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Fledgling

  • moving day
    My new website is up and running—and I love it! I will be blogging over there from now on, so I hope you’ll take a look. You can also find my essays, videos, and other important links over there. I will check with my web designer to see if curren…
    - 15 Nov 14, 5:41pm -
  • quality, quantity, context
    I’ll be speaking on an Afrofuturism panel at Brooklyn College next week, and I hope I’ll have the chance to talk about After Earth. Most critics panned the film but for Black youth (boys in particular), that film is groundbreaking—something whi…
    - 7 Nov 14, 10:38am -
  • a) political
    Children’s literature is not neutral. It can be educational and entertaining, but books for kids also tell us something about our society and ourselves. As I wrote in my last HuffPo essay, There’s clearly a direct link between the misrepresentati…
    - 5 Nov 14, 10:32am -
  • cell
    I used to tell people that I lived under a rock. I’m an HSP and one way I manage my various sensitivities is by withdrawing from the world; my home is my sanctuary and I try to keep it clutter-free by conducting regular purges so that I only keep t…
    - 3 Nov 14, 12:14pm -
  • shut in/shut out
    I always take a selfie on my birthday but this year I’ve been taking pictures all month long. Every time I’m out with friends, I ask someone to snap a photo with their phone so that there’s proof of our outing. I’ve just started writing again…
    - 25 Oct 14, 10:49am -
  • be radical
    While I was in Sacramento I met Kate Schatz, Chair of the School of Literary Arts at Oakland School for the Arts and author of Rad American Women A-Z. Laura Atkins introduced us (of course) and persuaded Kate to take a look at my books (of course). T…
    - 21 Oct 14, 11:53am -
  • medieval mix
    I’ve started planning my annual low-key birthday celebration. This Brooklyn photography exhibit is on the list along with the Dillons’ retrospective at the Society of Illustrators. Then on the actual day I think I’ll visit the Cloisters and may…
    - 20 Oct 14, 6:41pm -
  • seed & source
    My website’s getting an overdue overhaul and it’s been challenging to find a “look” that represents who I am as a writer. There will be purple, of course, but I originally wanted a “plantation ruins” aesthetic that proved hard to achieve.…
    - 17 Oct 14, 2:02pm -
  • not nice

    - 13 Oct 14, 11:38pm -
  • pieces
    Kidlitcon is just a few days away and I’m working on my panel presentation, which means I’m gathering up all the bits and pieces that explain why I do what I do. I’m a bit of a mess these days. On Sunday the protestors singing a “Requiem for…
    - 7 Oct 14, 3:12pm -

Eye of the 'Drea

  • Leaning Back
    My mother and two of my aunts were supposed to head to Chicago at 7:00 a.m. yesterday to say goodbye to a 100-year-old "friend of the family" but she transitioned on Friday.What to say about Mrs. Dove?She was one of my babysitters. She kept any ball…
    - 5 days ago 23 Apr 17, 7:26pm -
  • My House Is Clean
    Monday, April 17thAll the neighbors had cut their grass; I had not because of lawnmower issues that I knew existed at the end of grass-cutting season 2016.Tuesday, April 18thI went to look at used lawnmowers but the employee told me that all of the 4…
    - 6 days ago 21 Apr 17, 10:30pm -
  • The Once-Over
    At this point, this post is a week in review:Patti and I changed our climbing schedule so that we could go to Ballpark Village's yoga series on Wednesday but guess what? Even though it's still a free event, tickets are required and it was sold out. I…
    - 12 days ago 16 Apr 17, 6:15pm -
  • Nth Degree
    According to the Calm app, Wednesday was International Calm Day. Who designates these days?At any rate, in honor of Calm Day, I had access to Calm Premium including a sleep story. I feel asleep on the sleep story so I guess it worked...On Thursday I…
    - 19 days ago 8 Apr 17, 10:15pm -
  • Twenty Five Days
    I've been writing this post for about five days now -- starting, stopping, starting...The congestion monster had all but faded then I decided to go swimming last Tuesday after a 25-day hiatus and... could hardly sleep because of chemical congestion.…
    - 24 days ago 3 Apr 17, 11:10pm -
  • The 32 Minutes
    During Sunday's yoga class, we were congratulated for the 32 minutes of meditation that we have under our collective belts.What I remember about Sunday's meditation was the advice to treat your wayward thoughts like salespeople who come to the door:…
    - 31 days ago 27 Mar 17, 11:16pm -
  • What Works
    Went to Zumba for the fourth time this week.I don't normally go on Monday but Grace was subbing and since I'm not going to 7:30 p.m. yoga on Monday for the time being, that time slot worked.Grace also subbed on Tuesday and since I haven't been swimmi…
    - 33 days ago 25 Mar 17, 11:15pm -
  • Super Calming
    Went to Gloria's yoga class on Sunday. I am totally digging the eight-minute meditations we are doing before class. If there's a "downside," it's that the meditation exercise makes me super calm and long for savasana right away.Practice was sweet too…
    - 38 days ago 20 Mar 17, 11:35pm -
  • Short List
    Consulted a doctor by phone and he said that it sounded like I'm experiencing hay fever and called in a prescription for a nasal spray and also suggested a 24-hour antihistamine.Other stuff, Benadryl and decongestants, haven't been doing anything exc…
    - 40 days ago 18 Mar 17, 11:10pm -
  • But I Moved
    Went to 11:00 a.m. yoga on Sunday -- not because I couldn't get up but because it took me a significant amount of time to clear out all the mucus that I'd accumulated during the night...Gloria usually reads something before yoga class and her latest…
    - 44 days ago 14 Mar 17, 11:15pm -
  • Noticing
    Speculated that I had chemical congestion the last time that I blogged. Still congested but it's not a cold. One of my uncles is taking Benadryl. My brother took some while visiting and my mother was also experiencing congestion. I took Benadryl one…
    - 47 days ago 11 Mar 17, 11:01pm -
  • It's Okay
    I'm getting over a two-day bout of chemical congestion. Went swimming on Friday and the second time in the pool was too much. Don't think I'll be swimming tomorrow... :(My brother is visiting for a few days and I went into overdrive tidying up -- doi…
    - 52 days ago 6 Mar 17, 11:17pm -
  • When Parched
    I miss Salzberg's Meditation Challenge and had I known that lessons would remain active for a month or so, I would have not deleted most of them.We take an intentional posture... Lesson #21For the peeps (meaning Gingerzingi) who are missing the medit…
    - 54 days ago 4 Mar 17, 11:15pm -
  • Steam and Time
    Went to the pool this past Tuesday after a brief hiatus and one of the coaches of the youth team told me that he had been waiting five years for me to be one of their swim coaches and I politely told him that if I had more time and talent, I would do…
    - 60 days ago 26 Feb 17, 11:20pm -
  • Goings-On, Part Deux
    The day after my aunt collapsed, she looked better and threw me a smile. I can't even explain how ridiculously good that made me feel...I've also been thinking about this tweet a lot.A neighbor of mine died suddenly yesterday, not even 40. Today I le…
    - 66 days ago 20 Feb 17, 11:00pm -
  • Goings-on
    This time last week I had already received an urgent text from my cousin about my aunt who she'd found on the floor. My aunt refused to go to the hospital and even refused to let my cousin call anyone but me to help get her off the floor.When I told…
    - 68 days ago 18 Feb 17, 11:25pm -
  • What Falafel Is Made Of
    The watery part has subsided but I'm still waking up with itchy eyes. I usually give in and put two eye drops in and that usually does the trick for the rest of the day. It's like Groundhog Day.I've been doing my meditation lesson at night a lot beca…
    - 74 days ago 12 Feb 17, 11:21pm -
  • Back At It
    It was good to get back in the pool and good to catch up with my swimming tribe. Apparently, there are new tribe members so I didn't get in a lap lane which put me closer to the pastor's wife who does a water aerobics kind of workout.At one point I w…
    - 79 days ago 7 Feb 17, 11:15pm -
  • Saturday Shenanigans
    Put coconut oil on my very tender nose a couple of days ago and, I swear, the healing seemed accelerated.I've almost gone through a family-sized bag of Ricola but I feel functional again -- except for the watery, itchy eyes -- never had that before.…
    - 82 days ago 4 Feb 17, 10:49pm -
  • Arrivals or Month-End Review, January
    I've been doing much better with water intake. If I can just get a solid night's sleep and shake this uncommon cold, I'll be in great shape.Since I've been drinking more water and also trying to get in more steps per day, I've lost two pounds which s…
    - 86 days ago 31 Jan 17, 10:45pm -
  • XYZ
    Went to yoga on Monday* night even though I have large crowd fatigue right now. Four of the people that I know and who are in teacher training were sitting front and center. As I went to the lobby to put away my iPod, Joy said that she felt like a pi…
    - 88 days ago 29 Jan 17, 11:30pm -
  • Unclench
    Had to remind myself to unclench my jaws on Friday. I cannot possibly have clenched jaws for the next four years. Also reminded someone else of this but she said that if she unclenched, bawling would follow. Sometimes you just need to bawl. Least fav…
    - 96 days ago 21 Jan 17, 11:00pm -
  • A Cue
    Feeling in a bit of a daze but I'm sure that a lot of that has to do with the weather. Over the last six weeks, I feel like I've had to get my act together in a hurry because of the holidays falling on the weekend or bad weather. I think that I've d…
    - 15 Jan 17, 6:15pm -
  • Things I Know For Sure
    Went to a new class, Pound, yesterday and after class went to a grocery store next to the gym.  I don't normally go to Lucky's but it was definitely convenient. Unfortunately, they didn't have a couple of items on my list so I moved on to the next s…
    - 13 Jan 17, 10:30pm -
  • Messages
    Made it to yoga on Monday and Tuesday without incident and I feel so accomplished.Jill, this woman I met in January of 2015 at our friendly neighborhood yoga studio, messaged me to see if I was going on Tuesday then she messaged me again to say that…
    - 11 Jan 17, 11:35pm -

Twenties Unscripted

  • Introducing the New Meet Tyece Video + Updates to TyeceWilkins.com
    In 2013 I wrote, “You write about the tough moments. The foolish moments. The beautiful moments. You write and write and write. And, then, it reaches someone. Just one person. And, that is why you keep writing.” I have kept writing on Twenties…
    - 15 days ago 12 Apr 17, 10:13pm -
  • Embracing Blessings and Waiting to Exhale
    Listen for the whir of tires. Any time I back out of my parents’ driveway, that is what I do. I listen for the whir of tires. With blind spots in both directions, the only way to know if a car is coming down the road is to turn the radio down and l…
    - 25 days ago 3 Apr 17, 12:32am -
  • Motherhood as Poetry: Digging In With Erica Nichole
    Editor’s note: Erica Nichole is the voice behind www.everythingenj.com. You can follow along her motherhood journey on Instagram at @edotnichole. To Erica: We were just kids back then. We were two women writing our way through and fighting hard to…
    - 31 days ago 28 Mar 17, 12:00am -
  • To The Man On A Friday Night Who Insisted That I Smile
    You are not thinking about this anymore. You have taken scores of footsteps since that moment. You’ve probably downed a few more beers. You’ve slept and worked and laughed and done all of the things simple people with simple lives do. But, I am a…
    - 46 days ago 13 Mar 17, 12:00am -
  • On Being a Corporate Creative
    I’ve teamed up with State Farm® as part of their Color Full Lives campaign, an initiative that promotes positivity & empowerment and celebrates all women in the African American community through a multitude of experiential and digital engagement…
    - 66 days ago 21 Feb 17, 6:02am -

Lactation Journey

Diary of a First Time Mom

  • Pittsburgh Park Road Trip
    Dear Diary, You don’t have to spend a lot of money to find something fun to do outdoors. Pittsburgh, voted one of the most livable cities, is filled with fun, family activities to celebrate spring. We live near a popular park, so our adventures are…
    - 5 days ago 23 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • How to Get Your Car Ready for Spring
    Dear Diary, Spring is officially upon us! The season brings warmer weather and roads trips. As you make travel plans to enjoy the rising temperatures, be sure to add car maintenance to your itinerary. Although you will no longer navigate around snow…
    - 6 days ago 22 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • Botanical Garden Road Trips
    Dear Diary, April showers bring May flowers across the commonwealth. You can take a quick road trip to check out Pennsylvania’s most popular floral displays. If your children tag along, be sure to bring magnifying glasses, so they can get an up clo…
    - 12 days ago 16 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • Spring Clean Your Car
    Dear Diary, Spring is upon us, which means many people are clearing the clutter and cleaning their homes. It’s also a good time to clean your car and wash the remnants of winter away. Although the snow melted, the salt still sticks to the exterior…
    - 13 days ago 15 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • Easter Parade Road Trip
    Dear Diary, Getting dressed in your Sunday best this Easter? You can strut your stuff in Philadelphia. Only a five-hour drive away, your family can attend the 86th Annual Easter Promenade in along South Street. Enjoy Easter treats, live music from th…
    - 15 days ago 13 Apr 17, 4:34pm -
  • Easter Egg Hunt Road Trips
    Dear Diary, Hop, or drive, on over to Easter egg hunts throughout the Pittsburgh region. This is an egg-cellent way to enjoy the warm weather and explore nearby communities. You may even spot the Easter Bunny himself! Here are our favorite four event…
    - 15 days ago 13 Apr 17, 4:28pm -
  • VIDEO: Best Books for Babies and Toddlers
    Dear Diary, As a child, you couldn’t catch me without a book in my hand. My idea of fun was spending a Saturday at the library, checking out every hardcover I could carry. I would read to anyone who would listen, including my Cabbage Patch Kids lin…
    - 16 days ago 12 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • Best Pets to Adopt for Little Kids
    Dear Diary, Life with pets is nothing like life without them. These four-legged friends use their superpowers to make you laugh even when you are sad, wake you up early even though you are not a morning person, and go for a late night stroll no matt…
    - 18 days ago 10 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • Time Out Tips
    Dear Diary, Hi, my name is Heather, and I’m the captain of Team Time Out! Often, I bump heads with other mothers who try to make me switch to the spanking side. However, I can’t imagine raising a hand to my daughter when I always tell her not to…
    - 21 days ago 7 Apr 17, 7:00am -
  • IVF: What One Mom Wants You to Know Now
    Dear Diary, Garmin should create a GPS to navigate the road to fertilization. Instead of entering an address, women could plug-in their age, medical information and family history.  The system could map out the fastest route to conception. …
    - 23 days ago 5 Apr 17, 7:00am -

