually started it awhile ago but I never tol…
    - 16 Nov 15, 9:30am -
  • Losing A Metastatic Pink Ribbon Sister Is Always Hard
    Remembering my pink ribbon sister TamiEarlier this year, I attended a breast cancer blogger summit with the Komen Foundation. It was my second time being invited and participating. To be honest, it is one of those events that I look forward to bec…
    - 13 Nov 15, 2:45pm -
  • These Black Bloggers Discussed Breast Cancer Awareness - And It Was Grand!!
    These Black Bloggers Discussed Breast Cancer Awareness during Pinktober...And it was GRAND! Another Pinktober has come to an end. I'll be honest, this year was a doozy for me. A DOOZY I tell you. So much was happening in my email box that I star…
    - 3 Nov 15, 8:00am -
  • Hmm... am I being superwoman right now?
    Being Superwoman is not admirable when your health is in jeopardy*Update 10/15: Five years later... I still really hate the idea of being "Superwoman" but I can honestly say now... I was scared that I was going to lose my job because I had been sic…
    - 25 Oct 15, 11:44am -
  • The Winner Has Been Chosen!
    The Contest Has Ended: Rochelle G. is the winner!You know what is seriously a lot of fun? Giving away cool prizes! I don't know why I haven't done more of this... but I will certainly be doing more giveaways and raffles in the future. (I'm lining u…
    - 24 Oct 15, 7:00am -
  • Have you been following Good Enough Mother's Survivor Stories?
    Rene and I at the Komen Bloger Summit 2014.(I'm fangirling all over her! She's so incredible.)Confession: I absolutely adore Rene Syler of Good Enough Mother!Her passion and infectious zest for life is captivating. Her blog is absolutely ama…
    - 23 Oct 15, 6:00pm -
  • The Type of Friend That I Am
    I take terrible selfies... but my heart is good. *This post has a lot of gifs. If that is a problem for your computer or your phone, you'll have to skip this one. But they are there for a reason. I am a special kind of friend. I tell you t…
    - 20 Oct 15, 6:06pm -
  • Increasing Awareness of Your Protections Following a Breast Cancer Diagnosis
    Increasing Awareness of Your Protections Following a Breast Cancer DiagnosisR. Scott Oswald and Adam A. CarterEmployees returning to work following a breast cancer diagnosis have it very tough. After months of dealing with an unfavorable and ver…
    - 16 Oct 15, 5:21pm -
  • My Fabulous Boobies Is Giving Away A 32-inch TCL Roku TV!
    Could you use a 32" HD RokuTV? You have a chance to win one!I was contacted by the wonderful people of TCL with an opportunity to gift a reader with a beautiful new television. TCL (one of the largest television manufacturers) is raising money for…
    - 13 Oct 15, 7:00am -
  • All of This is Scary and Unsettling
    *Update 10/15:  I wrote this post in early 2009, about 7 months after the start of my chemotherapy. I was still healing from my mastectomy and was about half-way through my radiation treatment. I was exhausted physically and emotionally. This post w…
    - 7 Oct 15, 8:00am -
  • Survivors Rock Out for Breast Cancer Awareness Month
    October is here again... and the world has gone PINK!Each October, as the world is flooded with pink ribbons, I go through a series of emotions. I am happy that I am still here. Grateful that I've been lucky so far. Sad and confused at the deaths…
    - 2 Oct 15, 8:30am -
  • Book Review: 100 Acts of Love, Kim Hamer
    100 Acts of Love is the book I wish I'd written or had when I was in treatmentA while back, I received an email from someone I didn't know asking me to review her book and possibly write a review of it. I receive requests like this daily. To be tran…
    - 23 Sep 15, 9:46am -
  • Lymphedema Management: Wrapping Your Arm to Manage Your Lymphedema
    So this is me after my first time getting my arm wrapped. I wasn't ready for the way that it looked at all.But it was a tremendous assistance to my situation. I definitely recommend doing this. Lymphedema is a jerk! But it is manageable...…
    - 8 Sep 15, 6:30am -

Life with the Logans

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Living Outside the Stacks

  • Coffee Talk: Reasons We Can’t Have Nice Things
    I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. If you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolut…
    - 12 days ago 5 Aug 17, 12:37pm -
  • Book Review: No One is Coming to Save Us by Stephanie Powell Watts
    Author: Stephanie Powell Watts Genre: Fiction Publisher: Ecco Release Date: 4 April 2017 Format: Hardcover Pages: 384 ABOUT THE BOOK {from the inside flap of the book} JJ Ferguson has returned home to Pinewood, North Carolina, to build his dream…
    - 14 days ago 3 Aug 17, 10:00am -
  • Ageless Style Linkup: Graphic Tees
    THE AGELESS STYLE LINKUP Can you believe it’s already August? Seriously, where did the month go? It feels like it has just flown by, but I’m ready for Autumn {doesn’t it seem we’re always rushing the seasons?}. Anyway, with the beginning of a…
    - 16 days ago 1 Aug 17, 7:21am -

Lovebabz: A Life in Transition

  • Where I've Been... Summer Joy and More
    As I have  gotten older I have come to LOVE Summer. The hot and hazy days, bare feet, sun dresses and getting blacker!Going to Jamaica was my reset. Honest to Gawd! I spent a week in the Blue Mountains of Jamaica. Landed in Kingston, which to my she…
    - 5 days ago 12 Aug 17, 3:24pm -
  • Control is the Illusion of Fools...Yes, I made this up. It's Really The Season Of My Goddessness
    I control nothing. I have little control over very little. And to that end I surrender.Ohhh It feels good to cool my brain with surrender. Surrender on all fronts. I remember a few years back I wrote a post on allowing. Allowing life to ebb and flow…
    - 58 days ago 20 Jun 17, 5:40pm -
  • And I Shall Have Everything
    "I'd like you to do less"And just as I heard this, it was like I walked through another door that has been waiting on me to come thru. I don't fully understand what "do less" means, and I have no intentions of finding out in my everyday practical lif…
    - 96 days ago 13 May 17, 8:13pm -
  • My Lenten Journey: Hello from the bottom of the well and other places dark and stormy
    For a few weeks I have been living from the bottom of the well. Dark and cold and way way down.Being at the bottom of the well is not a new experience... I've been here before. Been there before. Maybe I am feeling some kind of way because Spring has…
    - 3 Apr 17, 6:56pm -
  • Off The Lenten Path: God is Tired Of Me. I am Tired Of God.
    For the better part of my life I have enjoyed and struggled with a strong God consciousness. I have never felt alone or away from God. In my life I have endured and come through some dark moments with my faith still intact. I could feel God's presenc…
    - 7 Mar 17, 11:15pm -
  • My Lenten Journey: I am the Big Space of God
    I was struggling with whether or not I should even "do Lent" this year. My mood was such that I just didn't feel holy, or sacred or divine. The world just seems crazy and I seem crazy in it. My attitude was piss poor and I was feeling quite desolate…
    - 1 Mar 17, 8:32am -
  • Preparing For My Lenten Journey 2017...Do I even want to do Lent?
    For the last decade or more, I have been "into" Lent. Embracing this holy time to reconnect to my own internal faith walk. Seeking silence and solitude. Welcoming this time of 40+ days and 40+ nights to get in with God.This year, though, I am feeling…
    - 22 Feb 17, 7:38pm -
  • Dear Nina, I Am Sorry I didn't Learn This Sooner...
    As evolved as I think I am... And I am. Past habits have a way of showing up. I find myself losing myself in someone's bullshit of a life and before I know it,  I am Superwoman holding up their hopes and dreams. Trying to make their shit align with…
    - 29 Jan 17, 1:09pm -
  • A Dead Of Winter Break... Being Revolutionary In My Own Life
    It is time to explore radical self care. Be revolutionary in my own life. I cannot keep up this breakneck pace of work in the absence of real pleasures. What the fuck am I doing?The bigger questions looms... Is this the life of my dreams? No! Then ho…
    - 8 Jan 17, 5:12pm -
  • 2017: Intentional Like A Muthafucka
    2017 Happy New Year! I have no intentions of rehashing 2016. It was what it was. We took some hits, we had a great many loses and we have an asshole, grifter, conman as the PEOTUS.I am squarely focused on 2017.  I have two goals. Just two.1. Health…
    - 1 Jan 17, 4:35pm -
  • My Christmas Within Or Ways I Stay Alive During This Holy Season
    In my life I have learned a few survival skills. The kind of skills that override my depression keeping me squarely on the planet for at least another day. I am a day-by-day woman. Yes, I make plans and I stay hopeful about the future with me in it.…
    - 21 Dec 16, 5:51pm -
  • NaBloWriMo Day 29 Advent : Season of Wishing and Waiting
    I believe in Santa Claus! I love Christmas! I love the story of the birth of Jesus!I revel in the lights on trees and candles in the windows. Sleigh bells and Angels on high! I love luminaries lining sidewalks and sparkly ornaments everywhere!It is t…
    - 29 Nov 16, 7:36pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 16: Time To Reinvent Me ....Next Level Of Baddass
    It is time to usher in a new way of being. After all the changes in my grand life, I am always stunned when I forget that when I am in the midst of real change that it often feels like losing. And so I focus on the losing. I get caught up in the pain…
    - 16 Nov 16, 5:34pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 15: Let Us Begin by Lara Herscovitch
    I heard Lara Herscovitch tonight at the Community Conversation hosted by my Sorority, New Haven Alumnae Chapter, Delta Sigma Theta, Inc. She gifted me 2 of her CDs. She is so fabulously good.Just drink her in.
    - 15 Nov 16, 9:39pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 14: Safe Spaces to Cry
    I have come to value all the safe places I have to cry in. All the places and people who open wide and let me fall into them with my tears. I have not always had that luxury. And I have never known this level of safety. It is a beautiful thing.  One…
    - 14 Nov 16, 10:49pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 13: Finally Accepting
    I believe in the power of spell casting... Casting spells...Saying out loud under any moon this is what I want.  And believing that it shall come to pass. I just believe God has my back. I walk the earth knowing this without doubt. The Universe is c…
    - 13 Nov 16, 10:12pm -
  • NaBoPoMo Day 11: Because Day 10 Was Done
    The day got away from me yesterday. I just couldn't make anything work. Well, one thing did work...A sacred conversation I had with a new Soul mate! But other than that, the day ran me!Today was another run run run with the wolves kind of day. I ran…
    - 11 Nov 16, 5:46pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 9 My Holy Hours
    I do my best thinking around 3-5:00 am. I've talked about this before. Muslims say this is the time you are closest to God. I would have to agree. I feel my most holiest then. As a matter of fact, I like making love at that hour... I feel the most ho…
    - 9 Nov 16, 9:04pm -
  • NaBloMoPo Day 8: Go Easy, Baby
    Tonight is the night. We are all waiting for the results. Shit could go awry and we'd all be left shaking in our boots. Wondering what the fuck just happened?... Not unlike our peeps across the pond on that crazy Brexit shit tip. I'm keeping the fait…
    - 8 Nov 16, 10:58pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 7: The Quietness In The Storm
    I have learned in my life... After standing in storms, is to find the place of peace. To center my spirit in the midst of chaos. Some chaos can be invigorating and inspiring. Causing us to reach higher, dig deeper and rise above. And some chaos is ho…
    - 7 Nov 16, 10:37pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 6: Corinne Bailey Rae - Green Aphrodisiac (Official Video)
    I'm a woman of music. I believe in the power of having a  soundtrack for my life. I've been a fan of hers since the beginning. I dig this song. It is sexy and soulful and sensual. Perfect for a slow Sunday afternoon. Happy Sunday fellow bloggers! Wa…
    - 6 Nov 16, 2:17pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 5: Dreams Not Chasing At The Moment Or I'm always Chasing These Dreams
    This is always a veiled way to tell the truth of what is in your soul without making the effort to go after those very desires. Because some dreams are just dreams... And perhaps should not be chased?Here are a few of mine:I'd live in Paris. Here,in…
    - 5 Nov 16, 8:25pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 4: The Gift Of Retreat
    As a Spiritual Director, I walk with folks on their faith journey. We notice where God shows up in our lives. I do not define God for them, they do that in their own way. I just walk along holding the lamp. When we hit unsure footing, I shine the lig…
    - 4 Nov 16, 9:26pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 3: Oh, If I Were Completely Honest...
    I woke up one morning and knew that I loved him. It was an odd thought, so out of the blue. I wrestled with it for days on end....Months even. No No No! I said to myself. I can't I won't I won't. And yet I do.I love the attentiveness. The contentedne…
    - 3 Nov 16, 8:12pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 2: Brave Is My Middle Name
    I am a woman of size and girth. I am 5'8' barefooted, I weigh 273 lbs. I am a Queenly woman.I was not a fat kid growing up, but I have become a fat woman. I am never troubled by this fact until I see my doctor, or someone remembers me from my modelin…
    - 2 Nov 16, 11:32pm -

