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  • newESSENCE Honors Black Trans Women In Hollywood
    One of the big three iconic magazines in the Black community is ESSENCE.   It has been chronicling the stories of Black women since its 1970 founding.  I'm gratified to see that after a problematic history with trans women, that ESSENCE featuring…
    - 22 hours ago 27 Jan 20, 1:00am -
  • Who Will Be In The 2020 SUF Lifetime Achievement Awards Class?
    Once again since the Oscars have regressed into #OscarsSoWhite territory again, just a little reminder that I'll be announcing the 2020 SUF Lifetime Achievement Awards class of (dis)honorees on February 9Ever since the 2010 Oscars I've been naming pe…
    - 2 days ago 26 Jan 20, 1:00am -
  • Shut Up Fool Awards- Post MLK Day 2020 Edition
    Another MLK Day has come and gone, and now the GOP can stop pretending they care about racial justice and equality and go right back to being the racist azzholes they and their MAGA hat wearing supporters are.And yeah, because they were pretending, s…
    - 3 days ago 24 Jan 20, 1:00pm -
  • Janet Mock To Receive 2020 GLAAD LGBTQ Advocacy Award
    The last time I had the opportunity to talk to Janet Mock face to face was back in August 2016 when we were at the Chautauqua Institution in western New York.   We were less than 24 hours from becoming  the first out Black trans folks to hit their…
    - 6 days ago 21 Jan 20, 11:30am -
  • She's Baack! Diamond Stylz's YouTube Channel Restored
    Hopefully YouTube will reverse this unjust action and reinstate her video blog that she put a decade of work into building.-TransGriot,  July 1, 2018It took YouTube way too long to reverse the unjust 2018 shutdown of Diamond Stylz's YouTube video bl…
    - 7 days ago 21 Jan 20, 1:00am -
  • My Post CC20 Musings
    I'm back on my end of I-45 after an amazing few days in Dallas for Creating Change 2020.In addition to bringing something back to Houston with me to put on my trophy shelf called the Susan J Hyde Award for Longevity in the Movement,  I brought somet…
    - 8 days ago 20 Jan 20, 7:00am -
  • Shut Up Fool Awards - The Moni's At CC20 Edition
    As many of you are already aware of, I'm on the other end of I-45 in Dallas to take part in the latest edition of Creating Change in Dallas.While I have been busy getting my learn on, participating in panels and enjoying seeing old friends and meetin…
    - 10 days ago 17 Jan 20, 1:00pm -
  • CC 2020 Susan J Hyde Award Speech
    TransGriot Note:  This is the text of the speech I'm currently delivering at the opening Creating Change 2020 plenary sessionTo Rea Carey, the Creating Change leadership team, the Dallas CC20 Organizing Committee, Barbara Satin, Creating Change 2020…
    - 11 days ago 16 Jan 20, 9:30pm -
  • Moni's Early Morning #CC20 Musings
    I'm up early because I haven't been able to sleep since 5:30 AM, and finally said frack it and got up.This is the big day for me at Creating Change 2020.   I have a 10 AM panel during the Trans Institute, and later tonight a speech to make during t…
    - 12 days ago 16 Jan 20, 7:30am -
  • Moni's In The CC20 House!
    After rolling up I-45 yesterday, I'm back in Dallas again, but this time it's for my sixth  Creating Change Conference and my first since the 2017 one in Philadelphia.So what's Creating Change?  It's one of the largest political conferences in the…
    - 13 days ago 15 Jan 20, 1:00am -
  • Getting On The (Bougie) Bus To Dallas
    I'm starting this 2020 year of travel the same way I ended 2019, by riding a Vonlane luxury bus to or from a Lone Star State destination.This will be my longest trip ever on a Vonlane, or what I loving call The Bougie Bus'.  I usually end up taking…
    - 13 days ago 14 Jan 20, 3:18pm -
  • Dutch YouTube Makeup Guru Comes Out As Trans
    Nikkie de Jager would have rather kept this part of her life her business, and make the announcement she made at a time and place of her choosing.  Unfortunately someone took the ability to do that away from her. As NikkieTutorials, the YouTube mak…
    - 14 days ago 14 Jan 20, 3:00am -
  • Shut Up Fool Awards- New Year, Same Old BS Edition
    This was the first full week of 2020 and the new decade.  Sadly the crap that was going on in the last months of the 2010's before we flipped the calendar page to January and a new decade is still happening.As Mr T has reminded us for years, fools a…
    - 17 days ago 10 Jan 20, 1:00pm -
  • The Lincoln Project's MAGA Church Video
    I'm loving this video from The Lincoln Project that smacks the evilgelicals surrounding Trump and exalting his as their lord and savior as the power hungry grifters they are.They're racist and LGBTQ phobic too, but since Republicans created this vide…
    - 18 days ago 10 Jan 20, 11:00am -
  • TransGriot Gets 5th Nomination For GLAAD Media Award!
    Woke up to the wonderful news that TransGriot has been nominated once again for a GLAAD Media Award in the Outstanding Blog category.It it is my fifth overall  nomination, and the fourth consecutive nomination since 2017.  As you long time readers…
    - 19 days ago 8 Jan 20, 1:00pm -
  • Why Trans Murders Are Happening
    As some of you were aware of, I made my MSNBC pundit debut on January 5 to talk about (briefly) transgender murders and why they are happening.It a subject that deserves more than the three minutes it got on MSNBC Live.I wanted to make these points,…
    - 20 days ago 8 Jan 20, 1:00am -
  • A Texans Playoff Game For The Ages
    Like much of Houston, was watching the Texans AFC wild card playoff game with the Buffalo Bills.So many folks were glued to their televisions that I heard or saw no cars rolling up or down the streets of my neighborhood during the roughly three hour…
    - 23 days ago 5 Jan 20, 1:00am -
  • Houston Inaugurates Mayor Turner and Female Majority City Council
    One of the things I got to do today thanks to an invitation from CM Letitia Plummer was for the first time ever be in the Wortham Center to witness the inauguration of a Houston mayor and our new city council.Mayor Sylvester Turner was inaugurated fo…
    - 25 days ago 2 Jan 20, 9:00pm -
  • Number 1- Rest In Power Dustin Parker
    Damn, the confetti wasn't even swept up off of the streets in New York's Times Square before the news broke that we have already lost a trans person in 2020 to violence.We head to McAlester, OK for the news concerning 25 year old Dustin Parker.   H…
    - 25 days ago 2 Jan 20, 8:00pm -
  • I'm Getting The Susan J Hyde Award At CC20!
    When Creating Change kicks off in Dallas, I'll be getting another award for my 22 years of activity in the TBLGQ movement.I'm being honored with the Susan J. Hyde Award for Longevity in the movement during the opening plenary on January 16.I'm not th…
    - 26 days ago 2 Jan 20, 1:00am -
  • Happy 14th Blogiversary TransGriot!
    One thing I can promise you dear reader is that you won't be disappointed. There will be times I'll make you laugh. Other times I'll touch your heart. Then there will be the occasional time or two when I piss you off. But my goal is to make you think…
    - 27 days ago 1 Jan 20, 1:01am -
  • It's 2020 Y'all!
    New year, new decade!Happy New Year to all of you on the eastern side of the International Date Line.   My friends west of it and Down Under already celebrated New Year's Eve and New Year's Day.The arrival of January 1, 2020 also means I'm celebrat…
    - 27 days ago 1 Jan 20, 1:00am -
  • The 2019 Shut Up Fool Of The Year Is...
    Another 365 days have passed, and it's time to add another fool or (group of fools) to our distinguished and highly anticipated list of idiots,These are the folks who have engaged in outright lying, massive hypocrisy, engaged in brazen  gaslighting,…
    - 27 days ago 31 Dec 19, 11:30pm -
  • The Final 2019 US Trans Names List
     As the ball is about to drop in New York's Times Square to signal the end of the 2010's and the beginning of  a new year and new decade, still had this bit of old business to deal with. I don't have to tell you TransGriot readers that 2019 was an…
    - 27 days ago 31 Dec 19, 1:00pm -
  • The Shut Up Fool Of The Decade Is....
    On January 30, 2009 I started one of the more popular features on my blog in the weekly Shut Up Fool Awards.    My inaugural fool for that week was FOX Noise Contributor Juan Williams.The Shut Up Fool weekly awards begat a Shut Up Fool of the Year…
    - 30 days ago 29 Dec 19, 2:30am -

