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Fledgling

  • moving day
    My new website is up and running—and I love it! I will be blogging over there from now on, so I hope you’ll take a look. You can also find my essays, videos, and other important links over there. I will check with my web designer to see if curren…
    - 15 Nov 14, 5:41pm -
  • quality, quantity, context
    I’ll be speaking on an Afrofuturism panel at Brooklyn College next week, and I hope I’ll have the chance to talk about After Earth. Most critics panned the film but for Black youth (boys in particular), that film is groundbreaking—something whi…
    - 7 Nov 14, 10:38am -
  • a) political
    Children’s literature is not neutral. It can be educational and entertaining, but books for kids also tell us something about our society and ourselves. As I wrote in my last HuffPo essay, There’s clearly a direct link between the misrepresentati…
    - 5 Nov 14, 10:32am -
  • cell
    I used to tell people that I lived under a rock. I’m an HSP and one way I manage my various sensitivities is by withdrawing from the world; my home is my sanctuary and I try to keep it clutter-free by conducting regular purges so that I only keep t…
    - 3 Nov 14, 12:14pm -
  • shut in/shut out
    I always take a selfie on my birthday but this year I’ve been taking pictures all month long. Every time I’m out with friends, I ask someone to snap a photo with their phone so that there’s proof of our outing. I’ve just started writing again…
    - 25 Oct 14, 10:49am -
  • be radical
    While I was in Sacramento I met Kate Schatz, Chair of the School of Literary Arts at Oakland School for the Arts and author of Rad American Women A-Z. Laura Atkins introduced us (of course) and persuaded Kate to take a look at my books (of course). T…
    - 21 Oct 14, 11:53am -
  • medieval mix
    I’ve started planning my annual low-key birthday celebration. This Brooklyn photography exhibit is on the list along with the Dillons’ retrospective at the Society of Illustrators. Then on the actual day I think I’ll visit the Cloisters and may…
    - 20 Oct 14, 6:41pm -
  • seed & source
    My website’s getting an overdue overhaul and it’s been challenging to find a “look” that represents who I am as a writer. There will be purple, of course, but I originally wanted a “plantation ruins” aesthetic that proved hard to achieve.…
    - 17 Oct 14, 2:02pm -
  • not nice

    - 13 Oct 14, 11:38pm -
  • pieces
    Kidlitcon is just a few days away and I’m working on my panel presentation, which means I’m gathering up all the bits and pieces that explain why I do what I do. I’m a bit of a mess these days. On Sunday the protestors singing a “Requiem for…
    - 7 Oct 14, 3:12pm -

Eye of the 'Drea

  • On The Fly
    Had an exercise date last night. Jessica and I went swimming and, since I hadn't been in months, I was looking forward to it. My abs were on fire afterwards; I don't usually have that experience. It made me think of the book that I just read and how…
    - 4 days ago 17 Apr 19, 11:00pm -
  • A Day Late
    I'm not a trivia buff but went to an event on Friday because a paid contractor that I work with thought it would be a nice occasion for us to socialize and have fun and it was.To my surprise, I knew more than two answers.I was impressed by my table m…
    - 6 days ago 15 Apr 19, 11:05pm -
  • No Rest
    Wanted to go to yoga yesterday and had my eye on a 2 p.m. class called Yoga Therapy for Strong Bones or a 4 p.m. Restorative. Decided to go to the 2 p.m. because that would still give me time to play around before visiting relatives in the evening. A…
    - 20 days ago 1 Apr 19, 11:50pm -
  • Not As Zen Either
    I'm reading so many yoga books that it's hard to remember what yoga gems come from where but I'm going to find a binder around the house and keep the treasures centralized. I would put them in my yoga teacher training manual but it's already pretty f…
    - 22 days ago 30 Mar 19, 11:05pm -
  • Other Adjectives
    At the end of Saturday, experienced that familiar feeling of not having gotten enough chores done but I read, went to Zumba and worked in the yard for an hour.On Sunday checked off a few more chores then went to the botanical garden to see the orchid…
    - 27 days ago 26 Mar 19, 12:00am -
  • A Simple Start
    Mentioned to the yoga class that it's the Spring Equinox, Holi, International Day of Happiness and World Storytelling Day.This woman, who joined us for the first time, said And it's my birthday. Next, she apologized for interrupting. None of us mind…
    - 32 days ago 20 Mar 19, 11:10pm -
  • To Rouse Them
    Wrapped up Yoga Teacher Training this past weekend, wow! It was bittersweet, for sure.I am happy about having another weekend to rest but I will miss my mat mates and the intense learning experience (with deadlines).For our final weekend, we had to t…
    - 38 days ago 14 Mar 19, 11:15pm -
  • The Chorus
    Trying not to join the chorus of people who are saying "I'm tired of winter" because it is, after all, still winter.My backup camera days ago...It's the six month of being super understaffed at work and people send me emails like "Circling back to th…
    - 45 days ago 7 Mar 19, 11:37pm -
  • I Relate
    Saturday is, hands down, my favorite day. I don't usually have anywhere to be in the morning so I leisurely read, drink coffee then head to Zumba around 10:40 which is what I did today.Ran a quick errand then came home to eat before meeting Alison at…
    - 50 days ago 2 Mar 19, 10:15pm -
  • The One-On-One
    Gave in to the urge to return to the Sunday meditation class which, at 6:00 p.m., is not ideal for my Sunday travels but I do enjoy the class and I'm thinking about making adjustments to my schedule.Thought going to meditation would also help with my…
    - 53 days ago 27 Feb 19, 11:40pm -
  • Not Trying To...
    Reported for Jury Duty yesterday and it's still something that I have mixed emotions about. It can certainly be an inconvenience but, from a historical perspective alone, I'm there and not trying to answer in a way that will get me dismissed.The last…
    - 60 days ago 20 Feb 19, 10:45pm -
  • Exchanges...
    Full day yesterday.Went to Zumba and from there headed to a new age store to see if they had rain sticks. There was one left and I listened to it for a good 10 minutes but couldn't decided on whether I really wanted it. From there headed to Talbots -…
    - 63 days ago 18 Feb 19, 12:05am -
  • Practicing
    Today's ClassroomBecause of yoga teacher training, I didn't have a whole lot of time to prepare for today's yoga class.Skipped swimming yesterday, wrote a sequence then practiced it.Practicing a sequence totally makes a difference as it allows you to…
    - 67 days ago 13 Feb 19, 11:50pm -
  • Anticipation
    Running on fumes...Yoga teacher training was this past weekend and the weather intervened again. We had a delayed start on Sunday because of icy roads...My hair is overdue to be washed. The fish tank is overdue a cleaning. The Subaru peeps have calle…
    - 69 days ago 12 Feb 19, 12:25am -
  • Until You're Not
    Fog on Swim NightWent swimming on Tuesday. Hadn't been since the end of December and it felt good to be back in the pool. The only downside is that I was so congested that I couldn't sleep. As Alison says, I need a saltwater pool.Taught a yoga class…
    - 73 days ago 8 Feb 19, 12:05am -
  • 730 Days
    Went to Zumba this morning and modified when I needed to. Left Zumba to go rinse salt off my car and, of course, I picked the bay where the guy kept putting quarters in. Had to talk to myself -- "He won't be here forever." Another bay opened up and t…
    - 78 days ago 2 Feb 19, 11:48pm -
  • Shared Names
    Got in my car on Wednesday and the thermostat quickly went from seven degrees to five to zero.My particular office in an old building is not equipped to deal with a Polar Vortex. We put blankets in the window. People offered refuge in their offices.…
    - 80 days ago 31 Jan 19, 11:45pm -
  • Mixed Results
    Had high hopes of hibernating this weekend; I've had mixed results.Despite my left knee bothering me, went to Zumba but definitely modified moves and stayed away from turning and jumping.This knee thing is so weird. It tightens then loosens. Sometime…
    - 85 days ago 26 Jan 19, 10:45pm -
  • She's Good
    After three years, the batteries inside of my Garmin Vivofit tracker gave out. Anticipating that the batteries would wear out sooner than later, I purchased replacements more than a year ago but couldn't find them. Ordered more and chided myself for…
    - 88 days ago 23 Jan 19, 11:45pm -
  • Homestretch
    Forest ParkFor the most part, we missed the harshest weather this weekend. It has been really cold but, hey, it's winter.Went to a chair yoga class at a new studio on Sunday and, today, went to celebrate The Collective's anniversary at the Missouri H…
    - 90 days ago 21 Jan 19, 10:49pm -
  • The Bright Spot
    Made a "bread, milk and egg" run Thursday night to prepare for the Snowpocalypse. On Friday, we were allowed to leave work a little early. One of my poor colleagues got stuck in traffic for five hours. Yoga Teacher Training was canceled on Friday and…
    - 98 days ago 13 Jan 19, 11:35pm -
  • The Cat Purr
    Did another sound therapy session last night and was surprised when a cat greeted me. She walked straight to me as if to introduce herself. How had I forgotten that this person had cats? Now, I really enjoy doing sessions when there are cats present.…
    - 9 Jan 19, 11:10pm -
  • Well, Warm Up Then...
    As I prepared for Zumba yesterday, went to retrieve my water bottle from the car and decided to see if my mother wanted to go to the Botanical Garden instead since we are having unseasonably warm weather. My mother enjoyed herself and quickly came up…
    - 6 Jan 19, 11:30pm -
  • The Year That Was
    In February went to Montego Bay with my mother and aunt. The most memorable moment was picking up a passenger on several walks who showed me the real Jamaica.In between February and May, my mother didn't feel well and I wondered if I should sign up f…
    - 31 Dec 18, 11:15pm -
  • Rainy Day Session
    Abandoned Bird Cage on a Bench at Work*Last Thursday one of my coworkers asked me to deliver a Secret Santa gift. You like to walk, she said. It's kind of funny that I have a reputation, with one of the youngins, for walking.The annual holiday work p…
    - 17 Dec 18, 10:30pm -

Twenties Unscripted

  • Woman Unscripted
    I walked around for most of 2018 with a shiny pair of invisible handcuffs tying my wrists together. I couldn’t write. I didn’t write. I wouldn’t write. I stopped knowing what the pitter patter of laptop keys beneath my fingertips sounded like.…
    - 11 Sep 18, 9:52pm -
  • On Loving and Writing
    Originally published in Aug. 5 Sunday Kind of Love newsletter I. Loving you is something like swimming in still waters and driving with the windows down. Easy. Calm. Even. Smooth. I once believed that love was more of a roller coaster, with skyrocket…
    - 12 Aug 18, 7:06pm -
  • The Allure of the Mess
    I wanted to believe that we could live somewhere above labels and the law. When I think of it now, it all seems so juvenile and silly, two adults with deepening feelings for one another and a refusal to put definition around them. “We’re both adu…
    - 5 Jun 18, 6:27am -
  • Do Not Dare To Dim Your Light (A Note To Self)
    On a drizzly Saturday evening, you’ll walk into European Wax Center and the sign on the door will catch your eye. “Walk in, strut out.” You’ll roll your eyes a little bit at the marketing and how women are supposed to have an extra pep in the…
    - 19 Mar 18, 8:10pm -
  • Black Girl, Interrupted
    Something about him gives me pause and makes me drop my fork mid-bite. He’s standing at the soda machine, pouring cup after cup of water and gulping it down. I don’t want to feel uneasy or afraid – maybe he is just a thirsty guy in need of some…
    - 7 Feb 18, 6:56pm -

Lactation Journey

  • I did a thing (and it has to do with researching African American Breastfeeding in Mississippi)
    [Image]: My (fully loaded) car in front of the state sign. It reads: Welcome To Mississippi – Birthplace of America’s Music. I finally made it to Mississippi – to the Delta. And I’ve been here for just over a week! The drive was long and good…
    - 18 Dec 18, 10:50am -
  • The ‘Respectable’ Black Midwife vs The Respected Black Midwife
    I wanted to highlight something about imagery, history and Black midwives that I think is crucial, since I’ve been seeing more and more people talk about them in places I wouldn’t necessarily expect — which is great! I came across a few items o…
    - 30 Aug 18, 7:04pm -
  • BLACK WOMEN DOING: ANTHROPOLOGY
    For those in/around Seattle this Saturday, May 26, I’ll be speaking briefly about Black breastfeeding. The Black feminist library is inaugurating a series called Black Women Doing, and appropriately we’re starting with Anthropology. Below are the…
    - 24 May 18, 11:03am -
  • How I got SCAMMED into buying infant formula while in England
    I don’t really consider myself someone who is easily duped. In fact, the opposite is true. It’s not only because I’m pretty suspicious and skeptical of nearly everything. But I feel I’m quite connected with my gut, pretty discerning and have…
    - 1 Feb 18, 10:33am -
  • DECOLONIZING #BREASTFEEDING IN COMMUNITIES OF COLOR: A WEBINAR (Redux)
    I’ve had a number of folks contact me regarding the Decolonizing Breastfeeding in Communities of Color webinar I gave a number of months ago — so, I’m giving it again. I’ve added a bit of information from the last one, if you attended that, s…
    - 26 Oct 17, 10:38am -
  • Which came first? When breastfeeding at 50% is ‘Really good!’
    [This post has been sitting in draft for about a month] With the exception of the past hour since I’ve been here at JFK airport waiting for my connecting flight, I’ve been in (Ireland and) the United Kingdom for the past two months. I didn’t…
    - 5 Oct 17, 8:25pm -
  • Black Breastfeeding in the Mississippi Delta
      Back in March I took my general exams for graduate school and officially became a PhD Candidate! Make no mistake. I’ve still got (probably between 3 and 5 more) years to go before anyone confers me as Dr., but I ‘m done with all the requirem…
    - 4 Jun 17, 4:59pm -
  • Measuring Black breastfeeding with a white stick?: Why I’m intentional in leaving white women out!
      I figured out what about Black breastfeeding, has been bugging me for so long. Well I recognized this before, but now it’s to the point where it actually — more than just ‘bugs’ me — it’s troublesome and makes me ill. It’s the consi…
    - 11 May 17, 1:17pm -
  • Is ‘Right Now’ just too soon to truly change breastfeeding culture?
    Over the past while I’ve really been thinking about what it means to truly change breastfeeding culture. More specifically, I’ve had thoughts on what it mean that so many promotions want changes in breastfeeding culture to usually happen right aw…
    - 4 May 17, 3:56pm -
  • Mississippi: Why breastfeeding? Why Me?
    I published this original post just the other day. Since then I’ve had quite a few more thoughts to add, which is why I just decided to update with a brand new (re)post. I have various things to consider when I share information on this blog. I hav…
    - 29 Dec 16, 2:05pm -

