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  • newTDOR At 20
    Today is the official date of the Transgender Day of Remembrance.  It's been 20 years since Gwen Smith created the TDOR to remember the people that we have lost due to anti-trans violence.And it's also been 20 years since Rita Hester was murdered, a…
    - 20 hours ago 20 Nov 18, 1:00am -
  • Moni's Marvelous Milwaukee Weekend
    Got my 'I've arrived' phone call done to my mom last night after I arrived, and I'm in the state of Wisconsin and in my nice hotel room overlooking the Milwaukee River at the A Loft Milwaukee Downtown.    I'm also a mere two blocks from the new are…
    - 3 days ago 17 Nov 18, 9:00pm -
  • Moni's Leaving On A Jet Plane To- Milwaukee!
    Been a few weeks since I hopped a flight somewhere, and this time I'm headed to the upper Midwest and a first time ever trip to Milwaukee.And I'll get to see some of my United-CAL family since I'll be flying through IAH on this trip.I'll be heading u…
    - 4 days ago 16 Nov 18, 1:00pm -
  • TransGriot 2018 NFL Picks- Week 11
    Did a much better job in Week 10 of picking that week's NFL games than I did in the previous week as my hometown NFL squad got to chill out on their bye week while riding a six game win streak after starting the season 0-3.But they go to Washington D…
    - 5 days ago 15 Nov 18, 1:00pm -
  • Trans Man, Meet Laverne Cox!
    There's a new digital show called Fearless hosted by model Ashley Graham that focuses on people who do not fit the status quo.  This particular episode just in time for Trans Awareness Week features a trans trans man named Rickey who is a year into…
    - 6 days ago 14 Nov 18, 6:00pm -
  • Happy Trans Awareness Week!
    Today starts Trans Awareness Week  This week is designed for individuals and organizations around the country to provide visibility for trans and gender non conforming people and highlight the issues we face as a community.It's also a lead in to the…
    - 8 days ago 12 Nov 18, 8:00pm -
  • What's Victoria's Secret? - It's Transphobic
    One of the things that I did early into my transition was head to the Victoria's Secret store near my old southwest side apartment and buy a couple of pairs of Victoria's Secret bras and panties that I liked.The 2018 edition of the Victoria's Secret…
    - 8 days ago 12 Nov 18, 11:30am -
  • 'Assigned Male' Cartoonist Sophie Labelle In Houston Today!
    I met Sophie during the 2012  Philly Trans Health Conference and fell in love not only with the French Canadian cartoonist, girl like us and public speaker, but her Assigned Male comic.Assigned Male chronicles the adventures of Stephie, a young Cana…
    - 10 days ago 10 Nov 18, 11:30am -
  • Tired Of The Racist Commentary Being Aimed At Judge-elect Hidalgo
    On Tuesday night no doubts were left that Harris County is undeniably blue as the blue tsunami knocked every remaining Republican judge off the bench, fired the much disliked Stan Stanart, and left every executive position in Democratic hands when th…
    - 11 days ago 9 Nov 18, 10:00pm -
  • TransGriot 2018 NFL Picks- Week 10
    While I stayed above .500 during Week 9 because I was on the wrong side of a few close games, Mike had another double digit win week.My Texans are now on a six game winning streak and chilling on their bye week along with the Broncos , Ravens and Vik…
    - 12 days ago 8 Nov 18, 1:00pm -
  • Trans America Has a Great 2018 Election Night
    The political junkie in me was up late watching returns and election coverage until I finally called it a night at 3 AM.   While I was focused on Texas, local and some key national races, I also had a nervous eye cast in the direction of Massachuse…
    - 13 days ago 7 Nov 18, 1:00pm -
  • It's Election Day, Family! Go Vote!
    At 7 AM the polls will open in Texas and across the nation for a crucial election that will determine the course of this country.    If you haven't voted already, please do so.Nah, scratch that.  That crucial election to our country was two years…
    - 15 days ago 6 Nov 18, 1:00am -
  • Radio Interview With Paola Acha Today
    Another day, another radio interview.   This time I'll be on the air with the lovely Paola Acha, the hostess of the Be Cool Be Smart show on KNLY 91.1 FM The Boss in The Woodlands.Yep, the Woodlands.  Her show runs from 3- 4PM CST and is available…
    - 15 days ago 5 Nov 18, 11:30am -
  • WPATH Conference Starts Today
    The 25th biennial World Professional Association for Transgender Health Conference (WPATH) is starting today in Buenos Aires, Argentina and running through November 6.So what is WPATH?   It is a professional association headquartered in the United…
    - 18 days ago 2 Nov 18, 1:00pm -
  • TransGriot 2018 NFL Picks- Week 9
    The calendar has flipped to November,  the NFL trading deadline passed on October 30, and we're past the halfway point of the NFL season with my Texans, after stumbling out of the gate 0-3, now on a five game winning streak and in  first place in t…
    - 19 days ago 1 Nov 18, 1:00pm -
  • Tommie Ross Recovery Fundraiser
    As many of you know, and I've told her personally, I have mad love and respect for my Houston homegirl and Miss Continental 1999-2000 Tommie Ross.One of my early forays into Montrose was a trek to Studio 13 to watch her perform.  Her graceful elegan…
    - 20 days ago 31 Oct 18, 8:00pm -
  • Two Trans Women Elected In Alaska!
    We in the lower 48 don't get much news out of Alaska, and when we do it's focused far too often on the tabloid mess coming from the Palin family.But in a rough week for trans kind, we definitely can use some good news, and it's coming out of the city…
    - 21 days ago 31 Oct 18, 9:00am -
  • Stan Stanart Trafficking In Anti-Semitism In Re-Election Bid
    I have loathed Harris County Clerk Stan Stanart, the Republican in charge of Harris County's voting apparatus for years.  He has made it clear multiple times he is a partisan hack who camouflages it a veneer of 'good Republican' respectability in or…
    - 21 days ago 31 Oct 18, 1:00am -
  • 'Trans People Deserve To Live' Banner Displayed During World Series Game
    I wasn't watching Game 5 of the 2018 World Series in Los Angeles because I'm still salty about what happened to my Astros.   But when chatter started popping up online about something happening at the game, I took a few moments from the writing ass…
    - 22 days ago 29 Oct 18, 4:57pm -
  • Houston Stands With The Trans Community Rally Happening Today
    We have seen this Trump Misadministration ever since they gained power gleefully attempt to roll back and eviscerate the human rights of trans Americans.While their initial actions such as attempting to ban trans people from serving in the military h…
    - 22 days ago 29 Oct 18, 1:00pm -
  • Why I Hate The 'Vote The Person, Not The Party' Line
    One of the things I have been sick of hearing in the 2018 cycle is Republicans, knowing they are about to take a serious butt whipping at the polls on November 6, trotting out that 'vote the person not the party' line in a desperate attempt to save t…
    - 23 days ago 28 Oct 18, 1:00pm -
  • What Does Being A Democrat Mean?
    I was challenged by someone in a Facebook thread to explain what being a Democrat means.  This is what I came up.  ****What does being a Democrat mean?That evidence and fact based policy matters. That scientific research matters and needs to be con…
    - 24 days ago 28 Oct 18, 1:00am -
  • Say Hello To Judge Tracey Nadzieja
    Here's some wonderful news coming out of Arizona.On October 12 Tracey Nadzieja was sworn in as a commissioner in the Maricopa County Superior Court.   That made her the first trans judge in the state of Arizona and only the third ever in the United…
    - 24 days ago 27 Oct 18, 1:00pm -
  • Moni's Latest Radio Interviews
    During my time as an advocate, I've had the pleasure of doing numerous radio and podcast interviews for stations across the US and in Canada.   As someone who used to co-host a radio show on KPFT-FM in the late 90's early 2000's, I enjoy doing them…
    - 25 days ago 26 Oct 18, 11:00pm -
  • 2018 Florida Governor's Debate
    The race between Tallahassee Mayor Andrew Gillum (D) and Rep. Ron DeSantis (R) has been ugly from the start, with DeSantis wasting no time going low and deploying racist tactics against the first African American nominee for governor of the Sunshine…
    - 25 days ago 26 Oct 18, 1:00pm -