My Fabulous Boobies

  • 20+ UNCOMPLICATED Ways To Comfort Your Breast Cancer Survivor Friend
    Hover over this image and pin this to your Pinterest board.Do you really know how to help her? Without making it all about you?Your good friend was just diagnosed with breast cancer. Your heart just broke into a million pieces. You're scared…
    - 23 Nov 16, 9:00am -
  • How To Wear Your Pink Ribbon T-shirts In Style
    How To Rock Your Pink Ribbon T-shirts In StyleWhat's a girl to do with all those pink ribbon/breast cancer awareness shirts? I'm a survivor who happened to already have a long love affair with pink... before I was diagnosed with breast ca…
    - 7 Oct 16, 10:12am -
  • 5 Lessons of Unapologetic Bad-Assery That Prince and Muhammad Ali Taught Us
    Learning lessons of bad-assery from the best to ever do it.2016 has been particularly aggressive with collecting brave souls that we've loved and supported. Unexpected deaths of celebrities and personal friends/family members have shaken many of u…
    - 3 Sep 16, 9:00am -
  • 18 Great Sources for Breast Cancer Information and Support
    Are you WOKE? About breast cancer...?All around me, on social media and in real life, people are chattering about being "woke". It got me to thinking... how many of us in the breast cancer community are woke? Like for real, honestly and truly aware…
    - 27 Jul 16, 9:00am -
  • What it means to be a cancer survivor - National Cancer Survivors Day
    Reflecting on being a cancer survivorWhen I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in the summer of 2008, I felt alone. While I knew that many women and men had been diagnosed with this disease before me... I felt really alone in my fear and conc…
    - 6 Jun 16, 10:00am -
  • Survivorship: Learning to make lemonade like Beyonce
    Meet Me at Deanwood Public Library Saturday, May 14th at 1pmLemonade...that cool refreshing drink made from sour and sometimes bitter fruitIf someone had told me in 2007 that by 2016 I'd be an entrepreneur, a health advocate, a motivational…
    - 12 May 16, 4:51pm -
  • Beyonce SLAYED Me With #Formation
    Formation is the visual representation of DOPENESS!Please tell me that you've seen Beyonce's video "Formation" by now! PLEASE tell me that.That video just put a visual on everything I've been feeling about 2016 and my life. This is the Year of E…
    - 7 Feb 16, 6:27pm -
  • Someone Stole My Content! What I Learned From The Incident
    I WAS ROBBED! But I'm not that mad about it. A few days ago, I was tagged on a picture by one of my cousins. Turns out... the picture was of ME! But I didn't recognize the page, or the person who was running it. Neither did my cousin.This is the…
    - 26 Jan 16, 9:30am -
  • Hello 2016! The Year of Epic Transformation
    Happy New Year!!  *blows horn!*My goodness... 2015 is gone. GONE! I still had stuff to do, projects to start... projects to finish. My to-do list is still super long.But.. despite my tardiness in completing what I wanted to accomplish las…
    - 7 Jan 16, 9:41pm -
  • Is there life WITHOUT cancer for a survivor?
    Is there life without cancer for a survivor?I was asked what life was like without cancer now.*blink*Life without breast cancer? Why... there's no such thing.Let's talk about remission and NED After you complete your "active treatment…
    - 29 Nov 15, 9:30am -
  • Nicole McLean Launches Two New Product Lines
    Do. Or do not. There is no try.  The crazy thing about being me is that I bump along in my life and I just do the things that I feel called to do or that I want to do. I just do them. I think about things for a long time. Often, by the time som…
    - 28 Nov 15, 8:30am -
  • 5 Tips for Breast Self-Exams
    5 Tips for Breast Self-ExamsHealthcare professionals agree that the best way to combat breast cancer is with early detection. In order to do so, women must perform regular self-exams on their breasts. It might be uncomfortable at first, but it wi…
    - 24 Nov 15, 8:30am -
  • It's The Melanin | Outfit of the day
    It's The Melanin | Audacity Tees by pinkribbongal featuring rock n roll jeansDate night/Girls night out outfitA few months ago, I quietly launched an online t-shirt shop called Audacity Tees. I actually started it awhile ago but I never tol…
    - 16 Nov 15, 9:30am -
  • Losing A Metastatic Pink Ribbon Sister Is Always Hard
    Remembering my pink ribbon sister TamiEarlier this year, I attended a breast cancer blogger summit with the Komen Foundation. It was my second time being invited and participating. To be honest, it is one of those events that I look forward to bec…
    - 13 Nov 15, 2:45pm -
  • These Black Bloggers Discussed Breast Cancer Awareness - And It Was Grand!!
    These Black Bloggers Discussed Breast Cancer Awareness during Pinktober...And it was GRAND! Another Pinktober has come to an end. I'll be honest, this year was a doozy for me. A DOOZY I tell you. So much was happening in my email box that I star…
    - 3 Nov 15, 8:00am -
  • Hmm... am I being superwoman right now?
    Being Superwoman is not admirable when your health is in jeopardy*Update 10/15: Five years later... I still really hate the idea of being "Superwoman" but I can honestly say now... I was scared that I was going to lose my job because I had been sic…
    - 25 Oct 15, 11:44am -
  • The Winner Has Been Chosen!
    The Contest Has Ended: Rochelle G. is the winner!You know what is seriously a lot of fun? Giving away cool prizes! I don't know why I haven't done more of this... but I will certainly be doing more giveaways and raffles in the future. (I'm lining u…
    - 24 Oct 15, 7:00am -
  • Have you been following Good Enough Mother's Survivor Stories?
    Rene and I at the Komen Bloger Summit 2014.(I'm fangirling all over her! She's so incredible.)Confession: I absolutely adore Rene Syler of Good Enough Mother!Her passion and infectious zest for life is captivating. Her blog is absolutely ama…
    - 23 Oct 15, 6:00pm -
  • The Type of Friend That I Am
    I take terrible selfies... but my heart is good. *This post has a lot of gifs. If that is a problem for your computer or your phone, you'll have to skip this one. But they are there for a reason. I am a special kind of friend. I tell you t…
    - 20 Oct 15, 6:06pm -
  • Increasing Awareness of Your Protections Following a Breast Cancer Diagnosis
    Increasing Awareness of Your Protections Following a Breast Cancer DiagnosisR. Scott Oswald and Adam A. CarterEmployees returning to work following a breast cancer diagnosis have it very tough. After months of dealing with an unfavorable and ver…
    - 16 Oct 15, 5:21pm -
  • My Fabulous Boobies Is Giving Away A 32-inch TCL Roku TV!
    Could you use a 32" HD RokuTV? You have a chance to win one!I was contacted by the wonderful people of TCL with an opportunity to gift a reader with a beautiful new television. TCL (one of the largest television manufacturers) is raising money for…
    - 13 Oct 15, 7:00am -
  • All of This is Scary and Unsettling
    *Update 10/15:  I wrote this post in early 2009, about 7 months after the start of my chemotherapy. I was still healing from my mastectomy and was about half-way through my radiation treatment. I was exhausted physically and emotionally. This post w…
    - 7 Oct 15, 8:00am -
  • Survivors Rock Out for Breast Cancer Awareness Month
    October is here again... and the world has gone PINK!Each October, as the world is flooded with pink ribbons, I go through a series of emotions. I am happy that I am still here. Grateful that I've been lucky so far. Sad and confused at the deaths…
    - 2 Oct 15, 8:30am -
  • Book Review: 100 Acts of Love, Kim Hamer
    100 Acts of Love is the book I wish I'd written or had when I was in treatmentA while back, I received an email from someone I didn't know asking me to review her book and possibly write a review of it. I receive requests like this daily. To be tran…
    - 23 Sep 15, 9:46am -
  • Lymphedema Management: Wrapping Your Arm to Manage Your Lymphedema
    So this is me after my first time getting my arm wrapped. I wasn't ready for the way that it looked at all.But it was a tremendous assistance to my situation. I definitely recommend doing this. Lymphedema is a jerk! But it is manageable...…
    - 8 Sep 15, 6:30am -

Life with the Logans

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- 2 Jun 15, 12:13pm -

Living Outside the Stacks

  • Camping at Lake Tobesofkee, GA
    The Hubs and I are really digging the camp life. I’m gonna be honest, I didn’t think I’d like it: sleeping out in the middle of nowhere, talking to *shudder* strangers, peeing in the woods, eating scavenged food… OK. I exaggerate. But conside…
    - 2 days ago 26 Apr 17, 5:46pm -
  • Project 52: My Life in Pictures {Week 16}
    This year I’m participating in three different photography challenges. I know, I know. I do this every year and by the middle of February I tap out. Well, this year is different. These are 52 week projects, so I’m only obligated to take 3 photos…
    - 4 days ago 24 Apr 17, 8:06am -
  • Coffee Talk: Camera Bag Search/Help
    I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. If you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolute…
    - 5 days ago 23 Apr 17, 8:28pm -