Nerd Girl

  • The Prayers of the Righteous
    First, thank y’all for commenting on my last post. She brought her grades up…but not enough to stay in Jr. Beta Club. She has As and Bs, but not a 90 average overall. We talked about it, and I emphasized that she is the only one responsible for h…
    - 29 Mar 16, 9:42am -
  • Looks like I might have to blog through it…
    I need to complain. And I don’t like complaining. So I’m going to do it here, where I’m pretty sure traffic has dropped off to zero. Mostly because I stopped blogging. Anyhoo. My sweet girl. My only child. My beloved daughter. Yeah, that one. T…
    - 13 Feb 16, 7:36pm -
  • It Scared Me. But I Did It Anyhow.
    Oh, so I’m just gonna pop back in here and blog like it’s not been a while? Sure am. Recently returned from a cruise with LG (who started 5th grade last week. 5th! My girl is growing up!), my parents, my SIL, niece, nephew, and three cousins. Tha…
    - 10 Aug 15, 10:50am -
  • Year End Ramblings
    Hey y’all. It’s been quite a 2014. Some good, some bad. I guess in some ways that means it is exactly like every year that has passed and every year that is yet to come. My first semester of my doctoral program is under my belt, praise God! I end…
    - 29 Dec 14, 9:17am -
  • Hola! Que paso?
    I miss blogging. So I decided to blog. Randoms. Of course 🙂 I turned 42 yesterday! I’m not really sure how that happened since I was just 26, but apparently time? She marches on. I don’t think I’ll ever be one of those people who refuses to…
    - 10 Oct 14, 11:29am -
  • Katrina
    I wrote this post on August 29, 2006 So, last year, on August 28 – it was a Sunday evening I believe – I was watching the news and heard about this storm that was supposed to hit the Gulf Coast on the 29th. Katrina. Well, I didn’t pay much att…
    - 29 Aug 14, 9:07am -
  • Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed. Ask For What You Need. You Have Not Because You Ask Not.
    I’m going to let you in on a little secret. I don’t like to ask for help. From anyone. I will run around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to figure out how to do something on my own before I’ll ask for help. I don’t know why I’m t…
    - 21 Aug 14, 12:03pm -
  • Ramblings

    - 20 Aug 14, 4:06pm -
  • Why?
    That’s all I’ve got today. A simple question with no simple answers. Why? I used to not watch the news. Ever. It was so depressing and weighed too heavily on my spirit. But somehow, the news, particularly in the morning, has crept back into my li…
    - 30 Jul 14, 12:19pm -
  • Monday morning randoms
    How cute is this? Got a text this morning – apparently LG and her camp BFF were thinking along the same lines when they laid out their outfits last night. And this couldn’t have been planned because everything LG is wearing? We bought yesterday.…
    - 28 Jul 14, 1:58pm -

Rae Lewis-Thornton: Diva Living with AIDS

  • Usher-Herpes and Disclosure...
    When I first heard about the lawsuit against Usher, I made no attempt to learn any of the details. I dismissed that shit weeks ago when I heard about the supposedly green discharge coming out of Usher's penis, (which is not a symptom of herpes) but w…
    - 9 days ago 8 Aug 17, 12:34pm -
  • Charlie Sheen: And This Is What I Think!!
    When actor Charlie Sheen said, "I'm not living in that prison anymore" I felt that deep in my soul.  It resonated loud and clear. I kept my own HIV infection a secret for seven years. For Real! My first seven years I only told 5 people that I had HI…
    - 10 days ago 7 Aug 17, 6:33pm -
  • Tap Into The Resources and Live Well Beyond HIV!
    I'll take aging with HIV over not aging at all any day. Now that's some real talk; but I have to be honest, muddling through HIV requires a lot of energy, work and support. Over the years, I've been fortunate enough to have a team of wonderful people…
    - 15 Mar 17, 9:29pm -
  • The Murder of Jessica Hampton
    Last week today I was waiting on the red line train and very much annoyed that it was delayed. Little did I know that a young woman, Jessica Hampton had been brutally murdered just seven stops behind me.Jessica who was 25 years old was stabbed by Aur…
    - 30 Jun 16, 11:26am -
  • Grey Hair And I Don't Care: Aging With HIV
    In ten days I will turn 54 years old. This will mean that I have lived 33 years with HIV and 25 years with AIDS. Although I was infected in 1983 I didn't learn of my HIV status until I donated blood in 1986. I've told this story a thousand times and…
    - 13 Jun 16, 1:05pm -
  • I Met A Man... Can I Give Him HIV?
    I met a man and OMG he was just simply charming. Now I usually don't give my number to random men on the street, but did I say he was sooooo charming?!Even Chloe liked him, but ummm now that I think about it, Chloe likes everyone she sees. But the fa…
    - 3 Jun 16, 1:30pm -
  • RLT Collection Birthday Sale!
    In honor of my 54th birthday on Sunday RLT Collection is 54% off.  This weekend only 5/20 thru  5/22!  Coupon code at check out birthday2016. Thanks for all your support! SHOP!  http:www.rltcollection.com
    - 20 May 16, 11:44am -
  • Here's to Doctor's Keeping the Care in Health Care!
    Today on National Doctor's Day and I started thinking about my own doctors. Honestly, in those early days of HIV I didn't even tell a doctor. When I finally told my gynecologist at the HMO in the middle of the exam, he said to me, as he was looking u…
    - 7 Apr 16, 4:14pm -
  • Tap Into Your Own Power!
    Today is National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day and my message is unwavering. We have to tap into our own power. We have to make the decision to put ourselves first, love ourselves first and absolutely love ourselves more than wanting and ne…
    - 10 Mar 16, 11:14am -
  • RLT Reads Book Club Is Back! Check Out Feb and March Picks!
    Finally! RLT Reads Book Club is back up and running. I've missed those lively discussios so it's about time that we do it again. My online book club was orginally formed in 2011 and we had our discussions via Twitter and my blog. But Goodreads has c…
    - 21 Jan 16, 4:49pm -
  • SOMWA A Wonderful Cause!!!
    New York! New! York! New York! Come hang out with me Sun Dec 13th! Bring a toy and wear your dancing shoes for the Somwa Foundation 7th Annual Toy Drive. All the toys go to families with HIV. Hydeia Broadbent and I donated our time to this wonderfu…
    - 12 Dec 15, 9:13am -
  • #Doingit
    I'm honored to have been asked to participate in the Center For Disease Control, Act Against AIDS newest HIV Testing Campaign, "Doing It." Donating your name and brand to a national campaign is no small thing. This is especially true, when you give s…
    - 7 Dec 15, 1:39pm -
  • World AIDS Day!
     Good Morning Lovely's!! Today is World AIDS Day! A day of remembrance for those we lost to this disease. But also a day to fight stigma that blames and shames those living with #HIV world wide! It's a time to demand treatment for all and work towar…
    - 1 Dec 15, 8:12am -
  • Join Me On World AIDS Day
    Tomorrow, December 1st is World AIDS Day. People around the world will remember those who have passed from AIDS related illnesses and at the same time challenge, stigma for those living with HIV. I'm asking those who support me to paint your Social…
    - 30 Nov 15, 6:32am -
  • Black Friday at RLT Collection!
    Everything at RLT Collection is 50% off coupon code; blackfriday2015 happy shopping http://rltcollection.com 
    - 27 Nov 15, 9:44am -
  • Finess Stops Bladder Leaks!
    I'm always pleading the case for women to take control of their bodies and health. It's a fact that no one will take care of you the way that you take care of yourself. But over the years, women seem to be stuck, especially when it comes to our bodie…
    - 15 Oct 15, 9:20am -
  • I Need Them All to Go To Counseling and Get Tested On The Way!
    Yesterday the sex life of pro football player Victor Cruz of the New York Giants was all over Social Media. I'm not sure how it got there, but since it's been made public I thought that I would give my two scents. First off,  all the parties involve…
    - 13 Oct 15, 4:31pm -
  • Monday Reflection: Get Up From The Table When Shit Is Being Served!
    Everybody got some "thing" going on in their life most of the time, if not all of the freaking time.Some "things" cannot be helped, like an illness you didn't see coming. Like last year when my Sophie was diagnosed with cancer on Wednesday and on the…
    - 5 Oct 15, 5:28pm -
  • Stop Blocking The Next Chapter of Your Life!
    I took an unexpected vacation from blogging. No, it was not health related. My emotional and physical health is great. It's just that I've had so much work to do in other areas of my life, that blogging took a back sit. Be clear though, while on thi…
    - 25 Aug 15, 12:48pm -
  • God Always Has A Next!
    What I know for sure is that God always has a next! I have believed this since I was a little girl being told I was never gonna be shit. Even back then after every unjust beating, I continued to have hope for something better than my right now.In tim…
    - 25 Jun 15, 12:02pm -
  • STOP PLAYING! Get Tested For HIV!
    Can I be honest? I mean some real talk today?  Some of y'all been fuckin since the turn of the century (me included) and you have never been tested for HIV and that's where the difference ends. I know my status and knowing my status has saved my li…
    - 24 Jun 15, 1:18pm -
  • Living with Intent!
    Now that I'm well into my 50's  there seems to be no turning back. I'm doing what I should have done in my 30's and for sure when I started to see my 40's that is, live with intent.  Well, I sort of lived with very limited intent for 20 years plus,…
    - 3 Jun 15, 10:38am -
  • Tea With Rae: Living my Dream!
    I'm  living my dream!! Tea With Rae: Wellness For The Mind, Body and Soul is coming! I'm in the process of developing a private label of speciality teas blended with the finest African Teas. The crafting of each tea will be closely supervised by me…
    - 3 Jun 15, 8:13am -
  • Monday Reflection: The Problem With Pride and Shame
    Pride and Shame will kill you and your spirit this I know to be true. And it does not matter the circumstance, these two emotions have the ability to create chaos in your life from your health, to your job, and dating. These two will lead you down a…
    - 25 May 15, 3:44pm -
  • Reflecting On 53!
    I turned 53 today! Honestly, I never imagined me at this age and I'm not quite sure how it should be, so I'm listening to my soul because it always knows what to do.Of course when I was younger I thought by this age, I would be married with at least…
    - 22 May 15, 7:58am -