Diary of a First Time Mom

  • Washing Your Car in the Winter
    No one really wants to wash a car in the winter. It’s not as fun as a summer scrubbing session, where you can squirt your kids with the hose, water the flowers while you work or even wash your dog as well. But it’s a necessary evil. If you don’…
    - 55 days ago 26 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Car Care When You Don’t Have a Garage
    Apartment living has its ups and downs. The ups include amenities like swimming pools, fitness centers and restaurants in walking distance. A big downer is street parking. Even if there’s a parking lot for tenants, it’s not the same as pulling in…
    - 57 days ago 24 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Show Your Family Car Some Love
    Show your car some love by stopping at your dealer’s automotive care center. By getting an oil change, you can extend the relationship you have with your car. Remember that all oils are not alike, so talk to a specialist about which one is best for…
    - 59 days ago 22 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Winter Weather Roadside Assistance
    Most drivers don’t plan to be the folks on the side of the road wondering what went wrong with their vehicles. But unfortunately, tires flatten, engines fail and accidents occur. This is why it’s critical to obtain not only car insurance but road…
    - 61 days ago 20 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Winter Car Essentials for Parents
    This winter, weird weather is sweeping the country. One week, your car is buried under snow, and the next, you no longer need to warm up your ride. While you can’t always predict the forecast, you can expect the best and prepare for the worse. This…
    - 63 days ago 18 Feb 19, 8:00am -
  • Best Valentine’s Day Gifts for Carpooling Moms
    This Valentine’s Day show the one you love some love by taking care of their car. You can go the extra mile by making this unique and caring gesture. Warm up their ride Much of the country will wake up to snow and ice, so set your alarm and warm up…
    - 67 days ago 13 Feb 19, 8:00pm -
  • Best Ways to Treat Eczema in the Winter
    Dear Diary, Over your lifetime, you probably walked to raise money and raise awareness for cancer, lupus, MS, or epilepsy. But have you tied up your sneakers for eczema? Although the ailment is far from deadly, and I wouldn’t dare compare it to a d…
    - 83 days ago 29 Jan 19, 5:00am -
  • Take a Winter Escape to a Bed and Breakfast
    If you have a case of the winter blues, one of the best remedies is a weekend getaway. You don’t have to travel far in the snow to escape the seasonal stress. You can experience a warm and cozy bed and breakfast in a matter of minutes. The Inn on…
    - 84 days ago 28 Jan 19, 10:33am -
  • Fashion Choices for New Mothers
    Fashion is usually the last thing on a new mother’s mind. But as Kate Middleton, Serena Williams, Kim Kardashian, and now Meghan Markle has shown, moms can look great during pregnancy and after giving birth. However, it’s not easy to adapt to you…
    - 84 days ago 28 Jan 19, 8:00am -
  • Surprising Breastfeeding Savings
    By: Shani St. Vil You’ll spend almost $10,000 on your baby’s first year, according to the thousands of moms who took a recent Baby Center survey. Before you throw your calculator against the wall, read on! One way to cut costs is to breastfeed y…
    - 85 days ago 27 Jan 19, 7:00am -

My Fabulous Boobies

  • What You Need For Your Chemo/Treatment Bag (Gift Ideas for Cancer Patients)
    What to take with you to chemo (or for your treatment day) when you may be there all day!Going to the oncologist/cancer center can take a long time The one thing I wasn't quite prepared for was the length of time I would end up spending at th…
    - 7 Nov 18, 5:36pm -
  • Guest Post: I Need a Breast Biopsy. What Does that Mean?
    I Need a Breast Biopsy. What Does that Mean?You have just finished your annual mammogram, but this time, something doesn’t feel right. A few minutes ago, the technologist asked you to get dressed and sit in this little room by yourself. The radio…
    - 21 Sep 18, 10:00am -
  • How I Dealt With The Diagnosis Of My Best Friend
    **This post was originally written in 2012. It has been expanded and updated as necessary.** Super Survivor Know-It-All aka Been There Done That, This Will Be Easy!I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in 2008. My best friend was diagnos…
    - 1 Mar 18, 3:55pm -
  • Remember that you are the boss in your breast cancer treatment
    *Update 11/2017*  I wrote this 1 year into my breast cancer treatment. I was exhausted but needed to make a decision about surgery. I struggled with my anxiety about making the wrong decision throughout my treatment period. I finally figured out wha…
    - 4 Nov 17, 4:21am -
  • How To Know If You Have Breast Cancer
    The #1 Way To Know If You Have Breast Cancer Breast cancer and pink ribbons have become as much a part of the autumn landscape as football games and tailgating. For a lot of people, all that they know about breast cancer is that it happens to wom…
    - 23 Oct 17, 8:39pm -
  • 20+ UNCOMPLICATED Ways To Comfort Your Breast Cancer Survivor Friend
    Hover over this image and pin this to your Pinterest board.Do you really know how to help her? Without making it all about you?Your good friend was just diagnosed with breast cancer. Your heart just broke into a million pieces. You're scare…
    - 23 Nov 16, 9:00am -
  • How To Wear Your Pink Ribbon T-shirts In Style
    How To Rock Your Pink Ribbon T-shirts In StyleWhat's a girl to do with all those pink ribbon/breast cancer awareness shirts? I'm a survivor who happened to already have a long love affair with pink... before I was diagnosed with breast c…
    - 7 Oct 16, 10:12am -
  • 5 Lessons of Unapologetic Bad-Assery That Prince and Muhammad Ali Taught Us
    Learning lessons of bad-assery from the best to ever do it.2016 has been particularly aggressive with collecting brave souls that we've loved and supported. Unexpected deaths of celebrities and personal friends/family members have shaken many of u…
    - 3 Sep 16, 9:00am -
  • 18 Great Sources for Breast Cancer Information and Support
    Are you WOKE? About breast cancer...?All around me, on social media and in real life, people are chattering about being "woke". It got me to thinking... how many of us in the breast cancer community are woke? Like for real, honestly and truly aware a…
    - 27 Jul 16, 9:00am -
  • What it means to be a cancer survivor - National Cancer Survivors Day
    Reflecting on being a cancer survivorWhen I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in the summer of 2008, I felt alone. While I knew that many women and men had been diagnosed with this disease before me... I felt really alone in my fear and conc…
    - 6 Jun 16, 10:00am -
  • Beyonce SLAYED Me With #Formation
    Formation is the visual representation of DOPENESS!Please tell me that you've seen Beyonce's video "Formation" by now! PLEASE tell me that.That video just put a visual on everything I've been feeling about 2016 and my life. This is the Year of E…
    - 7 Feb 16, 6:27pm -
  • Someone Stole My Content! What I Learned From The Incident
    I WAS ROBBED! But I'm not that mad about it. A few days ago, I was tagged on a picture by one of my cousins. Turns out... the picture was of ME! But I didn't recognize the page, or the person who was running it. Neither did my cousin.This is the…
    - 26 Jan 16, 9:30am -
  • Hello 2016! The Year of Epic Transformation
    Happy New Year!!  *blows horn!*My goodness... 2015 is gone. GONE! I still had stuff to do, projects to start... projects to finish. My to-do list is still super long.But.. despite my tardiness in completing what I wanted to accomplish las…
    - 7 Jan 16, 9:41pm -
  • Is there life WITHOUT cancer for a survivor?
    Is there life without cancer for a survivor?I was asked what life was like without cancer now.*blink*Life without breast cancer? Why... there's no such thing.Let's talk about remission and NED After you complete your "active treatment…
    - 29 Nov 15, 9:30am -
  • 5 Tips for Breast Self-Exams
    5 Tips for Breast Self-ExamsHealthcare professionals agree that the best way to combat breast cancer is with early detection. In order to do so, women must perform regular self-exams on their breasts. It might be uncomfortable at first, but it wi…
    - 24 Nov 15, 8:30am -
  • It's The Melanin | Outfit of the day
    It's The Melanin | Audacity Tees by pinkribbongal featuring rock n roll jeansDate night/Girls night out outfitA few months ago, I quietly launched an online t-shirt shop called Audacity Tees. I actually started it awhile ago but I never tol…
    - 16 Nov 15, 9:30am -
  • Losing A Metastatic Pink Ribbon Sister Is Always Hard
    Remembering my pink ribbon sister TamiEarlier this year, I attended a breast cancer blogger summit with the Komen Foundation. It was my second time being invited and participating. To be honest, it is one of those events that I look forward to bec…
    - 13 Nov 15, 2:45pm -
  • These Black Bloggers Discussed Breast Cancer Awareness - And It Was Grand!!
    These Black Bloggers Discussed Breast Cancer Awareness during Pinktober...And it was GRAND! Another Pinktober has come to an end. I'll be honest, this year was a doozy for me. A DOOZY I tell you. So much was happening in my email box that I star…
    - 3 Nov 15, 8:00am -
  • Hmm... am I being superwoman right now?
    Being Superwoman is not admirable when your health is in jeopardy*Update 10/15: Five years later... I still really hate the idea of being "Superwoman" but I can honestly say now... I was scared that I was going to lose my job because I had been sic…
    - 25 Oct 15, 11:44am -
  • The Winner Has Been Chosen!
    The Contest Has Ended: Rochelle G. is the winner!You know what is seriously a lot of fun? Giving away cool prizes! I don't know why I haven't done more of this... but I will certainly be doing more giveaways and raffles in the future. (I'm lining u…
    - 24 Oct 15, 7:00am -
  • Have you been following Good Enough Mother's Survivor Stories?
    Rene and I at the Komen Bloger Summit 2014.(I'm fangirling all over her! She's so incredible.)Confession: I absolutely adore Rene Syler of Good Enough Mother!Her passion and infectious zest for life is captivating. Her blog is absolutely ama…
    - 23 Oct 15, 6:00pm -
  • The Type of Friend That I Am
    I take terrible selfies... but my heart is good. *This post has a lot of gifs. If that is a problem for your computer or your phone, you'll have to skip this one. But they are there for a reason. I am a special kind of friend. I tell you t…
    - 20 Oct 15, 6:06pm -
  • Increasing Awareness of Your Protections Following a Breast Cancer Diagnosis
    Increasing Awareness of Your Protections Following a Breast Cancer DiagnosisR. Scott Oswald and Adam A. CarterEmployees returning to work following a breast cancer diagnosis have it very tough. After months of dealing with an unfavorable and ver…
    - 16 Oct 15, 5:21pm -
  • My Fabulous Boobies Is Giving Away A 32-inch TCL Roku TV!
    Could you use a 32" HD RokuTV? You have a chance to win one!I was contacted by the wonderful people of TCL with an opportunity to gift a reader with a beautiful new television. TCL (one of the largest television manufacturers) is raising money for…
    - 13 Oct 15, 7:00am -
  • All of This is Scary and Unsettling
    *Update 10/15:  I wrote this post in early 2009, about 7 months after the start of my chemotherapy. I was still healing from my mastectomy and was about half-way through my radiation treatment. I was exhausted physically and emotionally. This post w…
    - 7 Oct 15, 8:00am -

Life with the Logans

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Living Outside the Stacks

  • newA Dapper Fellow
    Squeekerz went to the spa and had a blueberry facial. I die. Happy Snapping,     Follow Living Outside the Stacks on Bloglovin’!
    - 4 hours ago 21 Apr 19, 10:38pm -
  • Style Imitating Art Inspiration: The Farmer’s Daughter
    ABOUT STYLE IMITATING ART Style Imitating Art is hosted by Salazar {14 Shades of Gray}, Kim {Fierce Fashion Blog}, and me. Style Imitating Art challenges us to draw style inspiration from pieces of art. Every other Monday one of us selects an inspir…
    - 7 days ago 15 Apr 19, 1:42pm -
  • Sleeveless Top and Boyfriend Jeans
    This post contains affiliate links. If you purchase anything using those links I may receive a small commission at no extra charge to you. Thank you for helping me to buy more clothes. Hi, how are you? I’m doing well. It’s been a long week and it…
    - 11 days ago 10 Apr 19, 11:20pm -

Lovebabz: A Life in Transition

  • Nancy Wilson - That's What I Want For Christmas (Capitol Records 1963)