The Mad Professah Lectures

  • Ricardo Lara Becomes 1st LGBT Individual Elected Statewide In California
    Ricardo Lara has been declared the winner of the California Insurance Commissioner race, defeating former Republican (and current Independent) Steve Poizner. Lara is an openly LGBT state Senator and as of today he leads Poizner 52%-48% (or 400,000 v…
    - 1 day ago 19 Nov 18, 1:02pm -
  • EYE CANDY: David McIntosh (4th time!)
    British bodybuilder has appeared as Eye Candy here multiple times before (September 24, 2012, December 31, 2012 and February 11, 2013). I recently went to his Instagram page (@king_david85) and he still looks amazing!
    - 2 days ago 19 Nov 18, 5:13am -
  • 2018 ATP YEC: Zverev Stuns Djokovic To Win Biggest Title
    Sascha Zverev defeated Novak Djokovic in straight sets 6-4 6-3 to win the Nitto ATP Finals in London, becoming the youngest player to win the ATP's year-end championship since Djokovic won the title in 2008.  21-year-old Zverev will end the year ra…
    - 2 days ago 18 Nov 18, 3:45pm -
  • CELEBRITY FRIDAY: Jared Polis Becomes 1st Openly Gay Man Elected Governor
    Former Congressman Jared Polis has become the first openly gay man to be elected as the Chief Executive of a State. Polis, 43,  is now the Governor-elect of Colorado, having been elected as a Democrat on Tuesday November 6 with 51.7% of the vote. H…
    - 4 days ago 16 Nov 18, 11:51am -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Foundryside (Founders, #1) by Robert Patrick Bennett
    Foundryside is the first book in an epic fantasy series called The Founders trilogy by Robert Jackson Bennett, the author of the Hugo-nominated Divine Cities trilogy (City of Stairs, City of Blades, City of Miracles).Foundryside has some interesting…
    - 6 days ago 15 Nov 18, 7:51am -
  • AZ-SEN: Openly LGBT Kyrsten Sinema Wins!
    Congressperson Kyrsten Sinema has won election to the United States  Senate from Arizona, defeating Congresswoman Martha McSally in a very close race. Sinema, 42, is the first female Senator from Arizona, and as a bisexual woman, only the second o…
    - 7 days ago 13 Nov 18, 1:11pm -
  • TENNIS NEWS: Djokovic Returns To #1, Khachanov Breaks Through, ATP YEC Field Set (Isner, Nishikori IN, Nadal, Delpo OUT)
    DJOKOVIC RETURNS TO WORLD #1 AFTER  NADAL WITHDRAWS FROM PARIS MASTERSBecause Nadal cut his entire season short (he ended up not playing the rest of the year after retiring with an injury against Del Potro in the US Open semifinals) Djokovic was ass…
    - 10 days ago 10 Nov 18, 9:56am -
  • 2018 World Chess Championship: Carlsen versus Caruana (London, November 9-28)
    The 2018 World Chess championship is being held in London starting today and should last until November 28th or so. It is between the defending world champion 27-year-old Magnus Carlsen of Norway, and 26-year-old Fabiano Caruana of the United State…
    - 11 days ago 9 Nov 18, 12:58pm -
  • EYE CANDY: Robert Oliveira (reprise)
    Robert Oliveira is another one of my Brazilian crushes. He has appeared as eye candy only once before (July 16, 2018) but  almost certainly will make many more. There's a reason why he has over 200,000 followers on Instagram (@robert.official). En…
    - 16 days ago 5 Nov 18, 6:19am -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Jar City by Arnaldur Indriðason
    Jar City is the first book by Arnaldur Indriðason that I have read. I was mostly interested in reading it because it’s set in Reykjavik, and ever since the city was put on the map fro the famous World Chess Championship between Boris Spassky and B…
    - 20 days ago 1 Nov 18, 10:00am -
  • GODLESS WEDNESDAY: Ireland Votes To Abolish Blasphemy Laws
    This past weekend voters in Ireland decided to abolish laws against blasphemy by approving a  referendum to remove the word "blasphemous" from the following clause in the constitution of the republic of Ireland:The publication or utterance of blasph…
    - 20 days ago 31 Oct 18, 1:07pm -
  • 2018 WTA YEC: Svitolina Wins Her Biggest Title, Outlasting Stephens 36 62 62
    Elina Svitolina won the biggest title of her career by defeating 2017 US Open champion and 2018 French Open finalist Sloane Stephens 3-6 6-2 6-2 to win the 2018 WTA BNP Paribas WTA Finals Singapore. Svitolina still has not reached a major final des…
    - 21 days ago 30 Oct 18, 7:03pm -
  • 2018 BASEL: Federer Wins 99th Career ATP Title
    Roger Federer won his 99th career ATP title at the Swiss Indoors Championships held in his hometown of Basel, Switzerland. Federer defeated Romanian qualifier Marcus Copil 6-4 7-6(5) in his 14th final in Basel to win his 9th title. The only male pl…
