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  • TransGriot 2020 NFL Picks- Week 2
    The first week of the season is the hardest one to get right because of all the changes to personnel, coaching, et cetera.   It was also tricky not having any preseason games to look at as a guide to how these team's might play in the regular seaso…
    - 4 days ago 17 Sep 20, 1:00pm -
  • Good Luck Sarah!
    "At the end of the day, I'm not running to be a transgender state senator, I'm running to be a senator who serves her community, I'm running to be a senator who fights for affordable health care, I'm running to be a senator who works to expand access…
    - 7 days ago 15 Sep 20, 1:00am -
  • The 2020 Miss Trans Global Is.....
    As many of you TransGriot readers know, I was one of the judges for the inaugural Miss Trans Global virtual pageant.After two months of interviews and videos, paring down the initial 18 contestants from around the world down to a Top 15 and then down…
    - 8 days ago 14 Sep 20, 9:00am -
  • Mia Mason Making Historic Maryland Congressional Run!
    It's been a while since we've had a trans person elected to their national legislature.   In fact there have been only six trans people on the entire planet,  Georgina Beyer (New Zealand), Vladimir Luxuria (Italy), Anna Grodzka (Poland), Michelle…
    - 11 days ago 11 Sep 20, 1:00am -
  • Update In The Luna Younger Case!
    Trans Texans, our Mama and Papa Bears and allies have been anxiously watching a North Texas court case involving a young trans girl that unfortunately got politicized by the Texas Republican Party, the conservafool media and Texas evilgelicals.The sa…
    - 12 days ago 10 Sep 20, 9:00am -
  • TransGriot 2020 NFL Picks- Week 1
    Considering that COVID 19 screwed up the NFL off season, still surprised that the season has started on schedule.    One thing I'm very happy about is that Deshaun Watson will continue to be the QB for my Texans through the 2024 season.  The thing…
    - 12 days ago 10 Sep 20, 1:00am -
  • 2020 NFL Prognostication Contest Is Happening!
    The 2020 NFL season starts Thursday with the game between my Texans and the defending NFL champion Kansas City Chiefs,  and yes, Mike Watts and I will be doing battle for 2020 NFL season prognostication supremacy.The 2019 season came down to the las…
    - 14 days ago 8 Sep 20, 1:00am -
  • Getting Another Award From The Houston GLBT Caucus!
    Yesterday afternoon I was having a particularly crappy day until I got a phone call from the new Houston GLBT Political Caucus president Jovon Tyler that had me singing Ice Cube's 'Today Was A Good Day' when it was over.Jovon called to inform me tha…
    - 19 days ago 3 Sep 20, 8:00am -
  • 2020 Election Early Voting Dates.
    Thanks to Maya Contreras for this chart that breaks down all of the early voting dates for the most important and consequential election in American  history.If you aren't registered to vote, bust a move to do so because the deadlines to do so are r…
    - 28 days ago 25 Aug 20, 1:00am -
  • Kamala Harris VP Acceptance Speech
    History was made on Wednesday night as Kamala Harris became the first woman of color and only the third in US history to be nominated as vice president.It was a night in which the ancestors and many peeps across America were beaming with pride as the…
    - 31 days ago 22 Aug 20, 1:00am -
  • Not Feeling The (White) Trans Community Hatred Of Kamala Harris
    I was overjoyed to hear Kamala Harris' name called Tuesday when Joe Biden announced his running mate for the critically important November 3 election.  Sen. Harris was my first choice for president.  She has been on my political radar ever since I…
    - 39 days ago 13 Aug 20, 1:00pm -
  • 25th Anniversary Of Tyra Hunter's Death
    Tyra Hunter should be with us right now eagerly anticipating the celebration of her 50th birthday.But instead, her life tragically ended way too soon because of two transphobes.  One of the transphobes was a  Washington DC fire department EMT.   …
    - 46 days ago 7 Aug 20, 1:00am -
  • Fundraiser For Our Black Trans Masculine Elders
    Our Black trans masculine elders have done much to advance the human rights of our trans community, but unfortunately don't get the props and praise they deserve for it.Dr Kortney Ziegler is raising $100K to split between three amazing trans masculin…
    - 47 days ago 5 Aug 20, 2:30pm -
  • Happy Birthday To Barack and Meghan!
    We like to say in the Black community that we are descended from kings and queens, but did you know that August 4 is the day a president and a member of the British royal family were born?  Barack Obama and Meghan Markle were born twenty years and 2…
    - 48 days ago 4 Aug 20, 12:00pm -
  • Trans Actors Can Be In The Building And Still Get Ignored
    Like a lot of Trans World peeps I was more than a little heated when the women of POSE were once again snubbed for Emmy consideration despite stepping up their acting games and putting in some Emmy worthy performances.Tell me you didn't cry watching…
    - 52 days ago 31 Jul 20, 4:00pm -
  • You Conservafools Don't Get To Tell Us How To Mourn Our Community Heroes
    Seems like the Karen and Chad conservafools are having a hissy fit over President Obama's eulogy of the late Rep. John Lewis at his homegoing yesterday.  The Right Wing Noise Machine hit dogs were hollering all over conservative media big mad he cal…
    - 53 days ago 31 Jul 20, 8:00am -
  • Barack Obama's Eulogy of Rep John Lewis
    President Barack Obama delivers the eulogy at Rep John Lewis' funeral in Atlanta;'s historic Ebenezer Baptist Church
    - 53 days ago 30 Jul 20, 4:08pm -
  • 31st GLAAD Media Awards Happening July 29-30
    Normally the GLAAD Media Awards are spread out in a bi-coastal ceremony that has some of it taking place in Los Angeles in March or April, and the other half of it in New York in May. .The Trump Virus forced cancellation of both the live events and n…
    - 56 days ago 27 Jul 20, 1:00pm -
  • Rest In Power, Eli
    Was saddened to learn about losing another longtime friend and fellow blogger to cancer.  I first got yo know Eli as part of the intrepid group of loyal Democrats who in the wake of that 2004 reelection of GW Bush, did battle on the Kicking Ass blog…
    - 59 days ago 25 Jul 20, 1:00am -
  • Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez Reads Rep Yoho On House Floor
    "Having a daughter does not make a man decent. Having a wife does not make a decent man. Treating people with dignity and respect makes a decent man. And when a decent man messes up, as we all are bound to do, he tries his best and does apologize,"-R…
    - 60 days ago 23 Jul 20, 4:00pm -
  • Must See Trans TV- 'My Pregnant Husband' Airs Tonight
    The last time I spent any quality time together with with Myles and Precious Brady-Davis was during the 2016 Creating Change in Chicago when Precious was one of the four co-chairs of the event.We jokingly call both of them the Trans Obamas' because t…
    - 60 days ago 23 Jul 20, 1:00pm -
  • Miss Trans Global 2020- Talent Competition
    As many of you TransGriot readers know, I'm one of the judges for this year's inaugural Miss Trans Global online pageantWe're not at the talent portion of the inaugural competition and getting inexorably closer to the August 1 crowning date for our f…
    - 63 days ago 20 Jul 20, 3:00pm -
  • Black Trans Folks Have Been Trying To Tell Black Cis Peeps What We Need- Y'all Ain't Listening
    As you TransGriot readers were aware of, I was part of a two hour Zoom town hall on Saturday that was supposed to be convened in the spirit of All Black Lives Matter and was sold to me as a convo to discuss the needs of our Black trans family.As you…
    - 63 days ago 20 Jul 20, 11:30am -
  • Civil Rights Icon Rep John Lewis Dies
    We knew this sad day was coming, but it still doesn't lessen the devastation we feel at it happening.Rep. John Lewis has died at age 80 from stage 4 pancreatic cancer.  He was the sharecropper's son from Alabama who became a leading figure in the fi…
    - 66 days ago 18 Jul 20, 1:00am -
  • Steve Schmidt Rips Trump A New One
    MSNBC commentator Steve Schmidt, who ran John McCain's 2008 presidential run, spent two minutes discussing the Trump mispresidency.   This is what he had to say.“Donald Trump has been the worst president this country has ever had. And, I don't sa…
    - 67 days ago 17 Jul 20, 7:30am -