The Mad Professah Lectures

  • EYE CANDY: Robert Oliveira (4th Time!)
    Longtime readers of this blog know I have  a "thing" for Brazilian boys (of any color!) Many  have appeared here over the years (several from MundoMais and other websites) such as Maxs Souza, Jones Tamar, Alan Taurus, Guilherme Rofino, Erasmo Vian…
    - 27 days ago 31 Dec 19, 12:23pm -
  • EYE CANDY: Mike Thurston (6th time!)
    Mike Thurston is still one of (if not my very top) favorite male models. He has appeared as Eye Candy the most frequently of any model on my blog (December 31, 2018; June 4, 2018; August 31, 2015; October 19, 2015; December 28, 2015. In addition…
    - 29 days ago 30 Dec 19, 6:26am -
  • EYE CANDY: Justin St. Paul
    Justin St. Paul is a British bodybuilder I discovered on Instagram through Mike Thurston. He is a 27-year-old personal fitness trainer (@justin_stsmall) who is listed at 6-feet and 215-225 pounds. I guess sometimes he shaves his chest, sometimes he d…
    - 34 days ago 24 Dec 19, 2:20pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Testaments by Margaret Atwood
    Since the televised adaptation of The Handmaid’s Tale became a viral sensation it was inevitable that The Testaments, which is a sequel to the book the show is based on would also have a significant cultural impact. Margaret Atwood, the author of b…
    - 39 days ago 19 Dec 19, 7:39pm -
  • EYE CANDY: Adrian Conrad (5th time!)
    Adrian Conrad makes his 5th appearance at this blog in a short time (January 14, 2019; January 11, 2018; December 11, 2017; November 27, 2017). He is the most recent addition to my list of all-time favorite male models (which includes Simeon Panda,…
    - 43 days ago 16 Dec 19, 7:23am -
  • The Expanse Season 4 Is Available NOW on Prime Video!
    Now that Game of Thrones is off the air, my favorite television show is The Expanse, based on the amazing 9-book space opera series written by James S.A. Corey is my favorite show. After the first 3 seasons aired on SyFy, that network failed to pick…
    - 45 days ago 13 Dec 19, 7:05pm -
  • CELEBRITY FRIDAY: Patrick Bumatay Becomes First Openly LGBT Federal Appellate Court Judge
    Openly gay, Filipino Patrick Bumatay, 41, was confirmed by the U.S. Senate by a 53-40 vote to a lifetime seat on the 9th U.S. Circuit Cort of Appeals. Bumatay is the first openly gay man to be appointed to the federal judiciary at the Circuit Court…
    - 45 days ago 13 Dec 19, 4:49pm -
  • EYE CANDY: Raciel Castro (5th time!)
    Raciel Castro is another one of my all-time favorite models. He has numerous Instagram followers (@racielcastro) but I am surprised that he doesn't have even more. He has appeared as Eye Candy at least 4 times  before (May 19, 2014; December 29,…
    - 48 days ago 10 Dec 19, 12:51pm -
  • EYE CANDY: Simeon Panda (6th Time!)
    Simeon Panda is one of my all-time favorite models. His body is ridiculous, but as you can see, he is extremely handsome as well. This is his sixth appearance as Eye Candy. Surprisingly, he has not graced these pages in over 2 years (February 6, 2017…
    - 56 days ago 2 Dec 19, 5:17pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Recursion by Blake Crouch
    Blake Crouch is the author of multiple, best-selling, mind-bending thrillers; his atmospheric novels in the Wayward Pines trilogy were adapted into a television show for Fox. I enjoyed his previous book Dark Matter (2016) but have not read any of his…
    - 61 days ago 28 Nov 19, 8:36am -
  • 2019 ATP YEC: Tsitsipas Wins Biggest Title Of His Young Career
    Surprising many, Stefanos Tsitsipas finished his breakout 2019 season by coming from behind to win his first ATP Tour Finals title over Dominic Thiem 6-7(6) 6-2 7-6(4). The 21-year-old Greek player is the youngest player to win the  year-end tour…
    - 69 days ago 19 Nov 19, 1:46pm -
  • 2019 ATP YEC: Tsitsipas-Thiem Final
    For the fourth consecutive year, the ATP Finals will be won by someone new, i.e. someone who is not a previous champion of the event. This sequence started in 2016 when Andy Murray defeated Novak Djokovic to become World #1 for the first time, then…
    - 72 days ago 16 Nov 19, 11:25pm -
  • 2019 ATP YEC: Federer-Tsitsipas, Thiem-Zverev Are Semis As Djokovic and Nadal Are Eliminated
    The semifinals at the Nitto ATP Finals are now set: Roger Federer will face Stefanos Tsitsipas while Dominic Thiem versus 2018 champion Alexander Zverev. Both the World #1 Rafael Nadal and World #2 Novak Djokovic were eliminated via different p…
