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  • newWelcome To Texas, Liberals!
    “You’re welcome in Texas as long as you never forget why you fled a liberal state,” he declared on Twitter. “Texans expect less government, lower taxes & more freedom. Newcomers must keep it that way.”-Gov Greg Abbott, TwitterSeems like G…
    - 8 hours ago 20 Aug 19, 1:00pm -
  • new400 Years of Africans In America
    Today is the 400th anniversary of the arrival of captive Africans at Old Point Comfort in what would later become Fort Monroe in Hampton, VA.They were part of an original group of 60 Africans captured in in the kingdom of Ndongo in present day Angol…
    - 20 hours ago 20 Aug 19, 1:00am -
  • UH and TSU Are Back To Being Harris County Polling Locations
    When I was a student at UH, the 1980 presidential election was happening during my freshman year.  While I eventually cast my ballot in my home precinct at Crestmont Park, I was still happy to know that we had a polling location set up in the UC for…
    - 1 day ago 19 Aug 19, 11:30am -
  • Happy 20th Anniversary Trans Pride Flag!
    Today is the 20th anniversary of the day that Monica Helms, while she was living in Arizona, created the original trans pride flag that now rests in the Smithsonian.The flag is made up of five stripes.  Two baby blue, which represents the masculine…
    - 2 days ago 19 Aug 19, 8:00am -
  • Reading Is Fundamental- Elektra Reads A Transphobe
    As you TransGriot readers know, I am a huge fan of the FX show POSE.   With five major trans characters, it has been showing what we deal with in our trans community lives  through Blanca, Elektra, the now deceased Candy and Angel. In last week's…
    - 2 days ago 18 Aug 19, 1:00pm -
  • Never Demetria
    The late Maya Angelou once said that when somebody shows you who they are the first time, believe them.   One of the candidates in the 2019 Houston mayoral race has a long ugly history of showing us exactly who she is as an unrepentant transphobe a…
    - 4 days ago 16 Aug 19, 11:30am -
  • Number 16- Rest in Power and Peace Tracy Single
    Unfortunately we are in a moment in which the trans murders have been happening at a fast and furious pace in the last few weeks.    The latest one happened in my Houston backyard back on July 30.There was a July 30 news report of a woman found dea…
    - 6 days ago 14 Aug 19, 8:30pm -
  • Welcome Back To School, 2019-2020 TBLGQ Students!
    School is starting for many students in Texas this week, and later this month for Texas colleges and universities.   While this is the favorite time of the year for parents and the retailers enjoying their cash registers ringing from the just concl…
    - 9 days ago 12 Aug 19, 3:00am -
  • Laverne Cox Is On The Cover Of British Vogue!
    Despite all the attempts of the British TERF's and their US counterparts to demonize and marginalize trans people on both sides of The Pond, to borrow the line from Maya Angelou, and still we rise.Thanks to a project curated by the Duchess of Sussex…
    - 9 days ago 12 Aug 19, 1:00am -
  • Number 15 -Rest in Power Jordan Cofer
    We have been hearing about the twin terrorist attacks in El Paso, TX  and Dayton, OH all week.  Unfortunately one of the things trans America just learned as a community is that a trans man was killed in the Dayton terror attack.Turns out that the…
    - 11 days ago 10 Aug 19, 1:00am -
  • Shut Up Fool Awards- Texas Tax Free Weekend 2019 Edition
    It's become the second busiest shopping weekend besides the Christmas holiday season, and that's Texas Tax Free weekend.School is starting in many Texas districts next week.  The tax free weekend started back in 1999 in order to give parents gearing…
    - 11 days ago 9 Aug 19, 1:00pm -
  • Number 14- Rest In Power Pebbles LaDime Doe
    Another day, another Black trans woman murderedWe go to Allendale County, South Carolina to discuss the latest trans person who has joined the ancestors way too soon.,24 year old Pebbles LaDime Doe was found dead on August 4 inside a car parked in a…
    - 13 days ago 7 Aug 19, 10:00pm -
  • Law Harrington Senior Living Center Finally Breaking Ground Today
    One of the stops that I enjoyed during a LGBT Media Journalists Convening trip to Philadelphia a few years ago was to the John C Anderson Apartments.It was a seven story low income LGBTQ seniors apartment complex in the Philadelphia gayborhood.  I e…