The Mad Professah Lectures

  • Fever of the Bone (Tony Hill/Carol Jordan, #6) by Val McDermid
    SUMMARY REVIEWAnother excellent thriller featuring Tony Hill & Carol Jordan solving crimes and catching serial killers in the north of England.Fever of the Bone is the sixth entry in Val McDermid’s police procedural/murder mystery series starring…
    - 4 days ago 17 Sep 20, 5:38pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Consuming Fire (The Interdependency, #2) by John Scalzi
     The Consuming Fire is the second book in John Scalzi’s The Interdependency space opera trilogy. I wasn’t terribly impressed with the first book in the series, The Collapsing Empire, but then again, I am generally ambivalent about Scalzi’s w…
    - 11 days ago 10 Sep 20, 3:14pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Kill (Maeve Kerrigan, #4) by Jane Casey
    The Kill is the fifth entry in author Jane Casey’s British police procedural/murder mystery series starring Detective Constable Maeve Kerrigan of the London Murder Squad.The Kill begins with Maeve and her partner Detective Inspector Josh Derwent…
    - 18 days ago 3 Sep 20, 12:47pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Age of Death (Legends of the First Empire, #5) by Michael J. Sullivan
    Age of Death is The fifth and final cliffhanger in the Legends of the First Empire series by Michael J. Sullivan. The idea that most of the characters in this installment spend their time behind the vale of death is pretty cool. It turns out that…
    - 25 days ago 27 Aug 20, 1:33pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The House at Sea's End (Ruth Galloway, #3) by Elly Griffiths
    The House at Sea's End is the third book in the Elly Griffiths' mystery series featuring Dr. Ruth Galloway, forensic anthropologist and lecturer at the fictional University of North Northwich, and DCI Harry Nelson, head of the major crimes unit of t…
    - 32 days ago 20 Aug 20, 3:47pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Janus Stone (Ruth Galloway, #2) by Elly Griffiths
    Right after I finished reading this book I had drafted a lovely 500-word review (in the Goodreads app) when I suddenly lost the entire thing so I wasn't planning on going to write a full review but I changed my mind because I want to document my thou…
    - 39 days ago 13 Aug 20, 3:30pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Dead Simple (Roy Grace, #1) by Peter James
    Dead Simple is the first book I have read by Peter James. It is a pretty straightforward entry in the British police procedural genre, with Detective Chief Superintendent Roy Grace as the main protagonist. DCS Grace is a 39-year-old single man who…
    - 46 days ago 6 Aug 20, 3:37pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: In The Cold Dark Ground (DS Logan McRae, #10) by Stuart MacBride
    In the Cold Dark Ground is the tenth in the long-running, police procedural, crime thriller series written by Stuart MacBride starring Detective Sergeant Logan McRae and set in Scotland. What sets this series apart (and frankly makes it one of my…
    - 53 days ago 30 Jul 20, 6:32pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Crossing Places (Ruth Galloway, #1) by Elly Griffiths
    The Crossing Places is the first book in the long-running Ruth Galloway series written by Elly Griffiths.Galloway is a 30-something, archaeology professor at the  fictional University of North Norfolk who lives alone in the nonexistent town of King…
    - 57 days ago 26 Jul 20, 7:44pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Shadow Captain (Revenger, #2) by Alastair Reynolds
    Shadow Captain is the second book in British SF author Alastair Reynolds’ YA space opera Revenger trilogy. The series follows two teenaged sisters, Arafura and Adrana Ness, as they have adventures after running away from home to escape the smotheri…
    - 60 days ago 23 Jul 20, 2:28pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Eeny Meeny (DI Helen Grace, #1) by M.J. Arlidge
    Well I devoured this award-winning, best-selling thriller quite quickly! It’s a British police procedural with a female protagonist with multiple relatively well-drawn (if not very likeable) supporting characters. DI Helen Grace is the main charact…
    - 67 days ago 16 Jul 20, 3:56pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Light Brigade by Kameron Hurley
    This is the first book written by Kameron Hurley that I have read, which I did because it is nominated for the 2020 Best Novel Hugo Award and 2020 Best Novel Locus Award. I have noticed that most people have a bimodal reaction to her work, i.e. eit…
    - 74 days ago 9 Jul 20, 3:43pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Revenger (Revenger, #1) by Alastair Reynolds