    - 22 days ago 29 Oct 18, 11:16am -
  • CELEBRITY FRIDAY: Hillary Clinton Turns 71 Today
    Hillary Rodham Clinton turns 71 today. She is the wife of  former U.. President William Jefferson Clinton and the winner of the popular vote in the 2016 presidential election. The winner of the electoral  vote, President Trump was born June 17, 19…
    - 25 days ago 26 Oct 18, 2:37pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: How to Get Filthy Rich in Rising Asia by Mohsin Hamid
    “A heartbreaking work of staggering genius” is of course a clichéd title of a famous book by Dave Eggers but in the case of Mohsin Hamid’s How to Get Filthy Rich in Rising Asia this description would be quite appropriate.How to Get Filthy Ri…
    - 26 days ago 25 Oct 18, 1:41pm -
  • GODLESS WEDNESDAY: Deism versus Theism
    As someone who believes in godlessness, i.e. I reject both theism and deism. However, it is at least useful to understand these terms if one is going to have reasonable dialogue between the religious and irreligious. For example, the graphic at the t…
    - 28 days ago 24 Oct 18, 8:37am -
  • EYE CANDY: Maxs Souza (3rd time!)
    Maxs Souza is another one of those hot Brazilian models that I love to post about here. Other examples are Robert Oliveira, Jones Tamar, Alan Taurus, Guilherme Rofino and many more. Maxs has appeared as Eye Candy before (April 9, 2018 and October…
    - 29 days ago 22 Oct 18, 12:29pm -
  • 2018 WTA YEC: Draw Is Set (Halep Withdraws); Osaka, Kerber, Stephens in Same Group
    The WTA Year End Championships is starting in Singapore this weekend. Participation is restricted to the Top 8 performers on the WTA tour, which usually (but not always) includes the winners of the 4 Grand Slam tournaments through out the year. This…
    - 32 days ago 19 Oct 18, 2:27pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Record of a Spaceborn Few (Wayfarers, #3) by Becky Chambers
    Record of a Spaceborn Few is the third entry in a loosely connected set of books written by Becky Chambers called the Wayfarers series. It is set in a Universe where many generations before humans have been forced to abandon Earth and conducted an e…
    - 33 days ago 18 Oct 18, 10:36am -
  • GODLESS WEDNESDAY: Stephen Hawking Says "There Is No God" In Posthumous Book
    Stephen Hawking, one of the world's most renowned scientists, who died earlier this year at the age of 76 on March 13, has published a book where he reiterates his atheistic beliefs. This is not a new occurrence; Hawking's atheistic beliefs have been…
    - 34 days ago 17 Oct 18, 3:44pm -
  • Washington State Supreme Court Abolishes Death Penalty!
    There are now twenty states that do not have the death penalty! Last week, the Washington State Supreme Court declared that state's death penalty unconstitutional in State v. Gregory, saying:The death penalty is invalid because it is imposed in an ar…
    - 37 days ago 14 Oct 18, 12:03pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: A Conjuring of Light (Shades of Magic, #3) by V.E. Schwab
    A Conjuring of Light is the third and final entry in the Shades of Magic trilogy written by V.E. Schwab. The books are set in a universe with four parallel worlds that are connected via various flavors of London (Red, White, Grey and Black). These a…
    - 41 days ago 11 Oct 18, 8:34am -
  • TENNIS TUESDAY: Osaka Reaches World #4; Kiki Hits Top 10, Sabalenka at 11; Fed/Nole/Delpo Battle For #2 In Shanghai; Woz Wins Title #30
    OSAKA, BERTENS, SABALENKA REACH CAREER HIGHS2018 US Open champion Naomi Osaka reached World #4 in the rankings, matching the highest ever ranking by a Japanese female player (Kimiko Date). Osaka has played very well since becoming a major champion,…
    - 42 days ago 9 Oct 18, 2:48pm -
  • EYE CANDY: Nana-Kofi Adams
    Nanakofi Adams is a British bodybuilder of African descent who is on Instagram (@nanakofi_adams). According to his Model Mayhem page, Nana-Kofi is 29 years old, 6-feet tall weighing 198 pounds and wears size 11(!) shoes.
    - 44 days ago 8 Oct 18, 12:40am -
  • GRAPHIC: What Kind Of Voter Are You Depends On How Much Government You Want: Dismantle, Streamline, Rebuild, or Expand?
    An interesting analysis of partisanship in a report from the Brooking Institution. They split all voters into four categories: dismantlers, streamliners, rebuilders and expanders. They are each defined thusly:The report then goes on to analyze how ea…
    - 44 days ago 7 Oct 18, 1:49pm -