    - 73 days ago 15 Nov 19, 10:39pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Velocity Weapon (The Protectorate, #1) by Megan O'Keefe
    Velocity Weapon is the first book in a new space opera trilogy called the Protectorate written by Megan E. O'Keefe. Since space opera is my all-time favorite I had placed this book on my TBR (to be read) list a while ago and recently moved it to t…
    - 74 days ago 14 Nov 19, 1:33pm -
  • TENNIS TUESDAY: France Wins Fed Cup Merci A Kiki; Zverev, Thiem and Tsistipas Get Surprising Wins at #ATPFinals
    KIKI STEALS THE SHOW AS FRANCE WINS FED CUP IN PERTHMuch to the surprise of many observers, France defeated Australia in the Davis Cup Final held in Perth, Australia last weekend. After the first two matches were 6-1 6-1 France (Kiki Mladenovic d. A…
    - 75 days ago 13 Nov 19, 4:51pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Age of Legend (Legends of the First Empire, #4) by Michael J. Sullivan
    I have been a huge fan boy of Michael Sullivan’s work ever since I discovered his Riyria books a few years ago. I’ve read both Riyria trilogies (I think the later one, with Theft of Swords, Rise of Empire and Heir of Novron is absolutely brilli…
    - 82 days ago 7 Nov 19, 8:38am -
  • 2019 WTA YEC: Barty Defeats Svitolina To Win Biggest Paycheck in Tennis
    Ash Barty this weekend won the biggest paycheck in women's tennis history when she won US$4.42 million for winning the Shiseido WTA Finals Shenzhen by defeating 2018 WTA Finals champion Elina Svitolina. Barty has had an amazing 2019 tennis season (w…
    - 83 days ago 5 Nov 19, 2:01pm -
  • 2019 WTA YEC: Barty versus Pliskova, Svitolina versus Bencic
    The semifinals of the WTA Year-End Championships, now called the Shiseido WTA Finals Shenzhen, are set for Saturday. They feature World #1 Ash Barty versus current World #2 Karolina Pliskova and 2018 defending champion Elina Svitolina versus Belina…
    - 87 days ago 1 Nov 19, 7:59pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Outsider by Stephen King
    The Outsider is a supernatural thriller by Stephen King, connected loosely to his foray into mystery-thrillers, the Bill Hodges trilogy of Mr. Mercedes, Finders Keepers and End of Watch. Of course King is a colossus in the world of horror (and p…
    - 88 days ago 31 Oct 19, 5:57pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Heads of the Colored People by Nafissa Thompson-Spires
    I was only supposed to read two stories, “Belles Lettres” and “The Necessary Changes Have Been Made” in order to decide which should be included in a collection of texts that address race, white supremacy and (mis)representation of Black peop…
    - 95 days ago 24 Oct 19, 12:29pm -
  • TENNIS TUESDAY: Murray Wins 1st Title With Metal Hip; WTA Elite 8 Set; Shapo Wins First Title
    ANDY MURRAY DEFEATS STAN WAWRINKA IN BATTLE OF COMEBACK KIDSFormer World #1 and 3-time major champion Andy Murray defeated 3-time major champion Stan Wawrinka 3-6 6-4 6-4 to win his first title since March of 2017. The tournament win is notable bec…
    - 97 days ago 22 Oct 19, 1:34pm -
  • TENNIS THURSDAY: Medvedev Wins Shanghai; Coco Wins 1st WTA Title At Age 15; Federer Reveals 2020 Tokyo Plans; Rafa Gets Married 10/19
    MEDVEDEV CONTINUES HOT STREAK WITH SHANGHAI TITLEDaniel Medvedev continued his streak of extremely-hot tennis which began over the summer by winning his second Masters series event of the year, defeating Alexander Zverev in the final of the Shangha…
    - 17 Oct 19, 7:29pm -
  • Eye Candy: Corey Upton
    Corey Upton is a model and professional body builder. He has roughly 20k followers on Instagram (@thecoreyupton).
    - 14 Oct 19, 1:17am -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Cold Blood (DCI Erika Foster, #5) by Robert Bryndza
    Cold Blood is the fifth book in the DCI Erika Foster series by Robert Bryndza. Erika Foster is a Slovakian emigré to Great Britain who lost her fellow police officer husband Mark Foster in a drug raid gone wrong a few years before the events of the…
    - 10 Oct 19, 11:34pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Raven Black (Shetland Islands, #1) by Ann Cleeves
    This is the first book in Ann Cleeves’ Shetland Islands series starring Inspector Jimmy Perez. The Shetland Islands are remote, sparsely populated islands north of Scotland and west of Norway that are part of the United Kingdom.Raven Black begins w…
    - 3 Oct 19, 8:46am -