Regina's Family Seasons

  • And STILL God's Got This!
    MAN!!! What a Day, What a Week, What a Month! As this month draws to a quick end bare with me while I rant a little...So on Saturday the 21st I had oral surgery, the actual process went well. HOWEVER, the healing process is NOT going the way I or the…
    - 29 Jan 17, 3:02pm -
  • So Trump Is President...Now What?
    I am trying to figure out why people are acting like Trump is the worst President to ever sit in the White House (That is  not yet a fact and remains to be seen!). There was an election and Trump won, period. So we move on with our lives. Every Pres…
    - 25 Jan 17, 12:53pm -
  • I Can Smell Your Self Righteous Bullying... Get Over Yourself!
    Guess Who's Baaacccckkkkk! Did y'all miss me??? Probably not cause I can hear the echo coming through my computer LMAO! It's all good though!I only came back online because as usual BLACK FOLK ARE WORKING MY NERVE!!Black people have NOT mastered UNIT…
    - 24 Jan 17, 3:01pm -
  • Hello? Is Anyone Out There? Is This Thing On?
    Hello World!It has been a long while since I have visited you via this blog! I have NOT been doing anything Fancy, Fabulous, or Fantastic. Nope , I have just been doing the regular, everyday things that people generally do. You know WORK, WORK, WORK,…
    - 30 Apr 16, 7:55pm -
  • Sunshine VoxBox! Yaaayyy!
    I have spent the last couple of weeks testing and reviewing the treasures I received in my Sunshine VoxBox! For those of you who don't know I joined the Influenster Community and as a result I occasionally receive VoxBoxes of treasures to review and…
    - 10 Aug 15, 2:56pm -
  • Maslow's Hierarchy From A Godly Perspective
    Almost all academics have either touched on or had in depth teaching on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. For any of you who have not had the pleasure, let me explain. Abraham Harold Maslow was an American psychologist who wrote a paper in 1943 titled "…
    - 31 Jul 15, 4:32pm -
  • Leaving A Legacy... One Worth Sharing
    We need to be mindful that this generation and the generations to come are looking for US to leave a LEGACY. What does LEGACY mean to you?According to Merriam Webster online dictionary Legacy is:1:  a gift by will especially of money or other person…
    - 28 Jul 15, 8:38pm -
  • Emotions Versus Wisdom
    We, Humans are emotional! No one alive can say they have never been emotional about a person, an event, or a situation. Emotions are not bad but they cannot rule your life. Emotions have the ability to take us where common sense or wisdom cannot keep…
    - 26 Jul 15, 1:57pm -
  • I AM Going To Be Me, Like It Or Not!
    When you see me, what do you see? A Mother, a Grandmother, a Christian, a Trouble maker, a Divorcee’, a Black Woman? Society has become very adept at labeling people to fit into what they think is an acceptable label. After labeling you then people…
    - 16 Jul 15, 2:20pm -
  • Heart Of A Warrior - Stephen Curry, NBA Champion
    I am not a big basketball fan, so a blog post about basketball is pretty much very out of character for me. However I just wanted to point out a few things…For those of you who do not know the NBA Finals was a match-up between the Cleveland Cavalie…
    - 17 Jun 15, 2:52pm -
  • Jamberry Nail Wraps
    I have a facebook friend named Sara, who has embarked upon a new entrepreneurial adventure. She has started a Jamberry Nail Wraps business. I got a sample wrap to try and I told Sara I would blog about it.If you do not know what Jamberry Nail Wraps a…
    - 4 Jun 15, 2:42pm -
  • Whew! Texas Rain 2015...
    Well in case you have not seen the news lately, Texas has had almost 2 straight months of rain. There has been no rain fall like this in years according to news agents. For almost two months it was almost daily/nightly thunderstorms and tornadoes acr…
    - 4 Jun 15, 12:56pm -
  • Why I Broke Up With Mother's Day
    Now that Mother’s day is over and safely behind us and hopefully the residue is gone, I can tell you why I broke up with Mother’s day. I know it is shocking and came as a surprise to me as well. Matter of fact I have not even broken the news to m…
    - 12 May 15, 1:21pm -
  • Prove it!
    You are innocent until proven guilty … or so they say. In order to PROVE anything you need solid evidence. There has to be proof of what is said. Just the WORDS of others or just your WORDS are not enough to prove anything.According to Dictionary.c…
    - 27 Apr 15, 2:36pm -
  • Out Of Darkness Into HIS Marvelous Light
    King James Version 1 Peter 2:9 says, “But Ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of Him who hath called you out of darkness into His marvelous light”.Amplified Versi…
    - 15 Mar 15, 5:13pm -
  • Racism, Sexism, Yes This Is America!
    I often hear people say, "I'm NOT into politics" and every time I hear that I think or say "Then you better be into JESUS"! This world that we know and sometimes love is spiraling out of control. Times are crucial and PRAYER is REQUIRED, Prayer is NO…
    - 25 Jan 15, 6:18pm -
  • Empty Nest Coming Soon!
    Ever have that sense that something is over? That you have reached the end of a thing, time, moment, relationship, or era? I am feeling that way now. Since moving to Texas my children and I have lived together. Not all of them, all at the same time b…
    - 24 Jan 15, 12:30am -
  • Live On Purpose
    We are officially two weeks into the new year. So far are you liking what 2015 has to offer?? I can honestly say that for me I have been so busy packing that I have not even had time to process the fact that we are in another year. My current lease i…
    - 13 Jan 15, 2:50pm -
  • Frosty Vox Box - Review
    I recently received a FROSTY VOX BOX in the mail! YAAAAYYYY ME!! This was like an additional Christmas present!In case you are new to my blog, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE to receive gifts and packages in the mail! The reason I joined the INFLUENSTER co…
    - 6 Jan 15, 1:39am -
  • McCormick Thyme Review
    In my recent Frosty Vox Box I received from INFLUENSTER, I received some McCormick All Natural Thyme. The same day that I received the Thyme my daughter (the Chef) made some spinach dip. She used the Thyme to add a little kick to it! She loves cookin…
    - 5 Jan 15, 8:29pm -
  • Out With The Old 2014, In With The New 2015
    As the year of 2014 draws to an end I want to take a moment to reflect on my biggest accomplishment of 2014. Some of you may know that I have been in school for a number of years. To date I have obtained an Associate Degree in Human Services Manageme…
    - 31 Dec 14, 12:40pm -
  • What A Difference Two Weeks Makes!
    Two weeks ago I was stressing and praying and stressing some more. Stress and prayer are pretty much polar opposites!! If you are going to stress over a situation then why pray and if you PRAY OVER THAT SITUATION why stress it?!?! I never claimed to…
    - 24 Nov 14, 9:42pm -
  • 2015 Daily Planner by Sue Hooley, A Review
    I am EXCITED! You all KNOW how much I LOVE FREE STUFF!! Well, I was blessed with the opportunity to review a fabulous product! I reviewed Sue Hooley's 2014 AND 2015 Daily Planner! Yes! Two products for the price of one!*Sue Hooley and CWA Review Cre…
    - 28 Oct 14, 8:21pm -
  • An Insider's Guide To Spiritual Warfare - Book Review
    I recently read a book by Kristine McGuire that was very interesting. This is the second book by Kristine McGuire that I have read. I read AND reviewed her book "Escaping The Cauldron" (you can read that review HERE).Well once again, it is October! H…
    - 16 Oct 14, 3:30pm -
  • Tyler Perry is Expecting A Baby And The World Just Stopped Spinning!
    I do not generally blog about celebrities. Frankly, there are enough other people who spend THEIR LIFE worrying about what celebrities do, what they eat, where they sleep, who they sleep with, etc. So I tend to stay out of the celebrity scandal genre…
    - 24 Sep 14, 6:45pm -

Say It, "Rah-shay"

  • I see you
    Thank you for reading what I write!In which a stream of consciousness brain dump guides these words and attempts to make some sense of the world. I see you. You don’t know what to say and that’s cool. I know it’s hard to acknowledge that thi…
    - 3 days ago 14 Aug 17, 5:16pm -
  • On the Needles: Barley Hat
    Thank you for reading what I write!The shop had a hat called "Barley" made up with the yarn and I just had to get me some! The pattern is free on Ravely and it really is easy to work up. A few knit rows, a few purl rows and the hat is coming togeth…
    - 3 days ago 14 Aug 17, 10:23am -
  • Tales From the Garden
    Thank you for reading what I write!It's empowering to see you garden grow, harvest your efforts and then be rewarded with fresh greens!The post Tales From the Garden appeared first on Say It, "Rah-shay".
    - 4 days ago 13 Aug 17, 9:16pm -
  • Bring in the THUNDER!
    Thank you for reading what I write!I have been sharing an old post about the time I got to see the Australian group Thunder Down Under (read it here) but now want to share deets on how YOU can check out their upcoming show. Let me just say that it i…
    - 6 days ago 11 Aug 17, 4:46pm -
  • Belly Busters: The Institute
    Thank you for reading what I write!I totally thought that "The Institute" was like, a museum, cultural place. Nope. It's a bar. With an old orange tabby cat who slept on a set of stairs or chilled at a table and burgers that are so darn yummy!The…
    - 10 days ago 8 Aug 17, 1:38am -
  • On the Needles: Knitting with Bulky Yarn
    Thank you for reading what I write!Summer in Philly is now doing that thing where there are days when the humidity is not quite as hellish and the days can be, dare I say it, pleasant! This means that evenings after work makes me want to grab a chai…
    - 11 days ago 7 Aug 17, 1:24am -
  • August 3rd is Watermelon Day
    Thank you for reading what I write!I have such a love hate relationship with watermelon.The post August 3rd is Watermelon Day appeared first on Say It, "Rah-shay".
    - 15 days ago 3 Aug 17, 1:23am -

The House of Ladylee

  • newA Special Birthday Month!
    No it's not my birthday month. But it's my brother and sister's birthday month.Happy 30th Birthday to Kari (Milk and Cookies), and Happy 36th Birthday to Kentucky.(Today is actually Kentucky's birthday!)I wanted to post my favorite picture of us. No,…
    - 21 mins ago 17 Aug 17, 5:26pm -
  • Wordless Wednesday: When Big Mitch Thinks He's Hiding...