    Revenger is the first entry  in a trilogy by Alastair Reynolds, who is most well-known for his immersive brand of hard SF space opera books like Revelation Space, Chasm City, The Prefect and Blue Remembered Earth among many others. I had been relu…
    - 81 days ago 2 Jul 20, 5:10pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Salvation Lost (Salvation Sequence, #2) by Peter F. Hamilton
    Salvation Lost is the second book in the Salvation Sequence by Peter F. Hamilton. Hamilton is one of the most prominent and skilled purveyors of advanced-technology, military space opera science fiction. This new work is another example of this and i…
    - 95 days ago 18 Jun 20, 12:29pm -
  • This is a BFD! #SCOTUS Rules 6-3 1964 Civil Rights Act Covers LGBT Workers
    Wow! The United States Supreme Court stunned LGBT advocates today by deciding that Title VII of the 1964 Civil Rights Act bars discrimination in employment based on sexual orientation and gender identity.Surprisingly, Justice Neil Gorsuch authored a…
    - 98 days ago 15 Jun 20, 8:19pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Stranger You Know (DS Maeve Kerrigan, #4) by Jane Casey
    This is the fourth book in the DS Maeve Kerrigan series and may be the best of the bunch so far. I don't think this is not because Rob (or boyfriend/relationship drama) is such a small part of the story but the fact is he is out of the country for mo…
    - 11 Jun 20, 11:18am -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Every Dead Thing Charlie Parker, #1) by John Connolly
    Every Dead Thing is the first book by John Connolly that I have read, and the first book in his apparently very popular Charlie Parker series. I am always looking for new series and so I was interested in reading this book and checking out Connolly'…
    - 4 Jun 20, 5:15pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Fated Sky (Lady Astronaut, #2) by Mary Robinette Kowal
    The Fated Sky is the sequel to a book I mostly enjoyed (The Calculating Stars) but my enjoyment of this Hugo award-winning novel was leavened with some qualms and niggling concerns. While I liked getting to know the main character Elma York and was t…
    - 28 May 20, 12:03pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Shorefall (Founders, #2) by Robert Jackson Bennett
    Shorefall  is the second book in an magical fantasy-adventure trilogy by Robert Jackson Bennett called “The Founders.” The first book was titled Foundryside and introduced the majority of the primary characters in the series and the setting of…
    - 21 May 20, 9:55am -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Last Girl (Maeve Kerrigan, #3) by Jane Casey
    I love Jane Casey’s Maeve Kerrigan series (as you can see from my reviews of The Reckoning and The Burning)!! The Last Girl is the third book in this British police procedural murder mystery series with a strong but definitely not perfect female p…
    - 17 May 20, 5:20pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: Light of Impossible Stars by Gareth L. Powell
    Light of Impossible Stars is the third and final book of the Embers Of War trilogy by Gareth L. Powell. A nice feature of the series is that although each book advances the overarching story, they are also readable on their own with each having self…
    - 14 May 20, 7:03pm -
  • BOOK REVIEW: The Institute by Stephen King
    The Institute is the sixth book by Stephen King that I have read in the last few years. I am not a fan of supernatural or horror but every now and then the prolific King does step out of those genre boxes and write books in other genres that are mo…
    - 16 Apr 20, 7:54am -
  • Virginia Enacts LGBT Non-Discrimination Protections!
    Virginia has become the first state in the Southern United States (former member of the Confederacy) to enact comprehensive civil rights protections for LGBT people. Last night Governor Ralph Northam signed the Virginia Values Act into law. The legis…
    - 12 Apr 20, 3:36pm -
  • 2020 OSCARS: The Winners
    The winners of the 92nd Annual Academy Awards were announced last night, and I correctly predicted 6 of 8 of the Top 8 categories, missing the big wins for "Parasite" in the Best Picture and Best Director categories, which I am quite happy about. Els…
    - 10 Feb 20, 3:03pm -
  • 2020 OSCARS: My Predictions in the Top 8 Categories
    Here is my annual prediction post for the 2020 Oscars, i.e. the 92nd Academy Awards. I really just consider the Top 8 categories on the blog but I play the Oscar prediction game like lots of other people (on other websites) where I think about all 2…
    - 8 Feb 20, 8:46pm -