Black Girl Dangerous

  • Untitled
    The BGD Media Mentoring program is not currently active. For five years, BGD led the way in indie media by…The post appeared first on BGD.
    - 5 Dec 17, 5:57pm -
  • The BGD Blog Is Ending
    Dear BGD readers,   For the last five and a half years, BGD has amplified the voices of queer and…The post The BGD Blog Is Ending appeared first on BGD.
    - 26 Jul 17, 2:52pm -
  • True Love Is the Joy of Bringing Another To Joy: BGD’s Crush of the Month Featuring Climbing PoeTree
    by Princess Harmony   BGD’s Crush of the Month is a feature where we choose the most swoon-worthy and inspirational…The post True Love Is the Joy of Bringing Another To Joy: BGD’s Crush of the Month Featuring Climbing PoeTree appeared first o…
    - 4 Jul 17, 11:03am -
  • Challenging The Culture Of Silence In The Afghan-American Community’s Response To Orlando
    by Bobuq Sayed   Exactly one week after the Pulse nightclub shooting, my cousin Tariq and I drive into downtown…The post Challenging The Culture Of Silence In The Afghan-American Community’s Response To Orlando appeared first on BGD.
    - 13 Jun 17, 8:00am -
  • The BGD Podcast 6.1.17: Be Humble, Miley!
    Host Raquel Willis discusses Miley Cyrus and Katy Perry’s cultural appropriation, student walk-outs on political leaders and the best shut…The post The BGD Podcast 6.1.17: Be Humble, Miley! appeared first on BGD.
    - 1 Jun 17, 2:19pm -