    - 15 days ago 6 Aug 19, 1:00am -
  • You Mad Because I Didn't Meet With You, Nick Hellyar? Stay Mad
    The municipal political season is starting to heat up here in H-town with our November 5 election day rapidly approaching.That also means that because many people in the Houston area respect my time in the movement and my political opinions as a soci…
    - 15 days ago 5 Aug 19, 10:30am -
  • Victoria's Secret Hires First Out Trans Model
    It came after their stock price dropped 40%, they had to close 53 stores across the USA, their CEO Jan Singer resigned, they announced they aren't doing the televised Victoria's Secret fashion show after it had it's worst ratings ever, and lost model…
    - 16 days ago 5 Aug 19, 1:00am -
  • Shut Up Fool Awards- Bringing It Back Edition
    One of the most popular features in the decade plus history of the blog is the TransGriot Shut Up Fool Awards in which I have called out the blatant lies, ridiculous mind numbing statements, hypocrisy and the coonery and buffoonery here and around th…
    - 18 days ago 2 Aug 19, 1:00pm -
  • Number 13-Rest In Power and Peace Marquis 'Kiki' Fantroy
    Was just made aware of the fact that we closed out the month of July with another trans murder.We travel to Miami for the latest one in the person of 21 year old Marquis 'Kiki' Fantroy.Fantroy was only a few minutes from her home in the early morning…
    - 18 days ago 2 Aug 19, 11:30am -
  • Ready For My ABC Nightline Closeup
    Dee Dee, Diamond Stylz and I recently taped on July 22 an ABC Nightline episode in which we talked about the violence affecting Black trans women in Texas and around the country.The initial part of it was taped while we were in Dallas for our recent…
    - 19 days ago 2 Aug 19, 1:00am -
  • Will Trans Rights Be A Debate Topic In The Second Democratic Presidential Debate?
    The second set of Democratic presidential debates will kick off tonight and Wednesday night in Detroit's historic FOX Theater on CNN.  They will be moderated by CNN's Don Lemon, Dana Bash, and Jake Tapper.A draw that CNN televised live on July 18 s…
    - 22 days ago 30 Jul 19, 1:00am -
  • The 'How I Feel About Trump' FB Post Debunked
    The suburban white peeps who voted for Trump are now thrying to look for ways to justify voting for him again in 2020 and not look racist while doing so,That ship sailed a long time ago Chad and Becky.  This is why the Democrats need to laser focuse…
    - 22 days ago 29 Jul 19, 1:00pm -
  • Warning H-town Progressives, Bill King and Tony Buzbee Are Republicans
    Houston municipal elections are officially via the city charter nonpartisan, but a little digging into voter records,  Texas Ethics Commission (TEC) and Federal Election Commission (FEC) campaign donations records will reveal despite any spin attemp…
    - 25 days ago 26 Jul 19, 1:00pm -
  • NAACP Passes Pro-Trans Resolution!
    You longtime TransGriot readers are quite aware that I have been calling out for years the NAACP's cricket chirping silence when it comes to what is happening to Black transgender people .They are the oldest civil rights organization in our community…
    - 27 days ago 24 Jul 19, 5:00pm -
  • The State Of LGBTQ POC In America NAACP Convention Town Hall
    You TransGriot readers know that I have been pushing for the NAACP to end the silence, say the words Black Trans Lives Matter, and start aggressively backing them up with policy.Yesterday afternoon during the NAACP convention happening in Detroit two…
    - 28 days ago 24 Jul 19, 3:00am -
  • One Year To Tokyo 2020
    One year from now we will get a break what promises to be an ugly 2020 election campaign in the United States to watch the opening ceremonies of the Games of the XXXII Olympiad.The Tokyo Games will open on this date and close on August 9 in the soon…
    - 28 days ago 24 Jul 19, 1:00am -
  • Precious and Myles Are Having A Baby!
    Y'all know I have mad love for Myles and Precious Brady-Davis, and the last time I spent any quality time with the both of them was back during #CC16 in Chicago.We jjokingly call them in the community the 'Trans Obamas' because this amazing Chicago b…
    - 28 days ago 23 Jul 19, 4:00pm -