Black Girl Dangerous

  • Untitled
    The BGD Media Mentoring program is not currently active. For five years, BGD led the way in indie media by…The post appeared first on BGD.
    - 5 Dec 17, 5:57pm -
  • The BGD Blog Is Ending
    Dear BGD readers,   For the last five and a half years, BGD has amplified the voices of queer and…The post The BGD Blog Is Ending appeared first on BGD.
    - 26 Jul 17, 2:52pm -
  • True Love Is the Joy of Bringing Another To Joy: BGD’s Crush of the Month Featuring Climbing PoeTree
    by Princess Harmony   BGD’s Crush of the Month is a feature where we choose the most swoon-worthy and inspirational…The post True Love Is the Joy of Bringing Another To Joy: BGD’s Crush of the Month Featuring Climbing PoeTree appeared first o…
    - 4 Jul 17, 11:03am -
  • Challenging The Culture Of Silence In The Afghan-American Community’s Response To Orlando
    by Bobuq Sayed   Exactly one week after the Pulse nightclub shooting, my cousin Tariq and I drive into downtown…The post Challenging The Culture Of Silence In The Afghan-American Community’s Response To Orlando appeared first on BGD.
    - 13 Jun 17, 8:00am -
  • The BGD Podcast 6.1.17: Be Humble, Miley!
    Host Raquel Willis discusses Miley Cyrus and Katy Perry’s cultural appropriation, student walk-outs on political leaders and the best shut…The post The BGD Podcast 6.1.17: Be Humble, Miley! appeared first on BGD.
    - 1 Jun 17, 2:19pm -