Black Girl Dangerous

  • Untitled
    For five years, BGD led the way in indie media by and for queer and trans people of color. Now…The post appeared first on BGD.
    - 5 Dec 17, 5:57pm -
  • The BGD Blog Is Ending
    Dear BGD readers,   For the last five and a half years, BGD has amplified the voices of queer and…The post The BGD Blog Is Ending appeared first on BGD.
    - 26 Jul 17, 2:52pm -
  • True Love Is the Joy of Bringing Another To Joy: BGD’s Crush of the Month Featuring Climbing PoeTree
    by Princess Harmony   BGD’s Crush of the Month is a feature where we choose the most swoon-worthy and inspirational…The post True Love Is the Joy of Bringing Another To Joy: BGD’s Crush of the Month Featuring Climbing PoeTree appeared first o…
    - 4 Jul 17, 11:03am -
  • Challenging The Culture Of Silence In The Afghan-American Community’s Response To Orlando
    by Bobuq Sayed   Exactly one week after the Pulse nightclub shooting, my cousin Tariq and I drive into downtown…The post Challenging The Culture Of Silence In The Afghan-American Community’s Response To Orlando appeared first on BGD.
    - 13 Jun 17, 8:00am -
  • The BGD Podcast 6.1.17: Be Humble, Miley!
    Host Raquel Willis discusses Miley Cyrus and Katy Perry’s cultural appropriation, student walk-outs on political leaders and the best shut…The post The BGD Podcast 6.1.17: Be Humble, Miley! appeared first on BGD.
    - 1 Jun 17, 2:19pm -