Lovebabz: A Life in Transition

  • My Lenten Journey: Hello from the bottom of the well and other places dark and stormy
    For a few weeks I have been living from the bottom of the well. Dark and cold and way way down.Being at the bottom of the well is not a new experience... I've been here before. Been there before. Maybe I am feeling some kind of way because Spring has…
    - 25 days ago 3 Apr 17, 6:56pm -
  • Off The Lenten Path: God is Tired Of Me. I am Tired Of God.
    For the better part of my life I have enjoyed and struggled with a strong God consciousness. I have never felt alone or away from God. In my life I have endured and come through some dark moments with my faith still intact. I could feel God's presenc…
    - 51 days ago 7 Mar 17, 11:15pm -
  • My Lenten Journey: I am the Big Space of God
    I was struggling with whether or not I should even "do Lent" this year. My mood was such that I just didn't feel holy, or sacred or divine. The world just seems crazy and I seem crazy in it. My attitude was piss poor and I was feeling quite desolate…
    - 58 days ago 1 Mar 17, 8:32am -
  • Preparing For My Lenten Journey 2017...Do I even want to do Lent?
    For the last decade or more, I have been "into" Lent. Embracing this holy time to reconnect to my own internal faith walk. Seeking silence and solitude. Welcoming this time of 40+ days and 40+ nights to get in with God.This year, though, I am feeling…
    - 65 days ago 22 Feb 17, 7:38pm -
  • Dear Nina, I Am Sorry I didn't Learn This Sooner...
    As evolved as I think I am... And I am. Past habits have a way of showing up. I find myself losing myself in someone's bullshit of a life and before I know it,  I am Superwoman holding up their hopes and dreams. Trying to make their shit align with…
    - 89 days ago 29 Jan 17, 1:09pm -
  • A Dead Of Winter Break... Being Revolutionary In My Own Life
    It is time to explore radical self care. Be revolutionary in my own life. I cannot keep up this breakneck pace of work in the absence of real pleasures. What the fuck am I doing?The bigger questions looms... Is this the life of my dreams? No! Then ho…
    - 8 Jan 17, 5:12pm -
  • 2017: Intentional Like A Muthafucka
    2017 Happy New Year! I have no intentions of rehashing 2016. It was what it was. We took some hits, we had a great many loses and we have an asshole, grifter, conman as the PEOTUS.I am squarely focused on 2017.  I have two goals. Just two.1. Health…
    - 1 Jan 17, 4:35pm -
  • My Christmas Within Or Ways I Stay Alive During This Holy Season
    In my life I have learned a few survival skills. The kind of skills that override my depression keeping me squarely on the planet for at least another day. I am a day-by-day woman. Yes, I make plans and I stay hopeful about the future with me in it.…
    - 21 Dec 16, 5:51pm -
  • NaBloWriMo Day 29 Advent : Season of Wishing and Waiting
    I believe in Santa Claus! I love Christmas! I love the story of the birth of Jesus!I revel in the lights on trees and candles in the windows. Sleigh bells and Angels on high! I love luminaries lining sidewalks and sparkly ornaments everywhere!It is t…
    - 29 Nov 16, 7:36pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 16: Time To Reinvent Me ....Next Level Of Baddass
    It is time to usher in a new way of being. After all the changes in my grand life, I am always stunned when I forget that when I am in the midst of real change that it often feels like losing. And so I focus on the losing. I get caught up in the pain…
    - 16 Nov 16, 5:34pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 15: Let Us Begin by Lara Herscovitch
    I heard Lara Herscovitch tonight at the Community Conversation hosted by my Sorority, New Haven Alumnae Chapter, Delta Sigma Theta, Inc. She gifted me 2 of her CDs. She is so fabulously good.Just drink her in.
    - 15 Nov 16, 9:39pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 14: Safe Spaces to Cry
    I have come to value all the safe places I have to cry in. All the places and people who open wide and let me fall into them with my tears. I have not always had that luxury. And I have never known this level of safety. It is a beautiful thing.  One…
    - 14 Nov 16, 10:49pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 13: Finally Accepting
    I believe in the power of spell casting... Casting spells...Saying out loud under any moon this is what I want.  And believing that it shall come to pass. I just believe God has my back. I walk the earth knowing this without doubt. The Universe is c…
    - 13 Nov 16, 10:12pm -
  • NaBoPoMo Day 11: Because Day 10 Was Done
    The day got away from me yesterday. I just couldn't make anything work. Well, one thing did work...A sacred conversation I had with a new Soul mate! But other than that, the day ran me!Today was another run run run with the wolves kind of day. I ran…
    - 11 Nov 16, 5:46pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 9 My Holy Hours
    I do my best thinking around 3-5:00 am. I've talked about this before. Muslims say this is the time you are closest to God. I would have to agree. I feel my most holiest then. As a matter of fact, I like making love at that hour... I feel the most ho…
    - 9 Nov 16, 9:04pm -
  • NaBloMoPo Day 8: Go Easy, Baby
    Tonight is the night. We are all waiting for the results. Shit could go awry and we'd all be left shaking in our boots. Wondering what the fuck just happened?... Not unlike our peeps across the pond on that crazy Brexit shit tip. I'm keeping the fait…
    - 8 Nov 16, 10:58pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 7: The Quietness In The Storm
    I have learned in my life... After standing in storms, is to find the place of peace. To center my spirit in the midst of chaos. Some chaos can be invigorating and inspiring. Causing us to reach higher, dig deeper and rise above. And some chaos is ho…
    - 7 Nov 16, 10:37pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 6: Corinne Bailey Rae - Green Aphrodisiac (Official Video)
    I'm a woman of music. I believe in the power of having a  soundtrack for my life. I've been a fan of hers since the beginning. I dig this song. It is sexy and soulful and sensual. Perfect for a slow Sunday afternoon. Happy Sunday fellow bloggers! Wa…
    - 6 Nov 16, 2:17pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 5: Dreams Not Chasing At The Moment Or I'm always Chasing These Dreams
    This is always a veiled way to tell the truth of what is in your soul without making the effort to go after those very desires. Because some dreams are just dreams... And perhaps should not be chased?Here are a few of mine:I'd live in Paris. Here,in…
    - 5 Nov 16, 8:25pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 4: The Gift Of Retreat
    As a Spiritual Director, I walk with folks on their faith journey. We notice where God shows up in our lives. I do not define God for them, they do that in their own way. I just walk along holding the lamp. When we hit unsure footing, I shine the lig…
    - 4 Nov 16, 9:26pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 3: Oh, If I Were Completely Honest...
    I woke up one morning and knew that I loved him. It was an odd thought, so out of the blue. I wrestled with it for days on end....Months even. No No No! I said to myself. I can't I won't I won't. And yet I do.I love the attentiveness. The contentedne…
    - 3 Nov 16, 8:12pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 2: Brave Is My Middle Name
    I am a woman of size and girth. I am 5'8' barefooted, I weigh 273 lbs. I am a Queenly woman.I was not a fat kid growing up, but I have become a fat woman. I am never troubled by this fact until I see my doctor, or someone remembers me from my modelin…
    - 2 Nov 16, 11:32pm -
  • NaBloPoMo Day 1: My Mental Health Tool Kit Break Glass In Case of Emergency
    It has been a good long while since I did the annual NaBloPoMo in November! I'm back at it this year because I'm not doing NaNoWriMo... I finally completed it last year! So I don't feel a burning desire to churn out 50,000 words in 30 days! I do how…
    - 1 Nov 16, 10:56pm -
  • I am Available.
    Fall in Connecticut is  stunningly beautiful! The leaves are changing and falling. There is a crispness in the air, although at the moment it is quite warm. I am in my element...Tis the season of shedding the old and making room for the new.I find m…
    - 30 Oct 16, 3:19pm -
  • Frieda Kahlo To Marty McConnell
    I subscribe to The Elephant Journal. I get their stuff emailed directly to me. It is some of the best "live a mindful life" ish out there. Yesterday's (9/30/16) treasure trove came with a poem crafted by Marty McConnell. The poem was inside of a post…
    - 1 Oct 16, 6:15pm -

Nerd Girl

  • The Prayers of the Righteous
    First, thank y’all for commenting on my last post. She brought her grades up…but not enough to stay in Jr. Beta Club. She has As and Bs, but not a 90 average overall. We talked about it, and I emphasized that she is the only one responsible for h…
    - 29 Mar 16, 9:42am -
  • Looks like I might have to blog through it…
    I need to complain. And I don’t like complaining. So I’m going to do it here, where I’m pretty sure traffic has dropped off to zero. Mostly because I stopped blogging. Anyhoo. My sweet girl. My only child. My beloved daughter. Yeah, that one. T…
    - 13 Feb 16, 7:36pm -
  • It Scared Me. But I Did It Anyhow.
    Oh, so I’m just gonna pop back in here and blog like it’s not been a while? Sure am. Recently returned from a cruise with LG (who started 5th grade last week. 5th! My girl is growing up!), my parents, my SIL, niece, nephew, and three cousins. Tha…
    - 10 Aug 15, 10:50am -
  • Year End Ramblings
    Hey y’all. It’s been quite a 2014. Some good, some bad. I guess in some ways that means it is exactly like every year that has passed and every year that is yet to come. My first semester of my doctoral program is under my belt, praise God! I end…
    - 29 Dec 14, 9:17am -
  • Hola! Que paso?
    I miss blogging. So I decided to blog. Randoms. Of course 🙂 I turned 42 yesterday! I’m not really sure how that happened since I was just 26, but apparently time? She marches on. I don’t think I’ll ever be one of those people who refuses to…
    - 10 Oct 14, 11:29am -
  • Katrina
    I wrote this post on August 29, 2006 So, last year, on August 28 – it was a Sunday evening I believe – I was watching the news and heard about this storm that was supposed to hit the Gulf Coast on the 29th. Katrina. Well, I didn’t pay much att…
    - 29 Aug 14, 9:07am -
  • Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed. Ask For What You Need. You Have Not Because You Ask Not.
    I’m going to let you in on a little secret. I don’t like to ask for help. From anyone. I will run around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to figure out how to do something on my own before I’ll ask for help. I don’t know why I’m t…
    - 21 Aug 14, 12:03pm -
  • Ramblings

    - 20 Aug 14, 4:06pm -
  • Why?
    That’s all I’ve got today. A simple question with no simple answers. Why? I used to not watch the news. Ever. It was so depressing and weighed too heavily on my spirit. But somehow, the news, particularly in the morning, has crept back into my li…
    - 30 Jul 14, 12:19pm -
  • Monday morning randoms
    How cute is this? Got a text this morning – apparently LG and her camp BFF were thinking along the same lines when they laid out their outfits last night. And this couldn’t have been planned because everything LG is wearing? We bought yesterday.…
    - 28 Jul 14, 1:58pm -

Rae Lewis-Thornton: Diva Living with AIDS

  • Tap Into The Resources and Live Well Beyond HIV!
    I'll take aging with HIV over not aging at all any day. Now that's some real talk; but I have to be honest, muddling through HIV requires a lot of energy, work and support. Over the years, I've been fortunate enough to have a team of wonderful people…
    - 44 days ago 15 Mar 17, 9:29pm -
  • The Murder of Jessica Hampton
    Last week today I was waiting on the red line train and very much annoyed that it was delayed. Little did I know that a young woman, Jessica Hampton had been brutally murdered just seven stops behind me.Jessica who was 25 years old was stabbed by Aur…
    - 30 Jun 16, 11:26am -
  • Grey Hair And I Don't Care: Aging With HIV
    In ten days I will turn 54 years old. This will mean that I have lived 33 years with HIV and 25 years with AIDS. Although I was infected in 1983 I didn't learn of my HIV status until I donated blood in 1986. I've told this story a thousand times and…
    - 13 Jun 16, 1:05pm -
  • I Met A Man... Can I Give Him HIV?
    I met a man and OMG he was just simply charming. Now I usually don't give my number to random men on the street, but did I say he was sooooo charming?!Even Chloe liked him, but ummm now that I think about it, Chloe likes everyone she sees. But the fa…
    - 3 Jun 16, 1:30pm -
  • RLT Collection Birthday Sale!
    In honor of my 54th birthday on Sunday RLT Collection is 54% off.  This weekend only 5/20 thru  5/22!  Coupon code at check out birthday2016. Thanks for all your support! SHOP!  http:www.rltcollection.com
    - 20 May 16, 11:44am -
  • Here's to Doctor's Keeping the Care in Health Care!
    Today on National Doctor's Day and I started thinking about my own doctors. Honestly, in those early days of HIV I didn't even tell a doctor. When I finally told my gynecologist at the HMO in the middle of the exam, he said to me, as he was looking u…
    - 7 Apr 16, 4:14pm -
  • Tap Into Your Own Power!
    Today is National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day and my message is unwavering. We have to tap into our own power. We have to make the decision to put ourselves first, love ourselves first and absolutely love ourselves more than wanting and ne…
    - 10 Mar 16, 11:14am -
  • RLT Reads Book Club Is Back! Check Out Feb and March Picks!
    Finally! RLT Reads Book Club is back up and running. I've missed those lively discussios so it's about time that we do it again. My online book club was orginally formed in 2011 and we had our discussions via Twitter and my blog. But Goodreads has c…
    - 21 Jan 16, 4:49pm -
  • SOMWA A Wonderful Cause!!!
    New York! New! York! New York! Come hang out with me Sun Dec 13th! Bring a toy and wear your dancing shoes for the Somwa Foundation 7th Annual Toy Drive. All the toys go to families with HIV. Hydeia Broadbent and I donated our time to this wonderfu…
    - 12 Dec 15, 9:13am -
  • #Doingit
    I'm honored to have been asked to participate in the Center For Disease Control, Act Against AIDS newest HIV Testing Campaign, "Doing It." Donating your name and brand to a national campaign is no small thing. This is especially true, when you give s…
    - 7 Dec 15, 1:39pm -
  • World AIDS Day!
     Good Morning Lovely's!! Today is World AIDS Day! A day of remembrance for those we lost to this disease. But also a day to fight stigma that blames and shames those living with #HIV world wide! It's a time to demand treatment for all and work towar…
    - 1 Dec 15, 8:12am -
  • Join Me On World AIDS Day
    Tomorrow, December 1st is World AIDS Day. People around the world will remember those who have passed from AIDS related illnesses and at the same time challenge, stigma for those living with HIV. I'm asking those who support me to paint your Social…
    - 30 Nov 15, 6:32am -
  • Black Friday at RLT Collection!
    Everything at RLT Collection is 50% off coupon code; blackfriday2015 happy shopping http://rltcollection.com 
    - 27 Nov 15, 9:44am -
  • Charlie Sheen: And This Is What I Think!!
    When actor Charlie Sheen said, "I'm not living in that prison anymore" I felt that deep in my soul.  It resonated loud and clear. I kept my own HIV infection a secret for seven years. For Real! My first seven years I only told 5 people that I had HI…
    - 17 Nov 15, 5:56pm -
  • Finess Stops Bladder Leaks!
    I'm always pleading the case for women to take control of their bodies and health. It's a fact that no one will take care of you the way that you take care of yourself. But over the years, women seem to be stuck, especially when it comes to our bodie…
    - 15 Oct 15, 9:20am -
  • I Need Them All to Go To Counseling and Get Tested On The Way!
    Yesterday the sex life of pro football player Victor Cruz of the New York Giants was all over Social Media. I'm not sure how it got there, but since it's been made public I thought that I would give my two scents. First off,  all the parties involve…
    - 13 Oct 15, 4:31pm -
  • Monday Reflection: Get Up From The Table When Shit Is Being Served!
    Everybody got some "thing" going on in their life most of the time, if not all of the freaking time.Some "things" cannot be helped, like an illness you didn't see coming. Like last year when my Sophie was diagnosed with cancer on Wednesday and on the…
    - 5 Oct 15, 5:28pm -
  • Stop Blocking The Next Chapter of Your Life!
    I took an unexpected vacation from blogging. No, it was not health related. My emotional and physical health is great. It's just that I've had so much work to do in other areas of my life, that blogging took a back sit. Be clear though, while on thi…
    - 25 Aug 15, 12:48pm -
  • God Always Has A Next!
    What I know for sure is that God always has a next! I have believed this since I was a little girl being told I was never gonna be shit. Even back then after every unjust beating, I continued to have hope for something better than my right now.In tim…
    - 25 Jun 15, 12:02pm -
  • STOP PLAYING! Get Tested For HIV!
    Can I be honest? I mean some real talk today?  Some of y'all been fuckin since the turn of the century (me included) and you have never been tested for HIV and that's where the difference ends. I know my status and knowing my status has saved my li…
    - 24 Jun 15, 1:18pm -
  • Living with Intent!
    Now that I'm well into my 50's  there seems to be no turning back. I'm doing what I should have done in my 30's and for sure when I started to see my 40's that is, live with intent.  Well, I sort of lived with very limited intent for 20 years plus,…
    - 3 Jun 15, 10:38am -
  • Tea With Rae: Living my Dream!
    I'm  living my dream!! Tea With Rae: Wellness For The Mind, Body and Soul is coming! I'm in the process of developing a private label of speciality teas blended with the finest African Teas. The crafting of each tea will be closely supervised by me…
    - 3 Jun 15, 8:13am -
  • Monday Reflection: The Problem With Pride and Shame
    Pride and Shame will kill you and your spirit this I know to be true. And it does not matter the circumstance, these two emotions have the ability to create chaos in your life from your health, to your job, and dating. These two will lead you down a…
    - 25 May 15, 3:44pm -
  • Reflecting On 53!
    I turned 53 today! Honestly, I never imagined me at this age and I'm not quite sure how it should be, so I'm listening to my soul because it always knows what to do.Of course when I was younger I thought by this age, I would be married with at least…
    - 22 May 15, 7:58am -
  • Birthday Sale At RLT Collection!
    RLT Collection is having a sale!! In honor of my 53rd Birthday you can get 53% off your entire purchase. The Sale begins today May 18 thru May 31st!!  Coupon Code: Birthday!! There are still many Bracelets left from the 20 Collection, celebrating th…
    - 18 May 15, 2:14pm -