Lesbian In The City

  • Happily Divorced
    “…so what are you going to say at my funeralnow that you have killed me?here lies the body of the love of my lifewhose heart I broke without a gun to my headhere lies the body of the mother of my childrenboth living and deadrest in p…
    - 6 Mar 17, 1:44pm -
  • City Letter: Open Relationships & Polyamory
    Dear LITC,I like your blog and how you are comfy with exposing yourlife for us to learn about and even inspire us. My girl and I are having thisargument and I want your point of view. We been together like 3 years and somechange now and…
    - 29 Aug 16, 5:04pm -
  • I's Married Now
    Happy July Love’s! I’m back, I’m married…and I’m also aMommy! Say what?!? Yes, I am also a Mommy! Nina and I said I Do on June 17th in front ofour friends in beautiful Las Vegas. I love Vegas and cannot wait to go back. Wehad a…
    - 13 Jul 16, 1:14pm -
  • Where's Waldo...More Like Where's Lesbian In The City?
    I’m sorry for the disappearing act I pulled but I promiseit was not intentional. Where do I begin. Ever since Nina and I got engaged wehave had nonstop, whirlwind schedules. Like I’m getting married in a month andI just picked out my dres…
    - 16 May 16, 10:59am -
  • Happy 2016, I'm Engaged!
    I knew 2016 was going to be a game changer for me butnever to this degree. I am happy to say that as of midnight on New Years Eve2015 Nina and I are engaged to be married. It was a beautiful, romanticsurprise and I was happy to say Yes! In…
    - 2 Jan 16, 11:41am -
  • The Same Difference: Addressing The Problem within the African-American Lesbian Community
    There has always been this constant turmoil, tension, anddiscrimination within the African-American Lesbian community and finallysomeone has brought this shit to the light with The Same Difference Documentary.As I have mentioned before, som…
    - 13 Dec 15, 1:24pm -
  • Holidays With The New Family
    Nina and I survived our first Thanksgiving with herfamily. Normally, I go to my cousin’s home then head to my grandparentsfollowed by capping my evening off at my best friend’s home. This was our firstmajor holiday together, and I thoug…
    - 1 Dec 15, 12:34pm -
  • Eyes Wide Shut: Black Women & Suicide
    In the midst of waiting for my two favorite shows,Scandal and How To Get Away With Murder, to return to their regular rotation, Ibinge watched Season 2 of Being Mary Jane. When the show first aired on BET(and I had yet to cut the cable cord)…
    - 9 Nov 15, 11:32am -
  • Black Lesbians & Heteronormativity
    When I think of relationships, I think of harmony,coexisting, sharing, and working together for the greater good of thefoundation of the relationship. Whether it is two males, two females, or a maleand a female, this is how relationships shou…
    - 19 Oct 15, 3:04pm -
  • New Journeys, New Beginnings
    Nina and I are officially living together. You never knowhow much stuff two people truly have until it’s time to pack up and move. Let’sjust say I ended up throwing away a lot of clothes and no longer neededdocuments. The good news is bet…
    - 6 Oct 15, 12:07pm -
  • The Night We Slept Over
    This past weekend was one for the books. Nina started anew business venture and had her first project on Sunday morning and Saturdayevening we spent our first overnight together in her parent’s home. Nina’s adorable nephews have not…
    - 18 Aug 15, 2:24pm -
  • Movin' On In
    Between work and Nina I have been a busy bee. The weekendafter my birthday Nina’s mother asked us to join them at their home for abirthday dinner complete with my favorite – Homemade Strawberry Shortcake.Dinner was amazing and I got to bo…
    - 10 Aug 15, 2:49pm -
  • 30 + 1
    Over the weekend 30 got an upgrade. I moved from the 30doorway and fully into the cascade of the years which will now be forever knownas My 30’s. On the 17th Nina took me to dinner at TheMelting Pot followed by the Floetry Concert at t…
    - 21 Jul 15, 4:13pm -
  • Hello Marriage Equality, What The Hell Took You So Long?
    Pride Month wrapped up with the Supreme Court of theUnited States declaring the ban on same sex marriage unconstitutional,therefore Gay and Lesbian couples who wish to marry are now afforded the samerights, benefits and protections under fede…
    - 1 Jul 15, 7:35pm -
  • Me & Nina: How It's Supposed To Be
    Happy Pride 2015! I decided not to attend any of thePride festivities in Philly this year. Just the same shit, different year andthey aren’t even making an effort to change it. OutFest is what I attend so inOctober I’ll celebrate in the G…
    - 13 Jun 15, 10:51am -
  • The Second Closet: Lesbians & Domestic Violence
    When I originally started this blog, one of my first fewpost was about domestic violence within the Lesbian community. I’ve shared myexperience with physical abuse as well as emotional abuse in two of myrelationships. I am and have always b…
    - 24 May 15, 5:02pm -
  • Women & Pyramid Schemes

    - 14 May 15, 12:19pm -
  • Operation Meet The Parent's
    The day has finally come. On Sunday Nina and I venturedto Egg Harbor Township to visit her Mother and Stepfather. Nina’s Motherrecently turned 75 so we decided to celebrate with her during one of our freeweekends. Now let’s review some hi…
    - 27 Apr 15, 9:45pm -
  • Fifty Shades of Vanilla
    Happy Passover, Happy Easter, and Happy Sunday! I’ve beenmeaning to write a blog post about the hyped up, major let down of a movie,that desperate housewives swear by- Fifty Shades of Grey (should have been morelike Fifty Shades of Pure Van…
    - 5 Apr 15, 3:08pm -
  • Dating Nina: Part Deux
    It’s officially been a little more than 30 days since Istarted dating Nina and I am happy to report that all is going well, extremelywell to be honest. We talk all the time, we see each other 3-4 times per weekand…drum roll…we’ve begu…
    - 21 Mar 15, 1:41pm -
  • Dating "Nina"
    At some point in our lives we realize how things shouldbe done. Dating Nina (that’s the nicknameI’m giving her since we share a love of the great Nina Simone) hascertainly shown me what dating and courtship is all about and how it shoul…
    - 8 Mar 15, 4:19pm -
  • & My Impromptu Valentine
    Like Valentine’s Day of 2014, I had no real plans forthis holiday. I knew I wanted to go out and at least see The Wedding Ringer asI have been dying to see it since it came out in January. My family is stillmourning the death of my Grandmot…
    - 17 Feb 15, 3:33pm -
  • My Mother, Myself: R.I.P Grandma
    January 26, 2015 at 8:36 PM my phone rang. It was myMother. I was still angry with her, I really didn’t want to talk to her, and Ithink she knew it. She said “we need to talk but more importantly I need you tolisten…” I thought I wa…
    - 8 Feb 15, 7:36pm -
  • I Love Stems!
    It’s like my prayers have been answered, or better yetthere is finally a term for the kind of lesbian that makes my heart skip a beatand leaves me mesmerized every time I encounter one – Stems! If you’re notfamiliar with the term, a St…
    - 17 Jan 15, 7:14pm -
  • The Miseducation of Straight Black Women
    I really don’t know where to begin with this one becauseI think I’m still in shock that I could be so blind or think things would be Iguess different, or because I just can’t believe that a certain subset of Blackwomen could be so damn…
    - 7 Jan 15, 6:37pm -