Lesbian In The City

  • Happily Divorced
    “…so what are you going to say at my funeralnow that you have killed me?here lies the body of the love of my lifewhose heart I broke without a gun to my headhere lies the body of the mother of my childrenboth living and deadrest in p…
    - 6 Mar 17, 1:44pm -
  • City Letter: Open Relationships & Polyamory
    Dear LITC,I like your blog and how you are comfy with exposing yourlife for us to learn about and even inspire us. My girl and I are having thisargument and I want your point of view. We been together like 3 years and somechange now and…
    - 29 Aug 16, 5:04pm -
  • I's Married Now
    Happy July Love’s! I’m back, I’m married…and I’m also aMommy! Say what?!? Yes, I am also a Mommy! Nina and I said I Do on June 17th in front ofour friends in beautiful Las Vegas. I love Vegas and cannot wait to go back. Wehad a…
    - 13 Jul 16, 1:14pm -
  • Where's Waldo...More Like Where's Lesbian In The City?
    I’m sorry for the disappearing act I pulled but I promiseit was not intentional. Where do I begin. Ever since Nina and I got engaged wehave had nonstop, whirlwind schedules. Like I’m getting married in a month andI just picked out my dres…
    - 16 May 16, 10:59am -
  • Happy 2016, I'm Engaged!
    I knew 2016 was going to be a game changer for me butnever to this degree. I am happy to say that as of midnight on New Years Eve2015 Nina and I are engaged to be married. It was a beautiful, romanticsurprise and I was happy to say Yes! In…
    - 2 Jan 16, 11:41am -
  • The Same Difference: Addressing The Problem within the African-American Lesbian Community
    There has always been this constant turmoil, tension, anddiscrimination within the African-American Lesbian community and finallysomeone has brought this shit to the light with The Same Difference Documentary.As I have mentioned before, som…
    - 13 Dec 15, 1:24pm -
  • Holidays With The New Family
    Nina and I survived our first Thanksgiving with herfamily. Normally, I go to my cousin’s home then head to my grandparentsfollowed by capping my evening off at my best friend’s home. This was our firstmajor holiday together, and I thoug…
    - 1 Dec 15, 12:34pm -
  • Eyes Wide Shut: Black Women & Suicide
    In the midst of waiting for my two favorite shows,Scandal and How To Get Away With Murder, to return to their regular rotation, Ibinge watched Season 2 of Being Mary Jane. When the show first aired on BET(and I had yet to cut the cable cord)…
    - 9 Nov 15, 11:32am -
  • Black Lesbians & Heteronormativity
    When I think of relationships, I think of harmony,coexisting, sharing, and working together for the greater good of thefoundation of the relationship. Whether it is two males, two females, or a maleand a female, this is how relationships shou…
    - 19 Oct 15, 3:04pm -
  • New Journeys, New Beginnings
    Nina and I are officially living together. You never knowhow much stuff two people truly have until it’s time to pack up and move. Let’sjust say I ended up throwing away a lot of clothes and no longer neededdocuments. The good news is bet…
    - 6 Oct 15, 12:07pm -
  • The Night We Slept Over
    This past weekend was one for the books. Nina started anew business venture and had her first project on Sunday morning and Saturdayevening we spent our first overnight together in her parent’s home. Nina’s adorable nephews have not…
    - 18 Aug 15, 2:24pm -
  • Movin' On In
    Between work and Nina I have been a busy bee. The weekendafter my birthday Nina’s mother asked us to join them at their home for abirthday dinner complete with my favorite – Homemade Strawberry Shortcake.Dinner was amazing and I got to bo…
    - 10 Aug 15, 2:49pm -
  • 30 + 1
    Over the weekend 30 got an upgrade. I moved from the 30doorway and fully into the cascade of the years which will now be forever knownas My 30’s. On the 17th Nina took me to dinner at TheMelting Pot followed by the Floetry Concert at t…
    - 21 Jul 15, 4:13pm -
  • Hello Marriage Equality, What The Hell Took You So Long?
    Pride Month wrapped up with the Supreme Court of theUnited States declaring the ban on same sex marriage unconstitutional,therefore Gay and Lesbian couples who wish to marry are now afforded the samerights, benefits and protections under fede…
    - 1 Jul 15, 7:35pm -
  • Me & Nina: How It's Supposed To Be
    Happy Pride 2015! I decided not to attend any of thePride festivities in Philly this year. Just the same shit, different year andthey aren’t even making an effort to change it. OutFest is what I attend so inOctober I’ll celebrate in the G…
    - 13 Jun 15, 10:51am -
  • The Second Closet: Lesbians & Domestic Violence
    When I originally started this blog, one of my first fewpost was about domestic violence within the Lesbian community. I’ve shared myexperience with physical abuse as well as emotional abuse in two of myrelationships. I am and have always b…
    - 24 May 15, 5:02pm -
  • Women & Pyramid Schemes

    - 14 May 15, 12:19pm -
  • Operation Meet The Parent's
    The day has finally come. On Sunday Nina and I venturedto Egg Harbor Township to visit her Mother and Stepfather. Nina’s Motherrecently turned 75 so we decided to celebrate with her during one of our freeweekends. Now let’s review some hi…
    - 27 Apr 15, 9:45pm -
  • Fifty Shades of Vanilla
    Happy Passover, Happy Easter, and Happy Sunday! I’ve beenmeaning to write a blog post about the hyped up, major let down of a movie,that desperate housewives swear by- Fifty Shades of Grey (should have been morelike Fifty Shades of Pure Van…
    - 5 Apr 15, 3:08pm -
  • Dating Nina: Part Deux
    It’s officially been a little more than 30 days since Istarted dating Nina and I am happy to report that all is going well, extremelywell to be honest. We talk all the time, we see each other 3-4 times per weekand…drum roll…we’ve begu…
    - 21 Mar 15, 1:41pm -
  • Dating "Nina"
    At some point in our lives we realize how things shouldbe done. Dating Nina (that’s the nicknameI’m giving her since we share a love of the great Nina Simone) hascertainly shown me what dating and courtship is all about and how it shoul…
    - 8 Mar 15, 4:19pm -
  • & My Impromptu Valentine
    Like Valentine’s Day of 2014, I had no real plans forthis holiday. I knew I wanted to go out and at least see The Wedding Ringer asI have been dying to see it since it came out in January. My family is stillmourning the death of my Grandmot…
    - 17 Feb 15, 3:33pm -
  • My Mother, Myself: R.I.P Grandma
    January 26, 2015 at 8:36 PM my phone rang. It was myMother. I was still angry with her, I really didn’t want to talk to her, and Ithink she knew it. She said “we need to talk but more importantly I need you tolisten…” I thought I wa…
    - 8 Feb 15, 7:36pm -
  • I Love Stems!
    It’s like my prayers have been answered, or better yetthere is finally a term for the kind of lesbian that makes my heart skip a beatand leaves me mesmerized every time I encounter one – Stems! If you’re notfamiliar with the term, a St…
    - 17 Jan 15, 7:14pm -
  • The Miseducation of Straight Black Women
    I really don’t know where to begin with this one becauseI think I’m still in shock that I could be so blind or think things would be Iguess different, or because I just can’t believe that a certain subset of Blackwomen could be so damn…
    - 7 Jan 15, 6:37pm -