Regina's Family Seasons

  • And STILL God's Got This!
    MAN!!! What a Day, What a Week, What a Month! As this month draws to a quick end bare with me while I rant a little...So on Saturday the 21st I had oral surgery, the actual process went well. HOWEVER, the healing process is NOT going the way I or the…
    - 89 days ago 29 Jan 17, 3:02pm -
  • So Trump Is President...Now What?
    I am trying to figure out why people are acting like Trump is the worst President to ever sit in the White House (That is  not yet a fact and remains to be seen!). There was an election and Trump won, period. So we move on with our lives. Every Pres…
    - 93 days ago 25 Jan 17, 12:53pm -
  • I Can Smell Your Self Righteous Bullying... Get Over Yourself!
    Guess Who's Baaacccckkkkk! Did y'all miss me??? Probably not cause I can hear the echo coming through my computer LMAO! It's all good though!I only came back online because as usual BLACK FOLK ARE WORKING MY NERVE!!Black people have NOT mastered UNIT…
    - 94 days ago 24 Jan 17, 3:01pm -
  • Hello? Is Anyone Out There? Is This Thing On?
    Hello World!It has been a long while since I have visited you via this blog! I have NOT been doing anything Fancy, Fabulous, or Fantastic. Nope , I have just been doing the regular, everyday things that people generally do. You know WORK, WORK, WORK,…
    - 30 Apr 16, 7:55pm -
  • Sunshine VoxBox! Yaaayyy!
    I have spent the last couple of weeks testing and reviewing the treasures I received in my Sunshine VoxBox! For those of you who don't know I joined the Influenster Community and as a result I occasionally receive VoxBoxes of treasures to review and…
    - 10 Aug 15, 2:56pm -
  • Maslow's Hierarchy From A Godly Perspective
    Almost all academics have either touched on or had in depth teaching on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. For any of you who have not had the pleasure, let me explain. Abraham Harold Maslow was an American psychologist who wrote a paper in 1943 titled "…
    - 31 Jul 15, 4:32pm -
  • Leaving A Legacy... One Worth Sharing
    We need to be mindful that this generation and the generations to come are looking for US to leave a LEGACY. What does LEGACY mean to you?According to Merriam Webster online dictionary Legacy is:1:  a gift by will especially of money or other person…
    - 28 Jul 15, 8:38pm -
  • Emotions Versus Wisdom
    We, Humans are emotional! No one alive can say they have never been emotional about a person, an event, or a situation. Emotions are not bad but they cannot rule your life. Emotions have the ability to take us where common sense or wisdom cannot keep…
    - 26 Jul 15, 1:57pm -
  • I AM Going To Be Me, Like It Or Not!
    When you see me, what do you see? A Mother, a Grandmother, a Christian, a Trouble maker, a Divorcee’, a Black Woman? Society has become very adept at labeling people to fit into what they think is an acceptable label. After labeling you then people…
    - 16 Jul 15, 2:20pm -
  • Heart Of A Warrior - Stephen Curry, NBA Champion
    I am not a big basketball fan, so a blog post about basketball is pretty much very out of character for me. However I just wanted to point out a few things…For those of you who do not know the NBA Finals was a match-up between the Cleveland Cavalie…
    - 17 Jun 15, 2:52pm -
  • Jamberry Nail Wraps
    I have a facebook friend named Sara, who has embarked upon a new entrepreneurial adventure. She has started a Jamberry Nail Wraps business. I got a sample wrap to try and I told Sara I would blog about it.If you do not know what Jamberry Nail Wraps a…
    - 4 Jun 15, 2:42pm -
  • Whew! Texas Rain 2015...
    Well in case you have not seen the news lately, Texas has had almost 2 straight months of rain. There has been no rain fall like this in years according to news agents. For almost two months it was almost daily/nightly thunderstorms and tornadoes acr…
    - 4 Jun 15, 12:56pm -
  • Why I Broke Up With Mother's Day
    Now that Mother’s day is over and safely behind us and hopefully the residue is gone, I can tell you why I broke up with Mother’s day. I know it is shocking and came as a surprise to me as well. Matter of fact I have not even broken the news to m…
    - 12 May 15, 1:21pm -
  • Prove it!
    You are innocent until proven guilty … or so they say. In order to PROVE anything you need solid evidence. There has to be proof of what is said. Just the WORDS of others or just your WORDS are not enough to prove anything.According to Dictionary.c…
    - 27 Apr 15, 2:36pm -
  • Out Of Darkness Into HIS Marvelous Light
    King James Version 1 Peter 2:9 says, “But Ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of Him who hath called you out of darkness into His marvelous light”.Amplified Versi…
    - 15 Mar 15, 5:13pm -
  • Racism, Sexism, Yes This Is America!
    I often hear people say, "I'm NOT into politics" and every time I hear that I think or say "Then you better be into JESUS"! This world that we know and sometimes love is spiraling out of control. Times are crucial and PRAYER is REQUIRED, Prayer is NO…
    - 25 Jan 15, 6:18pm -
  • Empty Nest Coming Soon!
    Ever have that sense that something is over? That you have reached the end of a thing, time, moment, relationship, or era? I am feeling that way now. Since moving to Texas my children and I have lived together. Not all of them, all at the same time b…
    - 24 Jan 15, 12:30am -
  • Live On Purpose
    We are officially two weeks into the new year. So far are you liking what 2015 has to offer?? I can honestly say that for me I have been so busy packing that I have not even had time to process the fact that we are in another year. My current lease i…
    - 13 Jan 15, 2:50pm -
  • Frosty Vox Box - Review
    I recently received a FROSTY VOX BOX in the mail! YAAAAYYYY ME!! This was like an additional Christmas present!In case you are new to my blog, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE to receive gifts and packages in the mail! The reason I joined the INFLUENSTER co…
    - 6 Jan 15, 1:39am -
  • McCormick Thyme Review
    In my recent Frosty Vox Box I received from INFLUENSTER, I received some McCormick All Natural Thyme. The same day that I received the Thyme my daughter (the Chef) made some spinach dip. She used the Thyme to add a little kick to it! She loves cookin…
    - 5 Jan 15, 8:29pm -
  • Out With The Old 2014, In With The New 2015
    As the year of 2014 draws to an end I want to take a moment to reflect on my biggest accomplishment of 2014. Some of you may know that I have been in school for a number of years. To date I have obtained an Associate Degree in Human Services Manageme…
    - 31 Dec 14, 12:40pm -
  • What A Difference Two Weeks Makes!
    Two weeks ago I was stressing and praying and stressing some more. Stress and prayer are pretty much polar opposites!! If you are going to stress over a situation then why pray and if you PRAY OVER THAT SITUATION why stress it?!?! I never claimed to…
    - 24 Nov 14, 9:42pm -
  • 2015 Daily Planner by Sue Hooley, A Review
    I am EXCITED! You all KNOW how much I LOVE FREE STUFF!! Well, I was blessed with the opportunity to review a fabulous product! I reviewed Sue Hooley's 2014 AND 2015 Daily Planner! Yes! Two products for the price of one!*Sue Hooley and CWA Review Cre…
    - 28 Oct 14, 8:21pm -
  • An Insider's Guide To Spiritual Warfare - Book Review
    I recently read a book by Kristine McGuire that was very interesting. This is the second book by Kristine McGuire that I have read. I read AND reviewed her book "Escaping The Cauldron" (you can read that review HERE).Well once again, it is October! H…
    - 16 Oct 14, 3:30pm -
  • Tyler Perry is Expecting A Baby And The World Just Stopped Spinning!
    I do not generally blog about celebrities. Frankly, there are enough other people who spend THEIR LIFE worrying about what celebrities do, what they eat, where they sleep, who they sleep with, etc. So I tend to stay out of the celebrity scandal genre…
    - 24 Sep 14, 6:45pm -

Say It, "Rah-shay"

  • On Playing Hooky and Mental Health Days
    Thank you for reading what I write!When the question of "playing hooky" came up, I thought about mental days health days for adults and what this means for my family. The post On Playing Hooky and Mental Health Days appeared first on Say It, "Rah-s…
    - 24 days ago 4 Apr 17, 1:58pm -
  • Viki’s Granola: Review and Recipe Creation
    Thank you for reading what I write!r’s note: I was sent a sample of Viki’s Granola to facilitate this review. All thoughts are my own. Affiliate links are used in this post. If you click on a link and make a purchase, I will make a small commiss…
    - 49 days ago 10 Mar 17, 1:26pm -
  • The Actual Post About the #FLKeysCookOff Cooking Competition
    Thank you for reading what I write!In which I was invited to participate in a cooking contest and, as of the typing of this post, no one has declared my meal a public nuisance. So, woot woot! via GIPHY So. Y’all remember that I was a competitor…
    - 50 days ago 9 Mar 17, 3:23pm -
  • Day of No Clutter Blog Tour + Giveaway
    Thank you for reading what I write!Clutter, stuff, things…I can’t escape it. I dream of a Rachee who just has it together. She will have a  place for everything, a simple life with labels and containers, a desk that isn’t like a version of t…
    - 53 days ago 6 Mar 17, 6:09am -
  • On the Edge of Seuss
    Thank you for reading what I write!In which I Seuss in spite of my Seuss hate*. Y’all know the drill: it’s early March and people are all “It’s Dr. Seuss Day!” and running around in red and white stripes, cat whiskers, Thing One and Thing…
    - 57 days ago 2 Mar 17, 3:14pm -
  • That Time I Was Invited To Be in a Cooking Contest #FLKeysCookOff
    Thank you for reading what I write!So, last fall I attended BlogHer Food and cam back from the conference empowered to use the kitchen for more than warming up takeout. Before heading to Austin, I did cook but those recipes were some tired, unimagin…
    - 57 days ago 1 Mar 17, 10:17pm -
  • Review: @TheBodyguardUS at @KimmelCenter now through 2/26
    Thank you for reading what I write!The Bodyguard starts with a bang, literally, and continues on as a love note to the late Whitney Houston. The Oscar-nominated film is a live stage show starring Deborah Cox as Rachel Maron and Judson Mills as Frank…
    - 65 days ago 22 Feb 17, 12:20am -

The House of Ladylee

  • newMilk and Cookies Jr and Milk and Cookies 3.0
    I went to the mailbox the other day and I was WONDERFULLY surprised!I received pictures of my gorgeous little nephews, Milk and Cookies Jr. and Milk and Cookies 3.0.'Shaun, aka, Milk and Cookies Jr!!   Tristan,  aka Milk and Cookies 3.0!! Such hand…
    - 16 hours ago 27 Apr 17, 6:16pm -
  • On My Desk, Though
    I arrived to work 30 minutes early this morning. (I went to bed thinking I would get to work 2 hours earlier than usual but OH WELL).I sat down in my cubicle and did what I usually do when I get to work - check my emails, write out my to-do list for…
    - 1 day ago 26 Apr 17, 11:23pm -
  • Tuesday Thoughts
    Tuesday!Thoughts!1. This has been a long day, but not hectic. And that's good thing.2. I trained someone new today, and it was a good experience. I am not sure why I was experience a small pebble of angst concerning it.3. I was too lazy to prepare my…
    - 2 days ago 25 Apr 17, 11:19pm -
  • Good Monday Evening... The Rainy Night Edition
    This right here is the situation in my beloved ATL.Rain!Rain, rain, rain!Rain ALL the time (well over the past couple of days).And here's the kicker: It is COLD. It is in the 50s here in my beloved ATL.LAWD!Rain and cold together. Uh, NO, NO!Especia…
    - 4 days ago 24 Apr 17, 6:36pm -
  • Sunday Evening Musings
    I don't know what it is, but I struggle with this posting on the weekends. I totally forgot to post yesterday. All I remember is laying across the bed last night thinking... I need to go do a quick post before I fall asleep.Then I fell asleep. I don'…
    - 4 days ago 23 Apr 17, 11:14pm -
  • One Year Later...
    Prince died one year ago today.It seems like yesterday.I can remember where I was when I heard the news. I was at work, sitting in my cubicle. Someone said something in the cubicle area and I went over to a site to look it up and there it was, in big…
    - 7 days ago 21 Apr 17, 6:20pm -
  • Food for Thought: Bill is OUT (A Time to Pause)
    You know, I would've NEVER thought that Bill O'Reilly would be kicked off of Fox. But it happened, tho. The right combination of ingredients made for an interesting recipe on how to get someone booted. First of all, he was labeled. ALL his business w…
    - 8 days ago 20 Apr 17, 2:22pm -
  • Quote of the Week