    - 1 day ago 16 Aug 17, 4:49pm -
  • Roots and Fruits (Book Review of Small Great Things)
    Oh once again, we are EMBROILED in chaos. I am so sick of it. Ugh. Thank goodness I can just turn off the TV and do something constructive and valuable. But all of this has reminded me of a book I read. Not all of, but the sight of white nationalists…
    - 2 days ago 15 Aug 17, 8:16am -
  • Untitled

    - 3 days ago 14 Aug 17, 6:44pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    Hey...You know it's a good day when it's not raining cats and dogs. And you can open the sunroof of the Lexus!GLORY! You know it's a good week when you're folding clothes and a piece of currency falls out.And it's NOT a $1 bill. That was awesome. I…
    - 6 days ago 11 Aug 17, 7:07pm -
  • Atlanta Noir Book Party TONIGHT
    So Newy is blowing down the comments concerning the next reading.For some odd reason, I didn't even think to put it up here. I guess because I put it on Facebook...Atlanta Noir Book PartyCharis Books in Little Five Points. 7:30 pmSpeakers: Jennifer H…
    - 7 days ago 10 Aug 17, 2:46pm -
  • A Special Gift (The Glass from the House)
    My sister Kentucky attended my reading last Thursday and she brought me the most beautiful bouquet of flowers. How lovely are those?Needless to say, flowers don't do well at my house. Sista Callie Jo  and Mitch see flowers and plants and think..."Ye…
    - 8 days ago 9 Aug 17, 7:03pm -
  • Sweepstakes Time... Atlanta Noir giveaway
    So... I am giving away a couple of copies of Atlanta Noir. Autographed by yours truly!!All you have to do is comment on a post from this week or last week. So comment on any post since August 1. I think we will run this contest until AUGUST 15th.So m…
    - 9 days ago 8 Aug 17, 6:16pm -
  • Things Left on My Desk
    People always leave interesting things on my desk... This offering has been the most fascinating as of late. A plastic bag of potatoes.*lee looks left**lee looks right*Then I remember...The Cowgirl Cre had extra, and she hooked me up.Good looking out…
    - 10 days ago 7 Aug 17, 6:33pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    Friday!!This week has gone by in a flash.And I am SO ready for the weekend.This has been one of the most important weeks of my year. If you don't know, see the last post.I am still on an emotional high from that! And I have had to keep practicing my…
    - 13 days ago 4 Aug 17, 6:27pm -
  • Oh What a Night
    All I can say is... Oh What a Night. Four simple words. But they are full of glee and joy. They leave me breathless.Oh what a night!This was the first time that I can remember not being nervous when giving a talk in front of  a bunch of people. And…
    - 15 days ago 2 Aug 17, 6:44pm -
  • Friday Freestyles!
    It is Friday.AND it is PAYDAY.Oh joy, oh joy, oh joy.This day has been...just the day. I got a few things done in the lab. I have not seen immediate management. I saw my Director twice today. Hmm...I smiled. I chatted. I waved. And I kept it stepping…
    - 20 days ago 28 Jul 17, 6:30pm -
  • Something New...
    So here's my new piece of lawn equipment. It is a trimmer.A rather large and heavy trimmer.A gas powered trimmer. My last one was a battery powered one. It worked well with a rechargeable battery, but when I needed a new battery... uh, I couldn't fin…
    - 22 days ago 26 Jul 17, 6:23pm -
  • Monday Night Musings
    Monday!And this has been a pretty decent Monday.And I remember waking up this morning eager to get to work because I had some data to pull. I pulled it, but I need to re-crunch it tomorrow. And that is okay. I just like being busy and gainfully emplo…
    - 24 days ago 24 Jul 17, 6:32pm -
  • Freestyles on a Friday
    Yes yes, ya'll....And you don't stop.Because it is FRIDAY!!But it is not payday... and that is okay. That will be next Friday.This has been a slow week.  I'd gotten so use to getting up in the mornings and going to the hospital to be with my sister,…
    - 27 days ago 21 Jul 17, 5:32pm -
  • When Concerns Bring Changes... Hmm
    Folks in my county have been in an utter uproar over the extreme hikes in our property taxes.I have to admit the hike was out of the blue. Property taxes went up by some 50% for some folks. My taxes increased by 800%. Mind you, my taxes were artifici…
    - 29 days ago 19 Jul 17, 6:33pm -
  • The Burn
    Something I love to dabble in from time to time is loose teas.I find some good ones in bulk here and there, and that's always a fun thing.I've found one that is especially complex at my local Whole Foods, and I just can't get enough of it.Cinnamon ca…
    - 30 days ago 18 Jul 17, 6:53pm -
  • Monday Evening Blues
    I am not sure why I titled the post that.I am not blue.It's a bit dreary here in my beloved ATL, but it's no reason to be blue. Sure it's all hot and sticky outside, and it will probably rain at any moment... yet, it's no reason to be blue.Title just…
    - 31 days ago 17 Jul 17, 7:05pm -
  • Thursday Thoughts
    I haven't been around much this week, as my sister has been in the hospital and I'm trying to sit with her and be an advocate and ask questions. Her Dad is there now, so I got a chance to come on in to work. I needed to sign some paperwork due on Fri…
    - 35 days ago 13 Jul 17, 4:23pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    Friday!!Finally!Today went by slowly, so slowly that this 3 day workweek felt like a 5 day workweek. I have been clock watching. And if I could find a few toothpicks to hold my eyelids open, I would be good.I wish I had a good hiding place at work wh…
    - 41 days ago 7 Jul 17, 5:59pm -
  • Ten (Plus) Thursday Thoughts
    This week has flown by fast. I THINK it is Thursday. So I need to post. I think. So here are my immediate thoughts... On a Thursday. 1. I am not sure why I haven't blogged all week.2. I think it is because we had that long holiday weekend.3. I STIL…
    - 42 days ago 6 Jul 17, 5:37pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    Friday!! And it is PAYDAY!And they got my check right! And in the bank on time!GLORY!!!And this Oldgirl has a 4 DAY WEEKEND on deck!And I have all these glorious plans on my mind,like writing, going to the gym, editing, decluttering, etc. But in real…
    - 48 days ago 30 Jun 17, 6:10pm -
  • Two Thursday Thoughts
    A little something different for our Tuesday Thoughts. Quotes!Quote#1Quote#2
    - 49 days ago 29 Jun 17, 4:55pm -
  • That Good Sleep...

    - 51 days ago 27 Jun 17, 4:17pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    Friday!So glad of that. And I can't wait to bounce out and get home.I am fully awake and ready to go, especially since it is NOT payday.Because on Payday, the blinds of my mind are at half staff. Yes they are.I have been doing SUPERVISORY duties this…
    - 55 days ago 23 Jun 17, 6:21pm -

Whose shoes are these anyway?

  • Robin Sloan's 2004-2015 EPIC or Google and Amazon Take Over the World
    (Initial post was at Jersey Goddess in 2004 or 2005.) First post of the month as I try to NaBloPoMo, the National Blog Posting Month project that pushes participating bloggers to post one blog per day for a month. I thought it fitting that my first p…
    - 39 days ago 9 Jul 17, 1:15pm -
  • Teen kills himself after woman, 45, rejects him - 1876
    I do genealogical research. As a result, I sometimes search old newspapers, and from time to time, I am drawn to stories like the one in the screen shot that are written more like fiction than fact. The text is farther down in this post.The old-sty…
    - 74 days ago 4 Jun 17, 2:26pm -
  • Research