The Mad Professah Lectures

  • EYE CANDY: Chadoy Leon
    Chadoy Leon has 700,000 followers on Instagram (@chadoyleon) and is making his first appearance as Eye Candy on the blog. According to, Chadoy is 27 years old, 5-foot-9 and 192 pounds. Clearly, he is a tattoo enthusiast.
    - 2 days ago 19 Aug 19, 12:16am -
  • BOOK REVIEW: A Memory of Empire (Teixcalaan, #1) by Arkady Martine
    A Memory Called Empire is the debut novel from Arkady Martine. It is a space opera, set on a planet called Teixcalaan which is at the heart of a large, multi-planet empire. The main character is Mahit Dzmare, the new Ambassador to Teixcalaan from Ls…
    - 2 days ago 18 Aug 19, 10:02pm -
  • 2019 CANADA: Rafa Wins 35th Masters Title; Bianca Wins Canada As Serena Sobs
    19-year-old Bianca Andreescu became the first Canadian woman in 50 years to win her country's Canadian Open tennis championship when Serena Williams retired down 1-3 in the championship match on Sunday. Williams said she had had back spasms the ni…
    - 6 days ago 14 Aug 19, 6:56pm -
  • 2019 CANADA: Serena In 1st Non-Major Final In 2 Years; Faces Bibi Andreescu (19YO)
    For the first time in nearly two years Serena Williams is in the final of a regular tour-level tournament after reaching 3 major finals (2018 Wimbledon, 2018 U.S. Open and 2019 Wimbledon) in that period. She will face 19-year-old hometown heroine Bi…
    - 10 days ago 10 Aug 19, 10:00pm -
  • 08/08/19: Married 11 Years Today!
    Although we have been boyfriends since 1991 and living together since 1994, domestic partners since 1999, and civilly united (in Vermont) since 2000, we were only married in California on August 8, 2008 (Roger Federer's 27th birthday!) before Proposi…
    - 12 days ago 8 Aug 19, 4:46pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo
    White Fragility is a short but affecting read; it is revelatory, informative and inspirational. The author provides insight into the myriad ways that white people respond to discussions about race and white supremacy. This excerpt (from page 2) basi…
    - 12 days ago 8 Aug 19, 12:59pm -
  • UPDATE: Michael Johnson (Black, Gay ,HIV+ Man) Released From Prison Early!
    Michael Johnson (left) with Dr. Steve ThrasherThere's an exciting update in the ongoing saga of Michael Johnson (also known as "Tiger Mandingo"), a Black gay man with HIV who at the age of 23 in 2015 was sentenced to 30-years in prison for knowingly…
    - 13 days ago 7 Aug 19, 3:28pm -
  • EYE CANDY: Alan Valdez (4th time!)
    Alan Valdez returns to Eye Candy after a long break! He has previous appeared here (April 30, 2012; April 4, 2011; and January 18, 2009). He doesn't appear to be on Instagram. (There is another model named Alán Valdez on Instagram with over 220k…
    - 16 days ago 5 Aug 19, 12:33am -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Calculating Stars by Mary Robinette Kowal
    The Calculating Stars is the (Nebula and Locus) award-winning book by Mary Robinette Kowal about the 1950s space race but set in an alternate time line where a meteor hits the Earth near Chesapeake Bay, decimates the Eastern Seaboard and catalyzes t…
    - 20 days ago 1 Aug 19, 7:47am -
  • The Expanse Season 4 Premiere Date Is December 13; Season 5 Is a Go!
    There is absolutely awesome news about The Expanse, the television adaptation of my favorite space opera novels of the same name written by James S.A. Corey. The first three seasons (covering the first 3 books) aired on SyFy which then cancelled the…
    - 24 days ago 27 Jul 19, 7:18pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Storm of Locusts by Rebecca Roanhorse
    Storm of Locusts is the second book in the Sixth World series by Rebecca Roanhorse that began with the award-winning Trail of Lightning (see my review). The Sixth World is set in a future/alternate United States where more than half of the land mass…
    - 27 days ago 25 Jul 19, 8:31am -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Djokovic Outlasts Federer in 5-hour, 5-set Thriller to Win 16th Major
    In one of the most exciting matches since the classic 2008 Wimbledon final, Novak Djokovic outlasted 8-time Wimbledon champion Roger Federer 7-6(5), 1-6, 7-6(4), 4-6, 13-12(3) in a match which lasted nearly five hours ad featured the very first ever…
    - 37 days ago 14 Jul 19, 6:46pm -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Men's Final Preview (and Semifinals Review)
    This is my prediction post for the 2019 Wimbledon men's final. Last year I did predict that Novak Djokovic would defeat Kevin Anderson. This year I correctly predicted the results of  2 of 2 men's semifinals, 2 of 2 women's semifinals, 4 of…
    - 38 days ago 14 Jul 19, 12:01am -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Halep Stuns Serena To Win 2nd Major Title
    To the surprise of most observers, World #7 Simona Halep put on a devastating display of accurate, defensive, propulsive tennis on Wimbledon Centre Court to defeat 23-time major champion Serena Williams 6-2 6-2 in 56 minutes to win her second majo…
    - 38 days ago 13 Jul 19, 2:36pm -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Women's Final Preview (and Semifinals Review)
    Serena Williams (USA) [11] vs Simona Halep (ROU) [7]This is my prediction post for the 2019 Wimbledon women's final. Last year I did not predict that Angie Kerber would defeat Serena Williams. This year I correctly predicted the results of  2…
    - 39 days ago 12 Jul 19, 10:21pm -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Women's Semifinals Preview (and Predictions)
    Here are my predictions for the women's semifinals at the 2019 Wimbledon Championships.  This year I correctly predicted the results of  4 of 4 men's quarterfinals and 3 of 4 women's quarterfinals. Last year I correctly predicted 1 of 2 men's se…
    - 39 days ago 12 Jul 19, 6:50pm -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Men's Semifinals Preview (and Predictions) #Fedal40
    Novak Djokovic (SRB) [1] vs Roberto Bautista Agut (ESP) [23]. Roberto Bautista Agut has beaten World #1 Novak Djokovic two times this year but the Serb has an overall head-to-head of 7-3 but the two have never played on grass. Djokovic has only lo…
    - 40 days ago 11 Jul 19, 11:52pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Burning by Jane Casey
    I’m reasonably picky about the books I read. Usually my criteria is an average rating of 4.0 or better so The Burning by Jane Casey (with an average of 3.78) is unusual. But I have been looking for a good police procedural murder mystery with  a f…
    - 41 days ago 11 Jul 19, 8:39am -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Men's Quarterfinals Preview (and Predictions)
    Here are my predictions for the men's quarterfinals at the 2019 Wimbledon Championships.  I have also predicted the men's quarterfinals. Last year I predicted 2 of 4 men's quarterfinals correctly and 4 of 4 women's quarterfinals correctly. I…
    - 42 days ago 9 Jul 19, 6:57pm -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Women's Quarterfinals Preview and Predictions