Lesbian In The City

  • Happily Divorced
    “…so what are you going to say at my funeralnow that you have killed me?here lies the body of the love of my lifewhose heart I broke without a gun to my headhere lies the body of the mother of my childrenboth living and deadrest in p…
    - 6 Mar 17, 1:44pm -
  • City Letter: Open Relationships & Polyamory
    Dear LITC,I like your blog and how you are comfy with exposing yourlife for us to learn about and even inspire us. My girl and I are having thisargument and I want your point of view. We been together like 3 years and somechange now and…
    - 29 Aug 16, 5:04pm -
  • I's Married Now
    Happy July Love’s! I’m back, I’m married…and I’m also aMommy! Say what?!? Yes, I am also a Mommy! Nina and I said I Do on June 17th in front ofour friends in beautiful Las Vegas. I love Vegas and cannot wait to go back. Wehad a…
    - 13 Jul 16, 1:14pm -
  • Where's Waldo...More Like Where's Lesbian In The City?
    I’m sorry for the disappearing act I pulled but I promiseit was not intentional. Where do I begin. Ever since Nina and I got engaged wehave had nonstop, whirlwind schedules. Like I’m getting married in a month andI just picked out my dres…
    - 16 May 16, 10:59am -
  • Happy 2016, I'm Engaged!
    I knew 2016 was going to be a game changer for me butnever to this degree. I am happy to say that as of midnight on New Years Eve2015 Nina and I are engaged to be married. It was a beautiful, romanticsurprise and I was happy to say Yes! In…
    - 2 Jan 16, 11:41am -
  • The Same Difference: Addressing The Problem within the African-American Lesbian Community
    There has always been this constant turmoil, tension, anddiscrimination within the African-American Lesbian community and finallysomeone has brought this shit to the light with The Same Difference Documentary.As I have mentioned before, som…
    - 13 Dec 15, 1:24pm -
  • Holidays With The New Family
    Nina and I survived our first Thanksgiving with herfamily. Normally, I go to my cousin’s home then head to my grandparentsfollowed by capping my evening off at my best friend’s home. This was our firstmajor holiday together, and I thoug…
    - 1 Dec 15, 12:34pm -
  • Eyes Wide Shut: Black Women & Suicide
    In the midst of waiting for my two favorite shows,Scandal and How To Get Away With Murder, to return to their regular rotation, Ibinge watched Season 2 of Being Mary Jane. When the show first aired on BET(and I had yet to cut the cable cord)…
    - 9 Nov 15, 11:32am -
  • Black Lesbians & Heteronormativity
    When I think of relationships, I think of harmony,coexisting, sharing, and working together for the greater good of thefoundation of the relationship. Whether it is two males, two females, or a maleand a female, this is how relationships shou…
    - 19 Oct 15, 3:04pm -
  • New Journeys, New Beginnings
    Nina and I are officially living together. You never knowhow much stuff two people truly have until it’s time to pack up and move. Let’sjust say I ended up throwing away a lot of clothes and no longer neededdocuments. The good news is bet…
    - 6 Oct 15, 12:07pm -
  • The Night We Slept Over
    This past weekend was one for the books. Nina started anew business venture and had her first project on Sunday morning and Saturdayevening we spent our first overnight together in her parent’s home. Nina’s adorable nephews have not…
    - 18 Aug 15, 2:24pm -
  • Movin' On In
    Between work and Nina I have been a busy bee. The weekendafter my birthday Nina’s mother asked us to join them at their home for abirthday dinner complete with my favorite – Homemade Strawberry Shortcake.Dinner was amazing and I got to bo…
    - 10 Aug 15, 2:49pm -
  • 30 + 1
    Over the weekend 30 got an upgrade. I moved from the 30doorway and fully into the cascade of the years which will now be forever knownas My 30’s. On the 17th Nina took me to dinner at TheMelting Pot followed by the Floetry Concert at t…
    - 21 Jul 15, 4:13pm -
  • Hello Marriage Equality, What The Hell Took You So Long?
    Pride Month wrapped up with the Supreme Court of theUnited States declaring the ban on same sex marriage unconstitutional,therefore Gay and Lesbian couples who wish to marry are now afforded the samerights, benefits and protections under fede…
    - 1 Jul 15, 7:35pm -
  • Me & Nina: How It's Supposed To Be
    Happy Pride 2015! I decided not to attend any of thePride festivities in Philly this year. Just the same shit, different year andthey aren’t even making an effort to change it. OutFest is what I attend so inOctober I’ll celebrate in the G…
    - 13 Jun 15, 10:51am -
  • The Second Closet: Lesbians & Domestic Violence
    When I originally started this blog, one of my first fewpost was about domestic violence within the Lesbian community. I’ve shared myexperience with physical abuse as well as emotional abuse in two of myrelationships. I am and have always b…
    - 24 May 15, 5:02pm -
  • Women & Pyramid Schemes

    - 14 May 15, 12:19pm -
  • Operation Meet The Parent's
    The day has finally come. On Sunday Nina and I venturedto Egg Harbor Township to visit her Mother and Stepfather. Nina’s Motherrecently turned 75 so we decided to celebrate with her during one of our freeweekends. Now let’s review some hi…
    - 27 Apr 15, 9:45pm -
  • Fifty Shades of Vanilla
    Happy Passover, Happy Easter, and Happy Sunday! I’ve beenmeaning to write a blog post about the hyped up, major let down of a movie,that desperate housewives swear by- Fifty Shades of Grey (should have been morelike Fifty Shades of Pure Van…
    - 5 Apr 15, 3:08pm -
  • Dating Nina: Part Deux
    It’s officially been a little more than 30 days since Istarted dating Nina and I am happy to report that all is going well, extremelywell to be honest. We talk all the time, we see each other 3-4 times per weekand…drum roll…we’ve begu…
    - 21 Mar 15, 1:41pm -
  • Dating "Nina"
    At some point in our lives we realize how things shouldbe done. Dating Nina (that’s the nicknameI’m giving her since we share a love of the great Nina Simone) hascertainly shown me what dating and courtship is all about and how it shoul…
    - 8 Mar 15, 4:19pm -
  • & My Impromptu Valentine
    Like Valentine’s Day of 2014, I had no real plans forthis holiday. I knew I wanted to go out and at least see The Wedding Ringer asI have been dying to see it since it came out in January. My family is stillmourning the death of my Grandmot…
    - 17 Feb 15, 3:33pm -
  • My Mother, Myself: R.I.P Grandma
    January 26, 2015 at 8:36 PM my phone rang. It was myMother. I was still angry with her, I really didn’t want to talk to her, and Ithink she knew it. She said “we need to talk but more importantly I need you tolisten…” I thought I wa…
    - 8 Feb 15, 7:36pm -
  • I Love Stems!
    It’s like my prayers have been answered, or better yetthere is finally a term for the kind of lesbian that makes my heart skip a beatand leaves me mesmerized every time I encounter one – Stems! If you’re notfamiliar with the term, a St…
    - 17 Jan 15, 7:14pm -
  • The Miseducation of Straight Black Women
    I really don’t know where to begin with this one becauseI think I’m still in shock that I could be so blind or think things would be Iguess different, or because I just can’t believe that a certain subset of Blackwomen could be so damn…
    - 7 Jan 15, 6:37pm -