    - 14 Dec 18, 6:59pm -
  • At Home In the Words I write...I've missed Blogging
    These days of Summer are sweet and fleeting. I've been away too long. Away from this blog. This holy place where I live on the words I conjure.So much goodness and chaos still surrounds me. I am happy about this... There is more goodness than chaos.…
    - 11 Aug 18, 11:20am -
  • Clearing my path while I am alive.
    I have been thinking about my things after my death...What would happen to them? Could my children handle the getting rid of my things? I don't think I want them to do that. I want to do it while I am fully alive.I want to live with less. I want a s…
    - 20 Apr 18, 6:55pm -
  • It's Still Lent? (My Lenten Journey 2018 such that it is)
    I knew I wasn't going to march into Lent with a plan. I am spiritually tired of the politics of the day. What does this mean? I am known for keeping a spiritual center and at the moment I am out of spiritual sorts. Actually, I am good and damn mad a…
    - 14 Mar 18, 6:20pm -
  • A Woman of Many Umbrellas
    I am indeed a woman of many umbrellas. This has been so, as far back as I can remember. I've never done just "one" thing. I always had my hands and feet in this, that or the other. I am curious by nature. I learn by doing. I love by doing.I used to b…
    - 22 Jan 18, 5:51pm -
  • What am I willing to Do For Myself?
    Or, why the fuck am I not taking better care of myself?I am in that category of “a woman of a certain age”… Hell, I am 54. I turn 55 May 2, 2018. I love my birthday. Those in my circle all around the world know how much I love my birthday. So,…
    - 8 Jan 18, 4:47pm -
  • All The Good and More
    Happy New Year! I made it! Hahaha! I am not surprised. 2017 was the most fun I've had in decades!Last year it kicked off with the building of a Squad (Sorors Michelle and Markeshia) and from there we rolled everywhere. Three women... Sorors, up for…
    - 3 Jan 18, 9:38pm -
  • Season of Advent Day 1... Season of Hope and Expectation
    I am a woman for Christmas. I am in love with the story of the birth of Christ... The lone star, the Wise men, no room at the inn and a mother waiting with hope and prayers.What are you waiting for? What is it that would bring you joy? Are you where…
    - 3 Dec 17, 8:13pm -
  • 10 Years Ago... The Return Of Babz
    10 years ago today I was released from Danbury Federal Prison Camp. My SisterLo blogged the month for me while I was serving my time. My children, Briana was 10, Gregory was 9, Khalil was 6 and Margeaux was 5 years old. They were so young and brave.…
    - 29 Oct 17, 2:54pm -
  • Ten Years Ago... Faith Forward Firday (Saturday): Holler If You Hear Me...
    This was for yesterday 10/27/1710 years ago my SisterLo blogged in my stead while I was away serving 30 days at Danbury Federal Prsion Camp.I found this post quite interesting. My SisterLo never took to church the way I have. So this post is extraord…
    - 28 Oct 17, 6:58pm -
  • 10 Years Ago... Opportunity Knocked And Broke Down My Door
    On this day 10 years ago my SisterLo blogged in my stead while I was away serving time at the Danbury Federal Prison Camp.I found her posts to be not only personal, but quite insightful and they certainly stand the test of time.Here is the link to th…
    - 25 Oct 17, 9:04pm -
  • 10 Years Ago Today...Rambling Thoughts About... Road Rage?
    I remain very grateful that my SisterLo blogged for me while I was away serving 30 day (29 days) at Danbury Federal Prison Camp.On this day 10 years ago, she blogged what was in her head...Here's the link:Rambling Thoughts About... Road Rage?
    - 22 Oct 17, 12:18pm -
  • 10 years ago Today... True Love Tuesday: Love Money Can Buy
    10 years ago my SisterLo held down this blog while I served time at the Danbury Federal Prison Camp. Today is October 16 and this is what she posted 10 years ago. Click on the link:True Love Tuesday: Love Money Can Buy
    - 16 Oct 17, 7:18pm -
  • 10 Years Ago.... Faith Forward Friday: Ask and Ye Shall Recieve... To a Point
    The October 12, 2007 Post by my SisterLo while I was away serving time at Dambury Federal Prison Camp.Sustatinable weath... Blessings and other opportunities. I so love the way my Sister writes!Faith Forward Friday: Ask and Ye shall Recieve... To a p…
    - 12 Oct 17, 11:59pm -
  • 10 Years Ago Today...True Love Tuesday: What Do You Want…Today?
    My SisterLo blogged all of October in my place while I was serving my time at Danbury Federal Prison Camp. In celebration and rememberence I am posting links to her posts on the very days she blogged!This is the post 10 years ago today by her:True Lo…
    - 9 Oct 17, 12:01pm -
  • 10 Years ago Today... Faith Forward Friday: That's the Truth Ruth
    10 years ago I was tucked away at Danbury Federal Prison Camp... My Sister Lo blogged in my stead!Here is October 5, 2007!Faith Forward Friday: That's the Truth Ruth
    - 5 Oct 17, 7:26pm -
  • 10 Years ago Today... Sister Lo And True Love Tuesday ( really Thursday)
    While I was away serving my time... My Sister Lo held down this blog for 30 days!  Even now I am still surprised and impressed with her commitment to doing it!  I had a recurring theme for Tuesdays... True Love Tuesdays. She kept it up, choosing fo…
    - 4 Oct 17, 8:33pm -
  • 10 years ago today...
    10 years ago today, I surrendered to Danbury Prison Camp to serve a 30 day sentence. My Sister Lo blogged here in my stead. So, I decided to repost all her posts from that time!  She's a very good writer/blogger!Here is the link:What the Hell is Sna…
    - 1 Oct 17, 12:47pm -
  • These Summer Fall Days...
    I just grew into being resolved about not dating.Not stressing about children.Not worrying about what is next.I am enjoying the sweet moments of now. Oh yes, there are long range plans and short term goals and changing course and new intentions and d…
    - 25 Sep 17, 8:58pm -
  • Where I've Been... Summer Joy and More
    As I have  gotten older I have come to LOVE Summer. The hot and hazy days, bare feet, sun dresses and getting blacker!Going to Jamaica was my reset. Honest to Gawd! I spent a week in the Blue Mountains of Jamaica. Landed in Kingston, which to my she…
    - 12 Aug 17, 3:24pm -
  • Control is the Illusion of Fools...Yes, I made this up. It's Really The Season Of My Goddessness
    I control nothing. I have little control over very little. And to that end I surrender.Ohhh It feels good to cool my brain with surrender. Surrender on all fronts. I remember a few years back I wrote a post on allowing. Allowing life to ebb and flow…
    - 20 Jun 17, 5:40pm -
  • And I Shall Have Everything
    "I'd like you to do less"And just as I heard this, it was like I walked through another door that has been waiting on me to come thru. I don't fully understand what "do less" means, and I have no intentions of finding out in my everyday practical lif…
    - 13 May 17, 8:13pm -
  • My Lenten Journey: Hello from the bottom of the well and other places dark and stormy
    For a few weeks I have been living from the bottom of the well. Dark and cold and way way down.Being at the bottom of the well is not a new experience... I've been here before. Been there before. Maybe I am feeling some kind of way because Spring has…
    - 3 Apr 17, 6:56pm -
  • Off The Lenten Path: God is Tired Of Me. I am Tired Of God.
    For the better part of my life I have enjoyed and struggled with a strong God consciousness. I have never felt alone or away from God. In my life I have endured and come through some dark moments with my faith still intact. I could feel God's presenc…
    - 7 Mar 17, 11:15pm -
  • My Lenten Journey: I am the Big Space of God
    I was struggling with whether or not I should even "do Lent" this year. My mood was such that I just didn't feel holy, or sacred or divine. The world just seems crazy and I seem crazy in it. My attitude was piss poor and I was feeling quite desolate…
    - 1 Mar 17, 8:32am -

Nerd Girl

  • The Prayers of the Righteous
    First, thank y’all for commenting on my last post. She brought her grades up…but not enough to stay in Jr. Beta Club. She has As and Bs, but not a 90 average overall. We talked about it, and I emphasized that she is the only one responsible for h…
    - 29 Mar 16, 9:42am -
  • Looks like I might have to blog through it…
    I need to complain. And I don’t like complaining. So I’m going to do it here, where I’m pretty sure traffic has dropped off to zero. Mostly because I stopped blogging. Anyhoo. My sweet girl. My only child. My beloved daughter. Yeah, that one. T…
    - 13 Feb 16, 7:36pm -
  • It Scared Me. But I Did It Anyhow.
    Oh, so I’m just gonna pop back in here and blog like it’s not been a while? Sure am. Recently returned from a cruise with LG (who started 5th grade last week. 5th! My girl is growing up!), my parents, my SIL, niece, nephew, and three cousins. Tha…
    - 10 Aug 15, 10:50am -
  • Year End Ramblings
    Hey y’all. It’s been quite a 2014. Some good, some bad. I guess in some ways that means it is exactly like every year that has passed and every year that is yet to come. My first semester of my doctoral program is under my belt, praise God! I end…
    - 29 Dec 14, 9:17am -
  • Hola! Que paso?
    I miss blogging. So I decided to blog. Randoms. Of course 🙂 I turned 42 yesterday! I’m not really sure how that happened since I was just 26, but apparently time? She marches on. I don’t think I’ll ever be one of those people who refuses to…
    - 10 Oct 14, 11:29am -
  • Katrina
    I wrote this post on August 29, 2006 So, last year, on August 28 – it was a Sunday evening I believe – I was watching the news and heard about this storm that was supposed to hit the Gulf Coast on the 29th. Katrina. Well, I didn’t pay much att…
    - 29 Aug 14, 9:07am -
  • Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed. Ask For What You Need. You Have Not Because You Ask Not.
    I’m going to let you in on a little secret. I don’t like to ask for help. From anyone. I will run around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to figure out how to do something on my own before I’ll ask for help. I don’t know why I’m t…
    - 21 Aug 14, 12:03pm -
  • Ramblings

    - 20 Aug 14, 4:06pm -
  • Why?
    That’s all I’ve got today. A simple question with no simple answers. Why? I used to not watch the news. Ever. It was so depressing and weighed too heavily on my spirit. But somehow, the news, particularly in the morning, has crept back into my li…
    - 30 Jul 14, 12:19pm -
  • Monday morning randoms
    How cute is this? Got a text this morning – apparently LG and her camp BFF were thinking along the same lines when they laid out their outfits last night. And this couldn’t have been planned because everything LG is wearing? We bought yesterday.…
    - 28 Jul 14, 1:58pm -