    - 1 Apr 17, 1:58pm -
  • Prince plays songs from his vault in concert, 2009 (video)
    I came across this treasure on YouTube, His Purple Highness performing songs from The Vault:  Old Friends for Sale and other jazz pieces in a Los Angeles concert, 2009. I bought a copy of the album a few years ago. The concert is so much more. BTW,…
    - 9 Aug 16, 3:30pm -
  • Southside with You: Obamas' love story opens this month
    I was so deep in the academic hole for the first six months of the year that I completely missed news about the movie Southside with You, the story of Michelle and Barack Obama's romance. The film pays homage to the president and First Lady's initia…
    - 5 Aug 16, 10:38am -
  • Rattle Magazine published my poem last month
    Almost a month has passed since Rattle Magazine published my poem "Digital Anthropologists Find Our Hashtags" for its Poets Respond series. The poem explores specifically the consecutive shooting deaths of Alton Sterling in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, an…
    - 4 Aug 16, 1:44pm -
  • Great Prince story from Matt Damon (video)
    Rolling Stone has posted video of Matt Damon telling a great Prince story on the Jimmy Fallon show.  Of course, all Prince stories bring me joy except the one about his passing in April.Damon is out promoting his latest film in the Bourne Ident…
    - 29 Jul 16, 11:46am -
  • #PRINCE BET Tribute or When Jennifer Hudson Tore Me Up (Purple Rain Video)
    Jennifer Hudson tore my heart out singing "Purple Rain" during the Prince Tribute on the BET Awards last night. I have nothing to add to this other than Stevie Wonder and Tori Kelly appear on this video, too, and perform with love also. Stevie was u…
    - 27 Jun 16, 11:52am -
  • A bittersweet Happy Birthday to Prince, BET Awards plans to drop mic (Video)
    Prince Rogers Nelson, his Royal Purpleness, would have been 58 today, June 7, 2016.In other news about the late, great megastar who died this April, BET Network has promised to deliver "the greatest Prince tribute ever" at its 2016 BET Awards…
    - 7 Jun 16, 11:47am -
  • Surprise Prince, Alicia Keys duet, 'How Come You Don't Call Me Anymore' (video)
    Nothing to add here. The video speaks for itself.
    - 7 Jun 16, 1:43am -
  • Medical Examiner says reports that Prince overdosed are gossip
    According to USA TODAY update on Prince's death earlier today,  reports that Prince overdosed are merely gossip."Forget those reports that Percocet was found in Prince's body, says the medical examiner's office investigating the musician's still…
    - 5 May 16, 8:25pm -
  • So, will.I.am, Prince, and Michael Jackson walk into a Vegas bar . . .
    Having gotten into several debates about who's the greater genius, Prince or Michael Jackson, I love this story will.i.am tells Ellen Degeneres on her show in the video above. The public's always been curious about the tension between Michael Jacks…
    - 30 Apr 16, 1:54pm -
  • Van Jones tells the most important Prince story
    On CNN, Van Jones tells the truth about Prince's life, which is that Prince was a generous soul. He says this is the most important story to remember about the man other than Prince was a genius musician.I knew some of what Jones said about what Pr…
    - 24 Apr 16, 12:32pm -
  • Prince on New Girl and SNL - 2014
    The old video clips of this episode that I had on my 2014 post have vanished, of course. I think Fox made the me private? I don't know. But someone else had this video of Jess & Nick meeting Prince on that episode. This has always made me laugh.I…
    - 21 Apr 16, 10:21pm -
  • Rest in Peace, beloved Prince
    I am a Prince fanatic. That's all I can say because I am undone by news of his death.
    - 21 Apr 16, 2:06pm -
  • Flashback: Julia Child and Emeril's 1993 Master Chefs video
    I can follow a recipe or simply throw something on the stove to see what happens, but I don't think of myself as a cook. That's probably because I don't love cooking. Still, watching this 1993 episode of Julia Child's PBS series, Cooking with Master…
    - 11 Apr 16, 8:16pm -
  • Teaching black children to be slave catchers
    Nothing reveals more than U.S. slave narratives (such as the one that follows) the psychological damage done to the enslaved in the U.S.A. and the ways slavery destroyed the black family. The horrific dysfunction of American society during slavery un…
    - 19 Mar 16, 1:54pm -
  • The worst thing the Democratic Party can do now
    Dear Democratic Party Members:by Nordette N. AdamsA "presidential" candidate has stoodon television where he has proclaimedhis genitalia grand and ready wood.Even in such small things, it’s his aimto shield his huge ego no matter what…
    - 5 Mar 16, 4:34pm -
  • Oxford Dictionaries agrees usage examples should not be political
    After anthropologist Michael Oman-Reagan created a stir on Twitter about the Oxford English Dictionary's questionable common usage examples, he discovered that I had written a blog post almost two years earlier discussing the same example he had cite…
    - 30 Jan 16, 3:09pm -
  • Steven Hart: Star Wars does not draw on literary classics but on classic pulp SciFi
    I saw Star Wars: The Force Awakens on New Years Day with my daughter, her boyfriend, and their friends. Yes, I enjoyed it. Director J. J. Abrams and co-writers Michael Arndt and Lawrence Kasdan have crafted a wonderful balance between the wit and act…
    - 2 Jan 16, 7:32pm -
  • A Personal Goodbye to All That for 2015 and Hello 2016
    We humans love to make resolutions for the New Year. I don't really do that, but I think New Year's Eve is a good time reflect on 10 things I did in the year that's ending that I would prefer not to do again and to have in mind ways to become better…
    - 31 Dec 15, 4:07pm -
  • An Absence of The Donald
    Notice that this blog has not given any real attention to Donald the Dump Trump this election season.I'm just saying.
    - 21 Dec 15, 3:11pm -
  • Black Writers in a Post-Racial Age?
    By now, anyone who's been paying attention knows that post-racial is just another myth among America's press clippings. I doubt that the publishing world has ever believed itself to be post-racial though. Consider the watermelon joke at the National…
    - 21 Dec 15, 3:04pm -
  • Black Woman at the Intersection: Sean Penn vs. Lee Daniels
    This is not going to be some super thoughtful post such as one Tammy Winfrey Harris would write. This post is just me saying, "What the hell!" Sean Penn has filed a $1,000,000 defamation lawsuit against Lee Daniels, the man behind Fox's saucy, ground…
    - 22 Sep 15, 11:51pm -
  • Quaint Magazine Interview with Nordette N. Adams
    And so this happened: I was interviewed by Quaint Magazine about the big poetry and music event I coordinated for this weekend, Born to the Beat.I am grateful to Quaint for interviewing me about Born to the Beat because I am trying my best…
    - 10 Sep 15, 7:09pm -

Life.Love&Marriage

  • My sister's wedding reception ♥
    It has taken me a little while to get these pictures up because sometimes I make my own self crazy with the amount of pictures I take. Granted, I don't have to share so many of them on here but yeah ... Any who, I'm sure you already know, but uploadi…
    - 6 days ago 11 Aug 17, 6:26am -
  • Before & After (Landscaping)
    A few months ago, I advised that we had our landscaping done in the front of our house. Like I mentioned, it was not a major change as we kept the plants we already had and just added a few more. The major change was choosing red mulch which I love…
    - 9 days ago 8 Aug 17, 7:10am -
  • Currently.
    feeling accomplished. We closed on our rental property a few weeks ago and have started fixing up the bottom apartment for our future tenants. The floors have been refinished; we’re painting the living space and updating the bathroom a bit with a…
    - 14 days ago 3 Aug 17, 7:48am -
  • Short Trip to Jim Thorpe PA
    Last month, Sean and I made our way to Leaser Lake but we soon found that although it was beautiful, very peaceful and a great place to grab a seat and read for hours, we wanted more of a lay on the sand and dip our toes in water if we felt the need.…
    - 16 days ago 1 Aug 17, 5:58am -
  • Cherry picking fun
    We missed strawberry picking by two days. TWO DAYS! If you know me, you know that strawberries are my favorite fruit. When one of the workers informed us that there were only cherries to be picked you can say that I was slightly disappointed. I disl…
    - 21 days ago 27 Jul 17, 5:54am -
  • Lunch with the Girls
    It had been a little while since the three of us had gotten together as Margaret’s schedule is all over the place. It wasn’t until the day before that we actually made plans for the three of us to get lunch at The Bayou. The two of them were my…
    - 24 days ago 24 Jul 17, 6:34am -
  • My sister's wedding ceremony ♥
    As many of you are aware, my little sister got married a few Saturdays ago. It was a very simple affair. A ceremony that only family members were invited to at their home church. Their reception was actually this last weekend which friends were in…
    - 31 days ago 17 Jul 17, 11:18am -
  • Life.
    Lately, I’ve been feeling a tightness in my chest. Not sure where it is coming from because I know think I am OK. I don’t feel like I’m anxious but I must be. I wake up with heavy eyes that make it seem as though I did not sleep although I c…
    - 35 days ago 13 Jul 17, 8:32am -
  • The Forgotten.
    I was looking at some posts that have been sitting in drafts for years. This one specifically was written on 5/3/2013. I was not yet 30 years old when I wrote the post. I don't know if I just forgot to hit publish because it appears to me that this…
    - 37 days ago 11 Jul 17, 7:32am -
  • Random Thursday Morning Ramblings
    - Ever want to feel old? Ask Alexa to play current hip hop music. I don't know ANY of the latest songs or their artists! - So real question. Can gray hair turn back brown? Because that's what is happening to me! I got my first grey hairs last y…
    - 49 days ago 29 Jun 17, 7:01am -
  • Relaxing weekends are my jam.
    Two weekends ago, the weather called for thunderstorms so we made plans to watch as many movies at home as possible. Sean is not the best movie watcher because he always falls asleep but this time around I was the one who fell asleep; not normal at…
    - 51 days ago 27 Jun 17, 7:08am -
  • Priyanka and Anshul's Engagement Ceremony
    A few weekends ago, I was tasked with taking pictures of Priyanka and Anshul’s engagement ceremony. Priyanka and Sean work together and after we did a brunch date together I couldn’t help but like these two. They come packed with amazing vibes…
    - 56 days ago 22 Jun 17, 10:59am -
  • What inspires you?
    What brings you inspiration? The obvious answers for me are travel, amazing photography, nature, God's ability to always love and forgive me and the beach. But there are also simpler things that bring me inspiration as well. The morning light peek…
    - 58 days ago 20 Jun 17, 7:40am -
  • Currently.
    The picture below is a random picture but last weekend we were driving and Sean turns around and says, "we have to check out that view". We had never seen this view before and we jokingly called it our "LA view" in PA. See? I told you, random.feeli…
    - 62 days ago 16 Jun 17, 7:05am -
  • Around our Home.
    I received a request about one month ago to share more house posts. Since I was already taking pictures of the brunch I threw two weekends ago, I decided to take a few pictures of the house to share as some sort of house update.I’m still working o…
    - 65 days ago 13 Jun 17, 5:56am -
  • A Spring Mimosa Tasting Brunch
    I threw a mimosa tasting brunch for a few of my PA girlfriends last weekend and we had such a good time! Now that the weather is warming up, I get this urge to host more at home. When I woke up, I immediately checked the weather and luckily although…
    - 70 days ago 8 Jun 17, 5:51pm -
  • Fort Launderdale Weekend Getaway

    - 72 days ago 6 Jun 17, 6:21am -
  • Three day weekends ♥
    Thank you to the men and women who sacrificed it all to ensure that each day I can wake up and live a life full of freedoms that so many do not have.------------------I'm the biggest advocate of three day weekends. Two day weekends are just not enou…
    - 78 days ago 31 May 17, 6:13pm -
  • Update.
    Last year, around this time I was just getting back into the swing of things. I was back to work, able to walk and exercise and getting my strength back. Best of all, I was off narcotics! I was still on blood thinners but at least not on narcotics…
    - 80 days ago 29 May 17, 8:09am -
  • Summer Bucket List.
    A few weeks ago, Cinthia and I decided to come up with a bucket list for our summer. I know, silly, but we are pretty excited for this summer because last summer I was kinda out of commission and she worked a second job so we didn’t really get to…
    - 84 days ago 25 May 17, 7:04am -
  • Baby D's dedication BBQ.
    I'm back from a weekend getaway to Fort Launderdale and boy do I need to detox. I don't know why I have to be so extra and believe that calories don't count on the weekends or on vacations. They certainly do as I'm carrying more pounds than I did be…
    - 86 days ago 23 May 17, 6:24am -
  • Spring evenings.
    One of my favorite things to do when the weather gets warm is grill; or better yet when Sean grills because Lord knows I’ve never operated a grill before. I like my eyebrows whereas Sean doesn't seem to care too much about his. Everything just tas…
    - 92 days ago 17 May 17, 6:22am -
  • Ebb & Flow
    It doesn’t seem to matter that although I’ve seen this bush bloom since Spring 2015 it still always surprises me when they bloom again. They bloom so quickly and disappear just as fast. And because of that I always make sure to take a few pictu…
    - 94 days ago 15 May 17, 7:09am -
  • Mother's Day without mom.
    This will be my second year without my mom on Mother’s Day. It is strange because before my mom passed away I never really gave much thought about how hard this occasion is for those without moms/dads. I cared but it was fleeting and not personal…
    - 99 days ago 10 May 17, 7:23am -
  • The last of Mexico.
    You’re probably wondering; how could she possibly have more pictures to share from Mexico? The answer is: It’s because I’m crazy. When you’re like me and have five days to take pictures, you do it and you do it excessively. But good news is…
    - 8 May 17, 6:56pm -