    - 9 days ago 19 Apr 17, 5:06pm -
  • Ten Tuesday Thoughts
    1. Today has been a SLOW workday. I feel like I am sitting here watching the the numbers change  on the digital clock up on the wall of our cubicle area. 2. I was walking around earlier today with a full carton of Marlboro 100s.  3. I was looking f…
    - 10 days ago 18 Apr 17, 6:01pm -
  • Good Monday Evening
    I forgot to post yesterday.O_oAnd I was on my computer doing some writing. How does that happen? I was going to only post up an obligatory "Happy Easter" wish. And I just completely forgot.Ugh.Anyway, Monday will be over in 3 hours. I need to get som…
    - 11 days ago 17 Apr 17, 9:22pm -
  • Saturday 7
    A quick Saturday Seven!1. I was laying in bed, about to go to sleep, and I forgot to post. I can't mess up my perfect April 2017 record so far.2. I didn't leave the house today. I didn't plan to. I didn't want to get caught up in the Easter traffic.…
    - 12 days ago 15 Apr 17, 11:59pm -
  • FriDay FReEsTyleS
    It is FRIDAY!!GOOD FRIDAY to be exact.And very few people were at work today.And the traffic?  OH HOW WONDERFUL THE TRAFFIC WAS!I got to work in 10 minutes flat. That is all.I am not a big celebrator of most holidays, including Easter. I will not be…
    - 14 days ago 14 Apr 17, 5:57pm -
  • Something New is Coming... Damn
    So everyone is EAGERLY anticipating the new Kendrick Lamar CD, which supposedly drops on April 14. A couple of days ago, the CD art work and cover. *crickets*The title is Damn. I don't know what to make of that. Kendrick looks like he just got off th…
    - 15 days ago 13 Apr 17, 6:19pm -
  • A New Type of Kit-Kat
    So I was in my favorite asian grocery store and I saw THIS...Now, I recognize the Kit Kat symbol, but uh, NOT those colors. So I asked some questions. The kind ladies who mind the store do not let me buy anything stupid. I took the bags of kit-kats t…
    - 16 days ago 12 Apr 17, 2:45pm -
  • Ten Tuesday Night Thoughts
    1. I ran into TRAFFIC this morning. A fuel truck overturned on the I-285 outer loop this morning and they closed down both sides of the freeway. So I think that moved cars in my direction. Ugh.2. If that ain't the case, then it's that daggone, I-85 c…
    - 17 days ago 11 Apr 17, 6:42pm -
  • Good Monday Evening
    'Tis the Evening time. What a day it has been.Folks have been all in an uproar in the ATL, as spring break is over, and the I-85 interstate collapse is at the forefront of everyone's mind. I live about a mile from the highway (on a quiet night, I can…
    - 18 days ago 10 Apr 17, 5:55pm -
  • Last Weeks's Lunches
    So I had some interesting lunches last week. I need to overload my life with fruits and vegetables right now. Hopefully by the end of April, I will be back in my subconscious fruit and veggie groove. We will see.I had a bunch of strange salads.That s…
    - 18 days ago 9 Apr 17, 11:04pm -
  • Saturday 7
    7 thoughts on a SATURDAY. So here we go.(Gotta come up with something interesting so I can blog everyday).1. Today didn't start off great. I was suppose to get up and go to my Writing Workshop waaay out on the deep eastside. But I overslept. And I ha…
    - 19 days ago 8 Apr 17, 11:15pm -
  • Friday Freestyles: Noir Style
    LOOK AT THIS...LOOK AT IT!It's something special, my beloved ATL at dusk, shrouded in something more sinister than darkness... And it is an anthology. And one of my short stories was accepted for this anthology.I rarely post on Facebook, but I posted…
    - 21 days ago 7 Apr 17, 4:18pm -
  • LadyTee's 49th Birthday
    So... My best friend LadyTee and I have a running tradition: we spend our birthdays together, where we usually do movie and a late lunch. We try to go to restaurant that we've never tried before, and we see a movie that we just really want to see.Ear…
    - 22 days ago 6 Apr 17, 6:08pm -
  • Rain, Rain, RAIN
    It is RAINING in my beloved ATL. And these aren't lovely spring showers. This is some CRAZINESS. I know it some bad rain when a crack of thunder sends Callie and Mitch running for cover.I decided to turn on the news."Oh my, look at all that red!" I…
    - 23 days ago 5 Apr 17, 2:54pm -
  • Ten Tuesday Thoughts
    It is that time again... THOUGHTS time. 1. This ATL weather is trippy. Torrential rains yesterday. Perfect sunshine today. And it is suppose to rain tomorrow. This too much.2. Somebody was shot and killed in the crosswalk a block from my job. When I…
    - 24 days ago 4 Apr 17, 6:31pm -
  • The Big Orange Monster
    Every weekday morning, a big orange monster stands in front of my house and growls like crazy. Well, it's not exactly a monster. But by the way Sister Callie Jo acts, you would think it is.This monster, this big orange school bus, began stopping in f…
    - 24 days ago 3 Apr 17, 10:13pm -
  • April 2017 Goals
    I have been thinking about my goals for the past few days.My problem is that I seldom write them down.I admire people who have goals and who are able to answer the question Where do you see yourself in 5 years?I sit back in awe of people who have a 3…
    - 25 days ago 2 Apr 17, 11:32pm -
  • April Fools and Memorial Too...
    Happy April Fools Day to YOU!I think I want to post every day. 'Tis but a dream right now. But I can dream, can't I?I don't want to talk about April fools day. There were no jokes played over here. I actually spent the day with my sister (yes, Kentuc…
    - 26 days ago 1 Apr 17, 10:33pm -

Whose shoes are these anyway?

  • Research

    - 27 days ago 1 Apr 17, 1:58pm -
  • Prince plays songs from his vault in concert, 2009 (video)
    I came across this treasure on YouTube, His Purple Highness performing songs from The Vault:  Old Friends for Sale and other jazz pieces in a Los Angeles concert, 2009. I bought a copy of the album a few years ago. The concert is so much more. BTW,…
    - 9 Aug 16, 3:30pm -
  • Southside with You: Obamas' love story opens this month
    I was so deep in the academic hole for the first six months of the year that I completely missed news about the movie Southside with You, the story of Michelle and Barack Obama's romance. The film pays homage to the president and First Lady's initia…
    - 5 Aug 16, 10:38am -
  • Rattle Magazine published my poem last month
    Almost a month has passed since Rattle Magazine published my poem "Digital Anthropologists Find Our Hashtags" for its Poets Respond series. The poem explores specifically the consecutive shooting deaths of Alton Sterling in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, an…
    - 4 Aug 16, 1:44pm -
  • Great Prince story from Matt Damon (video)
    Rolling Stone has posted video of Matt Damon telling a great Prince story on the Jimmy Fallon show.  Of course, all Prince stories bring me joy except the one about his passing in April.Damon is out promoting his latest film in the Bourne Ident…
    - 29 Jul 16, 11:46am -
  • #PRINCE BET Tribute or When Jennifer Hudson Tore Me Up (Purple Rain Video)
    Jennifer Hudson tore my heart out singing "Purple Rain" during the Prince Tribute on the BET Awards last night. I have nothing to add to this other than Stevie Wonder and Tori Kelly appear on this video, too, and perform with love also. Stevie was u…
    - 27 Jun 16, 11:52am -
  • A bittersweet Happy Birthday to Prince, BET Awards plans to drop mic (Video)
    Prince Rogers Nelson, his Royal Purpleness, would have been 58 today, June 7, 2016.In other news about the late, great megastar who died this April, BET Network has promised to deliver "the greatest Prince tribute ever" at its 2016 BET Awards…
    - 7 Jun 16, 11:47am -
  • Surprise Prince, Alicia Keys duet, 'How Come You Don't Call Me Anymore' (video)
    Nothing to add here. The video speaks for itself.
    - 7 Jun 16, 1:43am -
  • Medical Examiner says reports that Prince overdosed are gossip
    According to USA TODAY update on Prince's death earlier today,  reports that Prince overdosed are merely gossip."Forget those reports that Percocet was found in Prince's body, says the medical examiner's office investigating the musician's still…
    - 5 May 16, 8:25pm -
  • So, will.I.am, Prince, and Michael Jackson walk into a Vegas bar . . .
    Having gotten into several debates about who's the greater genius, Prince or Michael Jackson, I love this story will.i.am tells Ellen Degeneres on her show in the video above. The public's always been curious about the tension between Michael Jacks…
    - 30 Apr 16, 1:54pm -
  • Van Jones tells the most important Prince story
    On CNN, Van Jones tells the truth about Prince's life, which is that Prince was a generous soul. He says this is the most important story to remember about the man other than Prince was a genius musician.I knew some of what Jones said about what Pr…
    - 24 Apr 16, 12:32pm -
  • Prince on New Girl and SNL - 2014
    The old video clips of this episode that I had on my 2014 post have vanished, of course. I think Fox made the me private? I don't know. But someone else had this video of Jess & Nick meeting Prince on that episode. This has always made me laugh.I…
    - 21 Apr 16, 10:21pm -
  • Rest in Peace, beloved Prince
    I am a Prince fanatic. That's all I can say because I am undone by news of his death.
    - 21 Apr 16, 2:06pm -
  • Flashback: Julia Child and Emeril's 1993 Master Chefs video
    I can follow a recipe or simply throw something on the stove to see what happens, but I don't think of myself as a cook. That's probably because I don't love cooking. Still, watching this 1993 episode of Julia Child's PBS series, Cooking with Master…
    - 11 Apr 16, 8:16pm -
  • Teaching black children to be slave catchers
    Nothing reveals more than U.S. slave narratives (such as the one that follows) the psychological damage done to the enslaved in the U.S.A. and the ways slavery destroyed the black family. The horrific dysfunction of American society during slavery un…
    - 19 Mar 16, 1:54pm -
  • The worst thing the Democratic Party can do now
    Dear Democratic Party Members:by Nordette N. AdamsA "presidential" candidate has stoodon television where he has proclaimedhis genitalia grand and ready wood.Even in such small things, it’s his aimto shield his huge ego no matter what…
    - 5 Mar 16, 4:34pm -
  • Oxford Dictionaries agrees usage examples should not be political
    After anthropologist Michael Oman-Reagan created a stir on Twitter about the Oxford English Dictionary's questionable common usage examples, he discovered that I had written a blog post almost two years earlier discussing the same example he had cite…
    - 30 Jan 16, 3:09pm -
  • Steven Hart: Star Wars does not draw on literary classics but on classic pulp SciFi
    I saw Star Wars: The Force Awakens on New Years Day with my daughter, her boyfriend, and their friends. Yes, I enjoyed it. Director J. J. Abrams and co-writers Michael Arndt and Lawrence Kasdan have crafted a wonderful balance between the wit and act…
    - 2 Jan 16, 7:32pm -
  • A Personal Goodbye to All That for 2015 and Hello 2016
    We humans love to make resolutions for the New Year. I don't really do that, but I think New Year's Eve is a good time reflect on 10 things I did in the year that's ending that I would prefer not to do again and to have in mind ways to become better…
    - 31 Dec 15, 4:07pm -
  • An Absence of The Donald
    Notice that this blog has not given any real attention to Donald the Dump Trump this election season.I'm just saying.
    - 21 Dec 15, 3:11pm -
  • Black Writers in a Post-Racial Age?
    By now, anyone who's been paying attention knows that post-racial is just another myth among America's press clippings. I doubt that the publishing world has ever believed itself to be post-racial though. Consider the watermelon joke at the National…
    - 21 Dec 15, 3:04pm -
  • Black Woman at the Intersection: Sean Penn vs. Lee Daniels
    This is not going to be some super thoughtful post such as one Tammy Winfrey Harris would write. This post is just me saying, "What the hell!" Sean Penn has filed a $1,000,000 defamation lawsuit against Lee Daniels, the man behind Fox's saucy, ground…
    - 22 Sep 15, 11:51pm -
  • Quaint Magazine Interview with Nordette N. Adams
    And so this happened: I was interviewed by Quaint Magazine about the big poetry and music event I coordinated for this weekend, Born to the Beat.I am grateful to Quaint for interviewing me about Born to the Beat because I am trying my best…
    - 10 Sep 15, 7:09pm -
  • Alexie and Another Dolezal
    Posts about Alexi's editorial were the first thing I saw when I entered the Facebook vortex today, and the topic was so full of smoke and mirrors identity issues that my head exploded. Here are its contents:The summer was strange and wonderful, but…
    - 8 Sep 15, 5:32pm -
  • I love Michelle Obama laughing in this picture
    Right now I'm doing something that people on the Internet used to do a lot more of, informal reciprocal linking. An example of that would be Bob links to one of Susan's post for good reasons and without any prompting from her, and when Susan finds ou…
    - 30 Aug 15, 3:49am -