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Rod 2.0

  • MIT Fellowship and Relocation
    Very excited and grateful to begin a new chapter in my life. The Massachusetts Institute of Technology has awarded me one of ten Knight Science Journalism Fellowships for 2015-2016. Relocating to Cambridge this summer. Will be taking classes at MIT..…
    - 6 May 15, 1:00pm -
  • On Hiatus
    Thanks to everyone who reached out. Taking a much needed break after years of updating R20 up to six or eight times daily. On hiatus until May. Please follow me on Facebook, Twitter and at The Atlantic.
    - 15 Mar 15, 4:00pm -
  • LISTEN LIVE: Philadelphia's WURD Radio 5P/ET
    Join me on Philadelphia's WURD-AM tonight at 5ET on "The Nick Taliaferro Show". On the menu: My first report from Cape Town for The Atlantic—"A Promising HIV Vaccine in South Africa"—and the potentially game-changing HIV vaccine trials that will…
    - 17 Dec 14, 4:17pm -
  • THE ATLANTIC: "A Promising HIV Vaccine in South Africa"
    PHOTO: GETTY CAPE TOWN: After more than 30 years into the HIV/AIDS pandemic, a vaccine remains elusive—and much needed. Globally, about 35 million people are living with HIV, according to the Joint United Nations Programme on HIV/AIDS or UNAIDS. Su…
    - 17 Dec 14, 4:04pm -
  • Cape Town
    Just wrapping up several reporting trips to Cape Town, Johannesburg, Ethiopia and Kenya. Have had a few problems with technology and did not want to publish R20 from certain countries. Also: Just needed some time to relax, rest recharge and...
    - 15 Dec 14, 2:00pm -
  • Kenya and Ethiopia
    Walking across the tarmac at Nairobi's Jomo Kenyatta International Airport and headed for Addis Ababa. Wrapping up two weeks of research and reporting in Kenya and Ethiopia for the Ford International Reporting Fellowship. Posting will slowly resume o…
    - 30 Sep 14, 11:00am -
  • Tech Issues
    My apologies for the down time. Having some unfortunate tech issues. Hopefully it should be resolved in several days.
    - 27 Aug 14, 11:34am -
  • FBI to Probe Fatal Police Shooting of Unarmed Black Missouri Teen
    PHOTOS: GETTY The Federal Bureau of Investigation will investigate the fatal shooting by police of 18-year-old Michael Brown in suburban St. Louis, according to a statement by Attorney General Eric Holder released by the Justice Department. Meanwhile…
    - 12 Aug 14, 8:35pm -
  • LISTEN LIVE: Philadelphia's WURD Radio 6P/ET
    Haaay! Returned stateside on Sunday. Trying to get some much-needed rest and reorient myself on American time after the exhausting 15 hour flight and 15 hour time difference. But first: Join me on Philadelphia's WURD-AM tonight at 6P/ET on "The...
    - 28 Jul 14, 2:36pm -
  • HOT: Victoria AIDS Council Poster
    Spotted on numerous hand cards, posters and billboards throughout the Melbourne Convention and Exhibition Centre ... and at tram strops across the city. The model for the Victoria AIDS Council gets perfect tenz across the board.
    - 23 Jul 14, 7:16am -
  • PHOTOS: Melbourne's South Wharf
    Some architecture porn from Melbourne. Looking east along the South Wharf of the Yarra River.
    - 23 Jul 14, 7:05am -
  • PHOTO: Melbourne's Flinders Street
    The view looking toward Melbourne's historic Flinders Street Station. Across the street is Federation Square. I'm in Australia to report from AIDS 2014 Melbourne. The trip is funded by an international media fellowship from AIDS 2014 and the Internat…
    - 19 Jul 14, 7:11am -