All the Many Layers

  • The #30Layers30Days Writing Challenge
    We started on November 1, but feel free to join in at any time!  I have been sharing my daily posts on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.  You can also feel free to keep your work private and write in your journal.   If you would like to read and co…
    - 7 Nov 16, 10:40am -
  • new workshops, new blog, new book
    Hey!  Long time no see.I started All the Many Layers at the end of 2012 and it's been my home as I ventured into self-employment and authorship and all kinds of creative adventures.  Right now I have that bittersweet feeling of wanting to go and w…
    - 14 Sep 16, 3:51pm -
  • you are going to have to fall
    my one and only I had a plan.   I thought I would take a huge leap of faith that would change my life drastically, then I'd sit back and watch everything fall into place. Because that is what people say:  it all falls into place.  More accurate f…
    - 19 Apr 16, 1:14pm -
  • overcoming anxiety with minimalism { 10 ideas for a simpler life }
    People make me nervous. So do unexpected phone calls, overbooked schedules and uncomfortable clothes. Life in general makes me nervous.  So many people and problems and energies and uncertainties.  I'm sensitive to all of it.The older I get, the mo…
    - 1 Apr 16, 1:34pm -
  • one day I said it's enough
    She was nothing like me.  I could tell by the things she said to him and the way he responded to her.  She seemed to bring out a side of him I'd never seen before and while their exchange infuriated me, it also intrigued me.   Was this the real hi…
    - 10 Mar 16, 2:39pm -
  • less judgment, more love
    There's about three feet of snow on the ground and I see a woman who looks like she needs help.  But I don't help her.  Because awhile back I'd decided that this woman was mean and my assumptions wouldn't let me move. I'm walking the few feet from…
    - 5 Feb 16, 3:30pm -
  • Preparation + Opportunity + Abundance (and a Special Offer)
    Motherhood, Depression and Sex Panel at Catalyst Con East with Jessica Cary, Anain Bjorkquist and Miko TechnogeishaOver the past two months, I have sat on and hosted panels at two conferences.  I got to speak about topics that I am deeply passionate…
    - 7 May 15, 11:08am -
  • The Big, Bigger, Biggest Problem
    sourceMy problem, your problem, everyone's problem... Is that we think we are not supposed to have any problems. We've been conditioned to avoid problems, mistakes and hardships. So when we struggle, we are not only dealing with the objective situ…
    - 6 Apr 15, 2:34pm -
  • When We Judge Ourselves Most Harshly
    source"A writer – and, I believe, all persons – must think that whatever happens to him or her is a resource. All things have been given to us for a purpose, and an artist must feel this more intensely. All that happens to us, including our misfo…
    - 22 Mar 15, 9:39am -
  • Do You Write Better Than You Talk?
    photo credit:  dfinneyphoto.comThe Words That Move Writing Workshop is a 4-week online writing course for: // Writers who have lost their M O J O.//  Writers who are scared to call themselves writers. //  Writers who feel blocked and unins…
    - 19 Mar 15, 10:28am -
  • She Always Waits for Me
    source“You’re a liar. You said you would wear the blue one and you said you would wear your hair down. I’m beginning to think that you just tell me things to shut me up.”I step in the front door, kiss my accuser on the cheek and bear hug he…
    - 9 Mar 15, 6:49pm -
  • I Thought He Would Leave If I Let Him See Me
    On speaking the truth and hearing the truth without fear.I was silent in my relationship.I didn't have a voice and I resented my partner and myself because of it.I didn't speak up because I didn't want to push him away. I thought I could pretend to…
    - 17 Feb 15, 7:11pm -
  • do you keep your promises to yourself?
    www.ayceebrownphoto.comI promise...  gratitude. truth. courage. faith.You might be afraid to aim too high.You might be afraid to entertain too much happiness because you fear that it could be taken away. Disappointments.  Wasted time.  Maybe you j…
    - 9 Feb 15, 5:35pm -
  • How to Protect Your Energy and Preserve Your Peace of Mind (Step by Step)
    sourceOne minute you're fine.  The next minute you feel like you've been slapped.  Punched in the stomach.  Caught off guard.  Ripped from your happy place. It could be a small thing.  It could be a huge thing.  It might not even matter thirty…
    - 5 Jan 15, 3:40pm -
  • The Art of Writing Words That Move (1:1 Mentoring with GG)
    sourceTo me, everything is an intimate conversation or it's not worth talking.  Even if I'm in a room full of people and a speaker is on the stage, I either feel you like you are talking directly to me or I don't feel you.  If I'm watching a perfor…
    - 3 Dec 14, 6:40pm -
  • Does Anyone Even See Me? The Struggle to Feel Important.
    source"Don't demand attention.  Inspire it."  -  Francheska MedinaSometimes I catch myself wanting to feel more important.  Craving acknowledgment, gold stars and approval.  Not appreciating my own attention -- the smiles I give myself,  the sa…
    - 6 Oct 14, 3:41pm -
  • Weakness or Strength? When Arguing Sucks the Life Out of You.
    sourceDo you ever feel weak or misunderstood because you're not competitive and you don't like to argue?Some people love to argue and debate over every little thing, like they need to constantly spar with someone to feel productive.  I happen to hav…
    - 10 Sep 14, 1:33pm -
  • 44 Self-Discovery Quotes to Inspire You // #30Layers30Days
    . Finally September 1 has arrived and I'm kicking off my first self-discovery challenge #30Layers30Days.   If you would like to sign up to receive the daily email prompts, you can do so here.  Also, follow along on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram…
    - 1 Sep 14, 4:26pm -
  • Is This How Everything Just Falls Into Place?
    source"You shouldn’t try to stop everything from happening. Sometimes you’re supposed to feel awkward. Sometimes you’re supposed to be vulnerable in front of people. Sometimes it’s necessary because it’s all part of you getting to the next…
    - 11 Aug 14, 6:07pm -
  • How to Use Writing As a Self-Discovery Practice
    The link in the photo is wrong. Sorry.  Use this one instead."She has learned to love. To fear. To hate. And then to love again.  Through it all, she writes." - Kimberly KinradeI decided awhile back that if I'm going to cling to anything, it's goin…
    - 5 Jul 14, 9:00am -
  • Acne Sucks and I Don't Feel Pretty Without Makeup
    “I don't know. Just because someone's pretty doesn't mean she's decent. Or vice versa. I'm not into appearances. I like flaws, I think they make things interesting.” - Sarah DessenI'll be the first one to tell you that makeup should be an indulg…
    - 5 May 14, 2:26pm -
  • I Felt Like I'd Been Thrown Away
    source“I learned to love myself but only after the love of others would not quite do.” – Shefon NachelleDo you remember your first love?Oh, I do. The rush! The urgency! The passion! No one could tell me that we were not meant to be. Young and u…
    - 25 Mar 14, 2:52pm -
  • Blood, Sweat and Tears // A Magic Potion for Dreamers
    sourceThere’s no miracle in a jar that will magically make your hair grow overnight or make all your dreams come true. Whether we're talking about hair or life, when we want to make something happen, we have to experience it internally before it ca…
    - 17 Feb 14, 1:40pm -
  • I'll Be Right Back, But First A Preview
     sourceThings will be pretty slow around here for the next couple of weeks, but I’ll be back on July 15 with a vengeance. If you’ve been following the blog using Google Reader, you already know that it will be gone after today. I’d…
    - 1 Jul 13, 4:34pm -

Chasing Joy

  • Round Up: 100 Ways For Singles To Have The Very Best Valentine's Day
    Valentine's Day is coming up.  As you long time readers know I am single.  I have been single for way more Valentine's Days than I have been in a relationship.  Actually I think I have only had a Valentine about 2 or 3 times.  So, I know that Val…
    - 8 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Miscarriage Update, Nothing Joyful About It.
    Oh how I wish every post on Chasing Joy could be a happy one.  Unfortunately that is not the case.  On Fridays I post Baby Making Updates on my journey to becoming a Single Mother By Choice.  Last Fridays Baby Making Update was a sad one.  This o…
    - 5 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Four Reasons You Will Love And Find Joy At Philadelphia Restaurant Week
    Restaurant Week!!!!  I love Restaurant Week. I even did a video about Restaurant Week when I was participating in VEDA.   Restaurant Week just ended here in Philly and I got to go on the last day.  This was probably like my 20th time.  Philadelph…
    - 1 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: Am I Pregnant or Not??? IUI #6 Using Donor Sperm Results
    It's time to test!  I have to say this was my most emotional experience thus far. Was my 6th IUI THE ONE!!!Let's find out... Oh, special shout out for all who watch the video to the end.  Sorry it's a long one, but like I said lot's of emotional st…
    - 29 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Using Scripture In A Practical Way To Chase Joy
    This year my theme word is surrender as I realize one of the main things that robs me of the joy I'm chasing is worrying about things that I cannot control.  I need to surrender those things to God.As I develop goals through the year I am keeping my…
    - 27 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Why I'm Not Planning My Co-Worker's Wedding Shower
    Normally my blog posts are about things that I am doing, want to do, or have done to have more joy.  Today's blog post is different.  Instead, I am going to tell you about something I'm not going to do.  I am not planning my co-worker's wedding sh…
    - 25 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: Live IUI with Frozen Donor Sperm to Become an SMC (Single Mother by Choice)
    Happy Friday!  I guess school and work have conditioned me to love Fridays.  Now they are even more fun because Friday is when I give you guys a baby making update.  So here is this week's.  This week's update is live video of my IUI.  This one…
    - 22 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • I Have A Dream...
    Happy Martin Luther King Day.  As we all know he had a dream.  He had a big dream. A dream for his country, my country, the United States.  We know all about his dream because he did everything he could to achieve it.  He preached about it, march…
    - 18 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • The Plan. IUI #6. Trying To Conceive With Frozen Donor Sperm
    It's a new year and a new cycle.  This update is about gearing myself up for another try at becoming a mom. This is my 10th cycle and 6th IUI.  I cannot believe it has been almost a year since I started trying and over a year since I decided to emb…
    - 15 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy with Char Power!
    A while ago I used to post Way To Go Wednesday status updates on the Chasing Joy Facebook Page.  I have not done an update like that in a while.  But today I have an awesome Way To Go Wednesday shout out to Char Power for having a positive attitude…
    - 13 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • The Fringe Hours For Self-Love & Self-Care
    This is a sponsored post. I was provided with The Fringe Hours materials at no cost to review for this post.  However, all thoughts and opinions expressed herein are my own.Over the  years Chasing Joy has evolved.  Initially, it was about focusing…
    - 11 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Reflecting On One Year Trying To Conceive To Become A Single Mother By Choice
    January is a time of reflection.  A year has ended another has begun.  Am I in the same place this year as I was last year? A better place? A worse Place?  Do I need a goal? A New Year's resolution? Should I go with a theme word?  These are some…
    - 8 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's Word for 2016: Surrender
    It is a new year Joy Chasers, 2016!  This is a time of reflection for many of us.  I'm no different.  I am thinking about this year, how I'd like it to be better than the last couple of years, what growth I'd like to see in the Chasing Joy Brand,…
    - 4 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Dear 2016
    Dear 2016,Welcome!  I am very happy to have you. I welcome you with open arms and optimism.  I am excited for the fresh start that a new year brings. 2016 I don't have a lot of plans for you.  I am trying something a little different this year. I…
    - 1 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Dear 2015
    Dear 2015,I am not even sure what I want to say to you.  I had very high expectations for you.  Now as we prepare to say goodbye in 48 hours I feel that you let me down.  You really dropped the ball  right at the end when you were in position to…
    - 30 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Funny Quotes: Using Laugther to Chase Joy
    Christmas is over.  I cannot believe it came and went so fast.  I had a nice Christmas.  It was a low key day spent with my favorite person, my mom.  Santa was good to both of us so clearly our names were nowhere near the naughty list.In my famil…
    - 28 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Merry Christmas!!!
    Merry Christmas!!!!I wish you all a Happy and Joyful Christmas.  May we all remember what Christmas is all about.The birth of Jesus Christ and His gift of salvation.Family and Friends.Generosity.Food and Fun.Tradition and Reminiscing.How are you spe…
    - 25 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's Top 3 Posts on Staying Happy During The Holidays
    Christmas is only a couple of days away!!!  I hope you are happy and excited about it.  However I know some of you may not be feeling that way. While it is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year that is not always the case.  Often the…
    - 23 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • It Aint All Joyful. Talking Myself Through Uncertainty & Limbo
    Uncertainty!  Limbo! Ugh!!!  These are two things that I hate.  I like being in control.  I like knowing what is coming my way.   I want to prepare.  I want to get in the right mind set.  I want to be ready.  I cannot do any of that when noth…
    - 21 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • How To Keep Going After Disappointment While Trying To Conceive
    This trying to conceive process is not for wimps.  It is a hard and even sobering experience.  To expect to be a parent your whole life, to spend years trying to avoid it before you are ready, only to have negative test after negative test once you…
    - 18 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Give Yourself The Gift Of Kindness
    Christmas is less than two weeks away!  The year is over in less than three weeks!  Are you stressing?  Are you racing around trying to get that perfect gift for you kid, spouse, parent???  Are you putting in long hours at work to make year end d…
    - 14 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Testing, Testing, Pregnant or Not Pregnant
    Here we are again.  The end of the cycle.  The monitoring is done and I have survived yet another two week wait.  Did it work? Am I expecting my very own Bundle of Joy?  Let's watch... If you have trouble with the embedded video click here < Live…
    - 11 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Joyful Quotes: Words of Wisdom From Notable Muslims
    I am a government employee.  I don't talk about it much because I don't blog about work much.  But it does impact this blog.  Since I work for the Feds I cannot write about whatever I want on this blog.  I give up a little of my freedom of speech…
    - 9 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's #JoyOfGiving December Challenge & Giveaway
    I'm still in shock that the year is just about over.  I mean we are a full week into December. How did that happen???  SMH.With only a few weeks left in the year we are all busy.  Hanukkah has started. Christmas is around the corner.  There are g…
    - 7 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: The Wait!!!
    Last week I did not share a baby making update because I figured everyone would be too busy eating leftover turkey and cranberry sauce and shopping on black Friday.  Now that the holiday has passed let's get back to our normally scheduled programing…
    - 4 Dec 15, 12:00am -