Rae Lewis-Thornton: Diva Living with AIDS

  • Valentine Day: Self Love Radiates Out
    It Valentine's Day and most people are thinking about what they are going to do, what they are going to get and give, how good the sex will be, or why am I alone on Valentine's Day?We are all thinking red and I don't mean for AIDS Awareness, but for…
    - 67 days ago 14 Feb 19, 11:06am -
  • Monday Reflection: Set Your Intention- Make Your Goals!
    WOW! I honestly cannot believe that it has been two years since I've blogged. *Side Eye* I have no idea what happen in 2017. And guest what, I'm going to beat myself up about it. We are often to hard on ourselves, including me, for no danm good reaso…
    - 69 days ago 11 Feb 19, 6:33pm -
  • Usher-Herpes and Disclosure...
    When I first heard about the lawsuit against Usher, I made no attempt to learn any of the details. I dismissed that shit weeks ago when I heard about the supposedly green discharge coming out of Usher's penis, (which is not a symptom of herpes) but w…
    - 8 Aug 17, 12:34pm -
  • Charlie Sheen: And This Is What I Think!!
    When actor Charlie Sheen said, "I'm not living in that prison anymore" I felt that deep in my soul.  It resonated loud and clear. I kept my own HIV infection a secret for seven years. For Real! My first seven years I only told 5 people that I had HI…
    - 7 Aug 17, 6:33pm -
  • Tap Into The Resources and Live Well Beyond HIV!
    I'll take aging with HIV over not aging at all any day. Now that's some real talk; but I have to be honest, muddling through HIV requires a lot of energy, work and support. Over the years, I've been fortunate enough to have a team of wonderful people…
    - 15 Mar 17, 9:29pm -
  • The Murder of Jessica Hampton
    Last week today I was waiting on the red line train and very much annoyed that it was delayed. Little did I know that a young woman, Jessica Hampton had been brutally murdered just seven stops behind me.Jessica who was 25 years old was stabbed by Aur…
    - 30 Jun 16, 11:26am -
  • Grey Hair And I Don't Care: Aging With HIV
    In ten days I will turn 54 years old. This will mean that I have lived 33 years with HIV and 25 years with AIDS. Although I was infected in 1983 I didn't learn of my HIV status until I donated blood in 1986. I've told this story a thousand times and…
    - 13 Jun 16, 1:05pm -
  • I Met A Man... Can I Give Him HIV?
    I met a man and OMG he was just simply charming. Now I usually don't give my number to random men on the street, but did I say he was sooooo charming?!Even Chloe liked him, but ummm now that I think about it, Chloe likes everyone she sees. But the fa…
    - 3 Jun 16, 1:30pm -
  • RLT Collection Birthday Sale!
    In honor of my 54th birthday on Sunday RLT Collection is 54% off.  This weekend only 5/20 thru  5/22!  Coupon code at check out birthday2016. Thanks for all your support! SHOP!  http:www.rltcollection.com
    - 20 May 16, 11:44am -
  • Here's to Doctor's Keeping the Care in Health Care!
    Today on National Doctor's Day and I started thinking about my own doctors. Honestly, in those early days of HIV I didn't even tell a doctor. When I finally told my gynecologist at the HMO in the middle of the exam, he said to me, as he was looking u…
    - 7 Apr 16, 4:14pm -
  • Tap Into Your Own Power!
    Today is National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day and my message is unwavering. We have to tap into our own power. We have to make the decision to put ourselves first, love ourselves first and absolutely love ourselves more than wanting and ne…
    - 10 Mar 16, 11:14am -
  • RLT Reads Book Club Is Back! Check Out Feb and March Picks!
    Finally! RLT Reads Book Club is back up and running. I've missed those lively discussios so it's about time that we do it again. My online book club was orginally formed in 2011 and we had our discussions via Twitter and my blog. But Goodreads has c…
    - 21 Jan 16, 4:49pm -
  • SOMWA A Wonderful Cause!!!
    New York! New! York! New York! Come hang out with me Sun Dec 13th! Bring a toy and wear your dancing shoes for the Somwa Foundation 7th Annual Toy Drive. All the toys go to families with HIV. Hydeia Broadbent and I donated our time to this wonderfu…
    - 12 Dec 15, 9:13am -
  • #Doingit
    I'm honored to have been asked to participate in the Center For Disease Control, Act Against AIDS newest HIV Testing Campaign, "Doing It." Donating your name and brand to a national campaign is no small thing. This is especially true, when you give s…
    - 7 Dec 15, 1:39pm -
  • World AIDS Day!
     Good Morning Lovely's!! Today is World AIDS Day! A day of remembrance for those we lost to this disease. But also a day to fight stigma that blames and shames those living with #HIV world wide! It's a time to demand treatment for all and work towar…
    - 1 Dec 15, 8:12am -
  • Join Me On World AIDS Day
    Tomorrow, December 1st is World AIDS Day. People around the world will remember those who have passed from AIDS related illnesses and at the same time challenge, stigma for those living with HIV. I'm asking those who support me to paint your Social…
    - 30 Nov 15, 6:32am -
  • Black Friday at RLT Collection!
    Everything at RLT Collection is 50% off coupon code; blackfriday2015 happy shopping http://rltcollection.com 
    - 27 Nov 15, 9:44am -
  • Finess Stops Bladder Leaks!
    I'm always pleading the case for women to take control of their bodies and health. It's a fact that no one will take care of you the way that you take care of yourself. But over the years, women seem to be stuck, especially when it comes to our bodie…
    - 15 Oct 15, 9:20am -
  • I Need Them All to Go To Counseling and Get Tested On The Way!
    Yesterday the sex life of pro football player Victor Cruz of the New York Giants was all over Social Media. I'm not sure how it got there, but since it's been made public I thought that I would give my two scents. First off,  all the parties involve…
    - 13 Oct 15, 4:31pm -
  • Monday Reflection: Get Up From The Table When Shit Is Being Served!
    Everybody got some "thing" going on in their life most of the time, if not all of the freaking time.Some "things" cannot be helped, like an illness you didn't see coming. Like last year when my Sophie was diagnosed with cancer on Wednesday and on the…
    - 5 Oct 15, 5:28pm -
  • Stop Blocking The Next Chapter of Your Life!
    I took an unexpected vacation from blogging. No, it was not health related. My emotional and physical health is great. It's just that I've had so much work to do in other areas of my life, that blogging took a back sit. Be clear though, while on thi…
    - 25 Aug 15, 12:48pm -
  • God Always Has A Next!
    What I know for sure is that God always has a next! I have believed this since I was a little girl being told I was never gonna be shit. Even back then after every unjust beating, I continued to have hope for something better than my right now.In tim…
    - 25 Jun 15, 12:02pm -
  • STOP PLAYING! Get Tested For HIV!
    Can I be honest? I mean some real talk today?  Some of y'all been fuckin since the turn of the century (me included) and you have never been tested for HIV and that's where the difference ends. I know my status and knowing my status has saved my li…
    - 24 Jun 15, 1:18pm -
  • Living with Intent!
    Now that I'm well into my 50's  there seems to be no turning back. I'm doing what I should have done in my 30's and for sure when I started to see my 40's that is, live with intent.  Well, I sort of lived with very limited intent for 20 years plus,…
    - 3 Jun 15, 10:38am -
  • Tea With Rae: Living my Dream!
    I'm  living my dream!! Tea With Rae: Wellness For The Mind, Body and Soul is coming! I'm in the process of developing a private label of speciality teas blended with the finest African Teas. The crafting of each tea will be closely supervised by me…
    - 3 Jun 15, 8:13am -

Regina's Family Seasons

  • The Near Journal - Book Review
    This review is DEFINITELY overdue…. Like a month overdue. I really and truly apologize to the author Jacob Vandenbark, but I have been trying to get my life together! I started a new job and it has been ABSOLUTELY HECTIC. I haven’t had much time…
    - 15 Sep 18, 11:56pm -
  • Sacred Rest - Book Review
    *In accordance with FTC Regulations, I am disclosing that I received a complimentary advance copy of the book Sacred Rest by Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD in return for my honest and unbiased review.*I am not generally a huge fan of non-fiction “self-he…
    - 15 Jun 18, 8:43pm -
  • Your Child Is An Adult, Now What?
    As a mother of five, I have struggled at times to parent them the way I thought it should be done.  Children do not come with instruction manuals, so it is very much trial and error.  You can listen to other people giving you advice, you can do wh…
    - 18 May 18, 6:22pm -
  • The Commonality Of Martin Luther King Jr and Meena Harris
    The 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King Jr's death was on April 4th. This date also happened to be the birthday of Maya Angelou. Now, of course, Ms. Angelou died in 2014, and April 4, 2018, would have been her 90th birthday. EVERY YEAR on the ann…
    - 6 Apr 18, 6:40pm -
  • The Body Tsunami
    Those of you who visit the blog often….. Or visit at all, should know that I recently had a health scare which resulted in a surgery. A hysterectomy to be exact. So I am recovered from the fibroid tumor they removed but I am now and will forever ha…
    - 7 Mar 18, 2:56pm -
  • Finding Love in 2018!
    I have never been real big on Valentine's day. I figure we tell (or SHOULD tell) the people we love how much they mean to us on a regular basis. On Valentine's Day the chocolate, and flower folks are making money, so whatever.Now that Valentine’s…
    - 15 Feb 18, 5:31pm -
  • Me, Blood, and The Alien Inside
    I am super late on posting this, but I did tell someone that I would get the story out there….This is a long post with some graphic pictures in it HOWEVER stick around and read the ENTIRE THING!So you may or may not know that I was sick back in Sep…
    - 13 Feb 18, 6:02pm -
  • Out With The Old, In With The New... Happy 2018!
    Well, Hello World! It’s been some time since I have been on here. 2017 is about an hour from being over and I don’t know about you but for me, I am not sad to see it go. The latter half of 2017 literally kicked my butt. It feels as if the enemy…
    - 1 Jan 18, 12:01am -
  • And STILL God's Got This!
    MAN!!! What a Day, What a Week, What a Month! As this month draws to a quick end bare with me while I rant a little...So on Saturday the 21st I had oral surgery, the actual process went well. HOWEVER, the healing process is NOT going the way I or the…
    - 29 Jan 17, 3:02pm -
  • So Trump Is President...Now What?
    I am trying to figure out why people are acting like Trump is the worst President to ever sit in the White House (That is  not yet a fact and remains to be seen!). There was an election and Trump won, period. So we move on with our lives. Every Pres…
    - 25 Jan 17, 12:53pm -
  • I Can Smell Your Self Righteous Bullying... Get Over Yourself!
    Guess Who's Baaacccckkkkk! Did y'all miss me??? Probably not cause I can hear the echo coming through my computer LMAO! It's all good though!I only came back online because as usual BLACK FOLK ARE WORKING MY NERVE!!Black people have NOT mastered UNIT…
    - 24 Jan 17, 3:01pm -
  • Hello? Is Anyone Out There? Is This Thing On?
    Hello World!It has been a long while since I have visited you via this blog! I have NOT been doing anything Fancy, Fabulous, or Fantastic. Nope , I have just been doing the regular, everyday things that people generally do. You know WORK, WORK, WORK,…
    - 30 Apr 16, 7:55pm -
  • Sunshine VoxBox! Yaaayyy!
    I have spent the last couple of weeks testing and reviewing the treasures I received in my Sunshine VoxBox! For those of you who don't know I joined the Influenster Community and as a result I occasionally receive VoxBoxes of treasures to review and…
    - 10 Aug 15, 2:56pm -
  • Maslow's Hierarchy From A Godly Perspective
    Almost all academics have either touched on or had in depth teaching on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. For any of you who have not had the pleasure, let me explain. Abraham Harold Maslow was an American psychologist who wrote a paper in 1943 titled "…
    - 31 Jul 15, 4:32pm -
  • Leaving A Legacy... One Worth Sharing
    We need to be mindful that this generation and the generations to come are looking for US to leave a LEGACY. What does LEGACY mean to you?According to Merriam Webster online dictionary Legacy is:1:  a gift by will especially of money or other person…
    - 28 Jul 15, 8:38pm -
  • Emotions Versus Wisdom
    We, Humans are emotional! No one alive can say they have never been emotional about a person, an event, or a situation. Emotions are not bad but they cannot rule your life. Emotions have the ability to take us where common sense or wisdom cannot keep…
    - 26 Jul 15, 1:57pm -
  • I AM Going To Be Me, Like It Or Not!
    When you see me, what do you see? A Mother, a Grandmother, a Christian, a Trouble maker, a Divorcee’, a Black Woman? Society has become very adept at labeling people to fit into what they think is an acceptable label. After labeling you then people…
    - 16 Jul 15, 2:20pm -
  • Heart Of A Warrior - Stephen Curry, NBA Champion
    I am not a big basketball fan, so a blog post about basketball is pretty much very out of character for me. However I just wanted to point out a few things…For those of you who do not know the NBA Finals was a match-up between the Cleveland Cavalie…
    - 17 Jun 15, 2:52pm -
  • Jamberry Nail Wraps
    I have a facebook friend named Sara, who has embarked upon a new entrepreneurial adventure. She has started a Jamberry Nail Wraps business. I got a sample wrap to try and I told Sara I would blog about it.If you do not know what Jamberry Nail Wraps a…
    - 4 Jun 15, 2:42pm -
  • Whew! Texas Rain 2015...
    Well in case you have not seen the news lately, Texas has had almost 2 straight months of rain. There has been no rain fall like this in years according to news agents. For almost two months it was almost daily/nightly thunderstorms and tornadoes acr…
    - 4 Jun 15, 12:56pm -
  • Why I Broke Up With Mother's Day
    Now that Mother’s day is over and safely behind us and hopefully the residue is gone, I can tell you why I broke up with Mother’s day. I know it is shocking and came as a surprise to me as well. Matter of fact I have not even broken the news to m…
    - 12 May 15, 1:21pm -
  • Prove it!
    You are innocent until proven guilty … or so they say. In order to PROVE anything you need solid evidence. There has to be proof of what is said. Just the WORDS of others or just your WORDS are not enough to prove anything.According to Dictionary.c…
    - 27 Apr 15, 2:36pm -
  • Out Of Darkness Into HIS Marvelous Light
    King James Version 1 Peter 2:9 says, “But Ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of Him who hath called you out of darkness into His marvelous light”.Amplified Versi…
    - 15 Mar 15, 5:13pm -
  • Racism, Sexism, Yes This Is America!
    I often hear people say, "I'm NOT into politics" and every time I hear that I think or say "Then you better be into JESUS"! This world that we know and sometimes love is spiraling out of control. Times are crucial and PRAYER is REQUIRED, Prayer is NO…
    - 25 Jan 15, 6:18pm -
  • Empty Nest Coming Soon!
    Ever have that sense that something is over? That you have reached the end of a thing, time, moment, relationship, or era? I am feeling that way now. Since moving to Texas my children and I have lived together. Not all of them, all at the same time b…
    - 24 Jan 15, 12:30am -

Say It, "Rah-shay"

  • Claiming that Change
    Thank you for reading what I write!I went from being queen of the hill to new person on the block and it is daunting.The post Claiming that Change appeared first on Say It, "Rah-shay".
    - 47 days ago 6 Mar 19, 12:04am -
  • There is No Wrong Way to Knit
    Thank you for reading what I write!Or…you do that knit-fu that you do so well. After several attempts to learn to knit, I finally found a way that worked for me. Way back when, while attending one of my fiber group meetups, a woman looked at the w…
    - 9 Jan 19, 12:57pm -
  • Tidying Up
    Thank you for reading what I write!have not really set resolutions for 2019 (yes, yes...I set them and love it) but have resolved that 2019 is the year that I clear the clutter, open my home for friend and family and live my best life.The post Tidy…
    - 8 Jan 19, 10:54pm -
  • Listicles: Last Day
    Thank you for reading what I write!So today was the last official day at the place I called work for the last 12 years and it still doesn't feel real.The post Listicles: Last Day appeared first on Say It, "Rah-shay".
    - 2 Jan 19, 10:24pm -
  • Hello Again!
    Thank you for reading what I write!Today is the first day of the new year and my social media feeds are full of the norm. There are the “new year, new me” posts. Resolutions posts which include everything from crafting more to writing a book to…
    - 1 Jan 19, 11:27pm -
  • Maker Monday: Finished Knitthings.
    Thank you for reading what I write!The Bee doesn’t always ask for knitthings but mentioned that she wished for an alternative to the cardboard holders for take out coffee cups. Part of me worried that a coffee cozy would be too slippery or that it…
    - 19 Nov 18, 1:26pm -
  • Thursday
    Thank you for reading what I write!This week feels super long. Daylight Savings Time ending (or beginning…what is the fall thing?) means that it’s dark at like 5pm. I’ve been having trouble sleeping because ohmahgah I’m old and our new kitte…
    - 8 Nov 18, 10:29pm -