The K Word

  • newKTravel: Boozy Brunch + Burlesque Show at @jolenessf — San Francisco, CA
    Jolene’s Bar and Restaurant 2700 16th St San Francisco, CA 94103 Cuisine: Brunch, Bar Food Food: They have a really cute brunch menu. I can’t tell you what it takes like because I was too full to order food BUT the plates I saw people getting l…
    - 2 hours ago 27 Jan 20, 9:35pm -
  • newKTravel: Micheladas on Rosarito Beach
    Hi Lovebugs! Here is a repost from my trip to Rosarito, Mexico.  It was absolutely necessary and absolutely right on time. One of the best takeaways I had came in the cup (don’t judge me!). Say hola to the Mexican answer to the Bloody Mary – the…
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  • newKRead: The Nickel Boys by Colson Whitehead
    Yeah…yeah…yeah. I haven’t written in a while. The last few weeks at work and the rollercoaster that is my personal life have caught me slipping. But like Sister said to Celie, from now on NOTHING BUT DEATH WILL KEEP ME FROM IT. Well death and a…
    - 14 hours ago 27 Jan 20, 9:21am -
  • Tips to a Big Fun/Small Budget Trip to Turks and Caicos #KKDays
    Yes my log in still works… whew. I know… I know. I have been slacking on my blogging. There have been a lot of new developments in the world according to Kristi that I hope to share with you guys soon. We just back this weekend from a really rel…
    - 20 Sep 16, 11:47am -
  • 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference (Albany, NY: October 2016)
    In Our Own Voices, would like to extend an invitation for you to attend: 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference, Unity Through Diversity: The Power of Unity. This event will take place October 12-15, 2016 at the Desmond Hotel and Conference Center…
    - 11 Aug 16, 12:59pm -
  • KREAD: Pat Greene: Her Story by ANONDRA “KAT” WILLIAMS
    Well well well, here’s another one and another one. Yes I am pretending I am a rapper instead of a blogger… and what? hits b-girl stance Like most series on this blog, I haven’t written a KRead review in a while. But seeing that today is Nation…
    - 9 Aug 16, 4:01pm -
  • Going for the Gold: Queer Women of Color In the Rio Olympics [Gallery]
    As if you needed another reason to watch the 2016 Rio Olympics, here are 7 queer women of color that will be representing their countries in Brazil. I obviously didn’t take any of these pictures
    - 8 Aug 16, 5:30pm -
  • Here’s Comes the Bride (s)…
    I feel like I am in a perpetual state of wedding plans. No you all haven’t missed anything, I only have the same ring (that I liked and put on myself). One of my oldest friends (and one time guest blogger) April A  is getting married in T-28 day…
    - 8 Aug 16, 1:38pm -

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  • KLife: My 2nd Annual Giveback Kickback [Photo Gallery]
    All Photos Taken by Anthony Jordon Great Folks… Great Fun… Great work I am overwhelmed with gratitude for all the friends new and old that took time out of their busy lives to celebrate my 6th 28th birthday as well as give back to those who right…
    - 2 Aug 16, 10:22am -
  • “When in doubt… #give.”
    Originally posted on My Words, My View: That was the start to the invitation for the 2nd annual Giveback Kickback And BBQ, coordinated by birthday girl, journal entrepreneur and great friend Kristi King. ? This style maven and socially conscious indi…
    - 2 Aug 16, 9:52am -
  • I Don’t Want to Be a Hashtag…
    So I am sitting here in Starbucks illegally downloading movies on piratebay enjoying my iced coconut milk caramel macchiato this fine Sunday morning and felt a crazy wave of frustration come over me. If you are my FB friend you have seen spurts of…
    - 17 Jul 16, 10:06am -
  • Pridelines (Miami, FL) : Join us today for a day of support, mourning, and community action
    Todays Schedule 12:00 to 6:30 PM – Individual grief sessions will be available at Pridelines. 6:00 PM – Community Event Begins 6:00 to 7:30 Pm – Meditation on the Patio 6:00 to 7:30 PM – Group Grief Session 6:00 to 9:30 PM – Individual Grie…
    - 13 Jun 16, 8:32am -
  • Well… Hmm : Transgender Athletes — Fair or Nah?
    So I was having this conversation with a friend, AP, yesterday and I thought I would write a bit about it here. I am not sure whether you have heard or not, but there is a debate surrounding high school senior, Nattaphon Wangyot, a transgender stude…
    - 9 Jun 16, 12:18pm -
  • Guess Who’s Bizzack – 24 Hours in #Barbados
    Hola Lovebugs (or the the lovebugs who haven’t left me for greener blog pastures)! I know it has been a while since I blogged, I would go into the sordid details… but not in this post. Just suffice it to say that… NOPE NOPE not this post wink B…
    - 11 May 16, 9:07am -

Sista Outsider

  • 2016: A Review — S. Andrea Allen
    Over the past several days, I’ve read (and enjoyed) quite a few of these “year in review” blogs/essays and it got me to thinking. What did I accomplish in 2016? Where did I fail? I realized that I had many more successes than failures, and that…
    - 31 Dec 16, 6:28pm -
  • A Dream Undeterred: An Interview w/ Black Lesbian Feminist Press On Their Debut Title, Lez Talk: A Collection of Black Lesbian Short Fiction — S. Andrea Allen
    My deepest thanks to Catalina Sofia Dansberger Duque for this wonderful article on BLF Press! via A Dream Undeterred: An Interview w/ Black Lesbian Feminist Press O…
    - 8 Dec 16, 6:13am -
  • Melancon on the Anniversary of June Jordan’s Death
    Originally posted on Diaspora Hypertext, the Blog (Archived): June Jordan was born on July 9, 1936 and died on June 14, 2002. Melancon writes: “In her infinite wisdom and incomparable genius as a poet, essayist, professor, activist, and conscious…
    - 14 Jun 16, 9:42pm -
  • The Greatest
    Originally posted on Diaspora Hypertext, the Blog (Archived): Rise in power. Image #rp via @nonafaustine on Twitter
    - 4 Jun 16, 11:22am -
  • ‘New Suns’: An SBF Writing Retreat
    Originally posted on Seattle Black Feminists: “There’s nothing new under the sun, but there are new suns.” Octavia Butler New Suns is the first annual Seattle Black Feminists (SBF) writing retreat. It is a time for Black women to come together…
    - 1 Jun 16, 8:04pm -