'83 To Infinity

  • I STAND WITH ISHAWNA: Dancehall’s ‘Equal Rights’ Fight
    In a piece I wrote last year for The Establishment on women in Jamaica’s dancehall culture, I said the following:Misogyny, violence, and homophobia permeate [hip hop and dancehall], with the male-dominated nature of each being highly prevalent. Th…
    - 86 days ago 23 May 17, 4:26pm -
  • WHAT’S NEXT: Birthdays And The Promise Of New Days
    My mom tells me that she laboured for a fairly long time when I was born. I finally made my grand appearance on the evening of May 10th, then caught my first sunrise on May 11th, beginning my first full day of life.Whenever I think about what some…
    - 98 days ago 11 May 17, 12:02pm -
  • EASY & FLY: Bee’s Crochet Braid Experience
    Crochet braids!(right photo courtesy of Jessica Laforet)If you know me, you know a few things when it comes to hair:I get bored easily.I love low-maintenance looks that don’t look low-maintenance.I like to give my crown a break every now and…
    - 19 Apr 17, 9:17am -
  • PAST GEM: The Beauty of Bacchanal: Celebrating Feminine Freedom Through Carnival
    As I recently said on Twitter, it’s getting close to that time of year where I mute any words related to Trinidad Carnival. I’m missing out on the bacchanal this year, and of all the flavours I could choose to be, I chose to be salty. To all my p…
    - 21 Feb 17, 8:15am -
  • STAY FLY: Fashion Inspiration For The 2017 Black Diamond Ball
    We’re in the midst of Hollywood award season and I don’t know about y’all, but taking in the range of red carpet style – from the daring Grammys to the glamourous Oscars – always makes me yearn for a moment to get dolled up, too.If you’r…
    - 14 Feb 17, 7:54pm -
  • #HIDDENFIGURES: Uncovering Our Stories [+ CONTEST]
    We’re in a new year, filled with new dreams, goals, plans, and wishes. On a micro and macro level though, I’m seeing how important it is that we know where we’ve been so that we can know where we’re going. A perfect example of this is the up…
    - 3 Jan 17, 11:14am -
  • VIOLA ISN’T ROSA: Viola Desmond & The Erasure Of Black Canadian History
    Viola Desmond’s sister Wanda Robson with Canada’s Minister of Finance Bill Morneau – via lpress.comI’m not sure what troubles me more – that so many Canadians are unfamiliar with Viola Desmond, or that so many feel the need to validate he…
    - 8 Dec 16, 1:50pm -
  • SICK & TIRED: A Few Things I’m Tired Of
    I’m tired. This isn’t going to be a sunshiny post, and I may not have any effective words of wisdom at the end.But bitch, I’m tired.There are things that I used to accept as compliments – things people have said to me about my ability to c…
    - 7 Dec 16, 8:13am -
  • LIKE DEAD LEAVES: Doing The Work Of Purging & Pruning

    - 30 Nov 16, 8:15am -
  • WORK LIFE: The Book I Want To Write About My Career
    After years of struggle, I’m finally starting to see a bright light career-wise. I’m on track to end 2016 in a much better place than where I started, and in a much better place than I’ve been in a long time. This isn’t just related to how mu…
    - 7 Nov 16, 8:10am -

Diary of a Sewing Fanatic

  • New Look 6340 in a Border Print
    After I made my first version, I knew I was going to make another one right away.  This summer my policy has become "If I like it make it again as soon as possible!" Because when you change up the fabric and add an embellishment, non-sewists don't r…
    - 3 days ago 15 Aug 17, 12:00am -
  • The Marilyn Dress by Style Arc Patterns
    This is the first Style Arc pattern that I've sewn even though I own a bunch of them.  It's taken me a minute to get on the Style Arc bandwagon because I had issues with waiting for a pattern to arrive from Australia. I know not very global thinking…
    - 6 days ago 12 Aug 17, 12:00am -
  • A Black/White & Red Concord Tee Maxi
    I really wanted a red maxi Concord Tee dress as my final rendition of this pattern. My original vision was a red scooped neck maxi with short sleeves and black/white check accents at the neckline and the sleeve hems.  As you can see that's not what…
    - 9 days ago 9 Aug 17, 12:00am -
  • New Look 6340 - Woven Summer Dresses
    I bought this pattern during the spring to hold onto for summer sewing. Inevitably it gets hot, humid and sticky here and all I want are loose and flowy dresses to make it easy for a breeze (any breeze) to blow through the dress.After a romp through…
    - 11 days ago 6 Aug 17, 9:00pm -
  • Simplicity - A Step in the Right Direction
    In January I wrote a post asking why Simplicity Patterns didn't apologize for some social media snafus regarding People of Color and how they marketed towards them.  Yesterday my girl Marcy, wrote this awesome post about Complicated Thoughts, that m…
    - 13 days ago 4 Aug 17, 3:02pm -
  • Catch Up...
    July has been a weird month this year. It use to be that July was my most productive sewing month but the last couple of years, it seems as if my sewjo goes on vacation during this month.I have been sewing, though. I have three versions of NL6340 to…
    - 18 days ago 30 Jul 17, 8:40pm -
  • The Last Tuesday of Every Month
    The last Tuesday of every Month the NYC Sewcialists meet at The Houndstooth Pub in the Garment District.  This meet-up is the brain child of Carol and Grace. The inaugral meeting was last month on June 27th.All of the attendeesAt that first gatheri…
    - 27 days ago 21 Jul 17, 6:06pm -
  • Some So-So Concord Tee Hacks
    I thought it was important to share two Concord Tee hacks that didn't quite work out as I'd planned. I know it seems like experienced sewists turn out beautiful garment after beautiful garment. However, I don't know about anyone else but sometimes I…
    - 32 days ago 16 Jul 17, 12:23pm -
  • A Flowy Mixed Fabric Shirtdress
    I'm planning to sew a couple of shirtdresses this summer/fall.  Most of them are from shirtdress patterns currently available in the pattern catalogues. I definitely want to make another Cashmerette Lenox Shirtdress and at least one McCalls version…
    - 39 days ago 9 Jul 17, 8:11pm -
  • Second Quarter Review - 2017
    Spring sewing is easy sewing ~ well at least for me ~ and I tend to sew more pieces during the spring/summer season. I've made 19 garments during the second quarter of 2017. It sounds like a lot, but quite a bit of this is tops. So for the first six…
    - 43 days ago 6 Jul 17, 12:00am -
  • Concord Tee Dresses - Round Two
    These next two dresses are all about florals and pattern hacks and are my latest Concord Tee Dresses...The Sleeves ~As shown below the sleeves are the difference between the two dresses. I made a slight change to each sleeve to personalize each dress…
    - 46 days ago 2 Jul 17, 4:30pm -
  • One more sleeve hack...
    This time I decided to share the technique before the dress' reveal. Partly because it was a good sewing weekend and I didn't want to stop and take pictures and partly because my photographer wasn't around.The sleeves are what makes the difference be…
    - 51 days ago 28 Jun 17, 12:00am -
  • The Dress Discussion - "What's Up with Wearing A Dress Everywhere?"
    Two of my favorite bloggers recently wrote about how sewing and wearing dresses are discussed in the sewing blogging community. As a sewist who loves a dress for all of these reasons ~ easy to wear, a lot of creative opportunities to make, one piece…
    - 53 days ago 25 Jun 17, 3:00pm -
  • Next Sew Camp at Carriage Corner B&B
    The weekend of July 21st is when it's happening! Be there or be square! Corny I know but seriously, if you want to have a great weekend that includes a trip to Fabric Mart, 48 hours of non-stop sewing (okay you can sleep if you must), other amazing s…
    - 56 days ago 22 Jun 17, 10:00pm -
  • Adding the Ruffle Sleeve to a Concord Tee Pattern
    As I said in my previous post, I saw this sleeve on a young lady in the streets of NYC. When I saw it I immediately thought of the sleeve from View D of McCalls 7542. Cause it's so obviously "The Year of the Sleeve!"I know this is a popular pattern a…
    - 60 days ago 19 Jun 17, 12:00am -
  • The Concord Tees - Hacked Edition
    Honestly I've been meaning to get around to making more Concord Tees after I made my first one last spring. As with all good sewing intentions, it took awhile for me to get back to this.I ended up making four hacked t-shirts. I pulled knits from the…
    - 63 days ago 16 Jun 17, 12:00am -
  • The Concord Tee as a Dress ~ Part 1
    I probably should have started the series with the hacked t-shirts but I love, love, love the dresses I made from lengthening the t-shirt pattern. So I'm sharing the dresses first especially since I took these pictures in 90+ degree weather! Admitted…
    - 65 days ago 14 Jun 17, 12:00am -
  • The Concord Tee Series
    I posted this picture to Instagram a couple of weeks ago.  Then I started working with the pattern and fabric from the collection and got carried away. Seriously carried away.  I made four hacked versions of the tee using my original tee pattern. …
    - 67 days ago 11 Jun 17, 8:00pm -
  • I'm A Little Disappointed...
    See, I've been avidly following Tee's sewing adventures on Instagram and her blog, Maggie Elaine. This month she's made some amazing pieces from Stylish Fabrics. When a 20% off discount showed up on Instagram this month, I thought let me try them out…
    - 70 days ago 9 Jun 17, 5:30am -
  • The Making of a TNT Button Down Shirt
    I'm in love with button down shirts probably because I've finally truly shed my professional skin and have embraced the lifestyle of casual living. I've amassed a collection of RTW jeans, leggings, and skinny jeans that I combine with my me-mades top…
    - 74 days ago 5 Jun 17, 12:00am -
  • SEWN Magazine ~ A Sewing and DIY Magazine
    Last month I reviewed the new digital sewing magazine, Sew Sew Def. During the discussion in the comments section, the other new sewing magazine, SEWN, was mentioned.I wanted to do a follow up to that conversation.  Sewn will be published by Michell…
    - 76 days ago 2 Jun 17, 3:20pm -
  • Fabric Mart's #sewcoolskirts
    Julie from Fabric Mart contacted me late last month and asked if I wanted to participate in Fabric Mart's #sewcoolskirts for May.  Of course I said yes.Now my skirt isn't made from a current pattern. I have way too many TNT skirt patterns in my patt…
    - 81 days ago 29 May 17, 12:00am -
  • I'm Guilty of This, Are You?
    I bought my Janome 8900QCP in January 2013 so I've had it four years. Since I went from a Janome 6600P to this version, I took the new sewing machine out of the box and pretty much started using it.I upgraded my sewing machine because it was always m…
    - 85 days ago 25 May 17, 12:00am -
  • And the winner of the Cashmerette Pattern is...
    I'm not going to prolong this, cause y'all just wanna know who won the patterns right?!I went old school with this one.I cut all the responses up...Folded them and put them in a plastic bag......and picked the winners from the bag.There were 130 entr…
    - 86 days ago 23 May 17, 9:12pm -
  • I Love Fabric!
    I make no apologies for loving fabric as much as I do. To me, fabric is like paint to a painter.  How do you create a masterpiece or a basic without resources? Now I know there are multiple ways to acquire "the raw material" or fabric. I also know t…
    - 89 days ago 20 May 17, 10:29am -