    - 43 days ago 9 Jul 19, 12:19am -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: R16 Matches Set For Manic Monday
    The best day in tennis is tomorrow; the round of 16 at Wimbledon, where every player in both the men's and women's singles draw takes to the court! Here are the matches on offer:Men's Draw[1] Djokovic v. Humbert [21] Goffin v. Verdasco [26] Pella v…
    - 44 days ago 7 Jul 19, 11:24pm -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: 1st Round Complete (Osaka [2], Thiem [5], Zverev [6], Tstitsipas [7] Upset!)
    The first round of the 2019 Wimbledon is over and there have been a surprising number of upsets, especially in the men: fifth seed Dominc Thiem, sixth seed Alexander Zverev and seventh seed Stefanos Tsiptsipas all lost! Additionally, the second see…
    - 48 days ago 3 Jul 19, 5:52pm -
  • 2019 WIMBLEDON: Analysis of Men's and Women's Draw
    The draw for 2019 Wimbledon is out! On the men's side World #1 and defending champion Novak Djokovic is seeded #1. On the women's side, the (brand new) World #1 is Ash Barty, who is also seeded #1 but the defending champion is Angie Kerber.The projec…
    - 52 days ago 29 Jun 19, 3:55pm -
  • CELEBRITY FRIDAY: Alphonso David, 48, Named President Of HRC, Largest LGBT Lobby In The USA
    Alphonso David, a 48-year-old Liberian refugee and civil rights attorney who served as counsel to New York Governor Andrew Cuomo has been named the next president of the Human Rights Campaign, America's largest LGBT political advocacy organization.I…
    - 53 days ago 28 Jun 19, 11:06am -
  • #LGBT #EqualityDay June 26 Anniversaries: Obergefell (2015), Windsor (2013) and Lawrence (2003)
    Today is a big day in LGBT equality. Three landmark Supreme Court decisions have previously been announced on June 26 (2003, 2013 and 2015), all written by Justice Anthony Kennedy, who retired last  year and was replaced by Brett Kavanaugh. Respect…
    - 55 days ago 26 Jun 19, 2:49pm -

Black Girl Dangerous

  • Untitled
    For five years, BGD led the way in indie media by and for queer and trans people of color. Now…The post appeared first on BGD.
    - 5 Dec 17, 5:57pm -
  • The BGD Blog Is Ending
    Dear BGD readers,   For the last five and a half years, BGD has amplified the voices of queer and…The post The BGD Blog Is Ending appeared first on BGD.
    - 26 Jul 17, 2:52pm -
  • True Love Is the Joy of Bringing Another To Joy: BGD’s Crush of the Month Featuring Climbing PoeTree
    by Princess Harmony   BGD’s Crush of the Month is a feature where we choose the most swoon-worthy and inspirational…The post True Love Is the Joy of Bringing Another To Joy: BGD’s Crush of the Month Featuring Climbing PoeTree appeared first o…
    - 4 Jul 17, 11:03am -
  • Challenging The Culture Of Silence In The Afghan-American Community’s Response To Orlando
    by Bobuq Sayed   Exactly one week after the Pulse nightclub shooting, my cousin Tariq and I drive into downtown…The post Challenging The Culture Of Silence In The Afghan-American Community’s Response To Orlando appeared first on BGD.
    - 13 Jun 17, 8:00am -
  • The BGD Podcast 6.1.17: Be Humble, Miley!
    Host Raquel Willis discusses Miley Cyrus and Katy Perry’s cultural appropriation, student walk-outs on political leaders and the best shut…The post The BGD Podcast 6.1.17: Be Humble, Miley! appeared first on BGD.
    - 1 Jun 17, 2:19pm -