The House of Ladylee

  • Good Friday Freestyles
    Happy Friday!Happy GOOD Friday!Happy PayDay to ME!Yes, this is a good Friday indeed. Alas, it is raining cats and dogs and frogs in the Atlanta. UGH. And I am getting some new living room furniture, so I had to call a junk removal company to come get…
    - 2 days ago 19 Apr 19, 6:43pm -
  • Nephews... All Dressed Up!
    So my nephews got all dressed up for picture day. It's Milk and Cookies Jr. and Milk and Cookies 3.0, Shawn and Tristan! I would have liked to seen them in some slacks and wing tips. But this is the true definition of a good picture day. I use to put…
    - 4 days ago 17 Apr 19, 6:04pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    Friday!And it is PAYDAY.Glory!I ain't got a THANG done all day. And there is nothing much I could do about that because I am waiting on an order of chemicals to arrive. So all I have to do right now is paperwork. So it has been slow, slow, slow.Adven…
    - 16 days ago 5 Apr 19, 6:19pm -
  • When the Randomness is Left on my Desk...
    It is always interesting to trudge in to work, all dejected, doing all I can to "pray my strength in the Lord"......And I turn to walk in my cubicle and find some randomness left on my desk.*LadyLee looks to the left... LadyLee looks to the right*My…
    - 17 days ago 4 Apr 19, 6:28pm -
  • That's My Girl! That's the Homie!
    Congratulations to the great Tayari Jones for her NAACP Image Award for best literature fiction for her novel American Marriage!I had to watch it on the playback of Facebook Live, but when they called her name, I jumped up off the bed and hollered "Y…
    - 20 days ago 1 Apr 19, 6:23pm -
  • Fried Chicken Friday Freestyles
    So look at this and guess what it is... That's the bottom of the skillet I use for frying chicken. And it's a hot mess. It did not get like that overnight. I bought that skillet during the summer of 1991 from the local Big Lots store. So it had to be…
    - 23 days ago 29 Mar 19, 6:18pm -
  • Wordless Wednesdays: Nephews in Awe of Auntie LadyLee's Bootleg TV Sets

    - 25 days ago 27 Mar 19, 4:06pm -
  • Ten Tuesday Thoughts
    Been awhile, been awhile, been awhile... sigh. 1. I have been super busy at work, to the point I go home and just go to bed. 2. This is not good, as I find myself having to play catch up with my chores. This is shameful, as it only takes me about 30…
    - 26 days ago 26 Mar 19, 5:59pm -
  • Friday Freestyles
    It is Friday.I WISH it was Pay Day.But alas, it isn't. Terrorist Attack 2019. You know, it was some ol' craziness being half awake and half asleep last night, with my television still on, and there's some newsflash about a terrorist attack on a mosqu…
    - 37 days ago 15 Mar 19, 6:12pm -
  • Two Tuesday Thoughts: The Cartoon Edition
    Just two thoughts on a Tuesday... 1.  Boy oh boy.  This doggone daylight savings time got me all confused. I do not need a cup of coffee, though, as I have limited my coffee intake to one 8 ounce latte per week (if that). But this cartoon describe…
    - 40 days ago 12 Mar 19, 4:04pm -
  • Little Right-Handed Man
    My sister gave Justin some chalk and let him do a little scribbling...
    - 52 days ago 28 Feb 19, 6:26pm -
  • Baby Pictures Circa 1970
    So my sister and brother were cleaning out our mother's house (she has 40 years worth of stuff... literally), and they said, "Mama got boxes and boxes and pictures. Take them with you. We don't know a lot of these people in the pictures, but you do."…
    - 55 days ago 26 Feb 19, 12:20pm -
  • Oscar Winners 2019
    Yaaaay Regina King!!Yaaaay Mahershala Ali!!Yaaaay Green Book!!Ha! I am only really saying that because I love Mahershala Ali. And Octavia Spencer was an executive producer on the project, so her production company can get some credit for that. I supp…
    - 55 days ago 25 Feb 19, 6:59pm -
  • Twelve Thursday Thoughts
    Here we go with the 12 Thursday thoughts. I kind of shiver at the thought of coming up with 10 thoughts, but I have been ending up with MORE. GLORY. 1. I have had a strange craving for blackberries for the past month. I have NO idea what that's about…
    - 59 days ago 21 Feb 19, 5:24pm -
  • Wordless Wednesday: Starting Anew

    - 60 days ago 20 Feb 19, 5:59pm -
  • TWELVE Thursday Thoughts on Valentines Day 2019
    Happy Valentines Day 2019! And here are TWELVE thoughts... on this special commerce holiday!1. I am not booed up on this holiday. I am good with that, though. This is a manufactured holiday.  How many fights gonna bust out over somebody not getting…
    - 66 days ago 14 Feb 19, 5:43pm -
  • A LadyLee Birthday 2019
    Well, my 49th birthday has come and gone... And as always, it was a good one. Let's just say I was glad to be OFF. My birthday is a personal national holiday. It hasn't always been that way - I think the last time I worked on my birthday was when I t…
    - 68 days ago 12 Feb 19, 4:19pm -
  • Birthday #49
    STARDATE2019.02.07Happy 49th Birthday to ME!Year 49 is in the books as completed for your Friendly Neighborhood Oldgirl LadyleeGLORYMy goodness. ***49***I have never thought much about my life at this age. I am not one to have a 10, 5, 3 or even a 1…
    - 74 days ago 7 Feb 19, 6:00am -
  • Friday Food-for-Thought: Of Cheeks and Handclaps
    Happy Black History Month!It is the first day of black history month! Am I going to give you a black history nugget every day this month? NO. That is what facebook, the twitters and the Instagram is for. And I plan to enjoy ALL OF IT. Today I just ha…
    - 79 days ago 1 Feb 19, 5:19pm -
  • Shutdown OVER
    The shutdown is OVER!There is no agreement for a wall. All I know is... Don't nobody better mess with Ms. Nancy. Hell no. She is not to be messed with. And she stood her ground. Go Ms. Nancy.But I like this cartoon:Yes, that may be the only wall we…
    - 83 days ago 28 Jan 19, 6:09pm -
  • Martin Luther King Day 2019
    Today is MLK day. And it's a national holiday.Years ago, people fought to deny him a holiday. But you can't deny an American icon, a man who lead such a pivotal part of American History. If he'd not been assassinated, he would have been 90 years old…
    - 91 days ago 21 Jan 19, 12:28pm -
  • TWELVE Thursday Thoughts
    Twelve Thoughts! On a Thursday!1. I started this on Tuesday, wishing it was Thursday. And now it is Thursday. Soooo happy about THAT! The weekend is nigh. I can feel it!2. The dayum gub'ment shutdown is STILL full in effect. LAWD. And they got the n…
    - 94 days ago 17 Jan 19, 5:45pm -
  • A Special Visitor
    So a special visitor stopped by my house on Sunday afternoon.And he donned some interesting shoes."Dude, your shoes don't match," I said.Of course he didn't pay attention to me. He took them off continued laughing and playing. My special visitor was…
    - 95 days ago 16 Jan 19, 3:06pm -
  • A Special Birthday Memoir- Grandma
    Today is January 14, 2019. It is the day before Martin Luther King's January 15 birthday. And January 14, 2019 was also my grandmother's birthday. She was born January 19, 1929. She passed in June of last year. If she would have lived, she would hav…
    - 97 days ago 14 Jan 19, 4:44pm -
  • Ten Thursday Thoughts
    I wrote this first as Ten Tuesday thoughts, then I realized it wasn't Tuesday. Then I got happy! Because the weekend is one day away. GLORY.1. Whew wee... this has been a mentally taxing week. Why? Because there are only 10 people working in the whol…
    - 10 Jan 19, 4:41pm -

Whose shoes are these anyway?

  • The Starbucks while Black incident and the Lie to Me show
    The Liberty Bell in Philadelphia, PA.Would you like a less academic way to learn about unconscious and conscious racial bias? Were you puzzled by the Philadelphia police commissioner's stance or why some black people appear to have little empathy f…
    - 19 Apr 18, 11:07pm -
  • 3Peat Presents: The Blackening - Uncensored: Hilarious
    I finally found time to watch this Comedy Central video that my friends have been sharing on Facebook, 3Peat Presents: The Blackening - Uncensored. Brilliantly hilarious.
    - 15 Apr 18, 2:06pm -
  • Moments you know you still grieve Prince
    Listening to Prince this morning, my face flushed with anger. This is nothing new, my finding myself in a purple place of brooding, finding again that I am still pissed at Prince for letting himself die early. I'll look at a video of him or picture,…
    - 20 Jan 18, 10:00am -
  • Yes, Prince Harry is engaged to a black woman
    Meghan Markle with her mother Doria Ragland at Ragland'sgraduation from USC.Those of you who live to quantify blackness may debate just how black the royally engaged Meghan Markle is later. Just know that she has never tried to hide that she is b…
    - 27 Nov 17, 11:17pm -
  • In Praise of midlife love -- is that a thing?
    Delivered to my email today from Poets.org, this love poem by Sarah Browning entitled "Praisesong." A contemporary poem about lovers in midlife -- how refreshing. Here are the first seven lines:"Praisesong" by Sarah Browning At the coffee s…
    - 22 Nov 17, 12:08pm -
  • Hot 8 Brass Band: Can't Nobody Get Down (Video) #NOLA

    - 15 Sep 17, 7:07am -
  • Jonny P.'s "Shine On" -- This singer deserves more attention
    Full concert is on ReverbNation, Jonny P. Live at the Cotton Mill. From his bio on ReverbNation:Jonny P is a soul artist and fashion designer who was born in New York City. This Nashville-based singer has a sound that's reminiscent of the greats of…
    - 3 Sep 17, 12:58pm -
  • Robin Sloan's 2004-2015 EPIC or Google and Amazon Take Over the World
    (Initial post was at Jersey Goddess in 2004 or 2005.) First post of the month as I try to NaBloPoMo, the National Blog Posting Month project that pushes participating bloggers to post one blog per day for a month. I thought it fitting that my first p…
    - 9 Jul 17, 1:15pm -
  • Teen kills himself after woman, 45, rejects him - 1876
    I do genealogical research. As a result, I sometimes search old newspapers, and from time to time, I am drawn to stories like the one in the screen shot that are written more like fiction than fact. The text is farther down in this post.The old-sty…
    - 4 Jun 17, 2:26pm -
  • Research

    - 1 Apr 17, 1:58pm -
  • Prince plays songs from his vault in concert, 2009 (video)
    I came across this treasure on YouTube, His Purple Highness performing songs from The Vault:  Old Friends for Sale and other jazz pieces in a Los Angeles concert, 2009. I bought a copy of the album a few years ago. The concert is so much more. BTW,…
    - 9 Aug 16, 3:30pm -
  • Southside with You: Obamas' love story opens this month
    I was so deep in the academic hole for the first six months of the year that I completely missed news about the movie Southside with You, the story of Michelle and Barack Obama's romance. The film pays homage to the president and First Lady's initia…
    - 5 Aug 16, 10:38am -
  • Rattle Magazine published my poem last month
    Almost a month has passed since Rattle Magazine published my poem "Digital Anthropologists Find Our Hashtags" for its Poets Respond series. The poem explores specifically the consecutive shooting deaths of Alton Sterling in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, an…
    - 4 Aug 16, 1:44pm -
  • Great Prince story from Matt Damon (video)
    Rolling Stone has posted video of Matt Damon telling a great Prince story on the Jimmy Fallon show.  Of course, all Prince stories bring me joy except the one about his passing in April.Damon is out promoting his latest film in the Bourne Ident…
    - 29 Jul 16, 11:46am -
  • #PRINCE BET Tribute or When Jennifer Hudson Tore Me Up (Purple Rain Video)
    Jennifer Hudson tore my heart out singing "Purple Rain" during the Prince Tribute on the BET Awards last night. I have nothing to add to this other than Stevie Wonder and Tori Kelly appear on this video, too, and perform with love also. Stevie was u…
    - 27 Jun 16, 11:52am -
  • A bittersweet Happy Birthday to Prince, BET Awards plans to drop mic (Video)
    Prince Rogers Nelson, his Royal Purpleness, would have been 58 today, June 7, 2016.In other news about the late, great megastar who died this April, BET Network has promised to deliver "the greatest Prince tribute ever" at its 2016 BET Awards…
    - 7 Jun 16, 11:47am -
  • Surprise Prince, Alicia Keys duet, 'How Come You Don't Call Me Anymore' (video)
    Nothing to add here. The video speaks for itself.
    - 7 Jun 16, 1:43am -
  • Medical Examiner says reports that Prince overdosed are gossip
    According to USA TODAY update on Prince's death earlier today,  reports that Prince overdosed are merely gossip."Forget those reports that Percocet was found in Prince's body, says the medical examiner's office investigating the musician's still…
    - 5 May 16, 8:25pm -
  • So, will.I.am, Prince, and Michael Jackson walk into a Vegas bar . . .
    Having gotten into several debates about who's the greater genius, Prince or Michael Jackson, I love this story will.i.am tells Ellen Degeneres on her show in the video above. The public's always been curious about the tension between Michael Jacks…
    - 30 Apr 16, 1:54pm -
  • Van Jones tells the most important Prince story
    On CNN, Van Jones tells the truth about Prince's life, which is that Prince was a generous soul. He says this is the most important story to remember about the man other than Prince was a genius musician.I knew some of what Jones said about what Pr…
    - 24 Apr 16, 12:32pm -
  • Prince on New Girl and SNL - 2014
    The old video clips of this episode that I had on my 2014 post have vanished, of course. I think Fox made the me private? I don't know. But someone else had this video of Jess & Nick meeting Prince on that episode. This has always made me laugh.I…
    - 21 Apr 16, 10:21pm -
  • Rest in Peace, beloved Prince
    I am a Prince fanatic. That's all I can say because I am undone by news of his death.
    - 21 Apr 16, 2:06pm -
  • Flashback: Julia Child and Emeril's 1993 Master Chefs video
    I can follow a recipe or simply throw something on the stove to see what happens, but I don't think of myself as a cook. That's probably because I don't love cooking. Still, watching this 1993 episode of Julia Child's PBS series, Cooking with Master…
    - 11 Apr 16, 8:16pm -
  • Teaching black children to be slave catchers
    Nothing reveals more than U.S. slave narratives (such as the one that follows) the psychological damage done to the enslaved in the U.S.A. and the ways slavery destroyed the black family. The horrific dysfunction of American society during slavery un…
    - 19 Mar 16, 1:54pm -
  • The worst thing the Democratic Party can do now
    Dear Democratic Party Members:by Nordette N. AdamsA "presidential" candidate has stoodon television where he has proclaimedhis genitalia grand and ready wood.Even in such small things, it’s his aimto shield his huge ego no matter what…
    - 5 Mar 16, 4:34pm -