Life.Love&Marriage

  • newWeekend with Friends.
    The first three weekends in April were spent visiting friends. The first weekend we went to DC to visit a college girlfriend which I blogged about here. And then the second weekend we drove five hours and a half (brutal) to visit Danielle and Luke.…
    - 16 hours ago 27 Apr 17, 5:44pm -
  • Golden Hour.
    What do you do when the light is perfect, you're dressed up and have a beach right outside your door? I know, trick question. If you didn't answer photo-shoot, I don't know what's wrong with you ;).After our photo-shoot we worked up quite the appetit…
    - 4 days ago 24 Apr 17, 6:18am -
  • Hammock Life.
    If it were up to me, I'd lay in a hammock an entire day.There's just something so relaxing about laying in a hammock. Throw in a good book and my favorite bottle of wine in hands reach and my entire day is made. Our backyard is not yet up to par bu…
    - 8 days ago 20 Apr 17, 8:26pm -
  • Weekend in DC.
    Two weekends ago, Sean and I went to visit a college girlfriend of mine who currently lives in DC. She was the first person I met in college and we rushed the same sorority together. She is actually the reason I met Sean. Pretty big deal to us so o…
    - 11 days ago 17 Apr 17, 7:13am -
  • Sunrise in Cancun
    I’m not really one to rise early on vacation. It is usually a big no-no to me, but with our niece making it that we were in bed earlier than usual, waking up early was not a struggle. Due to this, I was able to capture the sunrise while on vacati…
    - 16 days ago 12 Apr 17, 6:14pm -
  • Night beach parties & star gazing
    At night, there were dance parties at the beach and they were so much fun. My niece loves, loves, loves to dance and so many people (guests and staff) would stop her to tell her how good she was at it. She would get red and then smile so big. We…
    - 19 days ago 9 Apr 17, 4:11pm -
  • Happy Birthday Priscilla.
    Interrupting my Mexico posts with a post about my sister's birthday lunch from two weekends ago.I feel like it has been a little while since I've seen my entire family at the same time, same place. It is hard arranging schedules when there's so many…
    - 23 days ago 5 Apr 17, 5:48pm -
  • Isla Mujeres, Mexico
    One of the highlights of this trip was taking the ferry to Isla Mujeres. The day began quite early and when we arrived to purchase our tickets, there were so many people waiting to board as well. It's a rather big boat and we were ones of the first…
    - 25 days ago 3 Apr 17, 8:13am -
  • Mexico 2017
    Immediately after checking in we were digging in our suitcase and changing from our heavy winter attire into swimming wear. It's the best feeling when I first arrive to our destination because all I can think is that the next few days revolve around…
    - 31 days ago 28 Mar 17, 5:11pm -
  • Riu Hotel Palace Peninsula Cancun
    We stayed at Riu Hotel Palace Peninsula in Cancun and I could not rave more about the resort. OMG. THE. FOOD.I am not a fan of buffets, like at all. I'm not kidding when I say they had the best buffet at Las Olas. The selections were just too goo…
    - 37 days ago 22 Mar 17, 7:08pm -
  • Cancun, Mexico 2017
    The amount of pictures I took in Mexico are beyond ridiculous but I don't think any of you expect less. I could not control myself. The first time Sean and I went to Mexico, I had a $50.00 point and shoot. Phone cameras weren't like they are now a…
    - 39 days ago 20 Mar 17, 7:11am -
  • Back to life; back to reality
    What a way to return to reality! We got hit with a HUGE snowstorm. Our plane coming back was delayed for three hours but we were lucky that it was not cancelled altogether.I was suppose to return to work yesterday but it was closed due to the snows…
    - 44 days ago 15 Mar 17, 12:02pm -
  • Currently - Mexico on my mind
    feeling so excited for this week. Sean and I have been stalking the resort we're staying at through YouTube and forwarding to our niece to get her pumped up. It's working! Yesterday she said, "Can it already be Wednesday?"loving that we had a reall…
    - 53 days ago 6 Mar 17, 8:12am -
  • Random Wednesday Morning Ramblings.
    For this year one of our big goals is to travel more; big trips, local trips, and everything in between. It's only March but I feel we're on the right track. We have quite a few on our list this year and I could not be more excited. Whether it b…
    - 58 days ago 1 Mar 17, 7:08am -
  • Scenes from the weekend.
    Last weekend was such a good one and even though this weekend is already upon us, I felt the need to recap it like I use to do in my early days of blogging. For Sean's birthday he had one request; and it was that we go to the shooting range. I was a…
    - 64 days ago 23 Feb 17, 7:25pm -
  • Keeping up with the Joneses.
    They say that the new rich isn’t the person who has a lot of money but the person who spends less to have more. People are redefining what successful means and are actually spending less time working and more time living.For example: If a person i…
    - 66 days ago 21 Feb 17, 8:32am -
  • Vegas 2017
    When I think that we started going to Vegas in 2008 it surprises me because that’s nine years, y’all. It is also interesting to see how differently we do Vegas now. We use to do club crawls every single time and it was funny to see how not inte…
    - 71 days ago 16 Feb 17, 7:05am -
  • Happy Birthday Dear Husband.
    Today is this guy's birthday. It's crazy to me that this is my 10th year celebrating his birthday. How quickly does time fly.10 years ago, I called him at 1:43am (he had told me that was the time he was born) to wish him a happy birthday. We ended…
    - 73 days ago 14 Feb 17, 7:09am -
  • Hoover Dam.
    If you’ve been a reader of my blog for quite some time you know that Sean and I go to Vegas at least once per year. Although we’ve been going yearly ever since 2008 we never made it out to Hoover Dam. We decided that we would change that this t…
    - 81 days ago 6 Feb 17, 5:49pm -
  • Insert clever food title here.
    Someone, please remind me that the next time we go to The Bayou we make sure that we all don't order individual mac and cheese bowls. They're huge! And oh so good. And maybe if we remember this we'll be able to have room to fit their amazing looki…
    - 85 days ago 2 Feb 17, 7:26pm -
  • 2016 in Review.
    I figured that I get this post up today before January is officially over. When I began drafting this post I thought this wasn't going to be a fun year to recap but to be honest it wasn’t entirely bad because I survived it. I cried (a lot) but I…
    - 88 days ago 30 Jan 17, 7:21am -
  • January 18th.
    (Picture taken a day after my actual birthday)When you’re born you are hit with a date that becomes the most important date in your life. The day you were born. As you get older other dates become imprinted in your mind; your parent’s and sibli…
    - 18 Jan 17, 7:14am -
  • Just what the doctor ordered.
    The weekend before Christmas, I made the 3 ½ hour drive to see Colleen. Not the most fun of a car ride but completely worth it. Although, having Beyonce, Sia and Bruno Mars to belt along to almost made the car ride bearable.Now that Joey is in the…
    - 16 Jan 17, 7:51pm -
  • Currently.
    feeling that I completely slacked on the blog this week. I want to get better about that but I'm feeling this need to rejuvenate myself which is why I've chosen not to be behind the computer much this week except for while at work.loving that my nie…
    - 6 Jan 17, 8:26am -
  • 7 Years of Blogging.
    When I began this blog on January 2nd 2010, I was a newlywed. We weren't even at the two month stage of marriage. When I think of that person, I smile because I was free of heartache, true pain and my motivation was to be able to stay at my wedding…
    - 2 Jan 17, 9:21am -

All the Many Layers

  • The #30Layers30Days Writing Challenge
    We started on November 1, but feel free to join in at any time!  I have been sharing my daily posts on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.  You can also feel free to keep your work private and write in your journal.   If you would like to read and co…
    - 7 Nov 16, 10:40am -
  • new workshops, new blog, new book
    Hey!  Long time no see.I started All the Many Layers at the end of 2012 and it's been my home as I ventured into self-employment and authorship and all kinds of creative adventures.  Right now I have that bittersweet feeling of wanting to go and w…
    - 14 Sep 16, 3:51pm -
  • you are going to have to fall
    my one and only I had a plan.   I thought I would take a huge leap of faith that would change my life drastically, then I'd sit back and watch everything fall into place. Because that is what people say:  it all falls into place.  More accurate f…
    - 19 Apr 16, 1:14pm -
  • overcoming anxiety with minimalism { 10 ideas for a simpler life }
    People make me nervous. So do unexpected phone calls, overbooked schedules and uncomfortable clothes. Life in general makes me nervous.  So many people and problems and energies and uncertainties.  I'm sensitive to all of it.The older I get, the mo…
    - 1 Apr 16, 1:34pm -
  • one day I said it's enough
    She was nothing like me.  I could tell by the things she said to him and the way he responded to her.  She seemed to bring out a side of him I'd never seen before and while their exchange infuriated me, it also intrigued me.   Was this the real hi…
    - 10 Mar 16, 2:39pm -
  • less judgment, more love
    There's about three feet of snow on the ground and I see a woman who looks like she needs help.  But I don't help her.  Because awhile back I'd decided that this woman was mean and my assumptions wouldn't let me move. I'm walking the few feet from…
    - 5 Feb 16, 3:30pm -
  • Preparation + Opportunity + Abundance (and a Special Offer)
    Motherhood, Depression and Sex Panel at Catalyst Con East with Jessica Cary, Anain Bjorkquist and Miko TechnogeishaOver the past two months, I have sat on and hosted panels at two conferences.  I got to speak about topics that I am deeply passionate…
    - 7 May 15, 11:08am -
  • The Big, Bigger, Biggest Problem
    sourceMy problem, your problem, everyone's problem... Is that we think we are not supposed to have any problems. We've been conditioned to avoid problems, mistakes and hardships. So when we struggle, we are not only dealing with the objective situ…
    - 6 Apr 15, 2:34pm -
  • When We Judge Ourselves Most Harshly
    source"A writer – and, I believe, all persons – must think that whatever happens to him or her is a resource. All things have been given to us for a purpose, and an artist must feel this more intensely. All that happens to us, including our misfo…
    - 22 Mar 15, 9:39am -
  • Do You Write Better Than You Talk?
    photo credit:  dfinneyphoto.comThe Words That Move Writing Workshop is a 4-week online writing course for: // Writers who have lost their M O J O.//  Writers who are scared to call themselves writers. //  Writers who feel blocked and unins…
    - 19 Mar 15, 10:28am -
  • She Always Waits for Me
    source“You’re a liar. You said you would wear the blue one and you said you would wear your hair down. I’m beginning to think that you just tell me things to shut me up.”I step in the front door, kiss my accuser on the cheek and bear hug he…
    - 9 Mar 15, 6:49pm -
  • I Thought He Would Leave If I Let Him See Me
    On speaking the truth and hearing the truth without fear.I was silent in my relationship.I didn't have a voice and I resented my partner and myself because of it.I didn't speak up because I didn't want to push him away. I thought I could pretend to…
    - 17 Feb 15, 7:11pm -
  • do you keep your promises to yourself?
    www.ayceebrownphoto.comI promise...  gratitude. truth. courage. faith.You might be afraid to aim too high.You might be afraid to entertain too much happiness because you fear that it could be taken away. Disappointments.  Wasted time.  Maybe you j…
    - 9 Feb 15, 5:35pm -
  • How to Protect Your Energy and Preserve Your Peace of Mind (Step by Step)
    sourceOne minute you're fine.  The next minute you feel like you've been slapped.  Punched in the stomach.  Caught off guard.  Ripped from your happy place. It could be a small thing.  It could be a huge thing.  It might not even matter thirty…
    - 5 Jan 15, 3:40pm -
  • The Art of Writing Words That Move (1:1 Mentoring with GG)
    sourceTo me, everything is an intimate conversation or it's not worth talking.  Even if I'm in a room full of people and a speaker is on the stage, I either feel you like you are talking directly to me or I don't feel you.  If I'm watching a perfor…
    - 3 Dec 14, 6:40pm -
  • Does Anyone Even See Me? The Struggle to Feel Important.
    source"Don't demand attention.  Inspire it."  -  Francheska MedinaSometimes I catch myself wanting to feel more important.  Craving acknowledgment, gold stars and approval.  Not appreciating my own attention -- the smiles I give myself,  the sa…
    - 6 Oct 14, 3:41pm -
  • Weakness or Strength? When Arguing Sucks the Life Out of You.
    sourceDo you ever feel weak or misunderstood because you're not competitive and you don't like to argue?Some people love to argue and debate over every little thing, like they need to constantly spar with someone to feel productive.  I happen to hav…
    - 10 Sep 14, 1:33pm -
  • 44 Self-Discovery Quotes to Inspire You // #30Layers30Days
    . Finally September 1 has arrived and I'm kicking off my first self-discovery challenge #30Layers30Days.   If you would like to sign up to receive the daily email prompts, you can do so here.  Also, follow along on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram…
    - 1 Sep 14, 4:26pm -
  • Is This How Everything Just Falls Into Place?
    source"You shouldn’t try to stop everything from happening. Sometimes you’re supposed to feel awkward. Sometimes you’re supposed to be vulnerable in front of people. Sometimes it’s necessary because it’s all part of you getting to the next…
    - 11 Aug 14, 6:07pm -
  • How to Use Writing As a Self-Discovery Practice
    The link in the photo is wrong. Sorry.  Use this one instead."She has learned to love. To fear. To hate. And then to love again.  Through it all, she writes." - Kimberly KinradeI decided awhile back that if I'm going to cling to anything, it's goin…
    - 5 Jul 14, 9:00am -
  • Acne Sucks and I Don't Feel Pretty Without Makeup
    “I don't know. Just because someone's pretty doesn't mean she's decent. Or vice versa. I'm not into appearances. I like flaws, I think they make things interesting.” - Sarah DessenI'll be the first one to tell you that makeup should be an indulg…
    - 5 May 14, 2:26pm -
  • I Felt Like I'd Been Thrown Away
    source“I learned to love myself but only after the love of others would not quite do.” – Shefon NachelleDo you remember your first love?Oh, I do. The rush! The urgency! The passion! No one could tell me that we were not meant to be. Young and u…
    - 25 Mar 14, 2:52pm -
  • Blood, Sweat and Tears // A Magic Potion for Dreamers
    sourceThere’s no miracle in a jar that will magically make your hair grow overnight or make all your dreams come true. Whether we're talking about hair or life, when we want to make something happen, we have to experience it internally before it ca…
    - 17 Feb 14, 1:40pm -
  • I'll Be Right Back, But First A Preview
     sourceThings will be pretty slow around here for the next couple of weeks, but I’ll be back on July 15 with a vengeance. If you’ve been following the blog using Google Reader, you already know that it will be gone after today. I’d…
    - 1 Jul 13, 4:34pm -