Lesbian In The City

  • Happily Divorced
    “…so what are you going to say at my funeralnow that you have killed me?here lies the body of the love of my lifewhose heart I broke without a gun to my headhere lies the body of the mother of my childrenboth living and deadrest in p…
    - 6 Mar 17, 1:44pm -
  • City Letter: Open Relationships & Polyamory
    Dear LITC,I like your blog and how you are comfy with exposing yourlife for us to learn about and even inspire us. My girl and I are having thisargument and I want your point of view. We been together like 3 years and somechange now and…
    - 29 Aug 16, 5:04pm -
  • I's Married Now
    Happy July Love’s! I’m back, I’m married…and I’m also aMommy! Say what?!? Yes, I am also a Mommy! Nina and I said I Do on June 17th in front ofour friends in beautiful Las Vegas. I love Vegas and cannot wait to go back. Wehad a…
    - 13 Jul 16, 1:14pm -
  • Where's Waldo...More Like Where's Lesbian In The City?
    I’m sorry for the disappearing act I pulled but I promiseit was not intentional. Where do I begin. Ever since Nina and I got engaged wehave had nonstop, whirlwind schedules. Like I’m getting married in a month andI just picked out my dres…
    - 16 May 16, 10:59am -
  • Happy 2016, I'm Engaged!
    I knew 2016 was going to be a game changer for me butnever to this degree. I am happy to say that as of midnight on New Years Eve2015 Nina and I are engaged to be married. It was a beautiful, romanticsurprise and I was happy to say Yes! In…
    - 2 Jan 16, 11:41am -
  • The Same Difference: Addressing The Problem within the African-American Lesbian Community
    There has always been this constant turmoil, tension, anddiscrimination within the African-American Lesbian community and finallysomeone has brought this shit to the light with The Same Difference Documentary.As I have mentioned before, som…
    - 13 Dec 15, 1:24pm -
  • Holidays With The New Family
    Nina and I survived our first Thanksgiving with herfamily. Normally, I go to my cousin’s home then head to my grandparentsfollowed by capping my evening off at my best friend’s home. This was our firstmajor holiday together, and I thoug…
    - 1 Dec 15, 12:34pm -
  • Eyes Wide Shut: Black Women & Suicide
    In the midst of waiting for my two favorite shows,Scandal and How To Get Away With Murder, to return to their regular rotation, Ibinge watched Season 2 of Being Mary Jane. When the show first aired on BET(and I had yet to cut the cable cord)…
    - 9 Nov 15, 11:32am -
  • Black Lesbians & Heteronormativity
    When I think of relationships, I think of harmony,coexisting, sharing, and working together for the greater good of thefoundation of the relationship. Whether it is two males, two females, or a maleand a female, this is how relationships shou…
    - 19 Oct 15, 3:04pm -
  • New Journeys, New Beginnings
    Nina and I are officially living together. You never knowhow much stuff two people truly have until it’s time to pack up and move. Let’sjust say I ended up throwing away a lot of clothes and no longer neededdocuments. The good news is bet…
    - 6 Oct 15, 12:07pm -
  • The Night We Slept Over
    This past weekend was one for the books. Nina started anew business venture and had her first project on Sunday morning and Saturdayevening we spent our first overnight together in her parent’s home. Nina’s adorable nephews have not…
    - 18 Aug 15, 2:24pm -
  • Movin' On In
    Between work and Nina I have been a busy bee. The weekendafter my birthday Nina’s mother asked us to join them at their home for abirthday dinner complete with my favorite – Homemade Strawberry Shortcake.Dinner was amazing and I got to bo…
    - 10 Aug 15, 2:49pm -
  • 30 + 1
    Over the weekend 30 got an upgrade. I moved from the 30doorway and fully into the cascade of the years which will now be forever knownas My 30’s. On the 17th Nina took me to dinner at TheMelting Pot followed by the Floetry Concert at t…
    - 21 Jul 15, 4:13pm -
  • Hello Marriage Equality, What The Hell Took You So Long?
    Pride Month wrapped up with the Supreme Court of theUnited States declaring the ban on same sex marriage unconstitutional,therefore Gay and Lesbian couples who wish to marry are now afforded the samerights, benefits and protections under fede…
    - 1 Jul 15, 7:35pm -
  • Me & Nina: How It's Supposed To Be
    Happy Pride 2015! I decided not to attend any of thePride festivities in Philly this year. Just the same shit, different year andthey aren’t even making an effort to change it. OutFest is what I attend so inOctober I’ll celebrate in the G…
    - 13 Jun 15, 10:51am -
  • The Second Closet: Lesbians & Domestic Violence
    When I originally started this blog, one of my first fewpost was about domestic violence within the Lesbian community. I’ve shared myexperience with physical abuse as well as emotional abuse in two of myrelationships. I am and have always b…
    - 24 May 15, 5:02pm -
  • Women & Pyramid Schemes

    - 14 May 15, 12:19pm -
  • Operation Meet The Parent's
    The day has finally come. On Sunday Nina and I venturedto Egg Harbor Township to visit her Mother and Stepfather. Nina’s Motherrecently turned 75 so we decided to celebrate with her during one of our freeweekends. Now let’s review some hi…
    - 27 Apr 15, 9:45pm -
  • Fifty Shades of Vanilla
    Happy Passover, Happy Easter, and Happy Sunday! I’ve beenmeaning to write a blog post about the hyped up, major let down of a movie,that desperate housewives swear by- Fifty Shades of Grey (should have been morelike Fifty Shades of Pure Van…
    - 5 Apr 15, 3:08pm -
  • Dating Nina: Part Deux
    It’s officially been a little more than 30 days since Istarted dating Nina and I am happy to report that all is going well, extremelywell to be honest. We talk all the time, we see each other 3-4 times per weekand…drum roll…we’ve begu…
    - 21 Mar 15, 1:41pm -
  • Dating "Nina"
    At some point in our lives we realize how things shouldbe done. Dating Nina (that’s the nicknameI’m giving her since we share a love of the great Nina Simone) hascertainly shown me what dating and courtship is all about and how it shoul…
    - 8 Mar 15, 4:19pm -
  • & My Impromptu Valentine
    Like Valentine’s Day of 2014, I had no real plans forthis holiday. I knew I wanted to go out and at least see The Wedding Ringer asI have been dying to see it since it came out in January. My family is stillmourning the death of my Grandmot…
    - 17 Feb 15, 3:33pm -
  • My Mother, Myself: R.I.P Grandma
    January 26, 2015 at 8:36 PM my phone rang. It was myMother. I was still angry with her, I really didn’t want to talk to her, and Ithink she knew it. She said “we need to talk but more importantly I need you tolisten…” I thought I wa…
    - 8 Feb 15, 7:36pm -
  • I Love Stems!
    It’s like my prayers have been answered, or better yetthere is finally a term for the kind of lesbian that makes my heart skip a beatand leaves me mesmerized every time I encounter one – Stems! If you’re notfamiliar with the term, a St…
    - 17 Jan 15, 7:14pm -
  • The Miseducation of Straight Black Women
    I really don’t know where to begin with this one becauseI think I’m still in shock that I could be so blind or think things would be Iguess different, or because I just can’t believe that a certain subset of Blackwomen could be so damn…
    - 7 Jan 15, 6:37pm -