Life.Love&Marriage

  • South Beach: Vizcaya Museum and Gardens & Mango's Nightclub
    It’s pretty awesome to me that Sean and Eric have become such great friends. Such great friends in fact, that Eric asked Sean to be Cate’s godfather. Not going to lie, I was pretty shocked. I mean, they are two people that became friends just b…
    - 4 days ago 18 Apr 19, 9:48am -
  • The Joy of Missing Out
    The days of me wanting to be out and about is quickly dwindling down. I remember when I wanted to be doing something every single weekend and I could not fathom just sitting around at home. I really enjoyed road trips and visiting all our friends an…
    - 11 days ago 11 Apr 19, 7:38am -
  • Hi South Beach it has been a while
    As I shared a few weeks ago, Sean and I went to Miami to celebrate Sean and Colleen's husband, Eric, turning 40. We were told that we picked a great weekend as they were experiencing lots of rain the few weeks prior. We definitely got lucky and did n…
    - 25 days ago 28 Mar 19, 7:39am -
  • Spring, is that you?
    Two weekends ago, we got a glimpse of spring and let me just tell you how thrilling it was. It’s amazing the things that excite me as I get older. We got up to 49 degrees that day and you would have thought it was summer with the amount of people…
    - 34 days ago 19 Mar 19, 7:20am -
  • Priorities: Our Home
    Growing up, I lived in a small two bedroom apartment in the Bronx with my three sisters, mom and dad. Yes, you read that right. There were six of us and let's just say that privacy was not a part of our lives growing up. We could have definitely do…
    - 47 days ago 6 Mar 19, 8:28am -
  • Currently
    feeling excited that Sean and I are heading to South Beach on Thursday with Colleen and her husband (Eric) to celebrate them turning 40. Sean recently turned 40 and Eric will be turning 40 in a few weeks so we’re celebrating together. South Beac…
    - 55 days ago 26 Feb 19, 7:41am -
  • Sean's 40th birthday celebration
    Getting older is a privilege that not everyone is fortunate enough to experience.Hence, every birthday is a blessing and every year we grow older should be celebrated.As I shared a few days ago, Sean turned 40 on the 14th. We have a mini trip planne…
    - 60 days ago 21 Feb 19, 8:36am -
  • Priorities: Being Kinder to Myself
    It is human nature to be our worst critics but I think because we believe it is part of our nature we’ve accepted that it is OK to not be kind to ourselves. At least, I had. It was just last year that I began to truly be kinder to myself. 2016 a…
    - 62 days ago 19 Feb 19, 7:37am -
  • Happy 40th birthday, babe ♥
    i posted this on instagram but figured I could post it here too.Hey mista, you're the big 4-0 today! Say what?! Crazy to think when we started dating you were "rapping" 28 and switching lanes whenever you would switch lanes while driving. I found it…
    - 67 days ago 14 Feb 19, 9:09am -
  • February Love List
    February the month of love. I figured why not do the cliché thing and make a list of the simple every day things that I love. ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥- Making breakfast sandwiches with Sean Saturday mornings. This is a highlight of the week fo…
    - 69 days ago 12 Feb 19, 7:45am -
  • Seven Magic Mountains + Vegas Snapshots
    If you’ve been reading this blog for a while you know that Sean and I have made it a point to go to Vegas at least once a year since 2008. We got engaged in Vegas in 2008 and after that decided that it was our "special place". 2018 was the only y…
    - 74 days ago 7 Feb 19, 10:55am -
  • Our last day in Las Terranas, Dominican Republic
    On our last day we woke up early as we had gone to bed rather early the previous night. We woke up in time for the sunrise but as luck would have it, it began to rain so our sunrise experience wasn’t exactly what we pictured in our minds. Either w…
    - 80 days ago 1 Feb 19, 7:58am -
  • Smallfoot Birthday Party at Stepping Stones Museum
    Y’all my niece turned six! Whenever one of my nieces or nephews have a birthday it is always when I realize how quickly time is flying. I feel like I just announced her birth and now she is six. Where in the world is the time flying?This year her…
    - 88 days ago 24 Jan 19, 8:15am -
  • Beach and Waterfall loving in the Dominican Republic
    The following morning Paulo arranged for us to take a road trip to Semana to enjoy another area in the Dominican Republic. On our way to Semana, Paulo took us through his hometown (Limon) and it was such a vast difference from where we were staying…
    - 94 days ago 18 Jan 19, 8:17am -
  • 2018 in Review
    I have to say that 2018 was a really great year for me; spiritually and personally. In 2014, I began to stop having positive expectations because life became really, really difficult. And each year seemed to get worse than the last. In 2017, I did…
    - 10 Jan 19, 7:17am -
  • A December weekend with Colleen
    It has become a bit of a tradition for me to visit Colleen during the holidays. I told myself that as long as it is not snowing the day of travel I’ll make the 3 ½ hour drive to see Colleen and her family. I did listen to Sia the entire road trip…
    - 8 Jan 19, 7:28am -
  • Scenes from Christmas week 2018
    Happy New Year! I hope you all had a wonderful time bringing in the new year.I’ll admit that I haven’t wanted to blog lately and because of that I still have things from 2018 to post. I’ll also admit that I was thinking about just starting fre…
    - 3 Jan 19, 8:21am -
  • Our 2018 Christmas Tree
    Here's another example of me doing something just because I've been doing it since I started blogging.Although, this year, I'll only share a few pictures of our tree since that is the only different thing this year. The décor is the exact same as l…
    - 23 Dec 18, 11:16am -
  • Our second day exploring Las Terrenas, Dominican Republic
    The following morning we woke up to breakfast already prepared by Paulolino. It was seriously amazing to wake up to breakfast and incredible coffee every morning. I mean, who do I need to talk to, to make this real life? In all seriousness, Paulo…
    - 19 Dec 18, 8:50am -
  • Scenes from Thanksgiving 2018
    Good Morning y'all! So yeah ... I’m a bit late but I’ve recapped Thanksgiving on this blog since 2010 so I can't stop now. The thing is that there’s not much to recap because well, it’s Thanksgiving. What does one do on Thanksgiving? We coo…
    - 11 Dec 18, 7:51am -
  • Holiday Cheer in the City
    Several weekends ago, we took Sean’s parents to the city to watch the Rockettes. When Sean’s mom was ten years old she went with her grandmother to watch the Rockettes and she said that she told herself that when she got older she was going to g…
    - 6 Dec 18, 7:37am -
  • Our welcome to Las Terrenas, Dominican Republic
    We celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary in the Dominican Republic this year. To say that this was a dream of a trip is an understatement. In true transparency we never would have been able to experience DR the way we did without Sean’s childhoo…
    - 27 Nov 18, 7:23am -
  • Thursday Thankful List
    Ahh, November. The month that reminds everyone to stop and list what it is that they are thankful for. I’ll have to admit that this year really has been the year of non-stop thinking and feeling. With everything going on in our world, especially…
    - 15 Nov 18, 7:27am -
  • Tuesday Morning Ramblings about Blogging: Where do I go from here?
    Last week, I told Sean that I wanted to stop my blog. I know, I know, who was that? But I was serious. And I was surprised to find Sean talk me out of it. I thought if anyone would be thrilled with this declaration, it would be Sean. But he was n…
    - 30 Oct 18, 8:14am -
  • Girl's Weekend in Philadelphia ♥
    Last weekend, my girlfriend from college (Jihae) and I spent the weekend together in Philadelphia for a late birthday celebration. We are two days apart! We initially were going to do Charleston but decided that for just the weekend the travel time…
    - 24 Oct 18, 7:17am -

All the Many Layers

  • The #30Layers30Days Writing Challenge
    We started on November 1, but feel free to join in at any time!  I have been sharing my daily posts on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.  You can also feel free to keep your work private and write in your journal.   If you would like to read and co…
    - 7 Nov 16, 10:40am -
  • new workshops, new blog, new book
    Hey!  Long time no see.I started All the Many Layers at the end of 2012 and it's been my home as I ventured into self-employment and authorship and all kinds of creative adventures.  Right now I have that bittersweet feeling of wanting to go and w…
    - 14 Sep 16, 3:51pm -
  • you are going to have to fall
    my one and only I had a plan.   I thought I would take a huge leap of faith that would change my life drastically, then I'd sit back and watch everything fall into place. Because that is what people say:  it all falls into place.  More accurate f…
    - 19 Apr 16, 1:14pm -
  • overcoming anxiety with minimalism { 10 ideas for a simpler life }
    People make me nervous. So do unexpected phone calls, overbooked schedules and uncomfortable clothes. Life in general makes me nervous.  So many people and problems and energies and uncertainties.  I'm sensitive to all of it.The older I get, the mo…
    - 1 Apr 16, 1:34pm -
  • one day I said it's enough
    She was nothing like me.  I could tell by the things she said to him and the way he responded to her.  She seemed to bring out a side of him I'd never seen before and while their exchange infuriated me, it also intrigued me.   Was this the real hi…
    - 10 Mar 16, 2:39pm -
  • less judgment, more love
    There's about three feet of snow on the ground and I see a woman who looks like she needs help.  But I don't help her.  Because awhile back I'd decided that this woman was mean and my assumptions wouldn't let me move. I'm walking the few feet from…
    - 5 Feb 16, 3:30pm -
  • Preparation + Opportunity + Abundance (and a Special Offer)
    Motherhood, Depression and Sex Panel at Catalyst Con East with Jessica Cary, Anain Bjorkquist and Miko TechnogeishaOver the past two months, I have sat on and hosted panels at two conferences.  I got to speak about topics that I am deeply passionate…
    - 7 May 15, 11:08am -
  • The Big, Bigger, Biggest Problem
    sourceMy problem, your problem, everyone's problem... Is that we think we are not supposed to have any problems. We've been conditioned to avoid problems, mistakes and hardships. So when we struggle, we are not only dealing with the objective situ…
    - 6 Apr 15, 2:34pm -
  • When We Judge Ourselves Most Harshly
    source"A writer – and, I believe, all persons – must think that whatever happens to him or her is a resource. All things have been given to us for a purpose, and an artist must feel this more intensely. All that happens to us, including our misfo…
    - 22 Mar 15, 9:39am -
  • Do You Write Better Than You Talk?
    photo credit:  dfinneyphoto.comThe Words That Move Writing Workshop is a 4-week online writing course for: // Writers who have lost their M O J O.//  Writers who are scared to call themselves writers. //  Writers who feel blocked and unins…
    - 19 Mar 15, 10:28am -
  • She Always Waits for Me
    source“You’re a liar. You said you would wear the blue one and you said you would wear your hair down. I’m beginning to think that you just tell me things to shut me up.”I step in the front door, kiss my accuser on the cheek and bear hug he…
    - 9 Mar 15, 6:49pm -
  • I Thought He Would Leave If I Let Him See Me
    On speaking the truth and hearing the truth without fear.I was silent in my relationship.I didn't have a voice and I resented my partner and myself because of it.I didn't speak up because I didn't want to push him away. I thought I could pretend to…
    - 17 Feb 15, 7:11pm -
  • do you keep your promises to yourself?
    www.ayceebrownphoto.comI promise...  gratitude. truth. courage. faith.You might be afraid to aim too high.You might be afraid to entertain too much happiness because you fear that it could be taken away. Disappointments.  Wasted time.  Maybe you j…
    - 9 Feb 15, 5:35pm -
  • How to Protect Your Energy and Preserve Your Peace of Mind (Step by Step)
    sourceOne minute you're fine.  The next minute you feel like you've been slapped.  Punched in the stomach.  Caught off guard.  Ripped from your happy place. It could be a small thing.  It could be a huge thing.  It might not even matter thirty…
    - 5 Jan 15, 3:40pm -
  • The Art of Writing Words That Move (1:1 Mentoring with GG)
    sourceTo me, everything is an intimate conversation or it's not worth talking.  Even if I'm in a room full of people and a speaker is on the stage, I either feel you like you are talking directly to me or I don't feel you.  If I'm watching a perfor…
    - 3 Dec 14, 6:40pm -
  • Does Anyone Even See Me? The Struggle to Feel Important.
    source"Don't demand attention.  Inspire it."  -  Francheska MedinaSometimes I catch myself wanting to feel more important.  Craving acknowledgment, gold stars and approval.  Not appreciating my own attention -- the smiles I give myself,  the sa…
    - 6 Oct 14, 3:41pm -
  • Weakness or Strength? When Arguing Sucks the Life Out of You.
    sourceDo you ever feel weak or misunderstood because you're not competitive and you don't like to argue?Some people love to argue and debate over every little thing, like they need to constantly spar with someone to feel productive.  I happen to hav…
    - 10 Sep 14, 1:33pm -
  • 44 Self-Discovery Quotes to Inspire You // #30Layers30Days
    . Finally September 1 has arrived and I'm kicking off my first self-discovery challenge #30Layers30Days.   If you would like to sign up to receive the daily email prompts, you can do so here.  Also, follow along on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram…
    - 1 Sep 14, 4:26pm -
  • Is This How Everything Just Falls Into Place?
    source"You shouldn’t try to stop everything from happening. Sometimes you’re supposed to feel awkward. Sometimes you’re supposed to be vulnerable in front of people. Sometimes it’s necessary because it’s all part of you getting to the next…
    - 11 Aug 14, 6:07pm -
  • How to Use Writing As a Self-Discovery Practice
    The link in the photo is wrong. Sorry.  Use this one instead."She has learned to love. To fear. To hate. And then to love again.  Through it all, she writes." - Kimberly KinradeI decided awhile back that if I'm going to cling to anything, it's goin…
    - 5 Jul 14, 9:00am -
  • Acne Sucks and I Don't Feel Pretty Without Makeup
    “I don't know. Just because someone's pretty doesn't mean she's decent. Or vice versa. I'm not into appearances. I like flaws, I think they make things interesting.” - Sarah DessenI'll be the first one to tell you that makeup should be an indulg…
    - 5 May 14, 2:26pm -
  • I Felt Like I'd Been Thrown Away
    source“I learned to love myself but only after the love of others would not quite do.” – Shefon NachelleDo you remember your first love?Oh, I do. The rush! The urgency! The passion! No one could tell me that we were not meant to be. Young and u…
    - 25 Mar 14, 2:52pm -
  • Blood, Sweat and Tears // A Magic Potion for Dreamers
    sourceThere’s no miracle in a jar that will magically make your hair grow overnight or make all your dreams come true. Whether we're talking about hair or life, when we want to make something happen, we have to experience it internally before it ca…
    - 17 Feb 14, 1:40pm -
  • I'll Be Right Back, But First A Preview
     sourceThings will be pretty slow around here for the next couple of weeks, but I’ll be back on July 15 with a vengeance. If you’ve been following the blog using Google Reader, you already know that it will be gone after today. I’d…
    - 1 Jul 13, 4:34pm -