African American - Latino World

  • I Am Proud of this Historically Black Peruvian Team
    Proudly wearing the jersey of a Historically Black Peruvian Soccer TeamAs I strolled through one of Lima, Perú's most dangerous districts, La Victoria, where a stadium is located housing Perú's famous Alianza Lima soccer team, no one gave me a seco…
    - 24 days ago 24 Jul 17, 3:23pm -
  • Colombia, South America “Dissed” Their First and Last Black President
    A portrait if Colombia's first black president was doctored to make him look whiter. A Colombian woman once wrote on my blog that we Americans are too preoccupied with race, but when I pointed out all the racism I observed when I visited the hometown…
    - 66 days ago 12 Jun 17, 3:26pm -
  • A Funny Ecuadorian Memory
      Juncal (Valle de Chota), EcuadorWhile riding a long-distance bus into the Andes Mountains in Ecuador to visit a small black community that produces many of Ecuador's best soccer players, I struck up a conversation with a young black teen wearing…
    - 77 days ago 1 Jun 17, 4:55pm -
  • Afro Latina Bashes African Americans
    In response to one of my blog posts, Confusing Afro-Latinos with African Americans, a hurt and embittered Afro Latina whom I will refer to as Liliana, posted her comment: “This is the problem, African Americans want to believe that we Afro latinos…
    - 8 May 17, 11:21am -
  • Afro-Latino Films for Black History Month and Beyond
      When discussing black history, the subject is too often limited to black Americans as black history can be traced even to places like Russia. There is much more to the black race as it extends through many languages and cultures around the world.…
    - 22 Feb 17, 7:34pm -
  • The Root of Latin-American Racism
    A black American male got into a friendly conversation with two black women in Oakland, California's Eastmont Town Center. When the subject of race came up, both woman politely asserted their racial and cultural confusion with a pleasant smile statin…
    - 13 Feb 17, 1:48pm -
  • UPDATE: I Stepped Away from my Beloved Afro-Peruvian Godchild
    My godchild on her 11th birthday The downside of traveling to developing countries like Perú and getting too close to the people is that many will think that you are in the same economic bracket as Donald Trump and will often hit on you for money. M…
    - 8 Feb 17, 8:16pm -
  • Black and Female from the Dominican Republic
    Vanity Duran was accepted into Florida A&M University not knowing it was a Historically Black College & University. Once on campus, she was pleased to see a predominately black student body and felt that being black herself she would fit right in. Wr…
    - 28 Jan 17, 3:42pm -
  • During Trump's Inauguration, I Will Be in a Latino World
    At a block party while visiting El Carmen, Perú  I am second from the right attending a party in El Carmen, PerúOn Friday, January 20, many TV channels will be airing Donald Trump's inauguration. A host of people across the country, including poli…
    - 15 Jan 17, 3:19pm -
  • Surge in Latinos Embracing Black Heritage
    Black Bolivians parading their black prideA young, African-American girl used to tell a good friend of hers at the Harriet Beecher Stowe Intermediate School here in New York that she is black, and not Latina. That comment infuriated Marta Orozco so m…
    - 10 Jan 17, 10:15pm -
  • PRESUMED CUBAN: African American Tourists Mistaken for Afro Cuban
    Arriving at the José Martí Airport in Havana, Cuba to be processed by immigration Since my trip to Cuba years back, I heard accounts from other African Americans who visited the island who had a different experience than I when it came to experie…
    - 2 Jan 17, 2:29pm -
  • Blacks and Browns in Harlem Celebrate the Legacy of the Puerto Rican Ally of the Black Panther Party
     Schomburg Center for Research and Black Culture on Malcolm X Boulevard in Harlem, NYC Recently, I attended a celebration of the Puerto Rican contribution to the black and brown liberation struggles of the 1960s, which was hosted by the Schomburg Ce…
    - 19 Dec 16, 1:06pm -
  • Thinking of Stepping Away From my Beloved Afro-Peruvian Godchild
    The main square of El Carmen, PerúI am among the few heterosexual, black males who made it well into adulthood without birthing any children. I don't know about the minuses of this experience, but I am certainly aware of the plusses; no hefty child…
    - 10 Dec 16, 6:50pm -
  • Afro-Latino Successor to Marcus Garvey
     Carlos Cooks of the Dominican RepublicMarcus Garvey was a Jamaican political leader, publisher, journalist, entrepreneur, and orator who was a staunch proponent of unity and self-help among members of the African diaspora to which end he founded th…
    - 25 Oct 16, 2:28pm -
  • A Language Learning Program That is Way Better than Rosetta Stone
    Receiving my Advanced Spanish certification from El Sol language school in Lima, Perú  I had several jobs where hardly a day went by when I did not engage Spanish speakers or serve as an interpreter. One company gave me bi-lingual pay. Many peopl…
    - 18 Oct 16, 3:00am -
  • A Puerto Rican Finds Her Black Identity
    Real Latinos come in all colors, including black. However, there are many Latinos of African ancestry who, despite being descendants of African slaves and experiencing home-grown racism in their respective countries, deny their black skin, and some t…
    - 14 Oct 16, 3:00am -
  • Ecuador Celebrates Black Heritage Month in October
    October, Afro-Ecuadorian Heritage MonthNegro, negro renegrido       Black, black, blackenedNegro, hermano del carbón       black, brother of charcoal,negro de negros nacido      born black                    Negro ayer, m…
    - 10 Oct 16, 1:14pm -
  • Afro Latinos React to “Blacks in Latin America” PBS Series
    I have fought many years as a youngster growing up in the U.S., and not being accepted by blacks because they say I was “different,” and not accepted by Latinos because I did not look like Ricky Martin.”—Marcus Edwin, son of a black Cuban mot…
    - 4 Oct 16, 6:16pm -
  • Afro Latinos React to “Blacks in Latin America” PBS Series
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    - 3 Oct 16, 10:22am -
  • The Legacy of Black Music in Latin America
     I am addressing the New Amsterdam Musical Association in Harlem, New York City, the largest African-American musical association in the U.S. on African history in Latin Music.Years ago, I was coming home from work on the Bay Area Rapid Transit (BA…
    - 28 Sep 16, 7:24pm -
  • Black Pride in a Latino World
    The main square of the all-black town of San Basilio de Palenque in Colombia, South AmericaAll through my life, I heard stories about black Americans who try to pretend they are Native American, Latino, or anything other than black American, but nev…
    - 18 Sep 16, 6:41pm -
  • The Mother of Afro-Peruvian Dance and Theater
    Victoria Santa Cruz  My heart swelled as this little Afro-Ecuadorian girl in the video below, no more than five years of age, passionately shouts her poetic black pride in her black community of Esmeraldas, Ecuador. She blatantly reminded me of the…
    - 13 Sep 16, 6:32pm -
  • The Spanish Language on “Defense!”
    Why are so many Spanish speakers in the U.S. so defensive with those trying to learn to speak Spanish?Melissa, a good friend of mine of Honduran, Central American ancestry got annoyed with me one evening when we stopped to get some refreshments on ou…
    - 10 Sep 16, 8:22pm -
  • Afro Town: A Black Exhibit in Uruguay, South America
    When many think of Latin-American countries containing members of the African diaspora, countries like Cuba, Puerto Rico, the Dominican Republic immediately come to mind, but only a few would think of Uruguay in South America.However, freelance phot…
    - 3 Sep 16, 8:24pm -
  • Why Black Lives Matter Needs to Diversify
    Andy Lopez, 13, shot by sheriff's deputy for carrying a toy gun In 2013, Andy Lopez, 13, like Tamir Briley, 12, in Cleveland, Ohio, was shot to death by sheriff's deputy in Santa Rosa, California for carrying an airsoft gun that was designed to re…
    - 18 Jul 16, 11:00am -