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Rod 2.0

  • MIT Fellowship and Relocation
    Very excited and grateful to begin a new chapter in my life. The Massachusetts Institute of Technology has awarded me one of ten Knight Science Journalism Fellowships for 2015-2016. Relocating to Cambridge this summer. Will be taking classes at MIT..…
    - 6 May 15, 1:00pm -
  • On Hiatus
    Thanks to everyone who reached out. Taking a much needed break after years of updating R20 up to six or eight times daily. On hiatus until May. Please follow me on Facebook, Twitter and at The Atlantic.
    - 15 Mar 15, 4:00pm -
  • LISTEN LIVE: Philadelphia's WURD Radio 5P/ET
    Join me on Philadelphia's WURD-AM tonight at 5ET on "The Nick Taliaferro Show". On the menu: My first report from Cape Town for The Atlantic—"A Promising HIV Vaccine in South Africa"—and the potentially game-changing HIV vaccine trials that will…
    - 17 Dec 14, 4:17pm -
  • THE ATLANTIC: "A Promising HIV Vaccine in South Africa"
    PHOTO: GETTY CAPE TOWN: After more than 30 years into the HIV/AIDS pandemic, a vaccine remains elusive—and much needed. Globally, about 35 million people are living with HIV, according to the Joint United Nations Programme on HIV/AIDS or UNAIDS. Su…
    - 17 Dec 14, 4:04pm -
  • Cape Town
    Just wrapping up several reporting trips to Cape Town, Johannesburg, Ethiopia and Kenya. Have had a few problems with technology and did not want to publish R20 from certain countries. Also: Just needed some time to relax, rest recharge and...
    - 15 Dec 14, 2:00pm -
  • Kenya and Ethiopia
    Walking across the tarmac at Nairobi's Jomo Kenyatta International Airport and headed for Addis Ababa. Wrapping up two weeks of research and reporting in Kenya and Ethiopia for the Ford International Reporting Fellowship. Posting will slowly resume o…
    - 30 Sep 14, 11:00am -
  • Tech Issues
    My apologies for the down time. Having some unfortunate tech issues. Hopefully it should be resolved in several days.
    - 27 Aug 14, 11:34am -
  • FBI to Probe Fatal Police Shooting of Unarmed Black Missouri Teen
    PHOTOS: GETTY The Federal Bureau of Investigation will investigate the fatal shooting by police of 18-year-old Michael Brown in suburban St. Louis, according to a statement by Attorney General Eric Holder released by the Justice Department. Meanwhile…
    - 12 Aug 14, 8:35pm -
  • LISTEN LIVE: Philadelphia's WURD Radio 6P/ET
    Haaay! Returned stateside on Sunday. Trying to get some much-needed rest and reorient myself on American time after the exhausting 15 hour flight and 15 hour time difference. But first: Join me on Philadelphia's WURD-AM tonight at 6P/ET on "The...
    - 28 Jul 14, 2:36pm -
  • HOT: Victoria AIDS Council Poster
    Spotted on numerous hand cards, posters and billboards throughout the Melbourne Convention and Exhibition Centre ... and at tram strops across the city. The model for the Victoria AIDS Council gets perfect tenz across the board.
    - 23 Jul 14, 7:16am -
  • PHOTOS: Melbourne's South Wharf
    Some architecture porn from Melbourne. Looking east along the South Wharf of the Yarra River.
    - 23 Jul 14, 7:05am -
  • PHOTO: Melbourne's Flinders Street
    The view looking toward Melbourne's historic Flinders Street Station. Across the street is Federation Square. I'm in Australia to report from AIDS 2014 Melbourne. The trip is funded by an international media fellowship from AIDS 2014 and the Internat…
    - 19 Jul 14, 7:11am -