Chasing Joy

  • Round Up: 100 Ways For Singles To Have The Very Best Valentine's Day
    Valentine's Day is coming up.  As you long time readers know I am single.  I have been single for way more Valentine's Days than I have been in a relationship.  Actually I think I have only had a Valentine about 2 or 3 times.  So, I know that Val…
    - 8 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Miscarriage Update, Nothing Joyful About It.
    Oh how I wish every post on Chasing Joy could be a happy one.  Unfortunately that is not the case.  On Fridays I post Baby Making Updates on my journey to becoming a Single Mother By Choice.  Last Fridays Baby Making Update was a sad one.  This o…
    - 5 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Four Reasons You Will Love And Find Joy At Philadelphia Restaurant Week
    Restaurant Week!!!!  I love Restaurant Week. I even did a video about Restaurant Week when I was participating in VEDA.   Restaurant Week just ended here in Philly and I got to go on the last day.  This was probably like my 20th time.  Philadelph…
    - 1 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: Am I Pregnant or Not??? IUI #6 Using Donor Sperm Results
    It's time to test!  I have to say this was my most emotional experience thus far. Was my 6th IUI THE ONE!!!Let's find out... Oh, special shout out for all who watch the video to the end.  Sorry it's a long one, but like I said lot's of emotional st…
    - 29 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Using Scripture In A Practical Way To Chase Joy
    This year my theme word is surrender as I realize one of the main things that robs me of the joy I'm chasing is worrying about things that I cannot control.  I need to surrender those things to God.As I develop goals through the year I am keeping my…
    - 27 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Why I'm Not Planning My Co-Worker's Wedding Shower
    Normally my blog posts are about things that I am doing, want to do, or have done to have more joy.  Today's blog post is different.  Instead, I am going to tell you about something I'm not going to do.  I am not planning my co-worker's wedding sh…
    - 25 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: Live IUI with Frozen Donor Sperm to Become an SMC (Single Mother by Choice)
    Happy Friday!  I guess school and work have conditioned me to love Fridays.  Now they are even more fun because Friday is when I give you guys a baby making update.  So here is this week's.  This week's update is live video of my IUI.  This one…
    - 22 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • I Have A Dream...
    Happy Martin Luther King Day.  As we all know he had a dream.  He had a big dream. A dream for his country, my country, the United States.  We know all about his dream because he did everything he could to achieve it.  He preached about it, march…
    - 18 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • The Plan. IUI #6. Trying To Conceive With Frozen Donor Sperm
    It's a new year and a new cycle.  This update is about gearing myself up for another try at becoming a mom. This is my 10th cycle and 6th IUI.  I cannot believe it has been almost a year since I started trying and over a year since I decided to emb…
    - 15 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy with Char Power!
    A while ago I used to post Way To Go Wednesday status updates on the Chasing Joy Facebook Page.  I have not done an update like that in a while.  But today I have an awesome Way To Go Wednesday shout out to Char Power for having a positive attitude…
    - 13 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • The Fringe Hours For Self-Love & Self-Care
    This is a sponsored post. I was provided with The Fringe Hours materials at no cost to review for this post.  However, all thoughts and opinions expressed herein are my own.Over the  years Chasing Joy has evolved.  Initially, it was about focusing…
    - 11 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Reflecting On One Year Trying To Conceive To Become A Single Mother By Choice
    January is a time of reflection.  A year has ended another has begun.  Am I in the same place this year as I was last year? A better place? A worse Place?  Do I need a goal? A New Year's resolution? Should I go with a theme word?  These are some…
    - 8 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's Word for 2016: Surrender
    It is a new year Joy Chasers, 2016!  This is a time of reflection for many of us.  I'm no different.  I am thinking about this year, how I'd like it to be better than the last couple of years, what growth I'd like to see in the Chasing Joy Brand,…
    - 4 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Dear 2016
    Dear 2016,Welcome!  I am very happy to have you. I welcome you with open arms and optimism.  I am excited for the fresh start that a new year brings. 2016 I don't have a lot of plans for you.  I am trying something a little different this year. I…
    - 1 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Dear 2015
    Dear 2015,I am not even sure what I want to say to you.  I had very high expectations for you.  Now as we prepare to say goodbye in 48 hours I feel that you let me down.  You really dropped the ball  right at the end when you were in position to…
    - 30 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Funny Quotes: Using Laugther to Chase Joy
    Christmas is over.  I cannot believe it came and went so fast.  I had a nice Christmas.  It was a low key day spent with my favorite person, my mom.  Santa was good to both of us so clearly our names were nowhere near the naughty list.In my famil…
    - 28 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Merry Christmas!!!
    Merry Christmas!!!!I wish you all a Happy and Joyful Christmas.  May we all remember what Christmas is all about.The birth of Jesus Christ and His gift of salvation.Family and Friends.Generosity.Food and Fun.Tradition and Reminiscing.How are you spe…
    - 25 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's Top 3 Posts on Staying Happy During The Holidays
    Christmas is only a couple of days away!!!  I hope you are happy and excited about it.  However I know some of you may not be feeling that way. While it is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year that is not always the case.  Often the…
    - 23 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • It Aint All Joyful. Talking Myself Through Uncertainty & Limbo
    Uncertainty!  Limbo! Ugh!!!  These are two things that I hate.  I like being in control.  I like knowing what is coming my way.   I want to prepare.  I want to get in the right mind set.  I want to be ready.  I cannot do any of that when noth…
    - 21 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • How To Keep Going After Disappointment While Trying To Conceive
    This trying to conceive process is not for wimps.  It is a hard and even sobering experience.  To expect to be a parent your whole life, to spend years trying to avoid it before you are ready, only to have negative test after negative test once you…
    - 18 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Give Yourself The Gift Of Kindness
    Christmas is less than two weeks away!  The year is over in less than three weeks!  Are you stressing?  Are you racing around trying to get that perfect gift for you kid, spouse, parent???  Are you putting in long hours at work to make year end d…
    - 14 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Testing, Testing, Pregnant or Not Pregnant
    Here we are again.  The end of the cycle.  The monitoring is done and I have survived yet another two week wait.  Did it work? Am I expecting my very own Bundle of Joy?  Let's watch... If you have trouble with the embedded video click here < Live…
    - 11 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Joyful Quotes: Words of Wisdom From Notable Muslims
    I am a government employee.  I don't talk about it much because I don't blog about work much.  But it does impact this blog.  Since I work for the Feds I cannot write about whatever I want on this blog.  I give up a little of my freedom of speech…
    - 9 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's #JoyOfGiving December Challenge & Giveaway
    I'm still in shock that the year is just about over.  I mean we are a full week into December. How did that happen???  SMH.With only a few weeks left in the year we are all busy.  Hanukkah has started. Christmas is around the corner.  There are g…
    - 7 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: The Wait!!!
    Last week I did not share a baby making update because I figured everyone would be too busy eating leftover turkey and cranberry sauce and shopping on black Friday.  Now that the holiday has passed let's get back to our normally scheduled programing…
    - 4 Dec 15, 12:00am -

'83 To Infinity

  • EASY & FLY: Bee’s Crochet Braid Experience
    Crochet braids!(right photo courtesy of Jessica Laforet)If you know me, you know a few things when it comes to hair:I get bored easily.I love low-maintenance looks that don’t look low-maintenance.I like to give my crown a break every now and…
    - 9 days ago 19 Apr 17, 9:17am -
  • PAST GEM: The Beauty of Bacchanal: Celebrating Feminine Freedom Through Carnival
    As I recently said on Twitter, it’s getting close to that time of year where I mute any words related to Trinidad Carnival. I’m missing out on the bacchanal this year, and of all the flavours I could choose to be, I chose to be salty. To all my p…
    - 66 days ago 21 Feb 17, 8:15am -
  • STAY FLY: Fashion Inspiration For The 2017 Black Diamond Ball
    We’re in the midst of Hollywood award season and I don’t know about y’all, but taking in the range of red carpet style – from the daring Grammys to the glamourous Oscars – always makes me yearn for a moment to get dolled up, too.If you’r…
    - 73 days ago 14 Feb 17, 7:54pm -
  • #HIDDENFIGURES: Uncovering Our Stories [+ CONTEST]
    We’re in a new year, filled with new dreams, goals, plans, and wishes. On a micro and macro level though, I’m seeing how important it is that we know where we’ve been so that we can know where we’re going. A perfect example of this is the up…
    - 3 Jan 17, 11:14am -
  • VIOLA ISN’T ROSA: Viola Desmond & The Erasure Of Black Canadian History
    Viola Desmond’s sister Wanda Robson with Canada’s Minister of Finance Bill Morneau – via lpress.comI’m not sure what troubles me more – that so many Canadians are unfamiliar with Viola Desmond, or that so many feel the need to validate he…
    - 8 Dec 16, 1:50pm -
  • SICK & TIRED: A Few Things I’m Tired Of
    I’m tired. This isn’t going to be a sunshiny post, and I may not have any effective words of wisdom at the end.But bitch, I’m tired.There are things that I used to accept as compliments – things people have said to me about my ability to c…
    - 7 Dec 16, 8:13am -
  • LIKE DEAD LEAVES: Doing The Work Of Purging & Pruning

    - 30 Nov 16, 8:15am -
  • WORK LIFE: The Book I Want To Write About My Career
    After years of struggle, I’m finally starting to see a bright light career-wise. I’m on track to end 2016 in a much better place than where I started, and in a much better place than I’ve been in a long time. This isn’t just related to how mu…
    - 7 Nov 16, 8:10am -
  • QUEEN SUGAR: The Reality Unfolds, The Beauty Begins
    Picture this:Tuesday night. Dinner was done, the kitchen was clean. Hubby was on “Get baby ready for bed” duty, and I had hopped in the shower and back out just in time. With 10 minutes to spare until 10pm, I was more than ready to finally watc…
    - 9 Sep 16, 11:37am -
  • #MEDIAMAGIC: When Life Brings You Where You’re Meant To Be
    All photos in this post courtesy of Lawrence Kerr PhotographyThe synchronicity of life’s full-circle moments should never be taken lightly.It’s in the power of those moments – when seemingly random pieces of your life story join together lik…
    - 1 Sep 16, 8:15am -