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Rod 2.0

  • MIT Fellowship and Relocation
    Very excited and grateful to begin a new chapter in my life. The Massachusetts Institute of Technology has awarded me one of ten Knight Science Journalism Fellowships for 2015-2016. Relocating to Cambridge this summer. Will be taking classes at MIT..…
    - 6 May 15, 1:00pm -
  • On Hiatus
    Thanks to everyone who reached out. Taking a much needed break after years of updating R20 up to six or eight times daily. On hiatus until May. Please follow me on Facebook, Twitter and at The Atlantic.
    - 15 Mar 15, 4:00pm -
  • LISTEN LIVE: Philadelphia's WURD Radio 5P/ET
    Join me on Philadelphia's WURD-AM tonight at 5ET on "The Nick Taliaferro Show". On the menu: My first report from Cape Town for The Atlantic—"A Promising HIV Vaccine in South Africa"—and the potentially game-changing HIV vaccine trials that will…
    - 17 Dec 14, 4:17pm -
  • THE ATLANTIC: "A Promising HIV Vaccine in South Africa"
    PHOTO: GETTY CAPE TOWN: After more than 30 years into the HIV/AIDS pandemic, a vaccine remains elusive—and much needed. Globally, about 35 million people are living with HIV, according to the Joint United Nations Programme on HIV/AIDS or UNAIDS. Su…
    - 17 Dec 14, 4:04pm -
  • Cape Town
    Just wrapping up several reporting trips to Cape Town, Johannesburg, Ethiopia and Kenya. Have had a few problems with technology and did not want to publish R20 from certain countries. Also: Just needed some time to relax, rest recharge and...
    - 15 Dec 14, 2:00pm -
  • Kenya and Ethiopia
    Walking across the tarmac at Nairobi's Jomo Kenyatta International Airport and headed for Addis Ababa. Wrapping up two weeks of research and reporting in Kenya and Ethiopia for the Ford International Reporting Fellowship. Posting will slowly resume o…
    - 30 Sep 14, 11:00am -
  • Tech Issues
    My apologies for the down time. Having some unfortunate tech issues. Hopefully it should be resolved in several days.
    - 27 Aug 14, 11:34am -
  • FBI to Probe Fatal Police Shooting of Unarmed Black Missouri Teen
    PHOTOS: GETTY The Federal Bureau of Investigation will investigate the fatal shooting by police of 18-year-old Michael Brown in suburban St. Louis, according to a statement by Attorney General Eric Holder released by the Justice Department. Meanwhile…
    - 12 Aug 14, 8:35pm -
  • LISTEN LIVE: Philadelphia's WURD Radio 6P/ET
    Haaay! Returned stateside on Sunday. Trying to get some much-needed rest and reorient myself on American time after the exhausting 15 hour flight and 15 hour time difference. But first: Join me on Philadelphia's WURD-AM tonight at 6P/ET on "The...
    - 28 Jul 14, 2:36pm -
  • HOT: Victoria AIDS Council Poster
    Spotted on numerous hand cards, posters and billboards throughout the Melbourne Convention and Exhibition Centre ... and at tram strops across the city. The model for the Victoria AIDS Council gets perfect tenz across the board.
    - 23 Jul 14, 7:16am -
  • PHOTOS: Melbourne's South Wharf
    Some architecture porn from Melbourne. Looking east along the South Wharf of the Yarra River.
    - 23 Jul 14, 7:05am -
  • PHOTO: Melbourne's Flinders Street
    The view looking toward Melbourne's historic Flinders Street Station. Across the street is Federation Square. I'm in Australia to report from AIDS 2014 Melbourne. The trip is funded by an international media fellowship from AIDS 2014 and the Internat…
    - 19 Jul 14, 7:11am -