The K Word

  • The K Word is Back
    This has been a year for me. And I realized why it got me the way it did… because I didn’t have you all to talk to it about. So yep…. I’m back. All K Word. All the Time. Well not all the time. I don’t want to lie to you all like that. Welp.…
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  • Tips to a Big Fun/Small Budget Trip to Turks and Caicos #KKDays
    Yes my log in still works… whew. I know… I know. I have been slacking on my blogging. There have been a lot of new developments in the world according to Kristi that I hope to share with you guys soon. We just back this weekend from a really rel…
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  • 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference (Albany, NY: October 2016)
    In Our Own Voices, would like to extend an invitation for you to attend: 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference, Unity Through Diversity: The Power of Unity. This event will take place October 12-15, 2016 at the Desmond Hotel and Conference Center…
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  • KREAD: Pat Greene: Her Story by ANONDRA “KAT” WILLIAMS
    Well well well, here’s another one and another one. Yes I am pretending I am a rapper instead of a blogger… and what? hits b-girl stance Like most series on this blog, I haven’t written a KRead review in a while. But seeing that today is Nation…
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  • Going for the Gold: Queer Women of Color In the Rio Olympics [Gallery]
    As if you needed another reason to watch the 2016 Rio Olympics, here are 7 queer women of color that will be representing their countries in Brazil. I obviously didn’t take any of these pictures
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  • Here’s Comes the Bride (s)…
    I feel like I am in a perpetual state of wedding plans. No you all haven’t missed anything, I only have the same ring (that I liked and put on myself). One of my oldest friends (and one time guest blogger) April A  is getting married in T-28 day…
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  • KLife: My 2nd Annual Giveback Kickback [Photo Gallery]
    All Photos Taken by Anthony Jordon Great Folks… Great Fun… Great work I am overwhelmed with gratitude for all the friends new and old that took time out of their busy lives to celebrate my 6th 28th birthday as well as give back to those who right…
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  • “When in doubt… #give.”
    Originally posted on My Words, My View: That was the start to the invitation for the 2nd annual Giveback Kickback And BBQ, coordinated by birthday girl, journal entrepreneur and great friend Kristi King. ? This style maven and socially conscious indi…
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  • I Don’t Want to Be a Hashtag…
    So I am sitting here in Starbucks illegally downloading movies on piratebay enjoying my iced coconut milk caramel macchiato this fine Sunday morning and felt a crazy wave of frustration come over me. If you are my FB friend you have seen spurts of…
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  • Pridelines (Miami, FL) : Join us today for a day of support, mourning, and community action
    Todays Schedule 12:00 to 6:30 PM – Individual grief sessions will be available at Pridelines. 6:00 PM – Community Event Begins 6:00 to 7:30 Pm – Meditation on the Patio 6:00 to 7:30 PM – Group Grief Session 6:00 to 9:30 PM – Individual Grie…
    - 13 Jun 16, 8:32am -
  • Well… Hmm : Transgender Athletes — Fair or Nah?
    So I was having this conversation with a friend, AP, yesterday and I thought I would write a bit about it here. I am not sure whether you have heard or not, but there is a debate surrounding high school senior, Nattaphon Wangyot, a transgender stude…
    - 9 Jun 16, 12:18pm -
  • Guess Who’s Bizzack – 24 Hours in #Barbados
    Hola Lovebugs (or the the lovebugs who haven’t left me for greener blog pastures)! I know it has been a while since I blogged, I would go into the sordid details… but not in this post. Just suffice it to say that… NOPE NOPE not this post wink B…
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  • Mark Your Calendars (11/18/15): Very G TV, Thou Art Woman and the Broward College GSA Present Taboo Yardies
     Join local LGBT activists and the Broward College Gay Straight Alliance (GSA) for the film screening of the compelling Jamaican LGBT documentary, Taboo Yardies. Taboo Yardies will be shown at Broward College – Health Sciences Simulation Center,…
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  • Mark Your Calendars (11/18/15): Reading Queer & Miami Book Fair present “Paris Is Still Burning”
      Join Reading Queer & Miami Book Fair for Paris Is Still Burning, the inaugural event of the 2015 RQ Literary Festival at the Olympia Theater, Wednesday, November 18th at 6:00 p.m.  Inspired by the legendary documentary film “Paris is Burnin…
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Sista Outsider

  • Can’t, or Won’t?
    Google is my friend. It can be yours, too. via Can’t or Won’t? — Stephanie Andrea Allen Advertisements
    - 17 Jul 17, 12:55pm -
  • Five Black Lesbian Books You Should be Reading for Pride Month — Black Lesbian Literary Collective — Stephanie Andrea Allen
    My latest over at the BLLC Review! Pride month is nearly over, and there are lists upon lists of books LGBTQ folks should be reading circulating around the internet. Interestingly, most of them don’t have many, if any, Black lesbian books included…
    - 22 Jun 17, 8:37am -
  • Want to learn more about publishing?
    Then take a class with me! Starting March 12, I’ll be teaching an online class about publishing. I’m really excited to be collaborating with the Kitchen Table Literary Arts Center as a teaching artist, and I hope that you’ll consider joining m…
    - 28 Feb 17, 3:19pm -
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  • 10 Works of Black Lesbian Short Fiction-via WOCreads
    Recently, I was asked about short story collections by women of Color, and what a timely thing, too, since I’m planning on reading more short fiction this year. Collections are always a bit complicated for me: on the one hand I want to take my time…
    - 29 Jan 17, 8:02pm -
  • 2016: A Review — S. Andrea Allen
    Over the past several days, I’ve read (and enjoyed) quite a few of these “year in review” blogs/essays and it got me to thinking. What did I accomplish in 2016? Where did I fail? I realized that I had many more successes than failures, and that…
    - 31 Dec 16, 6:28pm -
  • A Dream Undeterred: An Interview w/ Black Lesbian Feminist Press On Their Debut Title, Lez Talk: A Collection of Black Lesbian Short Fiction — S. Andrea Allen
    My deepest thanks to Catalina Sofia Dansberger Duque for this wonderful article on BLF Press! via A Dream Undeterred: An Interview w/ Black Lesbian Feminist Press O…
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  • Melancon on the Anniversary of June Jordan’s Death
    Originally posted on Diaspora Hypertext, the Blog (Archived): June Jordan was born on July 9, 1936 and died on June 14, 2002. Melancon writes: “In her infinite wisdom and incomparable genius as a poet, essayist, professor, activist, and conscious…
    - 14 Jun 16, 9:42pm -
  • The Greatest
    Originally posted on Diaspora Hypertext, the Blog (Archived): Rise in power. Image #rp via @nonafaustine on Twitter
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  • ‘New Suns’: An SBF Writing Retreat
    Originally posted on Seattle Black Feminists: “There’s nothing new under the sun, but there are new suns.” Octavia Butler New Suns is the first annual Seattle Black Feminists (SBF) writing retreat. It is a time for Black women to come together…
    - 1 Jun 16, 8:04pm -