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Rod 2.0

  • MIT Fellowship and Relocation
    Very excited and grateful to begin a new chapter in my life. The Massachusetts Institute of Technology has awarded me one of ten Knight Science Journalism Fellowships for 2015-2016. Relocating to Cambridge this summer. Will be taking classes at MIT..…
    - 6 May 15, 1:00pm -
  • On Hiatus
    Thanks to everyone who reached out. Taking a much needed break after years of updating R20 up to six or eight times daily. On hiatus until May. Please follow me on Facebook, Twitter and at The Atlantic.
    - 15 Mar 15, 4:00pm -
  • LISTEN LIVE: Philadelphia's WURD Radio 5P/ET
    Join me on Philadelphia's WURD-AM tonight at 5ET on "The Nick Taliaferro Show". On the menu: My first report from Cape Town for The Atlantic—"A Promising HIV Vaccine in South Africa"—and the potentially game-changing HIV vaccine trials that will…
    - 17 Dec 14, 4:17pm -
  • THE ATLANTIC: "A Promising HIV Vaccine in South Africa"
    PHOTO: GETTY CAPE TOWN: After more than 30 years into the HIV/AIDS pandemic, a vaccine remains elusive—and much needed. Globally, about 35 million people are living with HIV, according to the Joint United Nations Programme on HIV/AIDS or UNAIDS. Su…
    - 17 Dec 14, 4:04pm -
  • Cape Town
    Just wrapping up several reporting trips to Cape Town, Johannesburg, Ethiopia and Kenya. Have had a few problems with technology and did not want to publish R20 from certain countries. Also: Just needed some time to relax, rest recharge and...
    - 15 Dec 14, 2:00pm -
  • Kenya and Ethiopia
    Walking across the tarmac at Nairobi's Jomo Kenyatta International Airport and headed for Addis Ababa. Wrapping up two weeks of research and reporting in Kenya and Ethiopia for the Ford International Reporting Fellowship. Posting will slowly resume o…
    - 30 Sep 14, 11:00am -
  • Tech Issues
    My apologies for the down time. Having some unfortunate tech issues. Hopefully it should be resolved in several days.
    - 27 Aug 14, 11:34am -
  • FBI to Probe Fatal Police Shooting of Unarmed Black Missouri Teen
    PHOTOS: GETTY The Federal Bureau of Investigation will investigate the fatal shooting by police of 18-year-old Michael Brown in suburban St. Louis, according to a statement by Attorney General Eric Holder released by the Justice Department. Meanwhile…
    - 12 Aug 14, 8:35pm -
  • LISTEN LIVE: Philadelphia's WURD Radio 6P/ET
    Haaay! Returned stateside on Sunday. Trying to get some much-needed rest and reorient myself on American time after the exhausting 15 hour flight and 15 hour time difference. But first: Join me on Philadelphia's WURD-AM tonight at 6P/ET on "The...
    - 28 Jul 14, 2:36pm -
  • HOT: Victoria AIDS Council Poster
    Spotted on numerous hand cards, posters and billboards throughout the Melbourne Convention and Exhibition Centre ... and at tram strops across the city. The model for the Victoria AIDS Council gets perfect tenz across the board.
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  • PHOTOS: Melbourne's South Wharf
    Some architecture porn from Melbourne. Looking east along the South Wharf of the Yarra River.
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  • PHOTO: Melbourne's Flinders Street
    The view looking toward Melbourne's historic Flinders Street Station. Across the street is Federation Square. I'm in Australia to report from AIDS 2014 Melbourne. The trip is funded by an international media fellowship from AIDS 2014 and the Internat…
    - 19 Jul 14, 7:11am -