The K Word

  • K Listen:@kelelam “Bank Head”
    So I know I am often late to the party… it’s not because I don’t want to be there but sometimes I take the scenic route. That’s how I feel about queer artist Kelela and her song “Bank Head” This is not new by any stretch of the imaginatio…
    - 10 days ago 11 Sep 20, 10:16am -
  • Quieting the Covid chaos – My Daily Routine
    Hi Lovebugs! I have been really excited and in love with my morning routine for the last few weeks. For those that know me, I have been on a whole life affirming journey. As I am working on my next upcoming chapter (more coming — stay tuned), I hav…
    - 14 days ago 7 Sep 20, 8:25pm -
  • And the Grammy Goes to…
    Hi Lovebugs, With all of the things going on last week, from the helicopter crash death of nine people, including NBA legend Kobe Bryant to my super fun time at the Super Bowl opening night, I missed posting about the Grammys. But I would be remiss t…
    - 31 Jan 20, 1:56pm -
  • The Bougiest Thing I Ever Bought… on Amazon
    Hi Lovebugs! Today I am sharing with you the bougiest[1] thing that I have ever purchased… on Amazon. It isn’t even expensive, it’s just the fact that I bought it that makes me say… really girl? So as you all know I have been really upping my…
    - 31 Jan 20, 12:48pm -
  • A Love On Grand – Chapter 1: Sinclair
    Is this dude really serious? See I would be wrong if I slapped the shit out of him. As I looked around the bedroom I shared with David, my man of the last 5 years, I couldn’t believe I was actually in this situation. I was hoping something would ha…
    - 30 Jan 20, 1:10pm -
  • KListen: @TiffanyGouche “Fantasy”
    Tiffany. Tiffany. Tiffany. Where have you been all my life? *  head shaking and mouth pursed  * You just spoke life into my whole existence… four years after this song released. Cali native, Tiffany Gouché is a legit musical phenom. She has work…
    - 30 Jan 20, 11:57am -
  • KLife: 5 Best Things About the Super Bowl Opening Ceremonies
    Happy Super Bowl Week Lovebugs! We are in full on Super Week hysteria in Miami. The traffic is backing up, celebrities are touching down and parties are going all around. If you are a sports fan or music fan, this is the place to be. I must say I am…
    - 29 Jan 20, 10:57am -
    Hi Lovebugs, Well I have written posts on here while all over the country, but today is definitely a first. I am coming to you live and in color from my… bathroom. Yeah fellas[1], this might not be the post for you because today I am writing about…
    - 29 Jan 20, 9:32am -
  • KTravel: Micheladas on Rosarito Beach
    Hi Lovebugs! Here is a repost from my trip to Rosarito, Mexico.  It was absolutely necessary and absolutely right on time. One of the best takeaways I had came in the cup (don’t judge me!). Say hola to the Mexican answer to the Bloody Mary – the…
    - 28 Jan 20, 11:45am -
    Sooo I know calling this the super gay movie review of the week is misleading. This should be called the super gay movie review of the year… the decade… the first time in a really freaking long time. Now if I was on top of my lezzie game I would…
    - 28 Jan 20, 11:35am -
  • KTravel: Boozy Brunch + Burlesque Show at @jolenessf — San Francisco, CA
    Jolene’s Bar and Restaurant 2700 16th St San Francisco, CA 94103 Cuisine: Brunch, Bar Food Food: They have a really cute brunch menu. I can’t tell you what it takes like because I was too full to order food BUT the plates I saw people getting l…
    - 27 Jan 20, 9:35pm -
  • KRead: The Nickel Boys by Colson Whitehead
    Yeah…yeah…yeah. I haven’t written in a while. The last few weeks at work and the rollercoaster that is my personal life have caught me slipping. But like Sister said to Celie, from now on NOTHING BUT DEATH WILL KEEP ME FROM IT. Well death and a…
    - 27 Jan 20, 9:21am -
  • Tips to a Big Fun/Small Budget Trip to Turks and Caicos #KKDays
    Yes my log in still works… whew. I know… I know. I have been slacking on my blogging. There have been a lot of new developments in the world according to Kristi that I hope to share with you guys soon. We just back this weekend from a really rel…
    - 20 Sep 16, 11:47am -
  • 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference (Albany, NY: October 2016)
    In Our Own Voices, would like to extend an invitation for you to attend: 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference, Unity Through Diversity: The Power of Unity. This event will take place October 12-15, 2016 at the Desmond Hotel and Conference Center…
    - 11 Aug 16, 12:59pm -
  • KREAD: Pat Greene: Her Story by ANONDRA “KAT” WILLIAMS
    Well well well, here’s another one and another one. Yes I am pretending I am a rapper instead of a blogger… and what? hits b-girl stance Like most series on this blog, I haven’t written a KRead review in a while. But seeing that today is Nation…
    - 9 Aug 16, 4:01pm -

Sista Outsider

  • 2016: A Review — S. Andrea Allen
    Over the past several days, I’ve read (and enjoyed) quite a few of these “year in review” blogs/essays and it got me to thinking. What did I accomplish in 2016? Where did I fail? I realized that I had many more successes than failures, and that…
    - 31 Dec 16, 6:28pm -
  • A Dream Undeterred: An Interview w/ Black Lesbian Feminist Press On Their Debut Title, Lez Talk: A Collection of Black Lesbian Short Fiction — S. Andrea Allen
    My deepest thanks to Catalina Sofia Dansberger Duque for this wonderful article on BLF Press! via A Dream Undeterred: An Interview w/ Black Lesbian Feminist Press O…
    - 8 Dec 16, 6:13am -
  • Melancon on the Anniversary of June Jordan’s Death
    Originally posted on Diaspora Hypertext, the Blog (Archived): June Jordan was born on July 9, 1936 and died on June 14, 2002. Melancon writes: “In her infinite wisdom and incomparable genius as a poet, essayist, professor, activist, and conscious…
    - 14 Jun 16, 9:42pm -
  • The Greatest
    Originally posted on Diaspora Hypertext, the Blog (Archived): Rise in power. Image #rp via @nonafaustine on Twitter
    - 4 Jun 16, 11:22am -
  • ‘New Suns’: An SBF Writing Retreat
    Originally posted on Seattle Black Feminists: “There’s nothing new under the sun, but there are new suns.” Octavia Butler New Suns is the first annual Seattle Black Feminists (SBF) writing retreat. It is a time for Black women to come together…
    - 1 Jun 16, 8:04pm -