A Black Lesbian

  • Patience and the art of bouncing back
    Patience, Patience, Patience…there is this new person…i know(bit reluctant to say they are in my life) her name is Patience, Patience has apparently played a part (rather small if you ask me) in the breakdown of my relationship. While that … Co…
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  • Staying focused
    I have gone back and forth about what to do with this blog. I was ashamed of what it contains, ashamed that what i thought was wasn’t. It  amazed me when i quickly scrolled down and realized that since dating … Continue reading →
    - 6 Feb 15, 3:08am -
  • How The People We Once Loved Become Strangers Again
    Originally posted on Thought Catalog: It’s interesting to think about how we make people who used to be everything into nothing again. How we learn to forget. How we force forgetting. What we put in place of them in the…
    - 28 Jan 15, 5:48pm -
    Because, even worse, I never wanted to be a back up plan…so I choose, this time I choose and I choose to stop.
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  • The first night
    Last night was first night C and I slept apart since break up. It’s weird but we live together and we have always had a pull towards each other so even after a break up we slept in same bed … Continue reading →
    - 1 Jan 15, 3:32pm -
  • The phase of depression
    I have struggled with this thing for so long and yet I don’t recognize the signs until it’s too late.  I don’t know when it started but I’m guessing it was a while ago. I can usually tell when looking … Continue reading →
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  • Protected: Disclaimer
    There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
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  • Protected: Authenticity
    There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
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  • En-Route
    Relationships are such a strange thing aren’t they. C and I ‘broke up’ 4 months ago and we have had the best relationship since. It was very emotional and very hard, kinda hard to believe i can say its the … Continue reading →
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  • Power of the mind
    After trying to quit drinking and failing every friday night  I have to say spending my first weekend without alcohol. The best part of it is that I didn’t even want it miss it or desire it. I did think … Continue reading →
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Black Lesbian Love Lab

  • Why All Lesbian Femmes Should Buy Their Own Straps
    “Ok so my girlfriend strap is too big.... i have expressed this to her a couple times and she laughed it off and made a joke of it.....idk what to do … i thought about buying another but i don't know how she'll take it … advice please.” Conti…
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  • Masculine Not Manly, Vol 3: A Letter From a Recovering TouchMeNot Stud
    I can count on one hand how many times I've received head. I need even less fingers to count the amount of times I enjoyed it. Continue reading →
    - 21 Mar 16, 9:08pm -
  • Lisa & Roshanda: She Walked Into the Bus Station and Stole My Heart
    I met my wife, Roshanda, on a dating site. I was in Jacksonville, Florida, and she was in Tampa, Florida. I went to Tampa by Greyhound and I must admit, I was a little nervous. As the Greyhound bus was pulling into Tampa, I had all these butterflies…
    - 13 Mar 16, 1:35pm -
  • Why Black Lesbian Queens Stay in Bad Relationships
    When a black woman falls in love with another woman, especially for the first time, it can be completely magical. She makes our heart skip a beat, our palms sweaty, puts butterflies in our stomach and makes our panties wet. We can’t stop thinking a…
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  • Georgette and Shannon: There Are Levels To This Love
    Our initial conversations were intriguing, had depth, and allowed us to see the parts of each other’s personality that most don’t get to see for months, if not years. So of course, for our first date, I was willing to make the 3.5 hour drive from…
    - 2 Mar 16, 7:53pm -
  • How I Healed After My Long-term Lesbian Relationship Ended
    After the breakup, we were going back and forth in our conversations but we were definitely broken up because she started seeing someone three months after our breakup. It was a horrible emotional experience for me. Continue reading →
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  • Why My Girlfriend And I Broke Up After 17 Years Together
    When we were 17 we fell deeply in love but we didn't live happily ever after. We were together from our late teens until our mid-30s. For the first 11 years of our relationship, we were in the closet. We loved each other very much. We had many up and…
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  • She’s The One: Here are 9 Adorable Ways to Ask Her to Be Yours
    Black lesbian women are deserving of tender loving care. When you meet the one who never lets you forget that you are worthy, don't let her get away. Ask her to be yours. Here are nine great ways to ask. Continue reading →
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  • God Gave Me A Second Chance With My Soul Mate
    My partner, Eula, and I come from very abusive childhoods. For years upon years our bodies, minds, hearts, souls and spirits were slowly being destroyed. Still, we survived abuse, neglect, abandonment and unfaithfulness.Roughly five years ago, we…
    - 11 Feb 16, 8:23pm -
  • Queen Size: A Love Poem
    I shove my backside against the perfectly assorted seam.Rubbing the 300 count aboutmy thighs –in silent hopes to feelan armwrap around my waist. Continue reading →
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