The K Word

  • The K Word is Back
    This has been a year for me. And I realized why it got me the way it did… because I didn’t have you all to talk to it about. So yep…. I’m back. All K Word. All the Time. Well not all the time. I don’t want to lie to you all like that. Welp.…
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  • Tips to a Big Fun/Small Budget Trip to Turks and Caicos #KKDays
    Yes my log in still works… whew. I know… I know. I have been slacking on my blogging. There have been a lot of new developments in the world according to Kristi that I hope to share with you guys soon. We just back this weekend from a really rel…
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  • 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference (Albany, NY: October 2016)
    In Our Own Voices, would like to extend an invitation for you to attend: 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference, Unity Through Diversity: The Power of Unity. This event will take place October 12-15, 2016 at the Desmond Hotel and Conference Center…
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  • KREAD: Pat Greene: Her Story by ANONDRA “KAT” WILLIAMS
    Well well well, here’s another one and another one. Yes I am pretending I am a rapper instead of a blogger… and what? hits b-girl stance Like most series on this blog, I haven’t written a KRead review in a while. But seeing that today is Nation…
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  • Going for the Gold: Queer Women of Color In the Rio Olympics [Gallery]
    As if you needed another reason to watch the 2016 Rio Olympics, here are 7 queer women of color that will be representing their countries in Brazil. I obviously didn’t take any of these pictures
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  • Here’s Comes the Bride (s)…
    I feel like I am in a perpetual state of wedding plans. No you all haven’t missed anything, I only have the same ring (that I liked and put on myself). One of my oldest friends (and one time guest blogger) April A  is getting married in T-28 day…
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  • KLife: My 2nd Annual Giveback Kickback [Photo Gallery]
    All Photos Taken by Anthony Jordon Great Folks… Great Fun… Great work I am overwhelmed with gratitude for all the friends new and old that took time out of their busy lives to celebrate my 6th 28th birthday as well as give back to those who right…
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  • “When in doubt… #give.”
    Originally posted on My Words, My View: That was the start to the invitation for the 2nd annual Giveback Kickback And BBQ, coordinated by birthday girl, journal entrepreneur and great friend Kristi King. ? This style maven and socially conscious indi…
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  • I Don’t Want to Be a Hashtag…
    So I am sitting here in Starbucks illegally downloading movies on piratebay enjoying my iced coconut milk caramel macchiato this fine Sunday morning and felt a crazy wave of frustration come over me. If you are my FB friend you have seen spurts of…
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  • Pridelines (Miami, FL) : Join us today for a day of support, mourning, and community action
    Todays Schedule 12:00 to 6:30 PM – Individual grief sessions will be available at Pridelines. 6:00 PM – Community Event Begins 6:00 to 7:30 Pm – Meditation on the Patio 6:00 to 7:30 PM – Group Grief Session 6:00 to 9:30 PM – Individual Grie…
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  • Well… Hmm : Transgender Athletes — Fair or Nah?
    So I was having this conversation with a friend, AP, yesterday and I thought I would write a bit about it here. I am not sure whether you have heard or not, but there is a debate surrounding high school senior, Nattaphon Wangyot, a transgender stude…
    - 9 Jun 16, 12:18pm -
  • Love almost killed me… and other things that I learned on my blogging hiatus
    Ok… don’t let the headline fool you. I am not ready to talk about it. I have not fully processed it. I am not sure how long it will take and if I will every be strong enough to talk about it on here… but love almost killed me. It almost consume…
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  • Guess Who’s Bizzack – 24 Hours in #Barbados
    Hola Lovebugs (or the the lovebugs who haven’t left me for greener blog pastures)! I know it has been a while since I blogged, I would go into the sordid details… but not in this post. Just suffice it to say that… NOPE NOPE not this post wink B…
    - 11 May 16, 9:07am -
  • Mark Your Calendars (11/18/15): Very G TV, Thou Art Woman and the Broward College GSA Present Taboo Yardies
     Join local LGBT activists and the Broward College Gay Straight Alliance (GSA) for the film screening of the compelling Jamaican LGBT documentary, Taboo Yardies. Taboo Yardies will be shown at Broward College – Health Sciences Simulation Center,…
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Sista Outsider

  • Can’t, or Won’t?
    Google is my friend. It can be yours, too. via Can’t or Won’t? — Stephanie Andrea Allen Advertisements
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  • Five Black Lesbian Books You Should be Reading for Pride Month — Black Lesbian Literary Collective — Stephanie Andrea Allen
    My latest over at the BLLC Review! Pride month is nearly over, and there are lists upon lists of books LGBTQ folks should be reading circulating around the internet. Interestingly, most of them don’t have many, if any, Black lesbian books included…
    - 22 Jun 17, 8:37am -
  • Want to learn more about publishing?
    Then take a class with me! Starting March 12, I’ll be teaching an online class about publishing. I’m really excited to be collaborating with the Kitchen Table Literary Arts Center as a teaching artist, and I hope that you’ll consider joining m…
    - 28 Feb 17, 3:19pm -
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  • 10 Works of Black Lesbian Short Fiction-via WOCreads
    Recently, I was asked about short story collections by women of Color, and what a timely thing, too, since I’m planning on reading more short fiction this year. Collections are always a bit complicated for me: on the one hand I want to take my time…
    - 29 Jan 17, 8:02pm -
  • 2016: A Review — S. Andrea Allen
    Over the past several days, I’ve read (and enjoyed) quite a few of these “year in review” blogs/essays and it got me to thinking. What did I accomplish in 2016? Where did I fail? I realized that I had many more successes than failures, and that…
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  • A Dream Undeterred: An Interview w/ Black Lesbian Feminist Press On Their Debut Title, Lez Talk: A Collection of Black Lesbian Short Fiction — S. Andrea Allen
    My deepest thanks to Catalina Sofia Dansberger Duque for this wonderful article on BLF Press! via A Dream Undeterred: An Interview w/ Black Lesbian Feminist Press O…
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  • Melancon on the Anniversary of June Jordan’s Death
    Originally posted on Diaspora Hypertext, the Blog (Archived): June Jordan was born on July 9, 1936 and died on June 14, 2002. Melancon writes: “In her infinite wisdom and incomparable genius as a poet, essayist, professor, activist, and conscious…
    - 14 Jun 16, 9:42pm -
  • The Greatest
    Originally posted on Diaspora Hypertext, the Blog (Archived): Rise in power. Image #rp via @nonafaustine on Twitter
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  • ‘New Suns’: An SBF Writing Retreat
    Originally posted on Seattle Black Feminists: “There’s nothing new under the sun, but there are new suns.” Octavia Butler New Suns is the first annual Seattle Black Feminists (SBF) writing retreat. It is a time for Black women to come together…
    - 1 Jun 16, 8:04pm -