A Black Lesbian

  • Patience and the art of bouncing back
    Patience, Patience, Patience…there is this new person…i know(bit reluctant to say they are in my life) her name is Patience, Patience has apparently played a part (rather small if you ask me) in the breakdown of my relationship. While that … Co…
    - 3 Mar 15, 9:18pm -
  • Staying focused
    I have gone back and forth about what to do with this blog. I was ashamed of what it contains, ashamed that what i thought was wasn’t. It  amazed me when i quickly scrolled down and realized that since dating … Continue reading →
    - 6 Feb 15, 3:08am -
  • How The People We Once Loved Become Strangers Again
    Originally posted on Thought Catalog: It’s interesting to think about how we make people who used to be everything into nothing again. How we learn to forget. How we force forgetting. What we put in place of them in the…
    - 28 Jan 15, 5:48pm -
    Because, even worse, I never wanted to be a back up plan…so I choose, this time I choose and I choose to stop.
    - 2 Jan 15, 3:04am -
  • The first night
    Last night was first night C and I slept apart since break up. It’s weird but we live together and we have always had a pull towards each other so even after a break up we slept in same bed … Continue reading →
    - 1 Jan 15, 3:32pm -
  • The phase of depression
    I have struggled with this thing for so long and yet I don’t recognize the signs until it’s too late.  I don’t know when it started but I’m guessing it was a while ago. I can usually tell when looking … Continue reading →
    - 30 Dec 14, 1:05pm -
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    - 7 Dec 14, 11:09pm -
  • Protected: Authenticity
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    - 7 Dec 14, 2:07am -
  • En-Route
    Relationships are such a strange thing aren’t they. C and I ‘broke up’ 4 months ago and we have had the best relationship since. It was very emotional and very hard, kinda hard to believe i can say its the … Continue reading →
    - 2 Dec 14, 11:31pm -
  • Power of the mind
    After trying to quit drinking and failing every friday night  I have to say spending my first weekend without alcohol. The best part of it is that I didn’t even want it miss it or desire it. I did think … Continue reading →
    - 23 Nov 14, 6:41am -

Black Lesbian Love Lab

  • Why All Lesbian Femmes Should Buy Their Own Straps
    “Ok so my girlfriend strap is too big.... i have expressed this to her a couple times and she laughed it off and made a joke of it.....idk what to do … i thought about buying another but i don't know how she'll take it … advice please.” Conti…
    - 23 Mar 16, 7:00pm -
  • Masculine Not Manly, Vol 3: A Letter From a Recovering TouchMeNot Stud
    I can count on one hand how many times I've received head. I need even less fingers to count the amount of times I enjoyed it. Continue reading →
    - 21 Mar 16, 9:08pm -
  • Lisa & Roshanda: She Walked Into the Bus Station and Stole My Heart
    I met my wife, Roshanda, on a dating site. I was in Jacksonville, Florida, and she was in Tampa, Florida. I went to Tampa by Greyhound and I must admit, I was a little nervous. As the Greyhound bus was pulling into Tampa, I had all these butterflies…
    - 13 Mar 16, 1:35pm -
  • Why Black Lesbian Queens Stay in Bad Relationships
    When a black woman falls in love with another woman, especially for the first time, it can be completely magical. She makes our heart skip a beat, our palms sweaty, puts butterflies in our stomach and makes our panties wet. We can’t stop thinking a…
    - 12 Mar 16, 11:44am -
  • Georgette and Shannon: There Are Levels To This Love
    Our initial conversations were intriguing, had depth, and allowed us to see the parts of each other’s personality that most don’t get to see for months, if not years. So of course, for our first date, I was willing to make the 3.5 hour drive from…
    - 2 Mar 16, 7:53pm -
  • How I Healed After My Long-term Lesbian Relationship Ended
    After the breakup, we were going back and forth in our conversations but we were definitely broken up because she started seeing someone three months after our breakup. It was a horrible emotional experience for me. Continue reading →
    - 27 Feb 16, 11:33am -
  • Why My Girlfriend And I Broke Up After 17 Years Together
    When we were 17 we fell deeply in love but we didn't live happily ever after. We were together from our late teens until our mid-30s. For the first 11 years of our relationship, we were in the closet. We loved each other very much. We had many up and…
    - 25 Feb 16, 9:28pm -
  • She’s The One: Here are 9 Adorable Ways to Ask Her to Be Yours
    Black lesbian women are deserving of tender loving care. When you meet the one who never lets you forget that you are worthy, don't let her get away. Ask her to be yours. Here are nine great ways to ask. Continue reading →
    - 13 Feb 16, 12:15pm -
  • God Gave Me A Second Chance With My Soul Mate
    My partner, Eula, and I come from very abusive childhoods. For years upon years our bodies, minds, hearts, souls and spirits were slowly being destroyed. Still, we survived abuse, neglect, abandonment and unfaithfulness.Roughly five years ago, we…
    - 11 Feb 16, 8:23pm -
  • Queen Size: A Love Poem
    I shove my backside against the perfectly assorted seam.Rubbing the 300 count aboutmy thighs –in silent hopes to feelan armwrap around my waist. Continue reading →
    - 9 Feb 16, 10:33pm -