Diary of a Sewing Fanatic

  • McCalls 7542 - The Sleeves
    I'm working with McCalls 7542.  Since we all know that patterns don't fit us right out of the envelope, I needed to make several changes to the pattern to make elements of it work for me. For me the sleeve is where I needed to make the most changes,…
    - 2 days ago 26 Apr 17, 12:00am -
  • Saldana Dress from Sew Sew Def Magazine
    I'm always looking for a new maxidress style because I love them. They are a staple of my spring/summer wardrobe. So I was intrigued by the Saldana Dress in the inaugral issue of the digital sewing magazine Sew Sew Def. Let's start out by stating t…
    - 5 days ago 23 Apr 17, 2:00pm -
  • Stripes & Lace Button Down
    It seems like my spring sewing so far has been inspired by photos I've saved during the long dreary winter months. There are a few designers whose work I really admire so I follow them on Instagram. Isaac Mizrahi is one of those designers. I found th…
    - 10 days ago 18 Apr 17, 9:00pm -
  • Do you have a Sewing List?
    It's the start of a new season - Spring - one of my favorite seasons! And as I do every cycle, I make a new sewing list. In years past, I've used a notebook, a scrap of paper and my iPad to make a list.Last fall I made a very long and comprehensive l…
    - 16 days ago 12 Apr 17, 12:00am -
  • McCalls 7481 and some Dashiki Fabric
    It's getting warmer and to celebrate that fact, I'm starting to sew spring. Since I bought this fabric to #CarriageCornerSewCamp and didn't get to work on it, I decided it should be the next thing up in my sewing queue.  So in that spirit, I started…
    - 18 days ago 10 Apr 17, 12:00am -
  • First Quarter Review - 2017
    All things are finally starting to bloom...new leaves on the trees...spring flowers budding and I'm happy. I love Spring! Even though I've been sewing lighter weight clothing for the last couple of weeks, I'm looking forward to sewing more warm weath…
    - 20 days ago 8 Apr 17, 2:03pm -
  • #CarriageCornerSewCamp
    My intent was to come home Monday evening and blog about #CarriageCornerSewCamp right away. However, the experience was still sooooo immediate that I felt like I needed to take a moment and step back so I could talk about the experience cohertly. Thi…
    - 27 days ago 1 Apr 17, 5:36pm -
  • Sprout Patterns Cashmerette Turner Dress
    Let me start out by saying that this fabric was given to me by Sprout Patterns (sister site to Spoonflower) to review, so this is a sponsored post. However, all of the comments are mine. First, the most appealing feature of purchasing the pattern pr…
    - 30 days ago 29 Mar 17, 12:00am -
  • Meet me at Fabric Mart on Friday!
    I will be at Fabric Mart in Sinking Springs, PA on Friday, March 24th with the ladies attending the Sew Camp at the Carriage Corner B&B and Gaylen (GmarieSews). We should be there around 11am. If you want to come by and say hi, or shop with us, pleas…
    - 38 days ago 21 Mar 17, 12:00am -
  • Simplicity 8094 - 4x
    I'm on a top sewing binge. It's been tops, tops, tops for the last month. I see inspiration everywhere. A top I saw on QVC a couple of months ago inspired this one.Joan Rivers Top from QVCThis top reminded me of my versions of Simplicity 8094 and I'v…
    - 39 days ago 20 Mar 17, 12:00am -
  • Are you an innie or an outie?
    I read this article on Yahoo about a bedridden Grandmother who'd taken up "Paint by Numbers" painting as a way to relieve the boredom of being bedridden. It made me realize that I love being indoors. I'm not an outdoors girl at all. When the weather…
    - 41 days ago 18 Mar 17, 12:00am -
  • Denim McCalls 7095
    This top really worked my last nerve. My fabric choice, the sleeve cap and my sleeve choice all made this top much more difficult and time consuming than it should have been.Let's start with the pattern. I've made this pattern three times before alwa…
    - 44 days ago 15 Mar 17, 12:00am -
  • Butterick 5678 + Vogue 7700 = Mashup x Three
    This is my third version of the button down shirt mash up. Halfway through finishing my second version I knew I wanted more. I thought two more but the fabric I used for this one pretty much squashed making a fourth one right away because this fabric…
    - 47 days ago 12 Mar 17, 3:00pm -
  • Following Up...
    First a reminder about the sewing retreat at Carriage Corner ~ March 24-27th. Gaylen wrote an amazing post about why she wants to hold Sewing Retreats, you can find it here.The itinerary for the weekend ~Friday, March 24th ~ Arrive by 10am. Then t…
    - 57 days ago 2 Mar 17, 7:40am -
  • Piped Cuffs
    The piped cuffs on the button downs in the last post were not included in either pattern and came about because I didn't have enough buttons when I was making the first version. I really liked the green glass buttons that I used for the cotton versi…
    - 59 days ago 28 Feb 17, 12:00am -
  • Fabric Makes All of the Difference
    I have a lot of button down shirt patterns in the pattern stash. Each one purchased for a different reason, idea and/or dream. Lately I've wanted to make a couple of them. I found an out-of-print (OOP) Vogue 7700 in the stash recently...and I loved i…
    - 61 days ago 26 Feb 17, 2:15pm -
  • What's Your Process?
    I'm in the midst of sewing button down shirts. Creatively they are really speaking to me.  I'm working with a mash-up of Butterick 5678 and Vogue 7700. I've posted pictures of the cotton & steel version to Instagram here and here.The first one is do…
    - 70 days ago 17 Feb 17, 12:30pm -
  • Simplicity 8059 - A Blue Velvet Vest
    When I was making the cardigans, the blue velvet was my favorite. I loved the look of it, the fabric and the ties, but the sleeves were just too tight. I tried to take some of the seam allowance out of the sleeves, knowing that the velvet holds the m…
    - 75 days ago 12 Feb 17, 12:00am -
  • Butterick 6389 - A Vest
    I love these loose floaty vests and when I saw Butterick 6389, I knew I needed to add a version of this to my wardrobe.I bought several of these boiled wools from Fabric Mart years ago. At the time I wanted to use them to make short cardigan jackets…
    - 79 days ago 8 Feb 17, 12:00am -
  • Cashmerette Turner Tunic
    I really like this pattern cause y'all know I love a dress but dresses only figure predominantly in my wardrobe from late May to September. Somehow a dress in the spring/summer works in my very casual office but not so much in the fall/winter. So I d…
    - 82 days ago 5 Feb 17, 3:00pm -
  • It's All in the Details
    Honestly, I may never get the other three cardigans photographed. I guess I'm not that good at faking it until I can make it. Thanks Sallie for that reminder! Cause I'm doing good just getting myself together to go face the world every day! *LOL*So I…
    - 86 days ago 1 Feb 17, 12:06am -
  • ...
    This is one of my versions of Simplicity 8059.  I wore it to work on Friday because I knew I was meeting Tasha, who authors the blog, The Tell Tale Tasha for dinner.These pictures were taken by my coworker shortly before I left to meet Tasha. I'd pl…
    - 88 days ago 29 Jan 17, 9:59pm -
  • Spring Fling Sewing Retreat at Carriage Corners
    At the end of my Christmas Vacay post, I mentioned that Gaylen will be sponsoring a Sewing Retreat at Carriage Corners the weekend of March 24-26, 2017. Also that I would be there to work with you on your sewing challenges, developing a TNT, and how…
    - 93 days ago 25 Jan 17, 12:00am -
  • NEXT...Sunday Miscellany
    First, you may have noticed this year that I didn't do a tribute post for the Martin Luther King, Jr. holiday. I don't even know the last time I didn't write one and am to lazy to look it up. There was a two-fold reason for that, that whole Twitter w…
    - 95 days ago 22 Jan 17, 10:26pm -
  • The End of an Era...
    Earlier this month I celebrated my 11th anniversary of blogging, during that time Barack Obama has been President of the United States for the last eight years. Today a new administration enters the White House. It is the natural progression of even…
    - 98 days ago 20 Jan 17, 12:00am -

African American - Latino World

  • Afro-Latino Films for Black History Month and Beyond
      When discussing black history, the subject is too often limited to black Americans as black history can be traced even to places like Russia. There is much more to the black race as it extends through many languages and cultures around the world.…
    - 65 days ago 22 Feb 17, 7:34pm -
  • The Root of Latin-American Racism
    A black American male got into a friendly conversation with two black women in Oakland, California's Eastmont Town Center. When the subject of race came up, both woman politely asserted their racial and cultural confusion with a pleasant smile statin…
    - 74 days ago 13 Feb 17, 1:48pm -
  • UPDATE: I Stepped Away from my Beloved Afro-Peruvian Godchild
    My godchild on her 11th birthday The downside of traveling to developing countries like Perú and getting too close to the people is that many will think that you are in the same economic bracket as Donald Trump and will often hit on you for money. M…
    - 79 days ago 8 Feb 17, 8:16pm -
  • Black and Female from the Dominican Republic
    Vanity Duran was accepted into Florida A&M University not knowing it was a Historically Black College & University. Once on campus, she was pleased to see a predominately black student body and felt that being black herself she would fit right in. Wr…
    - 90 days ago 28 Jan 17, 3:42pm -
  • During Trump's Inauguration, I Will Be in a Latino World
    At a block party while visiting El Carmen, Perú  I am second from the right attending a party in El Carmen, PerúOn Friday, January 20, many TV channels will be airing Donald Trump's inauguration. A host of people across the country, including poli…
    - 15 Jan 17, 3:19pm -
  • Surge in Latinos Embracing Black Heritage
    Black Bolivians parading their black prideA young, African-American girl used to tell a good friend of hers at the Harriet Beecher Stowe Intermediate School here in New York that she is black, and not Latina. That comment infuriated Marta Orozco so m…
    - 10 Jan 17, 10:15pm -
  • PRESUMED CUBAN: African American Tourists Mistaken for Afro Cuban
    Arriving at the José Martí Airport in Havana, Cuba to be processed by immigration Since my trip to Cuba years back, I heard accounts from other African Americans who visited the island who had a different experience than I when it came to experie…
    - 2 Jan 17, 2:29pm -
  • Blacks and Browns in Harlem Celebrate the Legacy of the Puerto Rican Ally of the Black Panther Party
     Schomburg Center for Research and Black Culture on Malcolm X Boulevard in Harlem, NYC Recently, I attended a celebration of the Puerto Rican contribution to the black and brown liberation struggles of the 1960s, which was hosted by the Schomburg Ce…
    - 19 Dec 16, 1:06pm -
  • Thinking of Stepping Away From my Beloved Afro-Peruvian Godchild
    The main square of El Carmen, PerúI am among the few heterosexual, black males who made it well into adulthood without birthing any children. I don't know about the minuses of this experience, but I am certainly aware of the plusses; no hefty child…
    - 10 Dec 16, 6:50pm -
  • Afro-Latino Successor to Marcus Garvey
     Carlos Cooks of the Dominican RepublicMarcus Garvey was a Jamaican political leader, publisher, journalist, entrepreneur, and orator who was a staunch proponent of unity and self-help among members of the African diaspora to which end he founded th…
    - 25 Oct 16, 2:28pm -
  • A Language Learning Program That is Way Better than Rosetta Stone
    Receiving my Advanced Spanish certification from El Sol language school in Lima, Perú  I had several jobs where hardly a day went by when I did not engage Spanish speakers or serve as an interpreter. One company gave me bi-lingual pay. Many peopl…
    - 18 Oct 16, 3:00am -
  • A Puerto Rican Finds Her Black Identity
    Real Latinos come in all colors, including black. However, there are many Latinos of African ancestry who, despite being descendants of African slaves and experiencing home-grown racism in their respective countries, deny their black skin, and some t…
    - 14 Oct 16, 3:00am -
  • Ecuador Celebrates Black Heritage Month in October
    October, Afro-Ecuadorian Heritage MonthNegro, negro renegrido       Black, black, blackenedNegro, hermano del carbón       black, brother of charcoal,negro de negros nacido      born black                    Negro ayer, m…
    - 10 Oct 16, 1:14pm -
  • Afro Latinos React to “Blacks in Latin America” PBS Series
    I have fought many years as a youngster growing up in the U.S., and not being accepted by blacks because they say I was “different,” and not accepted by Latinos because I did not look like Ricky Martin.”—Marcus Edwin, son of a black Cuban mot…
    - 4 Oct 16, 6:16pm -
  • Afro Latinos React to “Blacks in Latin America” PBS Series
    This blog post was transferred for better viewing. Please click:Afro Latinos React to “Blacks in Latin America”or copy and paste this URL to your browser: http://ahorasecreto.blogspot.com/2016/10/afro-latinos-react-to-blacks-in-latin.html
    - 3 Oct 16, 10:22am -
  • The Legacy of Black Music in Latin America
     I am addressing the New Amsterdam Musical Association in Harlem, New York City, the largest African-American musical association in the U.S. on African history in Latin Music.Years ago, I was coming home from work on the Bay Area Rapid Transit (BA…
    - 28 Sep 16, 7:24pm -
  • Black Pride in a Latino World
    The main square of the all-black town of San Basilio de Palenque in Colombia, South AmericaAll through my life, I heard stories about black Americans who try to pretend they are Native American, Latino, or anything other than black American, but nev…
    - 18 Sep 16, 6:41pm -
  • The Mother of Afro-Peruvian Dance and Theater
    Victoria Santa Cruz  My heart swelled as this little Afro-Ecuadorian girl in the video below, no more than five years of age, passionately shouts her poetic black pride in her black community of Esmeraldas, Ecuador. She blatantly reminded me of the…
    - 13 Sep 16, 6:32pm -
  • The Spanish Language on “Defense!”
    Why are so many Spanish speakers in the U.S. so defensive with those trying to learn to speak Spanish?Melissa, a good friend of mine of Honduran, Central American ancestry got annoyed with me one evening when we stopped to get some refreshments on ou…
    - 10 Sep 16, 8:22pm -
  • Afro Town: A Black Exhibit in Uruguay, South America
    When many think of Latin-American countries containing members of the African diaspora, countries like Cuba, Puerto Rico, the Dominican Republic immediately come to mind, but only a few would think of Uruguay in South America.However, freelance phot…
    - 3 Sep 16, 8:24pm -
  • Why Black Lives Matter Needs to Diversify
    Andy Lopez, 13, shot by sheriff's deputy for carrying a toy gun In 2013, Andy Lopez, 13, like Tamir Briley, 12, in Cleveland, Ohio, was shot to death by sheriff's deputy in Santa Rosa, California for carrying an airsoft gun that was designed to re…
    - 18 Jul 16, 11:00am -
  • African Music Made in America: SALSA!

    - 7 Jul 16, 11:14am -
  • Puerto Rican Beauticians Make Hurftul Comments in Spanish About Black Client
    “The assumption that being black and Latino is not possible isn’t only false — it can have harmful consequences on a person’s sense of identity, as revealed by one woman in a recent video that’s going viral.”Link to original article an…
    - 26 Jun 16, 6:44pm -
  • A Black American in Black Perú
    I'm standing in the back, second from the right in the home of Perú's famous Ballumbrosio family.As I carried my drink from the bar to my table with a big smile in anticipation of seeing a popular black singer from Perú at a Latin American club in…
    - 22 Jun 16, 8:42pm -
  • Blacks in Bolivia Want You to Know: ¡Estamos Aquí (We're Here)!
    The video below is produced by an Afro-Bolivian cultural organization known as MAUCHI where Afro Bolivans come together to support each others' Afrocentricity. They talk about how they overcame the inclination towards self hatred of their blackness…
    - 15 Jun 16, 11:38am -