A Black Lesbian

  • Patience and the art of bouncing back
    Patience, Patience, Patience…there is this new person…i know(bit reluctant to say they are in my life) her name is Patience, Patience has apparently played a part (rather small if you ask me) in the breakdown of my relationship. While that … Co…
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  • Staying focused
    I have gone back and forth about what to do with this blog. I was ashamed of what it contains, ashamed that what i thought was wasn’t. It  amazed me when i quickly scrolled down and realized that since dating … Continue reading →
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  • How The People We Once Loved Become Strangers Again
    Originally posted on Thought Catalog: It’s interesting to think about how we make people who used to be everything into nothing again. How we learn to forget. How we force forgetting. What we put in place of them in the…
    - 28 Jan 15, 5:48pm -
    Because, even worse, I never wanted to be a back up plan…so I choose, this time I choose and I choose to stop.
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  • The first night
    Last night was first night C and I slept apart since break up. It’s weird but we live together and we have always had a pull towards each other so even after a break up we slept in same bed … Continue reading →
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  • The phase of depression
    I have struggled with this thing for so long and yet I don’t recognize the signs until it’s too late.  I don’t know when it started but I’m guessing it was a while ago. I can usually tell when looking … Continue reading →
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  • Protected: Disclaimer
    There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
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  • Protected: Authenticity
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  • En-Route
    Relationships are such a strange thing aren’t they. C and I ‘broke up’ 4 months ago and we have had the best relationship since. It was very emotional and very hard, kinda hard to believe i can say its the … Continue reading →
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  • Power of the mind
    After trying to quit drinking and failing every friday night  I have to say spending my first weekend without alcohol. The best part of it is that I didn’t even want it miss it or desire it. I did think … Continue reading →
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Black Lesbian Love Lab

  • Why All Lesbian Femmes Should Buy Their Own Straps
    “Ok so my girlfriend strap is too big.... i have expressed this to her a couple times and she laughed it off and made a joke of it.....idk what to do … i thought about buying another but i don't know how she'll take it … advice please.” Conti…
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  • Masculine Not Manly, Vol 3: A Letter From a Recovering TouchMeNot Stud
    I can count on one hand how many times I've received head. I need even less fingers to count the amount of times I enjoyed it. Continue reading →
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  • Lisa & Roshanda: She Walked Into the Bus Station and Stole My Heart
    I met my wife, Roshanda, on a dating site. I was in Jacksonville, Florida, and she was in Tampa, Florida. I went to Tampa by Greyhound and I must admit, I was a little nervous. As the Greyhound bus was pulling into Tampa, I had all these butterflies…
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  • Why Black Lesbian Queens Stay in Bad Relationships
    When a black woman falls in love with another woman, especially for the first time, it can be completely magical. She makes our heart skip a beat, our palms sweaty, puts butterflies in our stomach and makes our panties wet. We can’t stop thinking a…
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  • Georgette and Shannon: There Are Levels To This Love
    Our initial conversations were intriguing, had depth, and allowed us to see the parts of each other’s personality that most don’t get to see for months, if not years. So of course, for our first date, I was willing to make the 3.5 hour drive from…
    - 2 Mar 16, 7:53pm -
  • How I Healed After My Long-term Lesbian Relationship Ended
    After the breakup, we were going back and forth in our conversations but we were definitely broken up because she started seeing someone three months after our breakup. It was a horrible emotional experience for me. Continue reading →
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  • Why My Girlfriend And I Broke Up After 17 Years Together
    When we were 17 we fell deeply in love but we didn't live happily ever after. We were together from our late teens until our mid-30s. For the first 11 years of our relationship, we were in the closet. We loved each other very much. We had many up and…
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  • She’s The One: Here are 9 Adorable Ways to Ask Her to Be Yours
    Black lesbian women are deserving of tender loving care. When you meet the one who never lets you forget that you are worthy, don't let her get away. Ask her to be yours. Here are nine great ways to ask. Continue reading →
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  • God Gave Me A Second Chance With My Soul Mate
    My partner, Eula, and I come from very abusive childhoods. For years upon years our bodies, minds, hearts, souls and spirits were slowly being destroyed. Still, we survived abuse, neglect, abandonment and unfaithfulness.Roughly five years ago, we…
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  • Queen Size: A Love Poem
    I shove my backside against the perfectly assorted seam.Rubbing the 300 count aboutmy thighs –in silent hopes to feelan armwrap around my waist. Continue reading →
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