Chasing Joy

  • Round Up: 100 Ways For Singles To Have The Very Best Valentine's Day
    Valentine's Day is coming up.  As you long time readers know I am single.  I have been single for way more Valentine's Days than I have been in a relationship.  Actually I think I have only had a Valentine about 2 or 3 times.  So, I know that Val…
    - 8 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Miscarriage Update, Nothing Joyful About It.
    Oh how I wish every post on Chasing Joy could be a happy one.  Unfortunately that is not the case.  On Fridays I post Baby Making Updates on my journey to becoming a Single Mother By Choice.  Last Fridays Baby Making Update was a sad one.  This o…
    - 5 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Four Reasons You Will Love And Find Joy At Philadelphia Restaurant Week
    Restaurant Week!!!!  I love Restaurant Week. I even did a video about Restaurant Week when I was participating in VEDA.   Restaurant Week just ended here in Philly and I got to go on the last day.  This was probably like my 20th time.  Philadelph…
    - 1 Feb 16, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: Am I Pregnant or Not??? IUI #6 Using Donor Sperm Results
    It's time to test!  I have to say this was my most emotional experience thus far. Was my 6th IUI THE ONE!!!Let's find out... Oh, special shout out for all who watch the video to the end.  Sorry it's a long one, but like I said lot's of emotional st…
    - 29 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Using Scripture In A Practical Way To Chase Joy
    This year my theme word is surrender as I realize one of the main things that robs me of the joy I'm chasing is worrying about things that I cannot control.  I need to surrender those things to God.As I develop goals through the year I am keeping my…
    - 27 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Why I'm Not Planning My Co-Worker's Wedding Shower
    Normally my blog posts are about things that I am doing, want to do, or have done to have more joy.  Today's blog post is different.  Instead, I am going to tell you about something I'm not going to do.  I am not planning my co-worker's wedding sh…
    - 25 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: Live IUI with Frozen Donor Sperm to Become an SMC (Single Mother by Choice)
    Happy Friday!  I guess school and work have conditioned me to love Fridays.  Now they are even more fun because Friday is when I give you guys a baby making update.  So here is this week's.  This week's update is live video of my IUI.  This one…
    - 22 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • I Have A Dream...
    Happy Martin Luther King Day.  As we all know he had a dream.  He had a big dream. A dream for his country, my country, the United States.  We know all about his dream because he did everything he could to achieve it.  He preached about it, march…
    - 18 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • The Plan. IUI #6. Trying To Conceive With Frozen Donor Sperm
    It's a new year and a new cycle.  This update is about gearing myself up for another try at becoming a mom. This is my 10th cycle and 6th IUI.  I cannot believe it has been almost a year since I started trying and over a year since I decided to emb…
    - 15 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy with Char Power!
    A while ago I used to post Way To Go Wednesday status updates on the Chasing Joy Facebook Page.  I have not done an update like that in a while.  But today I have an awesome Way To Go Wednesday shout out to Char Power for having a positive attitude…
    - 13 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • The Fringe Hours For Self-Love & Self-Care
    This is a sponsored post. I was provided with The Fringe Hours materials at no cost to review for this post.  However, all thoughts and opinions expressed herein are my own.Over the  years Chasing Joy has evolved.  Initially, it was about focusing…
    - 11 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Reflecting On One Year Trying To Conceive To Become A Single Mother By Choice
    January is a time of reflection.  A year has ended another has begun.  Am I in the same place this year as I was last year? A better place? A worse Place?  Do I need a goal? A New Year's resolution? Should I go with a theme word?  These are some…
    - 8 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's Word for 2016: Surrender
    It is a new year Joy Chasers, 2016!  This is a time of reflection for many of us.  I'm no different.  I am thinking about this year, how I'd like it to be better than the last couple of years, what growth I'd like to see in the Chasing Joy Brand,…
    - 4 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Dear 2016
    Dear 2016,Welcome!  I am very happy to have you. I welcome you with open arms and optimism.  I am excited for the fresh start that a new year brings. 2016 I don't have a lot of plans for you.  I am trying something a little different this year. I…
    - 1 Jan 16, 12:00am -
  • Dear 2015
    Dear 2015,I am not even sure what I want to say to you.  I had very high expectations for you.  Now as we prepare to say goodbye in 48 hours I feel that you let me down.  You really dropped the ball  right at the end when you were in position to…
    - 30 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Funny Quotes: Using Laugther to Chase Joy
    Christmas is over.  I cannot believe it came and went so fast.  I had a nice Christmas.  It was a low key day spent with my favorite person, my mom.  Santa was good to both of us so clearly our names were nowhere near the naughty list.In my famil…
    - 28 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Merry Christmas!!!
    Merry Christmas!!!!I wish you all a Happy and Joyful Christmas.  May we all remember what Christmas is all about.The birth of Jesus Christ and His gift of salvation.Family and Friends.Generosity.Food and Fun.Tradition and Reminiscing.How are you spe…
    - 25 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's Top 3 Posts on Staying Happy During The Holidays
    Christmas is only a couple of days away!!!  I hope you are happy and excited about it.  However I know some of you may not be feeling that way. While it is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year that is not always the case.  Often the…
    - 23 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • It Aint All Joyful. Talking Myself Through Uncertainty & Limbo
    Uncertainty!  Limbo! Ugh!!!  These are two things that I hate.  I like being in control.  I like knowing what is coming my way.   I want to prepare.  I want to get in the right mind set.  I want to be ready.  I cannot do any of that when noth…
    - 21 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • How To Keep Going After Disappointment While Trying To Conceive
    This trying to conceive process is not for wimps.  It is a hard and even sobering experience.  To expect to be a parent your whole life, to spend years trying to avoid it before you are ready, only to have negative test after negative test once you…
    - 18 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Give Yourself The Gift Of Kindness
    Christmas is less than two weeks away!  The year is over in less than three weeks!  Are you stressing?  Are you racing around trying to get that perfect gift for you kid, spouse, parent???  Are you putting in long hours at work to make year end d…
    - 14 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Testing, Testing, Pregnant or Not Pregnant
    Here we are again.  The end of the cycle.  The monitoring is done and I have survived yet another two week wait.  Did it work? Am I expecting my very own Bundle of Joy?  Let's watch... If you have trouble with the embedded video click here < Live…
    - 11 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Joyful Quotes: Words of Wisdom From Notable Muslims
    I am a government employee.  I don't talk about it much because I don't blog about work much.  But it does impact this blog.  Since I work for the Feds I cannot write about whatever I want on this blog.  I give up a little of my freedom of speech…
    - 9 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Chasing Joy's #JoyOfGiving December Challenge & Giveaway
    I'm still in shock that the year is just about over.  I mean we are a full week into December. How did that happen???  SMH.With only a few weeks left in the year we are all busy.  Hanukkah has started. Christmas is around the corner.  There are g…
    - 7 Dec 15, 12:00am -
  • Baby Making Update: The Wait!!!
    Last week I did not share a baby making update because I figured everyone would be too busy eating leftover turkey and cranberry sauce and shopping on black Friday.  Now that the holiday has passed let's get back to our normally scheduled programing…
    - 4 Dec 15, 12:00am -

'83 To Infinity

  • TURN UP: Interview with Soca Star Bunji Garlin
    Once upon a time, a young girl from a small city in Ontario met a young dude from the heart of Scarborough (in the east end of Toronto). The girl was from a Jamaican family, and the dude was from a Vincentian one – so while they vibed on a Caribbe…
    - 29 Nov 17, 4:30pm -
  • I STAND WITH ISHAWNA: Dancehall’s ‘Equal Rights’ Fight
    In a piece I wrote last year for The Establishment on women in Jamaica’s dancehall culture, I said the following:Misogyny, violence, and homophobia permeate [hip hop and dancehall], with the male-dominated nature of each being highly prevalent. T…
    - 23 May 17, 4:26pm -
  • WHAT’S NEXT: Birthdays And The Promise Of New Days
    My mom tells me that she laboured for a fairly long time when I was born. I finally made my grand appearance on the evening of May 10th, then caught my first sunrise on May 11th, beginning my first full day of life.Whenever I think about what some…
    - 11 May 17, 12:02pm -
  • EASY & FLY: Bee’s Crochet Braid Experience
    Crochet braids!(right photo courtesy of Jessica Laforet)If you know me, you know a few things when it comes to hair:I get bored easily.I love low-maintenance looks that don’t look low-maintenance.I like to give my crown a break every now an…
    - 19 Apr 17, 9:17am -
  • PAST GEM: The Beauty of Bacchanal: Celebrating Feminine Freedom Through Carnival
    As I recently said on Twitter, it’s getting close to that time of year where I mute any words related to Trinidad Carnival. I’m missing out on the bacchanal this year, and of all the flavours I could choose to be, I chose to be salty. To all my p…
    - 21 Feb 17, 8:15am -