A Black Lesbian

  • Patience and the art of bouncing back
    Patience, Patience, Patience…there is this new person…i know(bit reluctant to say they are in my life) her name is Patience, Patience has apparently played a part (rather small if you ask me) in the breakdown of my relationship. While that … Co…
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  • Staying focused
    I have gone back and forth about what to do with this blog. I was ashamed of what it contains, ashamed that what i thought was wasn’t. It  amazed me when i quickly scrolled down and realized that since dating … Continue reading →
    - 6 Feb 15, 3:08am -
  • How The People We Once Loved Become Strangers Again
    Originally posted on Thought Catalog: It’s interesting to think about how we make people who used to be everything into nothing again. How we learn to forget. How we force forgetting. What we put in place of them in the…
    - 28 Jan 15, 5:48pm -
    Because, even worse, I never wanted to be a back up plan…so I choose, this time I choose and I choose to stop.
    - 2 Jan 15, 3:04am -
  • The first night
    Last night was first night C and I slept apart since break up. It’s weird but we live together and we have always had a pull towards each other so even after a break up we slept in same bed … Continue reading →
    - 1 Jan 15, 3:32pm -
  • The phase of depression
    I have struggled with this thing for so long and yet I don’t recognize the signs until it’s too late.  I don’t know when it started but I’m guessing it was a while ago. I can usually tell when looking … Continue reading →
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  • Protected: Disclaimer
    There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
    - 7 Dec 14, 11:09pm -
  • Protected: Authenticity
    There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
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  • En-Route
    Relationships are such a strange thing aren’t they. C and I ‘broke up’ 4 months ago and we have had the best relationship since. It was very emotional and very hard, kinda hard to believe i can say its the … Continue reading →
    - 2 Dec 14, 11:31pm -
  • Power of the mind
    After trying to quit drinking and failing every friday night  I have to say spending my first weekend without alcohol. The best part of it is that I didn’t even want it miss it or desire it. I did think … Continue reading →
    - 23 Nov 14, 6:41am -

Black Lesbian Love Lab

  • Why All Lesbian Femmes Should Buy Their Own Straps
    “Ok so my girlfriend strap is too big.... i have expressed this to her a couple times and she laughed it off and made a joke of it.....idk what to do … i thought about buying another but i don't know how she'll take it … advice please.” Conti…
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  • Masculine Not Manly, Vol 3: A Letter From a Recovering TouchMeNot Stud
    I can count on one hand how many times I've received head. I need even less fingers to count the amount of times I enjoyed it. Continue reading →
    - 21 Mar 16, 9:08pm -
  • Lisa & Roshanda: She Walked Into the Bus Station and Stole My Heart
    I met my wife, Roshanda, on a dating site. I was in Jacksonville, Florida, and she was in Tampa, Florida. I went to Tampa by Greyhound and I must admit, I was a little nervous. As the Greyhound bus was pulling into Tampa, I had all these butterflies…
    - 13 Mar 16, 1:35pm -
  • Why Black Lesbian Queens Stay in Bad Relationships
    When a black woman falls in love with another woman, especially for the first time, it can be completely magical. She makes our heart skip a beat, our palms sweaty, puts butterflies in our stomach and makes our panties wet. We can’t stop thinking a…
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  • Georgette and Shannon: There Are Levels To This Love
    Our initial conversations were intriguing, had depth, and allowed us to see the parts of each other’s personality that most don’t get to see for months, if not years. So of course, for our first date, I was willing to make the 3.5 hour drive from…
    - 2 Mar 16, 7:53pm -
  • How I Healed After My Long-term Lesbian Relationship Ended
    After the breakup, we were going back and forth in our conversations but we were definitely broken up because she started seeing someone three months after our breakup. It was a horrible emotional experience for me. Continue reading →
    - 27 Feb 16, 11:33am -
  • Why My Girlfriend And I Broke Up After 17 Years Together
    When we were 17 we fell deeply in love but we didn't live happily ever after. We were together from our late teens until our mid-30s. For the first 11 years of our relationship, we were in the closet. We loved each other very much. We had many up and…
    - 25 Feb 16, 9:28pm -
  • She’s The One: Here are 9 Adorable Ways to Ask Her to Be Yours
    Black lesbian women are deserving of tender loving care. When you meet the one who never lets you forget that you are worthy, don't let her get away. Ask her to be yours. Here are nine great ways to ask. Continue reading →
    - 13 Feb 16, 12:15pm -
  • God Gave Me A Second Chance With My Soul Mate
    My partner, Eula, and I come from very abusive childhoods. For years upon years our bodies, minds, hearts, souls and spirits were slowly being destroyed. Still, we survived abuse, neglect, abandonment and unfaithfulness.Roughly five years ago, we…
    - 11 Feb 16, 8:23pm -
  • Queen Size: A Love Poem
    I shove my backside against the perfectly assorted seam.Rubbing the 300 count aboutmy thighs –in silent hopes to feelan armwrap around my waist. Continue reading →
    - 9 Feb 16, 10:33pm -