Diary of a Sewing Fanatic

  • A Tribute to Faye - UPDATED!
    Earlier today I got the news that Linda Faye Lewis passed away. I had another blog post written to share today but I really wanted to honor Faye because she was a wonderful woman & sewist and someone I greatly admired in the sewing community.**Here i…
    - 7 days ago 14 Apr 19, 3:07pm -
  • A Lightweight Rayon Knit Pembroke Tunic
    The season is starting to turn but we're still getting those colder days.  Days when it starts out pretty chilly, warms up around lunch time, and then gets chillier for the trip home. While it seems I should be giving up these Pembrokes, they actua…
    - 12 days ago 10 Apr 19, 5:00am -
  • Simplicity 8059 - An Eyelet Cardigan
    I've made this cardigan several times over the last couple of years and it's become my go to pattern.It was made to go with the latest Pembroke tunic recently completed. An early spring outfit to wear with leggings and/or white jeans.Supplies ~*Cotto…
    - 14 days ago 7 Apr 19, 5:00pm -
  • Silk Twill Printed TNT Shirt
    Originally when I purchased this fabric I wanted to make a dress for work from it. At that time I lived in corporate workwear and while it was a little bright for that world, I bought the fabric anyway because I loved it.This is another one of those…
    - 18 days ago 4 Apr 19, 5:00am -
  • March 2019 ~ End of the Month Recap
    I know I've sewn this month but it doesn't feel like it. So I was pleasantly surprised to realize that I have four completed garments. Monthly Fabric Update ~Let's talk fabric accumulation first. Cause seriously in the first quarter of the year, I'm…
    - 21 days ago 31 Mar 19, 8:00pm -
  • #carriagecornersewcamp March 2019
    This is gonna be a long post.  I have a lot of pictures and I'm being lazy so one post just tap out when you've had too much! LOL!The March Sew Camp is 2.5 days starting on Friday going through Sunday afternoon.  However, some of us more experience…
    - 26 days ago 27 Mar 19, 12:00am -
  • Fabric Satisfied
    I love Sew Camp! I love the camarderie, the conversations, the laughter and seeing what other sewists are making. But mostly I love the Friday trip to Fabric Mart. To me its the DisneyWorld of fabric stores. I usually have to restrain myself from buy…
    - 28 days ago 24 Mar 19, 10:07pm -
  • SewcialistsMiniChallenge
    I opted to play the Minichallenge the Sewcialists were promoting this weekend. I love this account because ALL sewists matter, to the Sewcialists. They promote everyone who sews on both their blog and IG account. They fight for diversity of all typ…
    - 35 days ago 18 Mar 19, 6:00am -
  • Crocheting my Life Away
    Last November the grandkids all got new beds.  They've reached the stage where no one needed a crib or a baby bed - so new beds. Along with new beds, my Mom bought each child a new comforter and sheets set. I couldn't be left out of this, so I told…
    - 36 days ago 16 Mar 19, 9:30pm -
  • Sew Your View - McCalls 7912
    I've followed the monthly "Sew Your View" sew-alongs on Instagram almost from the beginning. Every month I see the new pattern chosen and while I love the finished garments, the pattern doesn't appeal to me for one reason or another.For February, the…
    - 41 days ago 11 Mar 19, 7:30pm -
  • February 2019 Round Up
    First this round up is late because I've caught my annual case of the crud. I've spent the last few days sleeping and hydrating and am finally starting to feel human again! Second this post is all about my unabated fabric addiction. See February is…
    - 50 days ago 3 Mar 19, 1:00pm -
  • And The Winner Is...
    First ~I will be watching the Red Carpet Arrivals for the Oscars tonight.  I love awards season just for the beautiful gowns & dresses the actresses wear. So I will be planted in front of my TV watching the parade.  I'm also kinda invested in some…
    - 56 days ago 24 Feb 19, 2:00pm -
  • Reflections late in February...
    These are just a few thoughts that have been rambling through my mind. There's nothing that's enough for a blog post, so I'm putting them all together here.First Fabric ~I bought fabric. Well of course I did! *LOL* But continuing with my goals of 201…
    - 61 days ago 20 Feb 19, 5:00am -
  • Dover Jacket ~ The Third Version in Embroidered Denim
    This is my last and most elaborate version of the Dover Jacket.Supplies ~- Embroidered Denim from Mood Fabric - purchased at the NYC store late last year - (5) 7/8" flower buttons from the button stash- Flat Bronze Piping from Joyce Trimmings- Navy…
    - 64 days ago 17 Feb 19, 12:00am -
  • McCalls 7481 ~ An Embroidered Denim Vest Hack
    I decided that I wanted a couple of casual unlined jackets to wear this winter. I started with the ponte and lace version using McCalls 7481 and moved onto the Dover Jackets. I wanted to make another M7481 because I like the silhouette of this patter…
    - 68 days ago 13 Feb 19, 12:00am -
  • The Dover Jacket in Flocked Glen Plaid
    I knew right after I'd finished my first Dover Jacket that I would be adding more of them to my wardrobe. It's exactly the type of topper that I need and want as a layering piece. All I had to do was figure out what the next fabric should be. I settl…
    - 70 days ago 10 Feb 19, 8:00pm -
  • Sewing while black, plus size and over 50
    There have been quite a few conversations in Instagram land and social media regarding inclusivity in our sewing community.  Conversations regarding POC (People of Color), Plus size sewists and #sewover50. For many sewists, they hit one maybe two of…
    - 75 days ago 6 Feb 19, 1:00pm -
  • Stripes can be border prints too!
    Well at least in the Fabric Mart universe they can be!I bought this fabric from FM after #carriagecornersewcamp last March. It wasn't on the site when we were there but it caught the eagle eye of Nakisha from Dressmaking Debacles at the time and she…
    - 78 days ago 3 Feb 19, 12:00am -
  • January 2019 Round Up
    Being true to my 2019 goals, this is the first end of month recap for the year. This month's recap will not only track my fabric in & out progress, garments sewn, where I'm going with my sewing next month, but also a discussion of some of the issues…
    - 81 days ago 31 Jan 19, 12:00am -
  • A Circle Border Print Shirt
    Back in December, I wanted to use an older piece of fabric for my next shirt in The Border Print Series. I've been collecting border prints for years and knew there were some buried deep in the collection. I just needed to dig them out. After rummag…
    - 84 days ago 28 Jan 19, 12:00am -
  • Why Support a Pattern Designer Who Doesn't Support You?
    There is a discussion happening in the Plus Size Community that started on Instagram after a blog post was published about why RTW and some indie pattern designers won't design for the plus size market.I've waited to speak on this because I'm not sur…
    - 87 days ago 25 Jan 19, 12:09am -
  • One, Two, Three Pembrokes all in a Row
    It's January and cold here in the Tri-State Area.  I hate being cold and I've wanted to sew my own turtleneck type sweater for awhile. Because of that, I was especially grateful when Jenny released the Pembroke Tunic for Cashmerette Patterns. My f…
    - 88 days ago 24 Jan 19, 12:00am -
  • Blue Dot Patterns ~ Dover Jacket (Wearable Muslin)
    One of the garment types I really want to add to my fall/winter/early spring wardrobe is a loose fitting jacket. I want to wear them with the Pembroke turtleneck tunics I've made, as well as, my shirts and over jeans and leggings. I saw the BlueDot…
    - 90 days ago 22 Jan 19, 12:00am -
  • Sewing Goals for 2019
    As I said in my last post, I am sewing.  Just not taking pictures yet.  Though I plan to do that this weekend since I'm developing a backlog.In the meantime, it's a holiday weekend here in the States, to celebrate the birth of Dr. Martin Luther Kin…
    - 93 days ago 19 Jan 19, 12:00am -
  • So I'm Sewing...
    I knew when I went back to work that my sewjo would return and it did ~ like clockwork! It didn't come back right away but by the weekend, I knew what I wanted to sew. BTW, it wasn't anything on my list!Diane at BlueDot Patterns issued a new jacket p…
    - 98 days ago 13 Jan 19, 9:00pm -

African American - Latino World

  • Racial Confusion among Latinos & African Americans
     Two Black men portraying their Puerto Rican Pridein the annual Puerto Rican Day parade in New YorkWhy is it so challenging for so  many people, especially African-Americans and U.S. Latinos, to understand that there is a difference between someone…
    - 11 Dec 18, 8:49am -
  • Black Mexican Towns Hold Annual Conferences
    XIX Meeting of Black Villages Coahuila, México “El Pueblo Unido Jamás Será Vencido!”(The United Village Will Never be Defeated!) This post is credited to Patrica Ann Talley, MBA who has been living in the Afro-Mexican region of La Costa Chica…
    - 30 Nov 18, 8:28pm -
  • Cuba's Black Female Slave Rebel
     Carlota LucumíThank you AfroLatinidad for sharing ...We African-Americans know about Nat Turner and Denmark Vessey, but their spirit was alive throughout the Caribbean and Latin America, such as Gaspar Yanga of Mexico, Benko Biohó of Colombia, an…
    - 25 Nov 18, 6:01pm -
  • A Return Connection with Latin-America's African Diaspora
    As the saying goes, "what goes around comes around." Having received so much love visiting Latin America's black communities, it was finally a warm exhilarating experience to return the favor to one visiting New York. Her name is Diana of Guayaquíl,…
    - 23 Nov 18, 1:55pm -
  • When Learning Spanish, Learn Some Manners!
    My Spanish-Speaking Drill Instructor,Alberto, of  Chincha Alta, Perú  It was my late Mexican-American friend, Yolanda Gutierrez,  who admonished me to learn Latin-American culture if I'm going to speak the Spanish language. I took that advice s…
    - 23 Oct 18, 3:40pm -
  • Sad Ending with my Afro-Peruvian Goddaughter
    I was fascinated by a CD, "the Soul of Black Perú" that alerted me to this country's black population. And as a lifetime Spanish student seeking to learn about black cultures in Latin America, Perú joined my list of places to visit. Through my plan…
    - 4 Oct 18, 5:50pm -
  • LATINO HERITAGE MONTH: A Black Pictorial Celebration
    Hispanic (Latino) Heritage Month, September 15 to October 15, addresses little, if any, of its racial diversity consisting of Asians, Blacks, Indigenous, Jews, Middle Easterners, Whites, and a mixture of some or all of the above.The Latino (Hispanic)…
    - 25 Sep 18, 6:29pm -
  • Latinos Who Prejudge Blacks
    Any one or all three of these men speak Spanish as a first or second language, but you will never know by simply looking at their outer appearance. What is it with so many Latinos (and black folks) in the U.S. who feel that all Spanish speakers are…
    - 21 Sep 18, 2:44pm -
  • An Object Lesson on U.S. Latinos
    In a hot Havana heat in July, I'm chilling out on a mojito, Cuba's national drink.On my first day in Cuba, I learned an object lesson as to how so many bilingual U.S. Latinos feel, when we non-native speakers try to practice our Spanish on them.I was…
    - 20 Aug 18, 3:52pm -
  • Fast & Fun Spanish Language Development
    Chowing down on a Peruvian dinner with a glass of pisco sour, Perú's national drinkNormally, I am very confident and perform impressively during job interviews, but this time, the hiring manager asked if it was OK to switch our conversation to Sp…
    - 18 Aug 18, 9:37pm -
  • Mexican Independence Day: What Blacks (& Mexicans) Should Know!
    Along with Spanish explorers, Moroccan born Estevánico was one of the first native Africans to reach what later became Mexican territory before this territory was taken over by the United States after the Mexican-American war, namely Arizona and Ne…
    - 5 Aug 18, 6:14pm -
  • Too "Black" to be Latino and too "Latino" to be Considered Black
    VH1’s Love & Hip Hop: Miami star Amara La Negra is from the Dominican Republic A 19-year old Chicagoan of Afro-Mexican ancestry does not feel fully accepted by his Mexican-American community because of his color. Even when he visits Mexico speaking…
    - 3 Aug 18, 8:16am -
  • A Black Traveler Asks about Being Black in Perú
     At a supper club in Lima, Perú, a female performer came to my table to bring me on stage to dance with her.I often get e-mails from my blog readers asking various questions about what they can expect in references to the places I've traveled. Thi…
    - 22 Jun 18, 2:31pm -
  • Colombia, South America's Black Salsa Music Icon
    Grupo NicheThis is my favorite salsa band of all time with it's lively, yet suave musical style. The word, Niche (pronounced Knee-Chay), in Colombian Spanish, describes the darkest-skinned black people. The group was founded and lead by the late Jai…
    - 18 Jun 18, 10:30am -
  • Happy Afro-Peruvian Heritage Month!
    On June 3, there was a grand celebration of Afro-Peruvian Cultural Day with tasty "comida criollos" (Peruvian soul food), black artifacts with a homage to the Mother of Afro-Peruvian dance and theater, Victoria Santa Cruz. The late Rinaldo Campos, f…
    - 4 Jun 18, 10:08am -
  • An American First—the Parodox of Latin American Racism
    In Latin America, a black person with a foreign passport and Euros, British Pounds, or American or Canadian dollars is treated as an honorary “white” person.  It's been all over the news and social media, reports of one incident after another;…
    - 30 May 18, 2:09pm -
  • Where Have All the Ricans Gone?
    I Miss the New York Puerto Rican (Nuyorican) CommunityPeople often ask me why do I speak Spanish or when they hear me listening to Latin music, they wonder if I am Latino. The answer is that I was inspired by my Nuyorican neighbors at a young age whi…
    - 17 Jan 18, 4:10pm -
  • The Rise and Fall of the Black Marvel of Uruguay, South America
    José Leandro Andrade“The Black Marvel”During the 1920s and 1930s, José Leandro Andrade was highly regarded in his home country, Uruguay, as “Maravilla Negra (the Black Marvel)” whom enchanted soccer fans witnessed the effortless elegance in…
    - 23 Oct 17, 11:40am -
  • Black Cuban Women Smash White Cuban Male Business Barrier
    Yvonne and Yvette Rodriguez, identical twin sisters, became the first Afro-Cuban women to break to into the old, white Cuban male dominated cigar industry with a boutique line called Tres Lindas Cubanas Cigars (Three Pretty Cuban Women’s Cigars) c…
    - 11 Oct 17, 5:42pm -
  • I Seem Attractive to White and Mestiza Latinas
     As many of you know that with my explorations, research, and travels through Latin America, I try, as much as possible, to engage their black communities and be exposed to and immersed in black culture, which includes going out with black women.…
    - 4 Oct 17, 1:29pm -
  • Prejudice and the Spanish Language
    Black Peruvian women dancing to Festejo musicDuring my travels in Latin America, I not only met black folks, but I met Asians, Middle Easterners, Jews, and Caucasions who are more "Latino" than many U.S. Latinos. I am too often baffled when I meet La…
    - 28 Sep 17, 4:14pm -
  • Afro Latina Reporter Confronts the KKK
    Ilia Calderón, a black Colombian journalist with the Spanish language TV, Univisión, agreed to visit Chris Barker, the Loyal White Knights faction of the KKK on his wooded North Carolina property. She watched Mr. Barker lead a KKK meeting – carry…
    - 24 Sep 17, 1:13pm -
  • Thoughts of Defecting to Cuba!
    Long before President Obama reopened diplomatic relations with Cuba, I arrived on the island legally by permission of the U.S. State Department to attend a Spanish language intensive training at the University of Havana. On my first day there, I had…
    - 17 Sep 17, 3:14pm -
  • Argentina’s Forgotten Black Hero, Dubbed as the Mother of Her Country
    The first news of María Remedios del Valle on the battlefield goes back to her participation of her defense against the English invasions as she attended and kept the soldiers’ backpacks to lighten their march to battle wrote, the combat corps com…
    - 29 Aug 17, 5:09pm -
  • The Diversity of Black America
    When I speak of America, I speak of Canada, the USA, and countries all the way down to Argentina. When I speak of Black America, I speak of blacks in Canada, the USA, and countries all the way down to Argentina.It was a Spanish-speaking member of an…
    - 23 Aug 17, 11:01am -